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Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by ebukaOtika(m): 12:19pm On Nov 13, 2014
cc150615:

in ur wildest dreams, ur spew no reach to get me pregnant, it's too watery, I see it from ur retarded speech

Lol ,,,, just give him a trial,.,,, na dis type dey born ejima trowey face like nothin happened,.,,,
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 12:21pm On Nov 13, 2014
cut007:
Mehn how come you see it EXACTLY from my perspective?? I had wanted to elaborate for better understanding but with your excellent summary above, I feel no need for that. @ foxxynik thanks for your inputs. But i'ld luv you to appreciate the fact that my sexual preference is not a product of pevertion or lust. I didn't just decide to start liking/preferring girls with big mamaries (SEXUALLY), its something I just discovered I had even from my early days so i think its passive to just ask me to "man up and drop that boobsy thingy". That why I enquired if it had a medical explanation just so I could save the relationship NCOs like I earlier said, I luv that girl madly, i see her in my future and from strong evidences, I think the feeling is mutual. Its just that sexual connection (from my side) that is a blight to an otherwise almost-perfect relationship. [i][/i](#talk about the role of sex in sustaining a good relationship# whof!!!!!!)
smiley smiley smiley
Well, if u really wna keep her, I think wat u need to do is to work on ur mind. Everything is a "soul" thing. If a mindset can be changed den preference can also be changed. Try and see her selling point and use it to build a buffer in ur heart against her minor.

Nothing is as bad as marrying someone and wishing she was someone else.
Chances of nt bn faithful are high
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 12:34pm On Nov 13, 2014
Rhapsodi:
Yea its very true, cos wen real love is involve it comes from the heart, so ur feelings and emotion won't let u have sex nt even think of it. Am in such a relationship
U ar deceivin ursef. Ur type turn out to be impotent man on wedin night, discovered to d chagrin of d gullible wif. I refused to go into relatnsip in order to avoid sex for years. D moment i tried a relatnsip, sex folowed imediately witout bargainin 4 it. Wil u say i dnt lov her? I felt as if i wud die if she left me. She eventualy left me, and am yet to recova. Sin? Yes, i knw it's a sin but... to say d truth, lif has no meanin.
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by swagwu(m): 12:45pm On Nov 13, 2014
chester47:
Bleep YOU ASHOLE FOR SAYING THIS TRASH HERE..BEING CHEATED YOURE DATING FOR SEX..WHY DONT YOU PAY WHORES THEN OR BETTER OFF DO IT YOURSELF WITH OIL AND SOAP LOOSER
fool at 40 after spending ur money on her witout geting nothing at the end she wil still find another guy richer than you thats when you know that u are the real looser....

if am dating a girl nd she gvs me what nature demands what will mk me pay whores for it and for the oil nd soap issure pleas refer dat to ur wifless dad...idiot

i can now see u are 1 of the inportent niggurs on NL.. grin
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by obomobo: 12:50pm On Nov 13, 2014
oyeludef:
yeah its very possible and my mum comes to mind. I over-love her but have no intimate desire.
funny u b real olobe

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Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 1:02pm On Nov 13, 2014
swagwu:
fool at 40 after spending ur money on her witout geting nothing at the end she wil still find another guy richer than you thats when you know that u are the real looser....

if am dating a girl nd she gvs me what nature demands what will mk me pay whores for it and for the oil nd soap issure pleas refer dat to ur wifless dad...idiot

i can now see u are 1 of the inportent niggurs on NL.. grin
DUDE CONVERT 1GRYV TO NAIRA AND TELL ME HOW MUCH.HEN CONVERT 100.000KGRYV TO NAIRA AND TELL ME HOW MUCH.AND KINDLY EXPLAIN HOW POOR I MUST BE AS A MEDICAL DOCTOR HERE IN UKRAINE.AND WHAT IS WIFLESS??DO YOU MEAN WIFI YOU MUST BE JOKING MAN.Besides I don't care if I spend money on her..guess what I send her 10,000grv a month to take care of herself. If she want's to run I don't,care man I have lot more things I have to gain in future.But you said you can't spend money without getting something in return which is sex?,I am highly convinced you're an illiterate I believe you're older than me but I have accomplished better off
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by ebukaOtika(m): 1:07pm On Nov 13, 2014
swagwu:
fool at 40 after spending ur money on her witout geting nothing at the end she wil still find another guy richer than you thats when you know that u are the real looser....

if am dating a girl nd she gvs me what nature demands what will mk me pay whores for it and for the oil nd soap issure pleas refer dat to ur wifless dad...idiot

i can now see u are 1 of the inportent niggurs on NL.. grin


Hmmmmm insults everywhere ,.,,,? But why go to his Parents ,, ,,,,.

