Ishilove:
This nairalander mailed us this rather pathetic story. She requested her identity be hidden because not only is she well known, the man in question is also a nairalander.

Please read and give her your very candid advice.



No insults, please. She is in a quagmire and needs sound and solid advice.

missmary:

because you have been lucky to have an experience with God doesn't mean you should judge others who haven't seen the light!...

Ishilove:
This nairalander mailed us this rather pathetic story. She requested her identity be hidden because not only is she well known, the man in question is also a nairalander.

Please read and give her your very candid advice.



No insults, please. She is in a quagmire and needs sound and solid advice.

misssclassy:
First of all, I am sorry for the situation you have found yourself in.
You were naïve when you were used by that man so none of this is your fault.
Staying with that man is not the best option. He doesn't love you, he doesn't respect you and worse than that , he physically abuses you.

I will advice you try your best to find a way to move out of that house.
You don't need to depend on him for survival. There are other things you could do. You could start up a small business so you can take care of yourself. There are a lot of business ideas you could pick from, especially in your school environment. You could also learn a trade or vocation.

In addition to that, there should also be other guys that might have been asking you out and all that. There could be one that would be ready to take care of you. Perhaps you should try to open up a bit. I am not saying you should sleep with men, or sell your body to them, no, all I am saying is you make a couple of friends and perhaps you might find someone to love and who would love you too.
You can't fight this battle alone.

What about members of your extended family, friends in and out of school. There should be someone you could talk to and who could be willing to help.
Just open up to someone close, you will definitely feel the load lifted from you shoulders.

I don't know how committed you are to your religion, but in cases like this , religious organizations can really be of help.
You could talk to your religious leader about everything. They could help.
Even the fellow members of your religious organisation, whether it's a church or a mosque, can also help you.

Young lady, we as humans always face various challenges in our lives. But we should never give in to them and lose all hope.
There is still light at the end of the tunnel. Everything will be okay,
Just keep on trusting God and be prayerful as well.

Bonapart:
bro i worked in water producing company and filling station just to gather money for my higher institution. Also my immediate elder sis did the same...
Except the story is fake that's when i will stop blaming her

sambisa5:
Am so sorry dear.

My friend's case was like yours,but her dad wasn't poor,he just felt as a female you don't deserve much.

She gained admission into UNIBEN by force. After her secondary school she taught in a school where she could raise money for jamb form.Her dad had about the admission and promised he won't train her,but she got trained anyway.

How?

She carried her bag,without school fee,pocket money,feeding money,accomdation etc.When she stepped into campus,she met a photgraher,sat with him,in the cause of dicussion,he told her of his 200L medicine daugther.He called her,and the daughter took the poor girl to her hostel(Hall 2). School just resumed and most students av not resumed yet,so there were empty bonks,she asked her to stay in one of the bonks,but till the session ended, portals never allocated that bonk.

For food,the man (photograher) and her daughter took it upon themselves to feed her even without complains,

For school fees,two church fellowships paid her fees(Nifes and RCF)

for clothes, she continued to wear rag and didn't send.she was always reading to become something in live.

As a teneger,a virgin.a guy woo her one night as she was coming from class,(he was in his 3rd year eco-stat) she played hard to get,but he got to know she was sufferin cos of the way she appears on campus.

He started buying her gifts, shoes, clothes,undis etc and she fell in love,but each time she visited him in Hall 4 then,he wants to rap her..

In a nut shell,she graduated without her father's one naira,no pregnacy or abortion either,she was wise not to hard more pains to her pains.

MY ADVICE
Do you know your heavenly father is your real father?her heavenly saw her thru school and not the earthly father,,

it doesn't matter the hell you have been thru,,,,start seeing God as your true father and watch him take good care of you as from now on.All you need to survive is with ur heavenly father.

Fulaboy:

mranswer:

kagan wawanci koh?

Bonapart:
i have to forgive you because na where you know reach... and dnt try to quote me again

voltron:

Trust some Nlers to miss the issue and focus on non-issues..

Ishilove:
This nairalander mailed us this rather pathetic story. She requested her identity be hidden because not only is she well known, the man in question is also a nairalander.

Please read and give her your very candid advice.



No insults, please. She is in a quagmire and needs sound and solid advice.

Joavid:


Thank you!!

I know a lot of people will not like your line of thought but the trust is what it is. It should not be filtered!

The fact that (as ishilove stated) she is well known nairaland raises an eyebrow.
Its puzzling to me the events of this past few weeks were regular nairalanders open another handle to lament and am like WTF!!
What have u been learning from/on Nairaland??

jaybee3:

How is it a non issue if the credibility of the story is now in question?
The story should have been posted as received

@ishilove

What exactly did you edit, did you just introduce line spacing and paragraphs or you changed some of the sentences?

Can you ask her if she is interested in counseling as the bare minimum