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Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by WesBreezy: 11:02pm On Sep 26, 2016
Me too I can console. My sister you just have to gbera.maybe the abortion was not even aja1 et can be 3 or4,doesn't matter,sinners don't go unpunished,you did kill an innocent soul.
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Eliteklaus(m): 11:02pm On Sep 26, 2016
dazzy2:

Always think b4 you talk
is abortion not murder?
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Itukus(m): 11:02pm On Sep 26, 2016
See traffic! shocked shocked
NLanders and gossip ehn

Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by bsideboii(m): 11:03pm On Sep 26, 2016
Relationship matters ehn
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Roadmike(m): 11:03pm On Sep 26, 2016
fullofregrets:
I am feeling so devastated right now , my fiance is leaving me , cause I open up to him , that I once had an abortion .
my fiance and I already meet with our parents , he asked of my hands in marriage, and I accepts , we have been to our parents house , but there's an issue in my side , my father don't was not really good with it , cause of cultural differences, but later agreed we can go ahead with it , so my fiance tells me I need to get pregnant , so that we will do the marriage , I agree to that , but it isn't forthcoming , so I started remembering my past , when I had an abortion , so I opened up to him cause of the love we and trust I shared with him , I have carried out possible best, I am okay but some hormonal challenges , after a month he text me , that he's no more interested in the relationship , i am full of regrets right now , I don't know what to do

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My Candid submission.

Mistakes have been made no qualms, however i think its right in informing him. However think he needed assurance that you have no issue, which all he needed to have done is you both go to a trusted Doctor for his candid and correct assessment as to your condition.


I will however still suggest you do that and try reassure him all is well with u if that is the true position of things.

As for him its not fair of him to have done that without doing the needful as stated above and besides after using u in an attempt to impregnate you without success. Who know if he himself is not the problem.
Besides does he knows who his going to meet next or possibly he has another girl friend on the sideline.

In addition this approach of his may backfire cause there have been incidents, where a guy marries a lady possible due to pregnancy and that pregnancy may end up being the only delivery, or possibly a delay of so many years before another baby will come, while the rejected STONE may be out there throttling like a steam engine on all cylinders.


All the same if nothing comes out of your effort -Move On .

Life must continue, may God grant you the right Guy for you. Just be POSITIVe about LIFe and take it in good strides.


FOR YOUR INFOR NONE AND NOBODY CAN PLAY GOD.

GOOD LUCK !
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Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by CHYMZZY(m): 11:03pm On Sep 26, 2016
So if the problem is from the man, would he be bold enough to tell her that he's been wastin' sperm on Olosho and ashawo em' , that it's the cause of him low sperm count! Rubbish!
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Nobody: 11:03pm On Sep 26, 2016
It's not what you told him that 'chased' him away, it's the English you used. #RipEnglish
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Nobody: 11:03pm On Sep 26, 2016
fullofregrets:
I am feeling so devastated right now , my fiance is leaving me , cause I open up to him , that I once had an abortion .
my fiance and I already meet with our parents , he asked of my hands in marriage, and I accepts , we have been to our parents house , but there's an issue in my side , my father don't was not really good with it , cause of cultural differences, but later agreed we can go ahead with it , so my fiance tells me I need to get pregnant , so that we will do the marriage , I agree to that , but it isn't forthcoming , so I started remembering my past , when I had an abortion , so I opened up to him cause of the love we and trust I shared with him , I have carried out possible best, I am okay but some hormonal challenges , after a month he text me , that he's no more interested in the relationship , i am full of regrets right now , I don't know what to do

I got no right to condemn you and neither does anyone. You did what you did because had to keep things moving the way you wanted but it's quite unfortunate it has come back to bite you. Take it on the chin, pull yourself together and don't think too much about the past or even what could have been. Live in this very moment- it's all you've got. Most importantly, try to be around people who know your past but still put up with you.

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Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by iykenathan162(m): 11:03pm On Sep 26, 2016
life,oh life.....hmmmm
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by SirVintageCock: 11:03pm On Sep 26, 2016
She got served. Nansense cheesy grin
That FIANCE is ma nigga.
goingape1:
this is what we are facing with dem women!

always wanted to give us spoil product.

the funny thing is that there always find one good nice and gentle guy (mugu) to put there curse on.

you are enjoying ya life jumping from one diccck to another murdering unborn child but when you want to marry that's when you will find an innocent man to ya after effect on!


life doesn't work that way!

