Show him Love.... to every bad things he does, reciprocate with the opposite. U need to change for him to see any reasons to change towards u, therefore ; the need for u to show him Love.

I know it may be difficult, but u can do it... it may take time, just watch as the love u show him over powers his hatred for u.
May God help u.... don't forget the ultimate power, PRAYER.

Gather money... rent one room apartment far from ur home..and start living alone... simple.

Therock5555:


My parents married legally in church and I'm the second child and first male


I have doubted my parentage lots of times because I was the only child among my siblings given birth to in the village, maybe I was exchange by some faggort nurses because I don't behave one bit like any body else in the house

The cower in fear while he speaks, I oppose him when he speaks uncorted lies.

BTW he's a preacher so nothing seems wrong to him. If I begin to spill everything, I might run out of pages

Kai!
I wonder what u've past through!

so u dont have legs,ba?

Dad over to you since you are also on nl..

EggovinMma:
END TIME PALEEEE!

So you've caught the syndrome too?

Lasisi has really spread his ministry!

Therock5555:
Please this is a long write up so please pardon me

I choosed not to used an alternative moniker because I want my dad to see this, I introduced him to Nairaland and he's a frequent front page reader so I hope he sees this. I hope my fans in the literature section know why I get depressed always.

Tonight's event has proven to me that I mean little or nothing to him. I won't say I did nothing wrong but sometimes you do something without much thoughts but he feeds on it like a leech and finds everything wrong.





Tonight's saga broke my heart, just because I was going out to buy detergent and been asked by my mother I answered but she did not hear me, I was made to kneel down and hear his rants on how I was every degoratory insult he could think off.


Cc. Ishilove Lalasticlala Sean RoyalRoy

When are you going to get the flip out of that place and wave goodbye to your Dad?

When he finally maims you?

Ok

Where is your mom in all these for God's sake?

Even if the tyrant is determined to ruin your life and make you miserable, where is the motherly love that conquers all?

If your mother too is not ready to fight for you, being quite sure that she sees and observes his incessant abuses on you, my brother I am sorry to tell you, your family is non-existent anymore.

Better find a way to leave that house before your psyche and self worth get completely destroyed.

You have a hard task ahead of you as a person who has been trampled upon immensely and the earlier you begin rebuilding yourself, the better for you.

You can only achieve that by leaving that house. Unfortunately I do not know how old you are and how dependent you are on them but at least try.

I could feel your cry, pain and helplessness with every line I read.

In the end know this, no man born of a woman holds the key to your destiny. That right is reserved for the Most High and always go up to him in prayers for guidance.

Seriously I am fuming here. How could parents treat their flesh and blood this way? Even while you were a toddler? Some people are pathetic honestly.

my dad


U are challenging my àuthority....nw i am extremely introverted.....when am home i cant go out...u ar still a child ...am jst monitoring u its d duty of a parent....

If i mistake stroll ,i have to ans jamb qxtn..and correct too

Going home is a matter of d nigga is broke, if not i got a home in skul already

Its jst dat d effect of 18+ bondage cant b undone in a single day...so i still gat some probs to fix


Am a final yr stud n 1 uni lyk dat
Therock5555
U knw hw many tyms dem don tell me make i go find my fada nd moda cos dem no sure say na dem born me

Dat feeling dat everything u do or even about to do is bad
U see ur mates doing tinz u wouls lyk to do....bt u cant do ...c
If i mention hw many tyms deh have told me lyk
Gov oshiomole to d trader "go and die" nl server go go down


Nigga b urself ...we go survive......deh have lived their lives ...nigga live urs too nd to d fullest....
Am nt there yet bt God knws am tryna Undo their Effect on me



Tried testing d effect of sniper on myself before....buh i no gree die

N.b....pardon my typo......phone shit

Atmmachine:
Let me tell you something.
You're still a kid, you live with your parents, they feed you.
African parents derive joy in beating their children.

One day you will get rich and he will want you to buy mansions for him and give him money, It will be up to you to choose how to repay him.

Let me use Emmanuel Adebayor as an example, His family got what they deserve because they treated him like a slave.

If you want your dad to stop beating you. #Fight him, i repeat, #Fight him.
He will never touch you again.

Please do you mean combat or you mean fight on some other context? Ie stand his ground and do what he wants.?
I feel the op is a teenager or semi teenager

DerKaiser:
Where us your mom in all these for God's sake?

Unfortunately, women are usually helpless in this case.Some even support their husbands in other to be on the good side.

Therock5555:
.


Sorry for the long epistle, I'm broken and seriously need advice, I hope he gets to see this and then kills me afterwards.


