Kate Henshaw and Ini Edo.

Two of my favourite actresses

Liveagain:
The reason for using a new account here is because some people may be surprised this is coming from me. They list expected it. I am willing to show even my real face to those who want to help.

I am even willing to reveal my house address and every other things.

But I don't want to humiliate myself more by exposing myself to all including those who are not willing to help

Believe me, no one really cares.

You’d only be worried if you’ve claimed to be what you aren’t in the past, or written abusive and insulting posts to others; in which case you need to face your comeuppance with karma.

Opening a new account to beg online reeks of dishonesty and you won’t be the first online scammer trying out his/her luck.

Anyway, rather than spend precious time and data overzealously begging for money on here, use that time and effort to look for something else from which you can save towards accumulating a deposit to hire / purchase a keke for yourself.

Go to your local restaurants and ask for work as a dishwasher. Or offer your services as a wheelbarrow pusher in the markets to help customers carry their items from the traders to their cars. Offer your services as a toilet cleaner locally. Or as a labourer.

Money doesn’t smell, nor will good old fashioned hard work kill you. It’s more honerable than begging strangers online and you get to keep your integrity.

Ujuvals1:
My dear, i am drop shipping.i contact sellers and help repost and tesell.

How does selling items equate to being duped? I wrote that i havr a job with small pay, i even do laundry for people sometimes on weekends, i resell things on line,i do everything i can, this should tell you that am hardworking and not the other way round.

All thse things didnt sustain us because the finance is weak when a man doesnt bring dime and u the woman pay school fees,rent,feeding,nepa,tissue,down to even matches on a paltry sum why wont you do all to survive.

The burden was too much as i was almost dying hence the need to help him get a loan to support.i dont think i did bad trying to help him ind his feet.

The sad part of this story and my sudden outburst is because someone duped him of the money i borrowed, i dont know if you can relate to my emotions at all.


Have u ever lost money?moreso when it isnt urs and you are on loan?My account is on automatic debit evrrymonth and if there isnt fund there to debit i have to face penalties.

This shouldnt have been an issue cos his business gain feeds us while my salary and online hustle plus weekend washing erc facilitates the loan.

Is just too choky now when the capital and all is gone.

I really dunno if i can recover, i used to be very strong and even encourahe people online here when they are down but this one just finished me.

Christmas period for that matter with a january around the corner.

May God save me this period.If truly he is God on the throne he will arise for my sake.

They say afflictions dont come twice but this is like the third time and i think i shared on true life story on a page here.

Hmmmmmmm!!!!Someone is probably abroad flexing and grooving at my expense while my Bp is on a rise.

Is well

Madam.

In as much as I commend your efforts to help your husband and build your family, YOU NEED TO SLOWDOWN AND STOP TAKING ADDITIONAL RESPONSIBILITIES!!

Do you want to die from high BP or stroke??! What’s wrong with you?

You’re not a single mother, neither are you a divorcee or widow. You have a man there with you and it’s high time he stops feeling sorry for himself, gets up and starts hustling.

Bad things happen to the best of us but that doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world. That’s life. So you got swindled / scammed by a bàstàrd out of borrowed money. Tough! You’re young. Your man is young. You two have got the energy that comes with youth; good health (my inference based on your writeup), and your whole lives ahead of you. Both of you should learn from this.

Him: not to trust anyone.
You: not to take on more than you can handle.

Your man should grow a backbone and try to at least meet you halfway in terms of effort. You only have one life to live. Make the most of it.

I understand your need to vent and you have my heartfelt sympathy for what you’re currently going through - and that of Nairalanders reading your posts, I’m sure.

You don’t have to keep explaining yourself. We get it. You started off well initially. Now spend less time on Nairaland and more time facing your pressing issues. The longer you hang around here, the less authentic your story becomes.

It is well.

walyx:
I will b resuming work I a school at ikate by September.Please looking at d cos of transportation from my place to ikate everyday is #500.I just need a place to stay during week days for d first months as d last place I worked,we have been told there won't b August salary.I have a family to cater for also,that's why I think if I can see sm1 to accommodate me,it will help save my t.fare. pls,if there is any kindhearted fellow to help me,I will be very grateful thanks.

