| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by Nobody: 12:11pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
amokeme:
The "story" is even somehow. But let me go by it.
1. How will your parents(or her own, whichever one) be comfortable that their daughter is in school and doesn't have a phone and refuse to do nothing about it? How do they communicate then? And the laptop(not everyone in the university have a laptop, and they don't fail because of that)
2. I don't know about you(or her) I can't put my man in a situation where he will be ridiculed either silently or directly by other guys or toasters at that. Just because my parents can not get me a phone., your boyfriend is not mandated to buy you a phone because that's not his responsibility. But if he gets it for you, fine, but let it be out of the goodness of his heart and not because you feel you are entitled to it because you are dating him.
3. I think she is already getting carried away by the gifts the toaster is going to shower her with if she eventually starts dating him. Because now she is talking about her boyfriend not giving her valentine gift. Valentine that was since February o, she will has that in mind.
I don't want to say she has longer throat. But collecting something from a toaster she claims not to "really" like(that means she likes him small) that you can't afford or your parents can't get for you for reasons best know to them(because they should provide everything you need since they don't want you doing any business while in school) is clearly disrespecting yourself and your relationship and is not worth it if you truly love your boyfriend as you say. Because she is already asking for advise to lie or not.. and unfortunately, there will be trouble either way.
She knows the right thing to do, so she should try to overcome the longer throat and save herself from wahala and guilt You just made my day babe! If what you wrote up there describes who you really are on the inside, then you are indeed an angel! If you are in a relationship, your guy is so damn lucky. Keep being who you are dear! Never ever change this personality of yours even if you get hurt by the wrong guy. 3 Likes |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by samisj4real(m): 12:17pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
[color=#770077][/color] only money can get any girl attracted 2 you now...
God help our ladies |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by veraiyke(m): 12:18pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
funmisticqueen:
There is this friend of mine, she's still a student, she has a steady boyfriend whom she loves but is broke, but there has been this persistent toaster on her case who is financially buoyant. My friend has not had a laptop and phone for quite a while cos hers was stolen a while ago, and these things are necessary to read with in her school. Her parents said they weren't getting any gadgets for her again cos the last laptop they bought was also stolen when raiders came to the reading rooms in her school. Her parents are also against her doing business in school as they think it would disrupt her studies?p.
She told this her steady boyfriend that she needs a phone and not an expensive one, i think she asked for a techno about five months ago, but her boyfriend kept telling her he would get with no show, he didn't give her a gift on valentine even though she got him one cos he forgot and didn't have money.
A month ago, her boyfriend moved to a new apartment. She feels he should be settled first before she reminds him about the phone.
Yesterday, she called me and told me that the persistent toaster just got her a phone. She doesn't know what type but he said he noticed she didnt have a phone and she wasnt on whatsapp. He said it was a gift for her with no strings attached.
Our question is this, should she collect the phone, even though she doesnt really like the guy? If she does and her boyfriend sees it should she say she got it from another guy? Wont it lead to issues in their relationship?
Would really appreciate your wise and helpful comments? No insults please?
Hmm very dicey. Before I talk about the girl let me talk about the bf. Obviously, he isn't broke by reason of not working but by fact that he doesn't earn enough(inference from post). Little things spice up relationship and anyone (male or female) who loves and is committed to you should be treated like a king/queen through his/her sacrifices. The bf failed to appreciate the queen on val day. Five months is large enough to give her a token to get a small browsing phone. Now he moved to a new apartment suggesting that he at least is not doing bad for himself I suppose. The gf, well I understand her need for phone as it is very essential and necessary. Telling her not to accept it with no idea when her bf will get it for her may sound like she's not been considered. After all, she isn't married as most girls would affirm. And I do not know the level of their relationship and plans for the future. All these ought to be considered in this matter. If you collect the phone, the bf will know cox I don't see how and why you would hide it for so long and masterfully so. Hence, he's going to be insecure and feeling his bf is at the verge of leaving him for another guy cox of phone. The relationship will begin to go sour as trust issues will set in. Now, gf by collecting the phone don't trust yourself too much not to begin to lose your guard around the other guy. You might begin to feel you owe him, he is nice and the least you can do is to be nice to him. Na from small water we dey get river. To the other guy, he may begin to see a green light and light at the end of the tunnel. Forget it when he says he's just been nice cox he will push his luck for as far it can carry him. Do not give anyone the impression that he is not the only one. Relationship will be strained. Gf you need the phone. Just consider all facets. I am not saying that you can't take the phone and still have nothing to do with the other guy but just know its going to take a lot of discipline and understanding from you. And your bf is not mandated to to get you phone or anything whether he sincerely has or don't have the resource. Your parents I don't really know how they communicate with you. Your mind is telling you what best to do. Follow it. I wish the bf all the best cox she's just at the centre of a dice game. |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by greatcid02(m): 12:19pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
RuthDaniels:
Accepting gifts from an admirer when you are in a relationship is not healthy!. The common ideologue amidst men is "You get a woman to date you by showering gifts on her. And in all honesty, this idea isn't completely false. Simply Put, Your friend's "suitor" has obvious intentions behind his generosity. And your friend is giving in already.