You for just ignore am and still keep your dignity ,,.,,.

Pls dont attack me biko i beg you in God's name.

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Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by awa(m): 1:09pm On Nov 13, 2014
RuuDie:

Wrong Ma... Even though you have written well but I beg to disagree with the bolded! For example, do you "decide" to be hungry first before you desire a certain kind of food or is it the other way round!?
Desire is "spontaneous", random if you will... then decision follows!

@RuuDie,

Thanks for your opinion about my contribution however, you may wish to recall that there are some people you might be relating with online and based on their voice, sense of reasoning or other unseen factors you might start developing "feelings" (decision) for them thereby desiring to meet or hang out with them? Same time, do you know they are some kind of people you won't like to relate with while other people prefer relating with such people? This is decision... Desire truly could be "spontaneous" but it's spontaneity is a determinant of decision and not beclouded sentiment - lust. Decision triggers desire. Bros, if you don't decide to like certain things, you won't ever desire them. You can't desire a lady you have never decided to.... you know now. Imagine seeing a Sex Worker along the Street and desiring to have her even when you have already decided not to patronize their service All you do is just lust after her. Desire is action-oriented.
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by faithugo64(f): 1:09pm On Nov 13, 2014
VivaLaFrans:
But you topic says ''SLEEPING WITH''... Correct it please....
See, we are all humans... It depends on what you are looking for. If your searching for brilliance, you'll never be carried away by lust.
the DESIRE to sleep with,read the titile again
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 1:12pm On Nov 13, 2014
Imagine perceiving the aroma of a meal placed in front of you and not feeling like having a bit. Funny question by the OP
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by swagwu(m): 1:24pm On Nov 13, 2014
chester47:
DUDE CONVERT 1GRYV TO NAIRA AND TELL ME HOW MUCH.HEN CONVERT 100.000KGRYV TO NAIRA AND TELL ME HOW MUCH.AND KINDLY EXPLAIN HOW POOR I MUST BE AS A MEDICAL DOCTOR HERE IN UKRAINE.AND WHAT IS WIFLESS??DO YOU MEAN WIFI YOU MUST BE JOKING MAN.Besides I don't care if I spend money on her..guess what I send her 10,000grv a month to take care of herself. If she want's to run I don't,care man I have lot more things I have to gain in future.But you said you can't spend money without getting something in return which is sex?,I am highly convinced you're an illiterate I believe you're older than me but I have accomplished better off
lolzzzz here in ukraine or barriga lolzzz as a medical doctor or thife.....well i dnt bragg of what i am or were i stay...clap 4 urself u sends her 10,000grv and she sends to the real man that makes her happy fool...

u claim to love her dat much but if she runs u dnt care u see y dey call u guys black monkey over there
i never wnted to say dis here on NL am 19yrs old 300l civil engineer student in nigeria here (UNN)

so u see u are my senior and my future is brighter dan ya
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by RuuDie(m): 1:32pm On Nov 13, 2014
awa:


@RuuDie,

Thanks for your opinion about my contribution however, you may wish to recall that there are some people you might be relating with online and based on their voice, sense of reasoning or other unseen factors you might start developing "feelings" (decision) for them thereby desiring to meet or hang out with them? Same time, do you know they are some kind of people you won't like to relate with while other people prefer relating with such people? This is decision... Desire truly could be "spontaneous" but it's spontaneity is a determinant of decision and not beclouded sentiment - lust. Decision triggers desire. Bros, if you don't decide to like certain things, you won't ever desire them. You can't desire a lady you have never decided to.... you know now. Imagine seeing a Sex Worker along the Street and desiring to have her even when you have already decided not to patronize their service All you do is just lust after her. Desire is action-oriented.

Sorry again Ma, you're making sense to an extent but not entirely... you don't - in fact scratch that - I have NEVER known anyone that consciously decides to like someone, something or anything for that matter; it just happens!

"Decision triggers desire..." - it doesn't even sound right in the context and sequence with which you put it.
If I "desire" something, I then have a "decision" to make whether to chase after that thing or not! What prompts that "desire" is another matter entirely, but 99.999% of the time, it is almost certainly random, unplanned or spontaneous!

