Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by Nobody: 11:34am On Mar 18, 2023 |
The signs must have been there before the marriage. That you spent 80% of your savings on the wedding is one indicator. I'm assuming he had little to nothing to contribute. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by padi94(m): 11:51am On Mar 18, 2023 |
Tail him to where he goes when the addiction hits.
Break into his phone or personal effect in the house, you will find a receipt or something... |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by Ishilove: 11:53am On Mar 18, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: 1. Praying to which God? The God that informed you from almost 2000 years ago that your marriages are of this world and not of the Kingdom of God? The God that allowed you to seek divorce in marriage and also remarriage in the case of fornication? Please stop telling these lies using God's name abeg!
Jesus Christ does not change another human being for the sake or on the behalf of another human being. So stop perpetrating these lies to your fellow men using God's name. Oh quit this false teaching abeg 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by olabrinks(f): 11:57am On Mar 18, 2023 |
My advice to you is to never have another child for this man, no matter what. The one child you have is enough to gradually get back on your feet. You have another child for him, you are on your own. 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by sageb: 1:33pm On Mar 18, 2023 |
Ishilove:
Oh quit this false teaching abeg
Ishi, carry Kobo to MFM for deliverance.
She needs it. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by ThothHermes: 2:00pm On Mar 18, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: 1. Your bible is an inanimate object, it does not "tell" you anything.
2. God has no hand in your marriages nor did He command anyone of you to condone any of what you do in marriage for His sake. He made this abundantly clear when Jesus Christ ensured first that
■ Your marriages are of this world and not of the Kingdom of God - Luke 20 vs 34 - 36. God washed his hands off marriages from Genesis 3 vs 16 after Adam literally accused God of giving Him a wife who caused Him to sin against God. ■ Jesus Christ said those who belong to Him will abandon father, mother, husband, wife, even children in order to become worthy of Him - Matthew 10 vs 34 - 39 - so, again, God has no interest in your staying married no matter what. Your ideas of marital sustenance amount to bullsheet where God is concerned. ■ Jesus Christ, to those who are married, made it known that divorce isn't a sin for those who wish to follow Him. This all means that those of you who choose to sit tight in marriage has absolutely nothing to do with Him in your decisions - Matthew 5 vs 31 - 32 & Matthew 19 vs 7 - 9 & Mark 10 vs 10- 12 & Luke 16 vs 18
Clearly, the sufferings which you endure in marriage are removed from God and that which He commands. So, don't use me as your shame pin cushion here. Admit that the one you are instead ashamed of is Jesus Christ who made it clear that your marriages have nothing to do with the Kingdom of God. The irony of your signature. Psychojunkie. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by kuse2(m): 3:03pm On Mar 18, 2023 |
Where una dey jam this kind husband self? God forbid! Dearlove2me: The truth is right now, I feel like going somewhere for a while. I feel like I need rest. Somewhere I can forget about all my problems and breathe a fresh air. My husband has not been honest with me since the beginning of this marriage and I doubt if this is an attitude of a man that loves
He has always been in debt even before I married him. and he wouldn't let me know what he do with the money he keeps borrowing from people. Even my friends I introduced to him, he is owning them and can't pay back.
The bad side is, he borrows and stop picking their calls not respond nicely to them. He behalves badly to them. I'm suspecting he's into some kind of addiction that demands money. Maybe gambling but he wouldn't tell me. He's constantly on his phone.
He is owning loan app everywhere. To the extent that the app had to send hurrible messages to his contact's lists including his bosses, office colleagues and my relatives. It's so embarrassing and tiring. He has apologized several times that I should give him time to work on himself to stop an addiction, but he refused to explain what it is. Claiming that I might leave him if I know. But he has not changed abit. We are always hungry in this house. No baby food for my 6months old baby, no pampers and everything is total struggle. I quit my job last year but I'll soon start job search once my baby grow a little. In this house, If I don't look for food, then, we starve, I don't look for means of getting pampers, food, wears,then my baby will suffer, because his daddy is not capable of providing anything for us. It's so annoying.
I have dreams before I married him, but right now, I feel lost. There's no romance, no love, no affection in this marriage anymore, as I wouldn't even let him touch me because of the stress, suffer he constantly brings on us.
Money I raised to start up a business, (340k) I ended up using it to pay for his debt last two months because the people were always coming to embarrass us in the house and neighbors were coming to pleade on our behalf. I had to clear up the loan, yet he couldn't explain what he did with the money. With that start up capital, I would have been growing by now, but here I am. Still at the zero point.
I'm really tired I'm so confused here. What should I do? What would you advise?
