missKiffy:
Am a lady and would never support such, it's wrong for her not to wash the plate and to think the elder brother is even insisting his younger brother to wash it and not the girl is absurd

yeah,so so bad

The lady might have had a little duel with his younger bro, no one can tell, But she's going to be his future wife for Gods sake, why can't she do the dishes?? Probably when the agitation occurred she could have volunteered, and let the Him handle the case when she leave. There's nothing to be ashamed of.

At first,i thought the girl is soo wrong but then i sat to think for a minute. From the op's post it is clear that the problem is not the dishes but the fact that it's a woman involved. I bet if it was his brother's friends that used the plates he wouldnt mind. If a visitor comes to my house(male or female)i'd clean up after them. For example,if my brother's fiance comes over she might offer to clear the table but i won't let her do the dishes,it's simple ettiquette.
That said,they're just making a mountain out of a molehill(over plates kwanu?). The younger bro sef
As for the op:you obviously have no respect for women and you possess a shallow,myopic level of reasoning

francizy:


Dirty you!

Seconded. For her mind now she be ajebuta. So her husband will be washing dishes for her. Naija girls forming since 1800.

Adaeze003:
One of the mere men woulda just washed the plate.

Kini big deal...

abi,shouting all becos of plate washing,why can't he do it and do as if nothing happen

RedBenson:


How about severally coming to sleep and leave the next day? She is still a visitor? She has already started showing bad characters and the guy should know what he's about to delve his hands into, else, he will be the one going to market to buy grayfish, pumpkins and tomatoes and come cook for her and as well as washing her undies for her when they finally get married.

I gave my own opinion based on your writeup. All this additional 'come home and sleep till next day' is just out of the context. I'm particularly concerned about the egoistical younger brother who felt washing the used plate of his elder brother's fiancee or girlfriend (whatever) is demeaning. Let's leave the girl alone now and question his position with the elder brother. If he looks down on the girl then he can as well slap his elder bro

Vivly:
Because of plate.

I dey tell u,some things re better done,and look other side

freecocoa:
Seriously though, I pity the women that end up with your kind.

You sound really stup1d. No man or woman can use me, whatever I do, I do because I want to and am comfortable doing it, which doesn't include pretending/accepting everything thrown at me, just to please a prospective MIL/boyfriend.

Not everyone believes in your bible and only dumb/ignorant people, bring religion into a secular discourse, go get some education you simpleton.

When the empty vessels speak they use more derogatory terms

For the records I quoted the bible just for Christianity reference I don't believe in it

I pity the unfortunate man that will end up with a mannerless entity like you, you are a disgrace to your kinds.

You can as well get married to 2 men or more since your warped brain believes women are equal to men.

Cretin

You are upgrading the guy cos i tink hez right there in the cave peeping thru some holes...hehehehe

freecocoa:
Just shut your chauvinistic mouth already, you sound like someone just out of a cave.

Even in the western world you don't leave your dishes for another person to do for you.

How idiotic of that girl

kenis:


A mere lady is a lady who is 'meeh! (ewu).

I don't blame you.
I blame the ladies who reduce themselves to nothing to rock your ego.

It's certainly not your fault but that of the ladies who forget they are human and deserve to be treated as one.

I won't insult you or argue with you.
You are beneath me

amokeme:
I don't like doing dishes .. She might be like me

Clap for yourself.

kelechiMarie:
At first,i thought the girl is soo wrong but then i sat to think for a minute. From the op's post it is clear that the problem is not the dishes but the fact that it's a woman involved. I bet if it was his brother's friends that used the plates he wouldnt mind. If a visitor comes to my house(male or female)i'd clean up after them. For example,if my brother's fiance comes over she might offer to clear the table but i won't let her do the dishes,it's simple ettiquette.
That said,they're just making a mountain out of a molehill(over plates kwanu?). The younger bro sef
As for the op:you obviously have no respect for women and you possess a shallow,myopic level of reasoning

Unfortunately, I do not think that most commenters thought of the post long enough to come to this conclusion. People are either refusing to see the bigger problem or they are willing condone it.

emperorchedda:
When the empty vessels speak they use more derogatory terms

For the records I quoted the bible just for Christianity reference I don't believe in it

I pity the unfortunate man that will end up with a mannerless entity like you, you are a disgrace to your kinds.

You can as well get married to 2 men or more since your warped brain believes women are equal to men.

Cretin

You are one to talk.

You are worse than originally thought for thinking only you have the monopoly of using derogatory terms.

Why must you use Christianity as a reference to support your f00lish mentality in a discourse with me? Did you ask if I was a christian first? See the one calling another empty vessel, you are dumber than dumb.

Hediot, I'd rather remain unmarried than marry someone like yourself, the fact that you even think there are no men who consider women equals is shameful, get out of your cave mister and smell some civilisation.

Younger brother inlaw of nawodays are full of troubles. I wash the plates my maid use in eating not to talk of my sister inlaw to be.

RedBenson:
A neighbourhood brother was seriously angry with his younger bro this morning when he realised that the plates his fiancee ate with when she visited last night was not washed by his younger brother.

The guy may have purposely refused to wash the plates because he believes it's an insult for a lady (be it his senior or junior) to have eaten from a plate and lacked the basic womanly manners to leave it unwashed.

Since the dude who's a student and well over 25yrs realised that a lady, who should be respecting men would rather try to bring him down to that extent and had thus refused to wash the plates.

This issue actually caused an uproar between the two brothers up to the point the elder brother was telling the younger one "finish your school asap and leave my house...nonsense".

Well, the elder brother later went and washed the plates furiously angry without his sibling. The fact that he even supported the lady on such act is what surprised everyone.