What sort of job do you do at the school?

Please, don’t say teaching

Only you - nine pages and still counting.

Boy you deserve an award for persistent marketing

MrBrownJay1:


I am great and you?

But come on, this one is a joker, that post can't be remotely real...

Lol! Of course it isn’t real. Even someone high on igboo won’t type such.

Makes one wonder what she brings to the table apart from being “fair-skinned”.

I’m good though - thanks

ahnie:

Ma r'ujiro ko oghe'ne......

Wé ji Isoko gaga

Mè bè ta omoto

Omaricha002:
can't you see any mango tree that place, or call me 08037728124

@op: Any pictures of these wonder leaves?

MrBrownJay1:
What a funny thread.....some people are truly living in la la land!!!!

Let me go drink some tea before I give this one a piece of my mind.

EDIT



FOOLISHNESS #1

so what you are is just a desperate woman with her body clock issue on her mind....yet you want to play difficult?!?!?!



FOOLISHNESS #2
Do you want to get married because you actually WANT TO or because of peer/family pressure?!?!



FOOLISHNESS #3
You THINK you need to settle down or you actually desire to find someone to marry?!?!



FOOLISHNESS #4
If the above was remotely true then you wouldn't be single and desperately seeking for donkeys online



FOOLISHNESS #5
Beggars ain't got the right to be choosy/picky....



Let me give you the NL comedic post of the day.

Lol!

MBJ in the house! Howdy?

thorpido:
Hey long time.
How're you and family?

Indeed it really has been

We’re all good thanks - you and yours?

ahnie:

Omo oni'me mavor?mi'qwo.
It's been awhile?

Haha! Tuzémè

Omoté Isoko! Vrendo oh

Kobu wö? Kor Oza we, avo omomo??

damesilver:
Thanks @all for your contributions.

Many of these things too have been tried. Chairs sold, wall repainted, spraying the entire house with DD force.

Sometimes the bugs even come to you when you sleep on the bare tiled floor. The other thing is that they know how to hide. You won't see them until the dead of the night crawling out to bay for blood.

At a point I suspected the thing was beyond ordinary. They can send you away from your home. You begin to get depressed anytime you want to go to your own home. Haa

Why would you sell heavily infested furniture?

Were your buyers aware of this?

thorpido:
Four your guys in a vehicle......probably drunk?Excited and overspending?
May their soul rest in peace.

Sorry for the loss Op.

Exactly my thoughts.

@op: my condolences. Take heart.

cococandy:
You’re naive if you think men don’t eat shit for money.

Ugh they do.

Stfu? Google is your friend lol.

Oh lord!

How can I unwatch what I've just watched??

Tinosa:


Im not going to deny that I asked for money here and it didn't mean I Will remain in that begging state. I wasnt happy doing it if u must know! That u didn't lend me a helping hand didn't mean that someone else (not here though) didn't or I couldn't get it myself (genuinely). I was in a rily tight corner when I did that. Why are u surprised I'm loaning out 13k? I can give d LAST KOBO in my hand to help a begger or a motherless child depending on d persons situation because I'm not you. I don't need to have thousands or millions to help someone in genuine need that's where ppl get it wrong. I don't owe u any explanation of how I got money and Im sure u are aware that i didn't make this post to beg for money. And if u read my post well, I clearly stated that I give to ppl in need because I KNOW HOW IT FEELS TO BE BROKE AND HAVE NOTHING as I usually find myself in such state at times. U have not seen grass to grace stories. things may be bad for someone for a while but when its time for situations to turn around for good for that person or family, nothing can stop it. I don't waste time cooking up stories what will I gain? So keep digging about me madam inspector general of police

Stop trying to defend the indefensible. Doesn’t make you look good.

Next time use the Literature Section. The Family Section is for people seeking advice to real life problems. Genuine issues. Not for illogically-thought-out and make-believe fantasy tales.

Ishilove:
This aunty and her plenty tori wey no dey end. The same you came online to beg for money to celebrate Christmas for your kids, now you're here claiming you lent the last 13k with you to 'someone'.

