@orinkila there is poverty true but a lot of it has to do with greed . must everyone have a laptop,blackberry and many of all these other luxuries.
there are so many people that compete foolishly with their peers and are willing to sell their bodies dance naked or even engage in public sex for politicians' entertainment
many have developed alcohol and other habits that are quite expensive and don't liberate them from poverty.  
it is true that many women do not have the same access to jobs that men have in an environment where there are no jobs but i am really diappointed when you see so called university undergrads/grads behaving this way, very few nigerian women think along the lines " how can I solve my problems" it is " what can i get a man to do for me in return for my toto"

funny thing is most of them lack stamina and can't really do.

shiorr

its only a shameless girl that will collect money from her boyfriend to meet her basic needs.

divine2043:

Classic aribisala. So solution proposed?

many girls feel too big to do some jobs e.g sales person work in eatery etc this is wrong.
also i don't have a problem with prostitution.

just stop pretending and draw up a business plan and target market,

but this problem is not just the man woman thing it is the naija mindset. if your brother/sister is doing well he should "help" you by giving you money and all kinds of luxuries.

here in europe people do not give out freebies like that you work for your own and if you can't get a job you sit down.

in nigeria you see a man with no job in a beer parlour living it up. and so a lot of young men turn to all sorts. there is poverty in togo,benin ghana etc why don't they kidnap and carry drugs like nigerians

If you don't want to be her ATM, then stop sleeping with her!

It is comments like this that re-inforce the plausible notion that prostitution is a core component of feminity. And explains why some of us hardly take them seriously. So the point is that you women don't enjoy sex for the sheer, car.n.a.l pleasure of it? So when you sleep with a man, it's a grievious inconvenience for you, and a 'favour' you're doing for the man. . .for which he has to compensate you in one way or the other, financially or materially? Yet most of ya'll would also yarn ballz about wanting a man that is good in bed! Imagine a pro.st, itu.te that a man PAYS to satisfy HIM, and yet she has the audacity to demand that HE must be capable of fu.c.k.in.g HER well! ! ! If you like the good Bleep, then why should you demand to be paid for receiving that which you like? Seriously, something must have gone wrong with Eve's creation. . .and it trickled down to every last one of her kind. But then most white/Asian women seem to have found a cure for that defect. Unfortunately, not so for most Nigerian/black women.

like i said earlier this is a thing of social class in nigeria not everyone is brought up this way and this is more common among karosin users

Na Condition make crayfish bend like C.

We have said it all.

Let us give the Naija babes some break.

poverty is takin a toll on naija girls! they need our collective help! brodas, lets help them without further complains pls, who dey cry dey see road my pipo, it is well

Heard Brazilian wing is the new thing for them

And yet when it's the other way around, these same guys will look down on their girls for having more money than them smh

@orinkinla,  we will, when they start deserving it.

with attitudes like this:

''Since you're forking me, I must get something in return, you must pay me. That doesn't necessarily mean I'm a LovePeddler.''

they don't.

I keep on saying it: girls don't need guys to debase them--they do an excellent job of it themselves.  

muyoto:

@orinkinla, we will, when they start deserving it.

with attitudes like this:

''Since you're forking me, I must get something in return, you must pay me. That doesn't necessarily mean I'm a LovePeddler.''

they don't.

I keep on saying it: girls don't need guys to debase them--they do an excellent job of it themselves.

i agree with you on this, it is what you want as a lady that you get from men
I make bold to say that am an independent young woman, who have worked hard POSITIVELY THOUGH to get to where i am today and being born with a silver/diamond/no spoon at all has nothing to do with it.
Many women dream of getting married to a rich guy, what they have failed to realise is that their life/ their well being/the society which they may want to help will only revolve around that man's income it means they can't get things they love if the man does not have the means, HO MI GOD i shiver at the thought of that,
Let Adenuga toast me today,all i want from him is to show me how he made his dough,Let all girls start telling all those rich men to teach them how to fish instead of opening their legs to receive few fish, i rest my fingers!!

