sillyboy:




You guys take a lot of crap from men. . . . .sorry for being blunt. If there is one thing haaitian women lack on a large scale. . . .it is self worth.
I have heard a lot abt Haitian girls been beaten up by their bf (haitian boys). Haitian boys like to behave like americans and its so funny cos they look ridiculous. . . .and they beat up their women to prove they are in charge. Go check the stats in NY and Central NJ (especially sea shore areas) Most domestic violence are from people from the carribean countries especially haiti.e lates is  that they are going gay now

I can't stand people that can only look at one side of the fence. I won't stood to your level.  You actually went way too far, are we talking about women in general or haitian women ? Women get beat up in every part of the world every single day. So why should it be different when it comes to haitian women.

I'm boiling right now and my blood is rushing, but again i've seen some of you people on Nl going crazy and using derogatory words towards each other. I won't entertain you, don't have time for that.

Let me tell you something, my ex boyfriend when i first met him told me so much negatives things about nigerian, especially nigerian women. I didn't listen to half of the things he was saying which by the way were unbelievable, because i knew besides him being nigerian, he's also a man. I remember asking him to stop and told him it would be better if we have this conversation with a nigerian woman present. Guess what he dropped the subject and never came back to it again.

I can continue and tell you what people are saying in NY and other places about nigerian men, but again i won't 'cause i know how people love to talk and don't know sh*t about what they are saying. They words could have stop me from dating my ex, but guess what even though we're not together anymore, i won't joined them and start bashing nigerian men; and that's the difference between you and I.

@ Fiswu

Preach, preach to then my sister, lmao

I think sillyboy and that girl were just friends with benefits. Haitian women when they say they are urs, they are. Unless you play us coz we don't play nor take crap from lousy men.

^{Oh gosh, they will kick us out of this forum}

Helllllllllll no, i'm not. Never been to Asbury Park, i live in northern jersey. , And from your comment, i could never end up with someone like you.

sillyboy:

I use to date a Haitian girl. . . . . .very pretty and damn sexy. Her mother said the same highlighted statement when she told her am Nigerian.
My take on haitian girls is that; they are good as girl friends and not wife. THEY SHOULD NEVER BE CONSIDERED FOR A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP!!. Faithfulness and loyalty is not in their blood. so many of them has proved not able to stick to man and they are emotionally instable. As a man, just enjoy the food and intimacy while it last because she will definitely move on

Are you for real ? I'm speechless, This is the first time ever i'm hearing such crap. I'm not saying that haitian women are perfect, but danm you went too far. Just because you had a bad experience, doesn't mean that you  have to be biased.


p.s: Funny u're in NJ.

MzDarkSkin:

@ Blandyne FINALLY!!! lol I thought I was a loner. I am Jamaican. You?

No you're not the only west indian here. I hope they don't kick us out , I found this website while i was snooping on my ex

mito:

Most Haitian people and people of Haitian descent that I know are very attractive ex: Wyclef, Jimmy Jean-Louis, Maxwell, Garcelle Beauvais, Lloyd Banks, Usher,Trina McGee-Davis, Michaelle Jean etc. They are very nice, well-behaved, fun to be with, and their food are so sweet. However, I came across few Haitian-Naija couples.

Why? How do you feel about dating/marrying them?

People always seems amazed once they found out about my ex-boyfriend and I (_{we broke up a month ago}  ) I'm HAITIAN , and of course he's Nigerian. Some of them we're speechless when meeting us, others thought we were "interesting". There's not a lot of couples like us, don't know why.


I'll never forget my mother's face when i told her i was dating a Nigerian man It was so funny, she freaked out telling me that African men are chauvinistic polygamous and arrogant; that he will marry as many woman as he wants and i'll live in a house with my husband's concubines. . . .Please note that she said "African men" not Nigerian because most Haitians don't care which country in Africa you are from, they just refer to you as "African". I had to explain to her that not all "African men" are polygamous. To cut a long story short, she ended up liking him. 