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Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by Kobojunkie: 3:05pm On Mar 18, 2023 |
Ishilove:
Oh quit this false teaching abeg You reject it does not make it false. These are teachings that are 1000s of years old which you lot refuse cause it does not fit with the idols of God you hold on to. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by Kobojunkie: 3:24pm On Mar 18, 2023 |
ThothHermes: The irony of your signature. Psychojunkie. Your churchians and your aversion to the very Words out of the mouth of Jesus Christ Himself ... na wa! Look, I am not your problem at all! 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by Ishilove: 5:11pm On Mar 18, 2023 |
sageb:
Ishi, carry Kobo to MFM for deliverance. She needs it. This one no be MFM mata. Na cele with their anointed broom fit handle Kobo's case 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by Raalsalghul: 5:41pm On Mar 18, 2023 |
pocohantas: Manage am. Nothing dey outside again.🤐 Which kind advise be this Pocohantas abi you just dey whine person? Lol! 🤣🤣🤣 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by pocohantas(f): 5:54pm On Mar 18, 2023 |
Raalsalghul:
Which kind advise be this Pocohantas abi you just dey whine person?
Lol!
🤣🤣🤣 No be me una go kill with mentions. I done give am virtuous advice. She can take it or not.😀 |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by EriMma1: 1:26am On Mar 19, 2023 |
Na mumu dey marry a man that can't take care of his family. I will continue to say it.
Marry a rich man, una no go hear. Come here and be crying foul. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by Nobody: 4:22am On Mar 19, 2023 |
EriMma1: Na mumu dey marry a man that can't tacre of his family. I will continue to say it.
Marry a rich man, una no go hear. Come here and be crying foul. Not just looking for a rich man to marry, but a kind hearted man with vision who can share the little he has with his woman. A man can be rich and may not still be a good man to his wife. My opinion though 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by peretei2024(m): 8:19am On Mar 19, 2023 |
Dearlove2me: The truth is right now, I feel like going somewhere for a while. I feel like I need rest. Somewhere I can forget about all my problems and breathe a fresh air. My husband has not been honest with me since the beginning of this marriage and I doubt if this is an attitude of a man that loves
He has always been in debt even before I married him. and he wouldn't let me know what he do with the money he keeps borrowing from people. Even my friends I introduced to him, he is owning them and can't pay back.
The bad side is, he borrows and stop picking their calls not respond nicely to them. He behalves badly to them. I'm suspecting he's into some kind of addiction that demands money. Maybe gambling but he wouldn't tell me. He's constantly on his phone.
He is owning loan app everywhere. To the extent that the app had to send hurrible messages to his contact's lists including his bosses, office colleagues and my relatives. It's so embarrassing and tiring. He has apologized several times that I should give him time to work on himself to stop an addiction, but he refused to explain what it is. Claiming that I might leave him if I know. But he has not changed abit. We are always hungry in this house. No baby food for my 6months old baby, no pampers and everything is total struggle. I quit my job last year but I'll soon start job search once my baby grow a little. In this house, If I don't look for food, then, we starve, I don't look for means of getting pampers, food, wears,then my baby will suffer, because his daddy is not capable of providing anything for us. It's so annoying.
I have dreams before I married him, but right now, I feel lost. There's no romance, no love, no affection in this marriage anymore, as I wouldn't even let him touch me because of the stress, suffer he constantly brings on us.
Money I raised to start up a business, (340k) I ended up using it to pay for his debt last two months because the people were always coming to embarrass us in the house and neighbors were coming to pleade on our behalf. I had to clear up the loan, yet he couldn't explain what he did with the money. With that start up capital, I would have been growing by now, but here I am. Still at the zero point.
I'm really tired I'm so confused here. What should I do? What would you advise?
My dear Sister, I beg you in the name of the Lord never to leave him, fight the fight with him if you really loves him. What he is going through is spiritual and it's beyond him but if you fight it with him the solution will come.
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Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by peretei2024(m): 8:23am On Mar 19, 2023 |
Dearlove2me: The truth is right now, I feel like going somewhere for a while. I feel like I need rest. Somewhere I can forget about all my problems and breathe a fresh air. My husband has not been honest with me since the beginning of this marriage and I doubt if this is an attitude of a man that loves
He has always been in debt even before I married him. and he wouldn't let me know what he do with the money he keeps borrowing from people. Even my friends I introduced to him, he is owning them and can't pay back.
The bad side is, he borrows and stop picking their calls not respond nicely to them. He behalves badly to them. I'm suspecting he's into some kind of addiction that demands money. Maybe gambling but he wouldn't tell me. He's constantly on his phone.