Cc. Ishilove Lalasticlala Sean RoyalRoy

I hope your Dad reads this. You sound like a fellow between 25 and 30 judging from your diction. A part of me tells me you can do your own thing. What you are doing right now is a bit of self-pity but you can do better. I have a feeling your have let what you see as "your condition" deem all the capabilities you have in you. This may be your dad telling you to challenge yourself.

We could talk if you send me a private massage and your phone number.

Afrok:
Show him Love.... to every bad things he does, reciprocate with the opposite. U need to change for him to see any reasons to change towards u, therefore ; the need for u to show him Love.

I know it may be difficult, but u can do it... it may take time, just watch as the love u show him over powers his hatred for u.
May God help u.... don't forget the ultimate power, PRAYER.

Sir! What is the meaning of show him love again? The papa no no how to show him pikin love? Hian!!

I'd just say hang in there. Some Nigerian parents are absolutely clueless and even borderline retarded I'm dealing with relationships.

Did you read about the man that used plier to remove his wife's ear

Or the woman that carry house girl to salon to fan her for two hours


Or the woman that stabbed house help boob's

Or the audu abubakar son that raped a young girl severally with his friends



Some Nigerians are not human beings but animals that don't know how to relate with their fellow man

Sorry but keep your head up always!!!!


Stop relying on them, pursue your vision, get a little cheddar and branch out on your own.

@Therock5555

You need to do things on a coded level.

Go for any and all events. Open an account and save every penny, because you will need to move out. When he begins the negative ish, focus on the light at the end the tunnel.

If you stay in that house, it can lead to you committing suicide, having low self esteem, or turning into him.

Talking to him might not help, so just try to save as much as you can. Get paying gigs (on coded level) and save, save, save.

Moving out is the only option for your sanity.

I'm willing to commit financially to help you move out.

Parents like this pisses me off

I'll take it your dad is pastor or a deacon, or one form of religious position?

Cos u are useless, even to urself

Totfulguy:


I hope your Dad reads this. You sound like a fellow between 25 and 30 judging from your diction. A part of me tells me you can do your own thing. What you are doing right now is a bit of self-pity but you can do better. I have a feeling your have let what you see as "your condition" deem all the capabilities you have in you. This may be your dad telling you to challenge yourself.

We could talk if you send me a private massage and your phone number.

Oh I just looked at your profile picture...Now I think your Dad has his reasons!

kind of reminds of d way lucios treated jamal in d movie empire,well op all i can say is pray if u're a xtian and maybe try showing him a little extra love,dat might work,anyways God be with u.i really pity for those whose parents despise them for no substantial reason

Therock5555:
Please this is a long write up so please pardon me

I choosed not to used an alternative moniker because I want my dad to see this, I introduced him to Nairaland and he's a frequent front page reader so I hope he sees this. I hope my fans in the literature section know why I get depressed always.

Tonight's event has proven to me that I mean little or nothing to him. I won't say I did nothing wrong but sometimes you do something without much thoughts but he feeds on it like a leech and finds everything wrong.

Agreed, I'm the black sheep of the family but how that started remains a mystery to me. Right from even before I knew my name I was severely beaten like an animal for every offence you could think of, peeing on the bed, playing outside, looking under my mom's wrapper (who taught me this at that age remains a mystery). I was treated like an outcast like I just jumped out of my mom's womb. He even told me that if my mom was not a Christian he would have questioned my parentage.

Where did I go wrong as a child to deserve all manner of punishments, from collecting 42 strokes naked with my eyes and genitals ridden with fresh pepper to getting locked in my room from dawn till dusk without food nor water to getting flogged for even getting home from school ten minutes late to getting disgraced in front of my friends because of trival issues up to the point that I barely allow my friends to know my house because I hated embarrassing questions.

Even though I am demonic who should be blamed? God for allowing me out like that or myself for getting stubborn while still a baby.

He claims I have done nothing good in this life despite all my efforts, despite killing all my dreams because of his quest and desire to make me a medical doctor which I'm not even fucking close to been presently.


I have always been treated unfairly like a slave, even if he says I have never done anything good I can freshly remember how I tried my little best to send my elder sis dozens of airtime and some cash when she started University even though I never saw anything when I got into higher institution or when I saved up to 25k with my mum and tried to borrow a little for a need that arosed and was barraged with the "what have you payed for in this house" taunt till that money entered one chance. You might say that's a tad sum but I was just 15 then and I was getting paid a miserly N350 a day which I fed and transported from.

Maybe because he runs a military regime in the house and his decisions whether good or bad is final. I became a black sheep because I try to counter some of his decisions, he called me a bastard for trying to follow my dreams, I'm called an animal because I choosed to do things contrary to his desire despite knowing that I am right sometimes.