FL Gators:

One of my best friend is Half Haitian half yYoruba she said she's not going for either Nigerian or Haitian man
Men of same species, dnt blame her


_{Goes to show that Naija men would do any woman of any nation.}

Your friend is kinda right, there's not that much difference. Haitian men are big time liars, well some of them. They know how to soothe or seduce you with their words, so are Nigerian men in reference of what I've seen on NL. I know some of you will kill me for saying this, but Haitian men are far more romantics. This is based on my personal observation, not talking only about my ex, but also one of my good friend whose Ghanaian.

@ Plat and MzDarkSkin
It's true that Haitians are Igbos descents, however we come from Congo and Benin as well.  

FL Gators:

Oh dear Gawd. . .  
I saw this coming. .  . .

Actually, me and my Haitian RA have more taste in common, [b]almost same food [/b]and dress sense, and humor sense  

Yes the food is similar. I don't remember the native name for this dish, but he used to cook me some beans, they are so tasty. In Haiti we have this same dish but we don't put that much meat in it. Nigerians like to combine all kind of meat and fish, we do not.  Jollof rice is what haitians call "du riz rouge", it means red rice,  Oh I luuuuuuuuv Nigerian stews, no wonder i gained weight ( he always cooked for me, which was a plus 'cause Haitian men don't cook   ). . . .Eba we call it "tomtom" but it's only eaten in one part of Haiti which is the southwestern part of the country; and they eat it there just like you guys, just dip it in okra stew and swallow it. lol

MzDarkSkin:

Blandyne You West Indian?

Yes, i am

ayettymama:

lol ok so we agree u can walk arnd the hse unclothed

do u and your dad now go in the bedroom and lock the doors

LWKMD!

Hell No !!!!!!!! I already gave the poster some advice, her husband just moved his second wife into the house.  She better kick that concubine out along with the guy. Just rubbish as my boyfriend ex-boyfriend would say.

chiogo:

Maybe if you were 5, which I'm sure you're not.

Do you mean semi-unclothed(towel on) or completely unclothed?

Both ways, i really don't see what's the problem. I live with my parents and my sisters. They all have seen me naked.

THE AMAKA:

Honestly i do. What's wrong with that ?

BreiAna:

I ask this ? because I'm married to a Nigerian man whom i love dearly. But I'm having trouble with his teenage daughter. They spend time in her room with the door closed and locked plus they often leave at all times of the night and day without informing me. One day the left at 4:45 am and came back around 7 am in time for to go to school. When i do inquire about their whereabouts he states we went to the Mosque. (He's Muslim). He washes her clothes, she walks around in front of him wearing only a towel, he goes inside the bathroom sometimes when she's in the shower, and often waits on her inside the room when she gets out the shower and he shops for her on a regular basis. Don't get me wrong i know father's loves their daughters but this relationship is very strange and besides she just arrived in the U.S. I've tried everything i can to make her like me but nothing works. She does evil things behind his back to me and her brother and when i tell him he says im just being jealous. Pls help, do you think I'm being paranoid?

Girl, u better start investigate him ASAP !!!!!!!!! This is just too weird. U said "she just arrived in the U.S"  IMHO i think he just moved his wife or second wife into your house. . . . Befriend one of his family members or his friends, i mean someone that will give u the dirt on him. It won't be easy, but trust me every family has one, so look carefully.  

p.s: The fact that she walks around him  wearing a towel is nothing. I do walk naked sometimes in the house even with my father there. However the whole situation with the door closed for hours is suspicious.

Yes overall i love my body, but i will love to have a flatter stomach and less love handles. The good thing is that i'm working on it _{even though i just had a slice of strawberry cheesecake}. Do not worry people, i haven't fall off the wagon yet. Last time i had a slice was for my birthday.

FL Gators:

Are you agreeing with me or disagreeing with me?

Of course i am, isn't it obvious!!!! U even put "size 4" in bold.

FL Gators:

Say wetin?