On a lighter note, based on our banter thus far, what have you decided? Like me or not? grin

And for this your example... I suggest you make it as new post, see and gauge for yourself the responses!
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by cc150615(f): 1:40pm On Nov 13, 2014
chester47:
Did you just call her a LovePeddler or hoe..is not cause I said these things should make you insult my girlfriend okay so shut your mouth and withdraw that statement before I shut it for you.I use brass knuckles ya know.Besides I only complained of not having sex and not to insult her she is my wife to be..
someone is fucking ur wife to be for u anyway don't come here nd cry to us when u find out after 10years of marriage that the 3 kids u have belong to 3 different men outside.
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 1:40pm On Nov 13, 2014
AgapeCharis:
love ain't blind.
U'r nt getting one point. He didn't say he doesn't love d girl because of her small brsts. He does buh dt fling is nt jx there. U sure knw dt u can b sexually attracted to someone u don't love...maybe cos d person's got dt tin dt spines ur head.....dey r two different things bro

Ok Sirree! I give up on this....

@cut007... There isn't any medical postulation or affirmation on what u're experiencing!

My candid advise is that...you shld love her the way she is coz that's how was was kurated (created)!!!!!
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 1:51pm On Nov 13, 2014
foxxynik:


Ok Sirree! I give up on this....

@cut007... There isn't any medical postulation or affirmation on what u're experiencing!

My candid advise is that...you shld love her the way she is coz that's how was was kurated (created)!!!!!
wink
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 1:57pm On Nov 13, 2014
cc150615:

someone is fucking ur wife to be for u anyway don't come here nd cry to us when u find out after 10years of marriage that the 3 kids u have belong to 3 different men outside.
lol..I won't mam.. but what I mean was maybe somebody else is fucking her lol can she remain a virgin till I get back?
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 2:00pm On Nov 13, 2014
swagwu:

lolzzzz here in ukraine or barriga lolzzz as a medical doctor or thife.....well i dnt bragg of what i am or were i stay...clap 4 urself u sends her 10,000grv and she sends to the real man that makes her happy fool...

u claim to love her dat much but if she runs u dnt care u see y dey call u guys black monkey over there
i never wnted to say dis here on NL am 19yrs old 300l civil engineer student in nigeria here (UNN)

so u see u are my senior and my future is brighter dan ya
lol why would you lie..okay youre 19 300l in NIGERIA!!!when did you finish? At 15?with jamb and screening and waec issue lol.you can do better than this
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by olumzz(m): 2:17pm On Nov 13, 2014
temigracie:
...hanhan!!!....


What will now give the love fire, as in real FAYA??.....


..liking someone already, you start having some silly thoughts...Talkless of loving someone.....
Am already liking someone here o
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 2:20pm On Nov 13, 2014
temigracie:
...hanhan!!!....


What will now give the love fire, as in real FAYA??.....


..liking someone already, you start having some silly thoughts...Talkless of loving someone.....
temi dear.xup with you?
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by greall1: 2:28pm On Nov 13, 2014
Relationship without sex is not Possible but it can be limit not all the time because of the love.
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by ojodombe(m): 3:10pm On Nov 13, 2014
yep nah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by ocheu(f): 3:26pm On Nov 13, 2014
rman:


Did u miss the part where he wrote he was sleeping with other girls in his post?
I didn't miss it, and that is why I put it to him that way( that the lady will only believe he has control over himself, not that the guy is faithful.) of course he is not faithful though
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Kbraims(m): 3:27pm On Nov 13, 2014
Luvin a gal witout having d intentn of sleepn wit er is a sign of true luv

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Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 4:06pm On Nov 13, 2014
Bunsky:
temi dear.xup with you?

Sweets


Thanks for checking on me.


Evrythng s fyn dear. How are you doing too?
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 4:19pm On Nov 13, 2014
temigracie:


Sweets


Thanks for checking on me.


Evrythng s fyn dear. How are you doing too?
i'm ok,hw is camp?
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by abm2pistle(m): 4:24pm On Nov 13, 2014
Rhapsodi:
Yea its very true, cos wen real love is involve it comes from the heart, so ur feelings and emotion won't let u have sex nt even think of it. Am in such a relationship

Let's tell our self the truth. Liking someone burns your sexual desire, talk more of love. It could be possible but the chance is very slim.
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by UjSizzle(f): 4:30pm On Nov 13, 2014
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Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by kaylight12(m): 4:30pm On Nov 13, 2014
It very very rear
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by basilo101: 4:51pm On Nov 13, 2014
If u dnt hv sex wit who u luv who else wil u hv sex wit? D more u gals try to force lov without sex on us d more u get sex witout lov
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Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 5:44pm On Nov 13, 2014
Bunsky:
i'm ok,hw is camp?

Camp dey ooo.


E no easy
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by xtremrules(m): 5:51pm On Nov 13, 2014
most of u guys commenting are commenting wrongly. the question is if is possible not to have desire for sex not have sex. having desire for something and acquiring it are quite different.

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