Your friend will have to choose between"the phone" and her "boyfriend" . Whatever her choice would be, she should make the selection quick. The said broke guy should know his fate already! 1 Like |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by fpeter(f): 12:21pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
StPete:
You obviously know that you're going to collect the phone. You're just looking for every means to justify it. I can already picture the guy fucking ur brains out...good luck Poster talk say na her friend.   2 Likes |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by Abdullahiii: 12:23pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
Ask her the preferred choice because she herself does not know what she want . if na the poor guy u love and want t stick with . y give the rich guy attention in the first place . if u know u cnt with stand being hurt , dnt hurt someone . |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by a0if(m): 12:26pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
funmisticqueen:
There is this friend of mine, she's still a student, she has a steady boyfriend whom she loves but is broke, but there has been this persistent toaster on her case who is financially buoyant. My friend has not had a laptop and phone for quite a while cos hers was stolen a while ago, and these things are necessary to read with in her school. Her parents said they weren't getting any gadgets for her again cos the last laptop they bought was also stolen when raiders came to the reading rooms in her school. Her parents are also against her doing business in school as they think it would disrupt her studies?p.
She told this her steady boyfriend that she needs a phone and not an expensive one, i think she asked for a techno about five months ago, but her boyfriend kept telling her he would get with no show, he didn't give her a gift on valentine even though she got him one cos he forgot and didn't have money.
A month ago, her boyfriend moved to a new apartment. She feels he should be settled first before she reminds him about the phone.
Yesterday, she called me and told me that the persistent toaster just got her a phone. She doesn't know what type but he said he noticed she didnt have a phone and she wasnt on whatsapp. He said it was a gift for her with no strings attached.
Our question is this, should she collect the phone, even though she doesnt really like the guy? If she does and her boyfriend sees it should she say she got it from another guy? Wont it lead to issues in their relationship?
Would really appreciate your wise and helpful comments? No insults please?
What a watery write up! Sister you can do better.... |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by crunchyg: 12:30pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
repogirl:
Let her do what her mind tells her to do. Is the boyfriend engaged to her that she is carrying him on top her head like gele? Its not even his place to get her a phone, but since he promised and cant fulfil it, she can take from the one who is offering. Shebi he said no strings attached.
If he now wants to attach the strings, she can return his phone to him.
Then again she can save up for her phone. These days a good phone can do most of the work that a PC does. In my time, there was a way I used to hike the prices of things and make up bogus fees to pay, to get extra money  , lol. (No be me send you o  ).
Finally, She is still in school ..boys are not her priority. SHE should be her own priority. All this skool boyfriend tinz sef.
But isnt it funny that she is more concerned about what her boyfriend would think and not what her parents would think when she gets a phone they didnt buy for her? I can only see materialism in you |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by repogirl(f): 12:34pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
crunchyg:
I can only see materialism in you I can not see anything in you. 1 Like |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by bankable: 12:34pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
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| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by cybriz82(m): 12:34pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
awonwerey:
Anybody who boils hot water should be ready to do EBA
Once she don collect the gadget, she should be ready to drop pant or get married to the dude 
Over and out 1 phone equal to 100 sexing.last tym i bought a girl 500naira recharge card i av bleep her more than 200tyms. |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by Nobody: 12:35pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
mapet:
What "financial aspects" that we don't know of and have not encountered? Spare me some "moral-less" rhetoric. When it is time to spend on a woman, it should be ennobling, inspiring and strengthening the bond of the relationship, and not about satiating "longer-throat" and "graft-vagina" we are on the same page oga |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by Slimzjane(f): 12:36pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
u stee dey ask,mk she beta 4low d rich nigger.if dat poor 1 gets rich,no b onli er e go gt eyes for. |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by DeRay98(m): 12:41pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
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| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by Valeriano(m): 12:44pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
Boyfriend is not an ATM machine. Must it be d guy that should buy her a phone. I guess she has siblings who can do that and then ignore the toaster.......period  |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by BlaQWolf: 12:48pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
Dominique Dear , would love to hear your opinion on the subject matter |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by Nobody: 12:49pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
Torchlight phone na, no be me o Cmanforall:
Talk if this na you
BTW, which phone did she call you with? |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by Nobody: 12:54pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
2dugged:
you see,this is why I will not blame her if she accepts the phone, I had a nasty experience, so it will be better she knows where she stands with her bf before turning the toaster down,else it might turn out her bf was not even worth it in the first place, this I can boldly say from experience. Infact she might end up turning good men down and waste a good time of her prime and that her bf ends up messing her up,such school relationships have the tendency to end at "main gate" like uniben students will say I could be that broke guy you dated ooooo |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by Nobody: 12:54pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
VicFunTop what do you think? |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by tiswell(m): 12:59pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
firstking01:
Well, let her inform her bf about the phone first before collecting it...