He is owning loan app everywhere. To the extent that the app had to send hurrible messages to his contact's lists including his bosses, office colleagues and my relatives. It's so embarrassing and tiring. He has apologized several times that I should give him time to work on himself to stop an addiction, but he refused to explain what it is. Claiming that I might leave him if I know. But he has not changed abit. We are always hungry in this house. No baby food for my 6months old baby, no pampers and everything is total struggle. I quit my job last year but I'll soon start job search once my baby grow a little. In this house, If I don't look for food, then, we starve, I don't look for means of getting pampers, food, wears,then my baby will suffer, because his daddy is not capable of providing anything for us. It's so annoying.
I have dreams before I married him, but right now, I feel lost. There's no romance, no love, no affection in this marriage anymore, as I wouldn't even let him touch me because of the stress, suffer he constantly brings on us.
Money I raised to start up a business, (340k) I ended up using it to pay for his debt last two months because the people were always coming to embarrass us in the house and neighbors were coming to pleade on our behalf. I had to clear up the loan, yet he couldn't explain what he did with the money. With that start up capital, I would have been growing by now, but here I am. Still at the zero point.
I'm really tired I'm so confused here. What should I do? What would you advise?
Please is not every advice you will take here because many are not married so they know nothing
As men, we go through alot of attacks, and we need our partners to stand with us to conquer.
I believe God will bring back that missing joy into your home again.
Note: Nothing is too big for God
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Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by Nobody: 4:42pm On Mar 19, 2023 |
[quote author=peretei2024 post=121868310][/quote] It's more tiring when one's partner is supporting and the other partner is frustrating the effort. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by lilyheaven: 4:54pm On Mar 19, 2023 |
You tried ooo, How can you service a debt with money you saved up for business? If someone helps you again with capital, you will still use it to service your husband debt. Debt you don’t know when or how he incurred them. Or what he does with it. Dearlove2me: The truth is right now, I feel like going somewhere for a while. I feel like I need rest. Somewhere I can forget about all my problems and breathe a fresh air. My husband has not been honest with me since the beginning of this marriage and I doubt if this is an attitude of a man that loves
He has always been in debt even before I married him. and he wouldn't let me know what he do with the money he keeps borrowing from people. Even my friends I introduced to him, he is owning them and can't pay back.
The bad side is, he borrows and stop picking their calls not respond nicely to them. He behalves badly to them. I'm suspecting he's into some kind of addiction that demands money. Maybe gambling but he wouldn't tell me. He's constantly on his phone.
He is owning loan app everywhere. To the extent that the app had to send hurrible messages to his contact's lists including his bosses, office colleagues and my relatives. It's so embarrassing and tiring. He has apologized several times that I should give him time to work on himself to stop an addiction, but he refused to explain what it is. Claiming that I might leave him if I know. But he has not changed abit. We are always hungry in this house. No baby food for my 6months old baby, no pampers and everything is total struggle. I quit my job last year but I'll soon start job search once my baby grow a little. In this house, If I don't look for food, then, we starve, I don't look for means of getting pampers, food, wears,then my baby will suffer, because his daddy is not capable of providing anything for us. It's so annoying.
I have dreams before I married him, but right now, I feel lost. There's no romance, no love, no affection in this marriage anymore, as I wouldn't even let him touch me because of the stress, suffer he constantly brings on us.
Money I raised to start up a business, (340k) I ended up using it to pay for his debt last two months because the people were always coming to embarrass us in the house and neighbors were coming to pleade on our behalf. I had to clear up the loan, yet he couldn't explain what he did with the money. With that start up capital, I would have been growing by now, but here I am. Still at the zero point.
I'm really tired I'm so confused here. What should I do? What would you advise?
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Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by Nobody: 5:12pm On Mar 19, 2023 |
lilyheaven: You tried ooo, How can you service a debt with money you saved up for business? If someone helps you again with capital, you will still use it to service your husband debt. Debt you don’t know when or how he incurred them. Or what he does with it. God forbid. That was then. I can never stress myself over any of his debt again. With the kind of things my little baby is seeing now, I have decided to face my front. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by Dainy1(m): 5:48am On Mar 20, 2023 |
Leave this man immediately. I hate this type of stories in reality 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by Dangig: 10:38am On Mar 20, 2023 |
This is so sad. Please separate. You have a baby to feed. This man is a danger to you and the baby. Go to your parents or any family relations so that you can rest emotionally and psychologically and then feed yourself and your Baby. Then continue working on getting a Job. This is one of the worst men for any woman to marry. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by Princessdainty(m): 12:15pm On Mar 20, 2023 |
Seal your uterus! Telling you not to have sex with him is pointless. Body no be firewood.
Since he helps around the house, he is not completely useless. give him more jobs to do. Don't give him money unless he wants to run an errand. Make him break some drops of sweat from his start of inertia.