The question is, what RIGHT does a lady (be it a wife or fiancee) have to keep the plates she ate with for her brother in-law to come wash for her? Who should rather do that to who? Smh @women of nowadays. No iota of manners in them again.

I think it was very wrong to have left the plates she used unwashed. However, the highlighted part leaves a little bit of distaste. What has this got to do with disrespecting men? Does this mean men can't wash plates again? Or is a man washing plate synonymous to him being less of a man?

D guy is an idiot and the girlfriend is a dirty pig.

Ibsgal:


Unfortunately, I do not think that most commenters thought of the post long enough to come to this conclusion. People are either refusing to see the bigger problem or they are willing condone it.

yeah i learned to think before talking and calm down before judging. A pity lots of people do not

In the literal sense the FIANCEE is a 'visitor' who came to pay a visit.

Technically, the FIANCEE has gone beyond the 'visitor' tag.

This is clearly a handshake that has gone beyond the elbow.

Wisdom is profitable to direct, personally except the fiancee is way older than the younger brother
she berra get her behind into the kitchen and do the dishes. Jeez what kind of mother brought her up in an African country.

Am even more ashamed for the brother. He should have some shame for himself, just because he pays the brother's school fees
he has lost all reasoning and sense of decency. A guy that couldn't handle an issue with his younger brother wants to get married

Something is already fundamentally wrong here.

I feel pity for women who feel the need to invoke their feminist traits only when it suits their purpose. Those types are the worst kind of hypocrites on earth.

God help my generation.

spicykev:

You are upgrading the guy cos i tink hez right there in the cave peeping thru some holes...hehehehe

You are probably right.

freecocoa:
I may or may not, depends on many things.

I have eaten at boyfriends houses before and they cleared the table, I am a guest, it is simple etiquette.

100 percent correct.

all the best for them

BabaOneChance:

I gave my own opinion based on your writeup. All this additional 'come home and sleep till next day' is just out of the context. I'm particularly concerned about the egoistical younger brother who felt washing the used plate of his elder brother's fiancee or girlfriend (whatever) is demeaning. Let's leave the girl alone now and question his position with the elder brother. If he looks down on the girl then he can as well slap his elder bro

And when you said "visitor", didnt you see "fiancee" as used in the write up? Does fiancee reflect a visitor i ask again?

Most of the problems with these men is that, they dont tell and orientate their fiancees on what to do and the limitations. If this one allows her exercise such power now, by the time she is married, she'll come in to see the family people as nothing. The earlier the right things are done to put shape in order, the better for everyone. What sort manner-less woman is she?

It's not about whether he could slap her or not. If a woman conducts herself with orderly manner, believe me there wont be a problem in the house. But when she wants to show that she wasnt properly brought up, then the in-laws must show her that not everyone in the family is as insane as the fiance/husband.

emperorchedda:
Even in the western world you don't leave your dishes for another person to do for you.

How idiotic of that girl

seriously,dat shows dirtiness

freecocoa:
Just shut your chauvinistic mouth already, you sound like someone just out of a cave.

Who is this one? Pls dont quote me next time if you dont have something better to say. See how you shamelessly pride yourself as you ate in your guy's house (the house you visit daily to get laid and yet you still call yourself a visitor) and the brothers clear the table. You've no iota of shame. No wonder you still on the look for a husband. Bad characters have been chasing all the potential husbands away.

babygirlfl:


My dear please don't make what these women do hurt you. It used to make me angry until I realised they should be pitied. How can someone be happy to be called that kind of name? How can being treated like the only thing you are good enough for is to clean and bear kids be enough. Some of these women don't know better.

Hmmmmmm... I tire o!
Untop plate o! unto say it was used by a lady and a good number of ladies see nothing wrong in it.
Iranu!

ThoniaSlim:


I think it was very wrong to have left the plates she used unwashed. However, the highlighted part leaves a little bit of distaste. What has this got to do with disrespecting men? Does this mean men can't wash plates again? Or is a man washing plate synonymous to him being less of a man?

Nothing wrong with a man washing plate but NOT a plate that was used by a woman. I can ONLY wash my wife's own is she is sick or something, else, no try am o.

suzzy16:
seriously,dat shows dirtiness

tell them jhor.

Meanwhile some person are claiming civilization.. how pathetic and shallow minded some girls are.

Imbecillic slowpoke

BabaOneChance:

So having kitchen manner is the only criterion for ascertaining a wife material, according to u?

to each his own. to me, it is very important. it shows a lot of my things

I can wash my brother's fiancee's panties and keep sniffing em until they smell clean!

Truman155:
all the best for them

no,some women are,nt all women

RedBenson:


And when you said "visitor", didnt you see "fiancee" as used in the write up? Does fiancee reflect a visitor i ask again?

Most of the problems with these men is that, they dont tell and orientate their fiancees on what to do and the limitations. If this one allows her exercise such power now, by the time she is married, she'll come in to see the family people as nothing. The earlier the right things are done to put shape in order, the better for everyone. What sort manner-less woman is she?

It's not about whether he could slap her or not. If a woman conducts herself with orderly manner, believe me there wont be a problem in the house. But when she wants to show that she wasnt properly brought up, then the in-laws must show her that not everyone in the family is as insane as the fiance/husband.

Leave that dude, he is just seeking some cheap popularity.

Since the elder brother didn't see anything wrong in what his fiancee did, why did he not enter the kitchen, see the unwashed plates
Clean them up, enter his room and sleep off without making a case out of it.

Yet some simpletons can't see that there is already a cold war brewing in the family, they are busy talking from the top of their heads.

I wasn't there, but I can say for a fact... The uwashed plates is only a fraction of the issues on ground. Dig deepeer, you will find the fire for this smoke.

Again something is already fundamentally wrong. It's beyond the plates. I just pity the guy that want's to get married sha..