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Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by donnie(m): 11:04pm On Sep 26, 2016
Cutehector:
Well, cry to God and beg for forgiveness. Acknoledged u have sinned and be sorry for it. Fast and pray. He will forgive you.


So you cry, beg, fast, pray so that God will forgive you? Then what did Jesus die for? I'm sure she's done all that. What she needs is freedom from the guilt and of course a miracle child... But they're not even in a godly relationship to start with. undecided
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Harrisee(m): 11:04pm On Sep 26, 2016
Remember he said he wants you to get pregnant before marriage. So he would still have left you even if you didn't tell him about the abortion, since you can't conceive. Infact without a baby in your womb, he wouldn't marry you whether abortion or no abortion. So you see why youths are warned to stay off premarital sex. Believe me if you were a virgin, that guy wouldn't give you that condition. Its because he doesn't trust your past ( even without you telling him). Also you have no justification to feel suicidal since you have committed murder yourself. You murdered a child who could be a parent tomorrow. You destroyed a lineage. But it can only be well if you go to Jesus Christ on your knees, and plead for forgiveness. Then ABSTAIN from premarital sex. That's what leads to abortion. I wouldn't like to marry a lady with an abortion case myself. It brings generational curse.
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by khristal87(m): 11:05pm On Sep 26, 2016
Cutehector:
whch one is gbege? U want d innocent man to not have kids? Pls abeg. She understands that it's all her fault so she shouldn't act all surprised he left.
Hw d u knw d man s innocent?
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by fortunechy(m): 11:06pm On Sep 26, 2016
i dont kw wt to do iether
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by goingape1: 11:06pm On Sep 26, 2016
Ratello:

You are a weasel for this comment how are you sure your future wife or wife wouldn't have committed many abortions. *spits on his face*
when I see comments like this I just smile of my phone screen!


no secret is hiding under the sun! you will know with time and if I find out I would do the same thing by sending her parking.

you and your fellows! karma will always follow you.

*spits on your face*

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Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Ratello: 11:08pm On Sep 26, 2016
goingape1:
when I see comments like this I just smile of my phone screen!


no secret is hiding under the sun! you will know with time and if I find out I would do the same thing by sending her parking.

you and your fellows! karma will always follow you.

*spits on your face*
Chief Justice of fellow humans, you must be a kid. I am happily married. I pity your stance on your fellow human. *spits on his face again*
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Nobody: 11:09pm On Sep 26, 2016
fullofregrets:
I am full of regrets and I feel so suicidal right now , I am really depressed


I know how you feel dear, confessing because you love him and just want to be honest yet you get hurt. Good thing you have learnt. My advice to you and other ladies. Never ever confess shameful or bad thing you have done to any man. Confess only to God and seek forgiveness. Anything bad thing you tell a man about you, it changes the way he sees you. He will judge you and use it against you later. Even if the man seems supportive and like a confidant. It's only a matter of time before you see the impact.

Whatever secret you have. Let it die with you as long as the secret won't destroy the man. If it will destroy someone. Don't share it nor get married. Suffer the consequence of your action alone.

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Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by tellwisdom: 11:10pm On Sep 26, 2016
fullofregrets:
I am full of regrets and I feel so suicidal right now , I am really depressed


Abeg, before you die, arrange 3 crate of beer for me and pay mama nkechi 2 weeks nkwobi undecided..Thats all i want sad
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Nobody: 11:11pm On Sep 26, 2016
fullofregrets:
I asked God for forgiveness

Time is the healer of all wounds. In the interim, It is a time to have patience and keep yourself pure and God will answer you. Your man will come again
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by emperortony: 11:11pm On Sep 26, 2016
We all make mistakes, I see a lot of people forming saints. Because she had an abortion, have you not done other bad stuffs in the past?? Commitng abortion and telling unnecessary lies are thesame in the eyes of God. No sin is greater.
EVERY SAINT HAS A PAST AND EVERY SINNER HAVE A FUTURE.
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by goingape1: 11:14pm On Sep 26, 2016
Ratello:

Chief Justice of fellow humans, you must be a kid. I am happily married. I pity your stance on your fellow human. *spits on his face again*
quick to react because guilty conscience is attacking them.

you are happily married online (pseudo way to off there bitterness when them know that there are nothing)

I won't exchange insult with ya!