You're supposedly a pregnant woman who ate akara, bread and water with her children less than 2months ago because hubby is going through a rough patch caused by bad debt, and you expect someone with that kind of never ending financial challenges to just give out 13k just like that?

Methinks when idleness seizes you, you seize your phone and concoct stories for our reading pleasure. SMH

What??!!!

So you mean this narrative is nothing but a pack of lies??

Some people sha. Anyway I must admit she’s a poor liar story teller as some things didn’t really add up. I mean who in their right senses, on a supposed salary of N80k goes out of their way to borrow N1m (with interest to pay back) only to loan abi dash it out to someone else without collateral?

Story for the gods.

@op: there’s nothing wrong with weaving a web of lies / fairytales for entertainment. It’s called creative writing. But it doesn’t belong here. Next time unleash your inner passion for fiction in the Literature Section.

We promise we’ll still be thrilled...

Lol @ “How can you see a grown up man like this and think he is single?...you can even see he is clean, to show that someone is taking care of him.




Madam: First of all he isn’t grown up and secondly he isn’t clean.

Do your self a favour and go check yourself for STDs incase he’s passed on something nasty to you.

Cheap, tacky, publicity stunt.

What makes those few selected families more deserving than others whose babies were / are to be born after the new year??

Every citizen is entitled to basic infrastructure and this includes good roads, access to good education, and affordable healthcare at the very least. These amongst others are what Nigerian citizens pay tax for.

When access to these basic infrastructure is viewed as a luxury, then there is a problem. It’s also not her money to give out but the people’s.

Anyway, the 2019 election is just around the corner.

Seahawk:
a lot of women won’t have a problem doing it since they are already sharing their husbands anyway.

Sounds like an ôrgy.

What’s the point of being married? Better for both parties to “untie” themselves and become free agents rather than undermine the institution of marriage by swapping bodily fluids with numerous partners.

Eeek!!

Moneyfem:
See them




https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I4pmKeTzwDA

I doubt you know the meaning of the words “hilarious” and “dance”.

Replace “hilarious” with “irritating” and “dance” with “screech”.

royalamour:
Met in 2014 November.
Dated for 11 months. All these while she was so homely and accommodating.

She would call to let me know about her movements even when I did not ask for.

She would apologize at any slight opportunity.

It was all rosy.

The parents kept calling and advising me not to let other ladies win me over.

They would visit or call my parents at every given opportunity and I felt "this is it".

We got married almost a year later.

The first 2 weeks of the honeymoon was smooth until the 3rd week and bam! there was disagreement about money.

She stabbed me with a knife though the cut wasn't too deep. It took me months to catch up with reality as the lady I was dating was a total different person.

That was the journey of misery and then it was nagging, disrespect and stuffs until I caught her on the phone telling her ex that she misses him and sh1ts.

I was devastated. This lady refused to apologize. She won't even listen to me whenever I asked to have a heart to heart talk with her.

I had to involve her parents and it was by force before she apologized.

She got pregnant and 9 months later she was delivered of our first son.

2 weeks later, my attention was drawn to constant beeping on her phone and when I checked, my supposed wife was discussing with another of her ex about how tight and intact her vagina was cos she gave birth through CS. And the guy used to be jealous cos he enjoyed the sex they had as she was always tight and shits.

I was devastated. I drew her attention to it and she denied feigning ignorance. It was when I showed her screenshots that she accepted and asked me to forget about it, that what has happened has happened.

She would never say sorry. So called her elder brother and he begged me and begged her to apologize, still she won't.

I reported to the mother. This didn't help matters. The aunts numbering about 4 had to beg on her behalf.
I let it slide.

Things got worse and it came to a point where she would not cook. Even times when I return home from long journeys, I most times will have to go into the kitchen to sort myself.

Mum got sick and I asked that she come to us so that we can go to bigger hospital for proper check up and hell was let loose.

She stopped cooking and would only cook whenever she desires.

Time past and my life became almost miserable.

I would close from the office and won't be able to go home. I would stroll into a beer parlour and while away time till maybe 10pm and would sneak out very early even before she wakes up.

Earlier in 2016, I had empowered her with 1.2 million to start a business and one dime I didn't see as return on investment with her citing low patronage as the reason for the collapse of the business.