If Kimmy is size 14, then most women would be size 24.
I think she's pleasantly size 4. . . .

Kim Kardashian is a size 4. It's just the way she carries her weight and her big showcase butt that make people think otherwise. We have to remember that she's short also, her height is 5'2 1/2". Last i heard she weighs about 120-125 lbs.

I can't believe what some of you are saying, you are making me sick. What's wrong with a size 14 ?

@ Poster
You know yourself better than anyone here so i have to ask you: do u think u should lose weight? If your answer is yes then do so. However before you do, u have to know why. The reason i'm saying that it's because as women we always compare ourselves to other women and trust me i know what i'm talking about. I have 2 sisters and both of them are wayyyyy smaller than I. One is a size 8 and the other 2-4,right now I'm a size 16. Guess what? I'm not the only one looking at the mirror and pointing at my flaws, they are too. They even do it more than me, i'm just giving you proof that u'll always find something that u're not happy with. Losing weight just to please others won't make you happy, but losing weight and also learn to love yourself will.   Just take it one step at a time.

I almost forgot to tell u. Do u know that my size 8 older sister is dying to have my curves especially my thighs because of the way they look in jeans. On the other hand my size 2-4 younger sister just love my b.o.o.b.s, she literally stare at them all the time, Don't get me wrong i'm not saying i'm 100% happy with my size right now, actually i'm trying to lose weight and go back to being a 14. But i really love my body even though i want my butt to be a little smaller. Being healthy and confident it's all that matter not the numbers on the scale _{mine start with a 2}.

Regarding of what u should wear, just like someone mentioned earlier those 3/4 pants won't do u justice. Always wear either long pants and jeans, or shorts ( not daisy duke shorts) but the one that stops above your knees only if u're comfortable with them. Try to wear heels more often, they will elongate your legs. . . . Tops and trousers are not a problem, just stay away from the ones that are too long ( that stop way below ur butt) unless they are long tunics or dresses that u can wear with leggins. . . . A line dresses and skirts are a plus, never wear 3/4 length skirts. . . . Always wear good undergarments and bras. . . . Last but not least, u know your best assets so work with them, I hope i answer ur questions.

@Poster
Yes, yes and yes. It's not easy but you can do it. I've done it before and i will, well more like i'm doing it again this year.

Poster listen, i don't know any woman that will allow her male friend to send her romantic texts messages while she has a boyfriend that she loves and wants to be with, I smell a huge rat!!!!!!! She might not be dating him right now, however she's considering the idea of being with him and i really think that's why she doesn't mind if you break up with her, Just think about it, i don't see any other reason why she'll want u to let her go, in my opinion your accusations are not enough for her to say so,even if she's innocent. Something's just not right.

Ghredon:

@OP: Or maybe he fought with you so that he wont have to spend money on valentine's day and he can send an ordinary card, and now he wants to try and come back into your arms

Sorry that's not the case. We started fighting right after he came back from London which was the second week of january.

@Kokoye
FYI i'm in my 20's.


@Tatase, Woye77, Duniverse
It's a well know fact, stated by many that i can have too much pride sometimes. But you have to understand his behaviors led me to end things. So i think if he's remorseful he should be more proactive and show me that he still cares, Why can he swallow his pride and say he messed up ? I'm just tired of compromising. . .Lately i've put my feelings aside to analyze the whole situation and i realize that we don't communicate at all. It's always been me talking so if he really cares why doesn't he come out of his comfort zone for once. . .Anyways i should stop whining and let it be, if God wants it to happen, it will.

One more thing, he sent me a text saying he really meant what he wrote in the card. My reply was: " Meanwhile your actions show otherwise". Still now he hasn't say anything

@kokoye
You're right i'm not sure if i want him back. You want to know what i want ? Here we go:
I want him to truly apologize for ignoring me
I want him to tell me clearly what he thinks and stop assuming that i already know
And most importantly I want him to realize that i'm different from his ex girlfriends.

stillwater:

You know where the left and right hemispheres of the brain meet, there lies a pe.nis growing within.