Most times I come home frustrated, tired and down in spirit but they expect me to suddenly answer every calls with a wide smile, sometimes I'm called from my room while my younger ones are seated with them to go pick something just a few yards away because they believe I'm busy pressing phone inside and that's idleness.

I have lost a movie contract, a book and even a blog sponsorship because I know that telling him about it would lead to more harm than good, I had to give out the movie script free because I could not make an all expensed paid journey. Not even a Christian seminar in Abuja just 2 hours journey away from my location could convince him to let me go because he saw it as a useless waste of money(my own money) , so how can I be that good child he wants, by sitting at home all day maybe. Everyday I try to put up a smiling face in public despite the turmoil in my heart.

Tonight's saga broke my heart, just because I was going out to buy detergent and been asked by my mother I answered but she did not hear me, I was made to kneel down and hear his rants on how I was every degoratory insult he could think off.

What broke my heart was he telling me that he wishes I die like the Kogi state governor and join the man in hell since I had determined to go there.

Tonight I shed tears in my heart because I can't fathom them out of my dry eyes anymore. This days coming back home is like coming to hell, I'm really tired and depressed seriously, I'm not sure I had reached a week without getting reprimanded for minor issues others do and go free.

Please Nairalanders come to my rescue before I go completely psycho, and please don't say moving out of the house or talking to him is an option, because it's like you trying to talk to a soldier man that wields a loaded weapon, any thing you say becomes a challenge to his authority.


Sorry for the long epistle, I'm broken and seriously need advice, I hope he gets to see this and then kills me afterwards.


Cc. Ishilove Lalasticlala Sean RoyalRoy

just this? and you are broken?Your dad is very "nice".The

best thing you can do is to make your own

cash and live on your own.Afterall u are a


male! become successful and ur dad will come looking for you.My dad said n did worse to me.i

proved him wrong by becoming successful.frm final year till after NYSC,we didn't talk.I totally avoided him.Even at

occasions attended by extended family.He called for a

family meeting n begged for forgiveness and I pretended all

was

well.But I know after next month,no condition in heaven and

earth will make me relate with him in anyway! And I trust

my siblings and thank God for my mother(who now lives

away frm him)..He must live and die a wretched lonely abandoned man

When you make something of yourself, their mouth will change and they will forget they almost frustrated you to committing suicide.

Many horrible father's out there.

My advice to you, strengthen your mind and be determined to succeed. Don't let his negative words get to you, keep doing what you do best and no how, success will be yours.

Also pray because some times some kind bad spirits can make people never see the good in you. If you don't believe in the power of prayer, too bad.

your dad is a really sad man. it's too bad this has to be your lot in life but you need to build a happy place in your head. God loves you, God will forgive you. you are special. the shortcomings of the flesh does not make u a bad soul. You already know who you don't want to be and it's time to find out the man you want to grow up into.

if you read nothing else read this; chances are that you're going to one day realize you're an adult and you'll find yourself treating your child the way you were treated. don't be that person. you can have the life you only dream of. Joy comes from the heart. love yourself. Love yourself. Let the abuse end with you. it may be hard but don't let it pass on. this cross is heavier than u think it is. You will overcome

Same tin I go tru

Bruv I get the shit u going thru every adversity we face is permitted by God cos he knows we can overcome them but this wat am going to tell u have 2 take a firm decision and get d hell out of that house cos d taunting will not stop I perceive u are an adult and things no easy but if u don't take d bold step get ready for more BS take care

i hate self pity and you trying to blame someone else for ya woes.i do believe strongly in INDEPENDENCE.The sooner you man up and become a man,the better
*modified*
Mehn,as i typed above,stop bitchying around and man up.stop crying and become a man.carter for ya self.find something doing.Hes trying to drill you and you are complaining..from what i deduced,you are probably the only son or what..youve to prove him wrong by becoming better.thats what he wants not coming online and crying..Work for your thing and if you are under his roof,as a grown up,giving him that room and space and know you are under his roof and hustle.on the point of being flogged and 'MALTREATED',many went through it as you went and didnt die.as i said, MAN UP
Drake *0 to 100*

Oh Lord, know yourself, know you're worth nigga
My actions been louder than my words nigga


Since my dad used to tell me he was comin' to the house to get me
He ain't show
Valuable lesson, man I had to grow up
That's why I never ask for help
I'll do it for you niggas and do it for myself

NEVER EVER GIVE YOUR PARENTS AN INCH TO MAKE YOU FEEL TERRIBLE AND WORTHLESS! !