*have a nice day*

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Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Johnumama(m): 11:14pm On Sep 26, 2016
Go get urself sorted out 1st den, all other things could be added.
"But d guy spirit strong sha" he'd hv settled down if not for d nemesious pregnancy agenda dt cums 1st in his bk of matrimony. U nid God's 4gvness only my sister!~AnalysT'16
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by KMB: 11:15pm On Sep 26, 2016
If he is for you, you will get back together.
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by klarke(m): 11:15pm On Sep 26, 2016
Cutehector:
Well, cry to God and beg for forgiveness. Acknoledged u have sinned and be sorry for it. Fast and pray. He will forgive you.



You don't need to fast and pray before God forgives you. The price for your sins has already been past in FULL. Accept Jesus as you Lord and person Saviou is you haven't yet. If you have ask Him for forgiveness He'll surely forgive you.
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by klevotino: 11:15pm On Sep 26, 2016
fullofregrets:




my dear , you are right ,
we learn everyday ,
sometimes in just a hard way ,
I just wish he can give me chance to make things right again , but he refused to hear my pleas, he said he's fed up , and ready to find another girl , and impregnate her , well I can only wish him luck , am not bad either , God will surely send my own husband and children my way , I moved on already ,
dear if u dont mind you could chat me val wats up for guidance anytime you are depress for free , no charges just to keep your head straigh and going smoothly
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by oglalasioux(m): 11:16pm On Sep 26, 2016
fullofregrets:
I am feeling so devastated right now , my fiance is leaving me , cause I open up to him , that I once had an abortion .
my fiance and I already meet with our parents , he asked of my hands in marriage, and I accepts , we have been to our parents house , but there's an issue in my side , my father don't was not really good with it , cause of cultural differences, but later agreed we can go ahead with it , so my fiance tells me I need to get pregnant , so that we will do the marriage , I agree to that , but it isn't forthcoming , so I started remembering my past , when I had an abortion , so I opened up to him cause of the love we and trust I shared with him , I have carried out possible best, I am okay but some hormonal challenges , after a month he text me , that he's no more interested in the relationship , i am full of regrets right now , I don't know what to do

Is 'committing' abortion something you should be ashamed of? The answer is no. I will explain why if asked.

However, this guy never loved you or he is just a spoilt mama's boy. You are better off without this shallow thinking fool than being in a marriage fear will rule you.

Move on!
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by uzoormah(m): 11:17pm On Sep 26, 2016
ItsQuinn:
Now you've learnt your lesson, next time you would keep your mouth shut undecided....just move on abeg, you spoilt what you had by yourself tongue
what do u even mean sef.....so she would av kept it to herself abi? U get luck say u no dey near me
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by obowunmi(m): 11:17pm On Sep 26, 2016
fullofregrets:
I am feeling so devastated right now , my fiance is leaving me , cause I open up to him , that I once had an abortion .
my fiance and I already meet with our parents , he asked of my hands in marriage, and I accepts , we have been to our parents house , but there's an issue in my side , my father don't was not really good with it , cause of cultural differences, but later agreed we can go ahead with it , so my fiance tells me I need to get pregnant , so that we will do the marriage , I agree to that , but it isn't forthcoming , so I started remembering my past , when I had an abortion , so I opened up to him cause of the love we and trust I shared with him , I have carried out possible best, I am okay but some hormonal challenges , after a month he text me , that he's no more interested in the relationship , i am full of regrets right now , I don't know what to do

How long had you been trying for a child ?
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Akkotto: 11:18pm On Sep 26, 2016
You a are Fool, Because a coward left you, you are regretting if he had died by any means wont you o on with your life, People should learn not to lean on human being a mere mortal for emotional and moral support. if i were you i will celebrate because that guy was not meant for you he was actually a coward.
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by chudez0147(m): 11:18pm On Sep 26, 2016
Me I no blame the guy at all. I no fit marry a murderer put for house. Just carry your cross.

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Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Artistree: 11:19pm On Sep 26, 2016
sexymoma:
If na another person type wetin u type so.. u go cut im balls angry
You beat me to it babe, I never expererrit from him!
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by jahsson(m): 11:20pm On Sep 26, 2016
ItsQuinn:
suicidal thoughts because of a man? sad ....you are a disgrace to womanhood undecided

she's depressed and confused... And all u can say is... "she's a disgrace to womanhood"... ??.. Hmmm!!!... Pray ur words dont come back n hunt u...

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