tee59:
Six to seven years relationship is too long.D guy is tired of you and he is just looking for ways to break up with you. May be d nigga don't get a new babe to start afresh with or more money don dey reach his hand.

if that were to be the case, there wouldnt have been a marriage to take place by september!

madridguy:
Visit a relationship Counselor with your guy.

Looks like you're actually quite sensible anytime you're not mindlessly defending Buhari.

jbaby265:


thanks

Ma'am y'all need to sit and talk. Something is bothering him, and like many an African man, he's hidden it so as not to appear weak. Could also be groom nerves. But you need to address this now, or it'll become a major issue in marriage.
Ignore all the naysayers and communicate with your man and ensure you're still compatible.
This is surmountable, no good thing comes without a price.
We look forward to seeing pre-wedding pictures and a nice ceremony.

This is a tough one.

madridguy:
Visit a relationship Counselor with your guy.

That is if he considers the relationship as worthy. Na dis kind relationship wey no dey last 1 month into marriage. Better resolve it or dissolve yourself. Why ask God to dissolve you, abi na God put una together, blaming God fah?

better talk to yourselves this site

Sit him down and talk cos you can't marry with the kind of attitude you both are having...if nothing is changing for the better let the relationship sink like Titanic o,its not marriage so backing off won't kill you

kennygee:
6 to 7 years pension on a good salary no be beans o

How serious is this guy about marrying you?

Are u waiting for God to come down and dissolve the relationship for u?

If this guy got married to you after the second year of dating, una for done get 5 year old pikin and an aburo wey go follow am.

Wisdom is profitable to direct.

your own na as e dey hot

Haba, ask your pastor

jbaby265:


where can I find one. location is port Harcourt

ladyF:
Instead of you to sit him down and talk it out, you are asking Nairalanders that cannot even manage their own relationships to give you advice.

You better ignore all these negative comments above.

this is the best advice so far. take it!

kennygee:
6 to 7 years pension on a good salary no be beans o

How serious is this guy about marrying you?

Are u waiting for God to come down and dissolve the relationship for u?

If this guy got married to you after the second year of dating, una for done get 5 year old pikin and an aburo wey go follow am.

Wisdom is profitable to direct.

Statements like this throws me off. So if they met in their 2nd year in school, he should marry her within 2years? Not everyone jumps around with different partners, some people chose the right person and go stable right from the beginning.

My brother u need a new boat. The one about to sink is frustrated. Don't sink with it

zeelo2014:

Statements like this throws me off. So if they met in their 2nd year in school, he should marry her within 2years? Not everyone jumps around with different partners, some people chose the right person and go stable right from the beginning.

The right person for 6 years? There's a time to just get serious and ask yourself important questions o. If after 6 or 7 years, the guy is having this kind of attitude, the time has come to ask questions and evaluate the relationship.

I dnt have much to say.the advise i will just give you is to take it easy with him,dnt fight him,ask him what went wrong and by doing so there will be peace in your house again

obiZEAL:

Wow
I must say I'm immensely shocked!
So you can make rational contributions like thisthis.

Unlimited22:

Looks like you're actually quite sensible anytime you're not mindlessly defending Buhari.

AnodaIT:
The two of you need a spark

Find out if he is under pressure from work, probably the impending wedding plan may be making him to stress out himself to met his target

Above all, stop talking back at him when angry, long-term relationships tends to make the woman feel more comfortable talking back at her man more often.

Men eat respect, give him an overdose, forget that you know him in and out
Little things like greeting him in the morning, kissing when he is leaving for work, surprise him with a special dinner, hold the water dish while he washes his hands for food

Just do those things you did 6 years ago. Get your man back

At OP please follow this person's advice. Forget these people saying 7years is too long. If you can't date a person for 7years how do you plan on being married to that person for life? All these fu:kboys and hopping girls giving advice, it is wonderful.

laivwire:
Lol, what else do you expect? Incase you don't know, you should today.

The moment you begin to build solid commitments towards your relationships, issues more often than not usually arise. I'm talking from the spiritual, physical, financial and emotional angle. Partners slip into their comfort mode and just let things go on believing they have nothing to worry about. That would be why your boyfriend will keep malice with you for over a month unlike back then when he would settle with you that night.

Worries of the financial demands, I'm working and you should care about that syndrome all do creep in. Village people see will start on your matter

If you want your relationship, you have to work to keep it. Forget all the breakup advice. 7 years is not beans. Having a committed partner or relationship these days sef isn't moimoi. Temptations will come and you must handle things together.

Be mature about it. You both should handle your sh*t accordingly.

Thank you jare. Some people think 7years na beans to just throway like Dat.

babe be careful and be strong to face any news cos i think d guy is on d run.
better stil call him talk to him heart to heart he might tell u ur short coming.