It was until the elder brother who was staying with us asked her for money and she refused that the dude disclosed that she made about 2.6 million from sales of items and services she rendered in the shop she denied making nothing from. She could not deny this fact but for my son I let it slide.

My wife would bring her female friend into the home and this lady even when she was engaged to a guy still go out to sleep with other guys.
I asked her to stop been friends with her and she blatantly refused. She would go ahead to invite the lady into my home and rain insults on me because I don't want them together.

This final one was the calls she was making with her ex most times when I was away in the office.
I noticed and she couldn't deny it. I later learnt that her cheat of a friend was the middle person that delivers messages to my wife whenever I was around.

I can't take it anymore.

I don't wanna die before my time.

I can't eat in my house anymore as she threatened to poison me and nothing will happen. This was let out in a heat of a moment while we were exchanging words.

What's the express way to divorce without complications?

NB: The dad has asked me to quit before I start to develop HBP.

Divorce. Divorce. Divorce.

Divorce isn’t always the answer to marital problems and should never be taken lightly especially when there are children involved.

This should only ever be the last resort if all else has failed.

Besides, there’s always three sides to every story:

~ His side
~ Her side
~ The truth

Based purely on your side of the story, you need to do some serious soul searching and ask yourself why your wife changed overnight.

The first few years of marriage are the honeymoon stage. You courted this woman for 11 months. That’s quite a while to have studied her. There is no way a person can keep up the pretence for 11 long months (unless yours was a long distance relationship?). There must have been red flags. You just chose to ignore them.

Nonetheless, there HAS to be a reason why she’s suddenly turned 360^os on you. Obviously there appears to be:

1. An emotional black hole in your relationship. The ex turning up is a symptom of the underlying issues with your marriage. A woman would only turn to an ex or another man if her emotional needs aren’t being met. For example when discussing with your wife, do you seek her opinion / input or do you wave aside her views? Do you say “Thank you” to make her feel appreciated when she gives / does something you are a recipient of? What is your sex life like with her? Do you take the time to satisfy her needs? Or is it all about you, you, and you? Is life with you one endless boring routine? Or do you make efforts to spice it up?

2. Trust Issues. When a wife starts stashing away huge sums of cash in secret, it means she’s preparing a nest egg for herself and her kids without you in the picture. Most times this action arises from betrayal or if she perceives you to have betrayed her. Have you ever cheated on her? Or done something to make her feel insecure in your union?

3. Immaturity. A refusal to acknowledge one’s fault / mistake and apologise accordingly is usually down to misplaced pride and immaturity. Wisdom comes with age. How old is your wife?

For a marriage to work, both parties have to roll up their sleeves and get stuck in. You have to ask yourself if there’s any part of you that wants to salvage the marriage. If you do, then you need to ask your wife if she’s still interested in the marriage too.

If the answer is “yes” from both of you, then both of you need to make the effort to save it. Start by seeking help from a neutral third party such as a marriage counsellor. Book a couple of sessions with them so you and wifey can talk through your issues.

Your problems didn’t start today. They’ve festered for over four years so you need to be patient and not expect everything to be miraculously resolved in one day. A lot of patience, perseverance, and constant communication will be needed to get your relationship back to a healthy state.

It is well.

Tinosa:
I help ppl yet when I need d help, all I hear is I don't have. I still have someone out there owing me 500k because I helped d person out with 1million when things were rough for their family. Funny thing was I borrowed that money from a cooperative where I used to work back then and it was a very big risk i took because I was not even earning up to 100k just 80k. It was severe tears I used in getting back 500k to pay back to d cooperative while till today, d balance 500k was never paid, I struggled to pay it with deductions from my salary for 2yrs.

What is this??

~ You were on an N80k salary

~ You borrowed (probably with interest to pay back) 12.5 times your salary (i.e. N1m) to loan to someone else

I’m sorry but I’ve got to ask you this in the nicest way I can.... WERE YOU DRUNK? Or BEWITCHED perhaps??!