Lmao, It's the corpus callosum

kokoye:

did he not just sent you a card

@ Kokoye
lmao, come on u know exactly what i meant. Did he ever occur to u that maybe he wasn't clear enough?

ayettymama:

well he obviously still wants you

thats why he sent the card

but it does sound a bit like one of those 'games men play'
if your unfamiliar i cannot be bothered to explain! sawy

neways wait for him to call u, ask him what he wants and then see if your ok with it

but dont forget there is a reason why u broke up

Thanks Ayettymama, I don't think he's playing games tho, the guy is a grown man, almost 38. Like you said i won't contact him unless he does. . . Why is it so hard for men to express themselves

Don't tell me you're scared!!!! There's nothing wrong with that, My ex boyfriend and I signed up for a kickboxing class once, we had so much fun.

stereo2:

Honestly speaking this girl truly loves me. I mean, this is someone who despite her challenging background can still afford to buy me gifts, spend money on calls and treat me with all the respect I deserve.

I realized lately that I dont call her often and she told me one time that she sometimes wonder if I ever care about her since[b] I seem to be caring for a while and later appearing not caring after a while[/b]. Its just that I used to think that giving too muvh attention to a girl shows lack of dept, and makes you boring in her eyes. How do I let her know that I care and revise this deteriorating situation?

I don't know where men get the idea that giving a woman attention is a sign of weakness. You better step up your game because women love attention, if you don't give it to her someone else will. This is one of the reason why i broke up with my boyfriend. To me being there once in a while proves that you're not reliable.

My ex boyfriend sent me a card on valentine's day. I wasn't expecting anything since we're not together anymore. I didn't want to be rude so i sent him a text saying "thanks". . .Now the whole situation bothers me. I broke up with him 3 weeks ago coz he was misbehaving. I have to be honest to myself, i still love him. I've dated a few guys before him but he's the first one i fell for. . . I feel like i should talk to him but i have no clue what to say, i'm not even sure if i want him back.

THANKS A LOT TO ALL OF YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It feels good to know that the nigerian people are thinking of us. You guys were ahead of me and are already posted all the links to where we can donate. Thanks Outstrip, SeanT21 and everyone else. Every little bit counts, and also we need your prayers. Please help us pray, As we all can see, it's really bad and we need those prayers more than ever. , This morning i learned that my little cousin died, he was only 8 years old. REST IN PEACE THIERRY I know that you are with GOD our FATHER right now.

@ Approved1
Ignorance is bliss, indeed !!!!!!!!!! May God help you. I can't believe that a grown woman like you, a 33 year old adult could be so ignorant. So you think this is happening in Haiti because of voodoo. Well let me tell you, as an HAITIAN myself i have never practiced voodoo. I'm christian, precisely a catholic so is the majority of haitians ( 80%), and the rest (20%) are protestants, atheists or voodoo followers. I'm not saying that there are no voodoo followers in haiti, but it's not what most of you guys think of it.
You said we "cut and sell human body parts" to do evil. Well i have a question for you, is it what the juju priests in Nigeria do too? Because from what i understand there is not a big difference between haitian voodoo and nigerian juju, Are you aware that haitians are also descendants of the igbo tribe. Therefore wouldn't i be right if i say that nigerians are evil. Fortunately, i will never make such statement because i know that nigerians are really religious and have fear of God.
And one more thing,do you know this morning i woke up and my mom told me that my little cousin died. My dad's cousin, his only son died and he was only 8 years old. So, just wondering do u still think that little boy died because of voodoo.

Sorry for derailing this thread but i really need someone to translate this for me : [b] MI O MO YEN[/b]





I posted it in the translation thread, unfortunately no one reply to me. Thanks.

Can someone please translate this sentence for me MI O MO YEN .

I was able to go to school all year long, form January to December. I didn't take any break at all cuz i also went to summer school. I got A for most of my classes. Thank you MY LORD, GLORY TO YOU.