If quiting is your last straw, Run!!! Run but don't run into another man's arms. Use your time wisely maidear! 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by Nobody: 6:43pm On Mar 20, 2023 |
EmekaBlue: Always on his phone rings a bell
Check with style from afar if it's Green page or Red page
Bet9ja vs Sportybet.
Don't think too much! You will be fine someway,somehow, someday
Ogadimma! Life is hard If na blue with crown na betking 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by Nobody: 10:27pm On Mar 20, 2023 |
Dangig: This is so sad. Please separate. You have a baby to feed. This man is a danger to you and the baby. Go to your parents or any family relations so that you can rest emotionally and psychologically and then feed yourself and your Baby. Then continue working on getting a Job. This is one of the worst men for any woman to marry. I have moved to my parents house. I did that yesterday 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by Nobody: 10:31pm On Mar 20, 2023 |
Thanks @all for your words of encouragement. I finally left for my parent's house. I feel better today. I told him if he wants us to work on our marriage, he should make some changes and let me know. Otherwise, we're going to be apart till the change comes. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by rickleye: 12:34am On Mar 21, 2023 |
I don’t know if your story is real or not but I have #10k to give you to buy baby food.
That’s said. If someone is saying sorry and hasn’t confessed then he hasn’t reach rock bottom and is not completely sorry. You can either drown with him or you can take the baby to safety , be separate yet married until he has shown you that he is ready to let you know what he is spending the money on ( gambling) Move to a siblings place or parents to reset and give your child and yourself a fighting chance at this life. Staying with him is tatanmount to wading in a pool of water carrying your baby in one hand and your husband on your back .
Good luck 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by Nobody: 4:10am On Mar 21, 2023 |
rickleye: I don’t know if your story is real or not but I have #10k to give you to buy baby food.
That’s said. If someone is saying sorry and hasn’t confessed then he hasn’t reach rock bottom and is not completely sorry. You can either drown with him or you can take the baby to safety , be separate yet married until he has shown you that he is ready to let you know what he is spending the money on ( gambling) Move to a siblings place or parents to reset and give your child and yourself a fighting chance at this life. Staying with him is tatanmount to wading in a pool of water carrying your baby in one hand and your husband on your back .
Good luck Too bad and stressful. Making appology when not ready to change is hypocrisy. Thanks for showing interest to help. |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by Darlingme(f): 12:44pm On Mar 21, 2023 |
This is phertetic. Urgently pack out for your safety before violence set in. |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:40pm On Mar 21, 2023 |
are divorces banned on your side of the forrest?! |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by DaveJacuzie: 8:24pm On Mar 21, 2023 |
Dearlove2me: The truth is right now, I feel like going somewhere for a while. I feel like I need rest. Somewhere I can forget about all my problems and breathe a fresh air. My husband has not been honest with me since the beginning of this marriage and I doubt if this is an attitude of a man that loves
He has always been in debt even before I married him. and he wouldn't let me know what he do with the money he keeps borrowing from people. Even my friends I introduced to him, he is owning them and can't pay back.
The bad side is, he borrows and stop picking their calls not respond nicely to them. He behalves badly to them. I'm suspecting he's into some kind of addiction that demands money. Maybe gambling but he wouldn't tell me. He's constantly on his phone.
He is owning loan app everywhere. To the extent that the app had to send hurrible messages to his contact's lists including his bosses, office colleagues and my relatives. It's so embarrassing and tiring. He has apologized several times that I should give him time to work on himself to stop an addiction, but he refused to explain what it is. Claiming that I might leave him if I know. But he has not changed abit. We are always hungry in this house. No baby food for my 6months old baby, no pampers and everything is total struggle. I quit my job last year but I'll soon start job search once my baby grow a little. In this house, If I don't look for food, then, we starve, I don't look for means of getting pampers, food, wears,then my baby will suffer, because his daddy is not capable of providing anything for us. It's so annoying.
I have dreams before I married him, but right now, I feel lost. There's no romance, no love, no affection in this marriage anymore, as I wouldn't even let him touch me because of the stress, suffer he constantly brings on us.
Money I raised to start up a business, (340k) I ended up using it to pay for his debt last two months because the people were always coming to embarrass us in the house and neighbors were coming to pleade on our behalf. I had to clear up the loan, yet he couldn't explain what he did with the money. With that start up capital, I would have been growing by now, but here I am. Still at the zero point.
I'm really tired I'm so confused here. What should I do? What would you advise?
The signs where there and you went ahead to marry him. I can say 100% he is into gambling! 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by Luckysbab: 8:24pm On Mar 21, 2023 |
Dearlove2me: Alright. I'm thinking maybe going to spend some time in my family house but I'm thinking of going with all my things So you want us to tell you not to? |
Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by DenreleDave(m): 8:25pm On Mar 21, 2023 |
Useless husbands everywhere |