Funny thing is I still see this person and family once a while but we aren't relating

No surprises there

and things seems to be going fine for them yet am here roasting and I have 500k out there. It is well. Another one is owing me 200k and I still see her but no mention of my money. I learnt my lesson from those big monies and was really tight fisted for a while but not for long . I really love giving to people in serious need but I just don't have d means to give right now rather I'm even d one in need. It may just be my weakness

No, you obviously haven’t learnt you lesson as you seem to have bottomless pockets.

Look, if you really want to help others, then direct your funds to a more worthwhile cause. A cause where the beneficiaries will forever appreciate your help.

Donate to an orphanage. Sponsor a child’s education. Help purchase medical equipment for your local health centre, find ways to help the less physically abled eg the blind, mute, etc

Anything rather than throw away money at lost causes.

The word “overripe” is out of context in your title. You aren’t referring to fruits!

Anyway if your main issue is needing a well prepared hot dinner awaiting you when you return home from work, then perhaps what you really need is a live in cook.

Do you disinfect your footwear prior to sale?

chendstone01:
since my mom died Christmas and new year has been messed up for me just ordinary days to me

So sorry about your loss.

May the good Lord comfort you and give you the strength to carry on.

It is well dear.

Tinosa:
Happy new year my people! A friend of mine came to me begging that they were in dire need in their house and dey were finding it difficult to feed their children. (I know them well and they have been going thru some bad debt issue the husband found himself for over a year now) So she needed urgent loan that she was expecting some money d following day (which was yesterday). I hate seeing ppl suffer and in need cos I'm usually in such situation at times so i cant help but give. So I loaned 13k out of d ONLY 15k hoping to get it yesterday. I'm left without a dime And now she no come fit see d money give me back again, d place she was expecting money from yesterday failed her. I can't even go out because I have nothing on me right now. Pls how do I ask for my money politely so it won't spoil d good I've done??

This is such a predictable story and the outcome isn’t surprising.

I know it’s an unpleasant feeling having to remind a “borrower” to keep to their promise but the fact is, you lent out of compassion and you really do need your money back.

Go back to her and ask her to pay your money back. Be direct and don’t beat around the bush. I.e. you might say, Morning madam (or whatever her name is), I’ve come to collect my N13k as agreed. Can I have it back now, please?

Just get straight to the point and don’t waffle by asking questions such as “how are you? How is the family?” etc. You don’t want to give her an excuse to digress with more woeful stories.

In the meantime learn from this. Never lend out what you can’t afford. It’s either you give out “dash money” or you learn to say a firm “No” disguised as “sorry I don’t have oh! Me too dey find money”!

It is well.

Interesting thread.

It takes dedication, trust, and respect from both parties / spouses for a marriage to work.

It also helps if the couple are on the same page (Financial, Religious, Cultural Values, etc) as this fosters patience and understanding, thereby helping to alleviate the challenges that EVERY marriage faces - especially when the kids start rolling in. This is why it’s so important that an intending couple take the time to thoroughly understand and get to know each other properly before tying the knot.

Love is just the icing on the cake.

Mindfulness:


Yeah, obviously 'cause it's the second time it is happening. My friend from France could not watch one film I recommended once either.
What a pity!
Modern Family is very funny.

I rarely watch comedy movies. They have to be really, really, really funny otherwise I quickly lose interest.

I came across one titled Date Movie 2006

It had potential. The first 7-10 minutes got me going...but the rest afterwards was just bleh...

babeosisi:
If you are one of those that foolishly give your January salary to your pastor, you have been sold a lie.
It is the invention of commercial.pastors about a decade ago
The Bible has no such teachings
You celebrate the birth of the savior December 25th and yet believe he needs your money to bless you.
That money is to satisfy your greedy pastor and has nothing to do with Christ
Study to show yourself approved

Do such people still exist??

SAMBARRY:
another oponu has entered my mention

Anyway ama help situation won tori Kosibitamatiwon si .abi Kilama shey Awon didirin tajon share nationality bayi.o yode sha.shey nairaland ni audio player tofigbo voice mi?

Why are you so stupeed?

Ibile he goat

Lol some people’ll never change!

Sambarry quick with the insults and crazy profile pictures

Seasons greetings ma’am