Like someone said, go and see a marriage counsellor.

Stuff like this happens after proposals or when a relationship is about to culminate in marriage.

Usually it is caused by the laxity of one party as regards the little things that spice up a relationship.

When "good morning" begins to sound like a chore to you and you act like it is, there will be complaints from the person who cares more.

wristbangle:


Lol I want to know the person operating this moniker

Dear OP, remember that a broken relationship is still better than a ruined marriage. You have to weigh the options well before saying I do. 7years of relationship should give u enough hints about the man you want to spend the rest of your life with and if u are not convinced deep down, it's better to terminate it than proceed into many years of marital frustration.

Meanwhile you did not cite reason for the quarrels and misunderstanding properly as I often weigh two sides of a story before dishing full advice.

Also, you might be the stubborn and non submissive type which may lower the pedal of your man to give you attention. What were u doing in the past that elevates his happiness towards you? Retrace your step madam.

Love ur write ups. Actually i love you but am married already. So.........ok bye!

beautifulrosa:

Love ur write ups. Actually i love you but am married already. So.........ok bye!

Thanks for the compliment

jbaby265:
hello house please help a sister out.. my relationship of 6 to 7 years is about to crash..
I Love my man and he loves me too.. he stands by me in all times and I do the same for him too in fact our relationship is a typical example of grassroots relationship.. but recently I'm beginning to get frustrated at his attitude or should I say our attitude towards each other.. which is why I resorted to you guys.. this is a faceless forum so I feel comfortable to share my worries..

in recent years I found out that our quarrels, dispute, misunderstanding and bitterness has drastically increased and it bothers me alot.. he quarrel more often this days and can even stay up-to a month without communication.. he complains about everything I do and that's me angry.. AM NOT A SAINT HERE cos he complains of my non Challentless too.. but this our constant quarrels and misunderstanding is driving crazy.. I've cried and ask GOd to dissolve us if it's not his will for us to get married rather than us fighting all the time. HONESTLY AM CONFUSED PLEASE YOUR ADVICE IS NEEDED. I love him and he loves me but we fight a lot.. our wedding is Sept ( still don't believe is possible though)..

Your non challant attitude is a thing of worry simply because he loves you n he get hurt when u don't care about many things he felt shd be norm

7yrs relationship is not beans.... I feel it's ego that's killing both of you, sit him down and discuss this
1.how u can resolve quarrel in less than 24hrs
2.how you both should learn to say the unpalatable sorry
3.how the second person should not get angry when the first is angry.... Meaning both shd never get angry at d same time.... Beside the second person might start his/her anger when d first get over it
4. Never give an "I don't care attitude" it hurts badly


Play this role of sitting him down he ll accord u more respect for this

your courtship is too long,if you guys are married already it will happen as well. You guys should learn to manage each other. If you should leave him,the next guy could be worse off. I am giving this advice as a married man. Marriage is 1000% different from relationship,courtship or whatever. Work on yourself and encourage him to work on himself as well. Thanks

tee59:
Six to seven years relationship is too long.D guy is tired of you and he is just looking for ways to break up with you. May be d nigga don't get a new babe to start afresh with or more money don dey reach his hand.

he has seen everything seeable hes tired.
#Notocourtship#
#yestomarriage#

7 fucking years? You guys try sha. After 1 yr and I still luv you I will the Babe.

The problem is you. Be submissive and this problem will go away...Marriage is between a fool and a smart one...it is up to you to choose whether yo want to be the fool or the smart one...obviously, your hubby isn't tying to be fool for you and you aren't trying to be a fool too, that's why you fight and quarrel always...it is a personality war...it is a character clash...it is a behavioral battle...It is up to you to decide

tee59:
Six to seven years relationship is too long.D guy is tired of you and he is just looking for ways to break up with you. May be d nigga don't get a new babe to start afresh with or more money don dey reach his hand.

shut up your silly mouth there.

May be u are giving him a kind of problem u knw what I mean... u don't obey his wish and all that. U dated ur guy for 7 years u seems not to understand ur dude. NA WA FOR U O O O.

You need God's help to save your relationship if it's his will for you two to be married, though 7yrs is quite much. You hv to ask urself, y u guys r hvg constant quarrels, what causes it, hv u guys talked it ova, y hvnt d marriage hapnd all dese yrs? Then, u can get a marriage counselor in ur church?

I read comments here telling this lady to quit.
Most pipo bliv relationship is perfect and presents no challenge but dats a lie. U must be ready to manage it like ur managing a business. If u r nt ready to manage it pls stay single.

Your relationship is suffering from monotony. I will advice that if you guys have been cohabiting, stop it. Visit him 1 or 2 times in a month. Then, your relationship will be refreshed