If the bf insist that she shouldn't collect it then he should be ready to get her a new phone asap, but even at this i 've not seen anywhere it is written that a guy "must" replace his gf's phone when she misplaced it.
After all the both of them are students and are still solely dependent on their parents financially. So the flow of the relationship now should be pegged on how soon the bf gets her a new phone  ...greedy and covetous ladies everywhere  1 Like |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:59pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
Izen:
Your number 4. If she isn't a priority in his life, then he should let her be. Its not by force to have a girlfriend. I cannot date you and you won't be a priority in my life. What are we now doing? The lady is broke and so is the dude, I could find many priorities in these guys lives that would be more important than a damn mobile phone ... Like getting a roof over your head, getting a JOB, getting 3 square meals a day, getting your life on track etc Dating a guy and expecting to become a priority in his life that A) isn't yet in order and B) a life where you are still a guest (aka not even his wife) is the joke of the day. We already know the deal, as soon as she would get the phone, then she will now start begging for a computer, and the begging will never stop. The only way to solve the issue is to help this lady get a JOB so she can buy herself what she desires, and finally stop begging. BigBrother9ja:
You must be a brokeass niggga and I'm sure a rich dude must have snatched your gf b4.
I know your pain...
do yourself a favor, double your hustle. sadly the issue is not really about money, it's the state of mind and lack of respect from a "supposedly" loving gf, the insult, the cheap nature and, most importantly the deluded dude who treat this babe like merchandise (by trying to buy her), not understanding that what you get with honey, you will equally lose with honey.... Aka the same way some richer dude will entice this cheap babe with bigger/better gifts (unless you are Dangote). Sadly, I know your type of mentality, the type of dude who has absolutely nothing to offer a woman (in terms of character) thus need to entice them with the only thing that they are interested in.... Money. Poor is a man that only has money to offer. Ramos16:
You are truly wise sire, you are your fathers son, like some other commenter said, she is just looking for justification, I have seen situations like this a lot and in all of them the party involved ended up losing both lovers and got worse in some cases, not seen one that ended well. Of course it can never end well, as the rich dude will simply throw cash in her face and she will do whatever he desires... You want the phone, come to my house, the phone is kept in the bedroom etc, then same shiit with a computer, and whatever else can impress her silly self.... Then when that dude has enough, he sets his mind on another prostitute babe and drop that foolish one like a bad rash. That's when she will run back to 1st dude and blame the demon for her actions. Sadly, in a country where most are struggling financially, many prefer selling themselves to the highest bidding donkey than living up to their means. BTW if a man buys a woman, then she should also Make sure she STFU (like the property that she is) or else she will become a punching bag. 1 Like |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by greatwin100: 12:59pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
Highest bidder hit the kpekos so hard. |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by apollo13(m): 1:03pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
MrBrownJay1:
FAIL #1
If she indeed "really" loved her bf, she wouldn't have noticed that foolish stranger, hoping to crawl with her (aka a gal already dating someone).... Sadly, a gal "really" in love with her bf would have shut this fool down out of RESPECT for her man/relationship.
God bless you with this words of wisdom.
FAIL #2
Why would a woman expect from her broke BF what her broke parents can't offer her?!
FAIL #3
Here she is, now looking for "excuses" to crawl and sell herself to generous foolish stranger.... Valentine bla bla bla. Her man is broke and has bigger priorities than her in his life... Is that too difficult for that "supposed" in love babe to understand?!
FAIL #4
Why didn't she also reminded her parents that she was in need?! Or did she now decided that her financial problems are "solely" bf issues?