Lol. Most posts here are funny. Yes, i do agree, most girls demands, but not all girls, its also the same for guys.

i think so too, it's not right,because somebody is dating you doesn't mean he should now become responsible for you,
before you met him,were u not loading your phone ,making your hair and doing other things , so why depend on a guy ,just because he is your boyfriend
i can't imagine myself asking my boyfriend to send me credit or give me money or even buy anything for me,
he must not do those things for you, he can do them occassionally, when he wants to, not because you asked
as a chick,try to be independent,and do your own thing, you don't have to depend on your boyfriend,
so i totally agree,your boyfriend is not your atm

moHot:

i agree with you on this, it is what you want as a lady that you get from men
I make bold to say that am an independent young woman, who have worked hard POSITIVELY THOUGH to get to where i am today and being born with a silver/diamond/no spoon at all has nothing to do with it.
Many women dream of getting married to a rich guy, what they have failed to realise is that their life/ their well being/the society which they may want to help will only revolve around that man's income it means they can't get things they love if the man does not have the means, HO MI GOD i shiver at the thought of that,
Let Adenuga toast me today,all i want from him is to show me how he made his dough,Let all girls start telling all those rich men to teach them how to fish instead of opening their legs to receive few fish, i rest my fingers!!

Ces't vrai mon ami!

If a man hasn't paid your bride price yet you shouldn't be demanding for money.Let him give it to you if he wants to.
A boyfriend will "assist" (because it's really not his duty) his girl where he feels the need, and if he doesn't give you cash, remind yourself you're in the r/ship with him because of who he is and NOT what he has (if it's a genuine r/ship)
Couples should make a point of depositing more into each others lives, if not one of you will always be overdrawn

jaw jaw:

Ces't vrai mon ami!

aribisala0:

better for you if you go to school and get a proper education

while i broadly agree with your submissions,however its not just kerosene girls as you have aptly put them who use men as atms,it is a state of mind common to african especially nigerian girls which transcends either class or background.i have dated nigerian girls in the uk who are supposedly well brought up from wealthy homes but do demand t mobile creds,nandos/chivita e.t.c,cinemas e.t.c for instance would you say a girl whose dad is the number 4 in a south western state in nail is a kerosene girl or a girl whose dad is a naval officer in charge of finance is a kerosene girl(in fact i had to refuse outright before i made my point with her)

seedord247:

If you spend your Money on your GF i don't it;s a problem it;s your wish not her and also she didn't force you.

Some guyz are so stingy. , if the girl did not ask they won't compensate her with any Gift.

Yes oo keep on paying ur girlfriend"s school fees and house rent and after her graduation if she dump u for their family pastor no come here start to dey cry ooo

divine2043:

Yeah, I think it's true Nigerian ladies need more empowerment.

True word.I have said this before.Nigerian women need to be empowered and self dependent like other women in other cultures and clime.I mean its quite embarrassing for a fully grown female adult to be demanding for money from a man for house rent and feeding money.Nigerian women need to be provided with jobs for them to take care of their daily needs.

lefulefu:

Yes oo keep on paying your girlfriend"s school fees and house rent and after her graduation if she dump u for their family pastor no come here start to dey cry ooo

Na so you go dey rant . . . he better make you dey give girl money and dey control am rather make you dey for Ukraine dey lick girl punny early in

the morning just because of paper.

geez, learnt some from naijaz, gatta go to bed now

seedord247:


Na so you go dey rant . . . he better make you dey give girl money and dey control am rather make you dey for Ukraine dey lick girl punny early in

the morning just because of paper.

f na
LOOK sealord if na oyibo babe u want make u let me know.I fit control one blonde kele for u

When I told my girlfriend that I am not her ATM, she told me that she is not my housegirl.

make una tell dem make dem hear ;d

@Topic:

, and your girlfriend is not your sp*rm bank nor maid!

Wumine:

@Topic:

, and your girlfriend is not your sp*rm bank nor maid!

see as dis one jus dey vex coz dem no giv am money

lefulefu:

see as dis one jus dey vex coz dem no giv am money

lol. . . . n guys dey vex for here say dem dey chop their money! its a give n take thing o. any guy that isnt ready to be atm isnt ready to av a girlfriend; n if he's lucky to av one, then no poking