FAIL #5
A gal that is "supposedly" in love would never disrespect her union/bf by accepting gifts from someone who wants to fukc her. Is that what she plans to do when her husband may get in financial trouble in the future?! Her actions shows the "type" of woman she is.
FAIL #6
Should this question even be asked?! Not only it is an insult to her struggling broke bf, it is also a sad act making her look cheap... No man want such woman by their side.
FAIL #7
So she isn't that stupid, and knows that getting a phone from a stranger is wrong then?! Why would she lie if she thought her actions were RIGHT?!
Here Is a clue:there will always be a richer dude out there offering "better bigger" gifts.
FINAL FAIL
Not understanding that this sole act would be the beginning of the end for their r/ship
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| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by Nobody: 1:06pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
my dear sister. just to avoid any drama plz don't collect it. things like this touch a man's ego. and ask yourself this question if you were married to him would you still collect it. you never can tell you guys can be married someday. so plz plz avoid the drama and be patient with him yet remind him though. my simple take. shalom |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by apollo13(m): 1:07pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
crunchyg:
I can only see materialism in you Lol |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by naturefellow(m): 1:08pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
MrBrownJay1:
FAIL #1
If she indeed "really" loved her bf, she wouldn't have noticed that foolish stranger, hoping to crawl with her (aka a gal already dating someone).... Sadly, a gal "really" in love with her bf would have shut this fool down out of RESPECT for her man/relationship.
FAIL #2
Why would a woman expect from her broke BF what her broke parents can't offer her?!
FAIL #3
Here she is, now looking for "excuses" to crawl and sell herself to generous foolish stranger.... Valentine bla bla bla. Her man is broke and has bigger priorities than her in his life... Is that too difficult for that "supposed" in love babe to understand?!
FAIL #4
Why didn't she also reminded her parents that she was in need?! Or did she now decided that her financial problems are "solely" bf issues?
FAIL #5
A gal that is "supposedly" in love would never disrespect her union/bf by accepting gifts from someone who wants to fukc her. Is that what she plans to do when her husband may get in financial trouble in the future?! Her actions shows the "type" of woman she is.
FAIL #6
Should this question even be asked?! Not only it is an insult to her struggling broke bf, it is also a sad act making her look cheap... No man want such woman by their side.
FAIL #7
So she isn't that stupid, and knows that getting a phone from a stranger is wrong then?! Why would she lie if she thought her actions were RIGHT?!
Here Is a clue:there will always be a richer dude out there offering "better bigger" gifts.
FINAL FAIL
Not understanding that this sole act would be the beginning of the end for their r/ship
the relationship counsellor. Respect! |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by mapet: 1:09pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
eduj:
we are on the same page oga Oh! Ok..... sorry about that. We need to drive sense into our daughters of today |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by anochuko01(m): 1:12pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
that was how a girl went out with her boss on a Saturday, he drove her around, gave her money and yet she collected, and at the end she was telling me she felt the man did it out of good intentions. the same man that had been asking her out o. |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by Xmen149(m): 1:15pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
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| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by Xtianvic(m): 1:20pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
funmisticqueen:
There is this friend of mine, she's still a student, she has a steady boyfriend whom she loves but is broke, but there has been this persistent toaster on her case who is financially buoyant. My friend has not had a laptop and phone for quite a while cos hers was stolen a while ago, and these things are necessary to read with in her school. Her parents said they weren't getting any gadgets for her again cos the last laptop they bought was also stolen when raiders came to the reading rooms in her school. Her parents are also against her doing business in school as they think it would disrupt her studies?p.
She told this her steady boyfriend that she needs a phone and not an expensive one, i think she asked for a techno about five months ago, but her boyfriend kept telling her he would get with no show, he didn't give her a gift on valentine even though she got him one cos he forgot and didn't have money.
A month ago, her boyfriend moved to a new apartment. She feels he should be settled first before she reminds him about the phone.
Yesterday, she called me and told me that the persistent toaster just got her a phone. She doesn't know what type but he said he noticed she didnt have a phone and she wasnt on whatsapp. He said it was a gift for her with no strings attached.
Our question is this, should she collect the phone, even though she doesnt really like the guy? If she does and her boyfriend sees it should she say she got it from another guy? Wont it lead to issues in their relationship?
Would really appreciate your wise and helpful comments? No insults please?
there is no free lunch even in Freetown[b][/b] 1 Like |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by tivta(m): 1:23pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
Most girls will never learn... |
| Re: Should She Collect A Phone Gift From Her Suitor Because Her Boyfriend Is Broke? by Nobody: 1:24pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
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