epistleNow:
@ Mrbehave

Breaking up with her will probably not give you rest of mind, cos you're conflicted, confused.

You need to ask yourself deeply ( silencing all other noise in your head) the reason you were attracted to her in the first place.

You need to trace your steps back to when you first noticed her and what you felt for her.

If it was genuine attraction, care, love, then you can rebuild from there. ( again block out all distracting noise in your head)

But if it was pity concerns, curiosity, then you need go to her and narrate all that is going on inside you.

She will be hurt but eventually she will be happy when she realises you weren't what she thought you were to her.

She's just 26. She will be okay eventually.

Don't relocate anywhere and lose your job unless there's another one waiting for you.

Thankz man.

Mrbehave:
You can not call a man of 28yrs a kid. May be a novice in relationship since she is my first love.

lik he said..age is nothing but a number...u are 28 but not matured enuf in d head

Op. Go ucn

kimbraa:
So many kids in relationships. Look at your narrative and judge yourself. You'll be saving that girl a lot if you don't marry her. See your mouth like "I'm two years older than her". The truth of the matter is, you're not matured yet, age is only but a number and you've never loved her. Maybe you were infatuated. Some women are older than their husband and they're doing very well in their respective marriages.

Dude has a point. It's difficult falling for someone you fell out of love with. He's struggling to accept her and love her but he's got no love to share with her. The tragedy I'm seeing is just the way he's playing along with the arrangement.

if i were u i will tell her am no longer interested based on what people are saying, now answer d following questions:

If a lady dumps me based on what people are saying would it b right?

are d people advising u now going to pay d bride price n sponsor d wedding

is it ur pastor n community, friends dat her getting married to her or just u.

My friend try to wise up, d babe has done nothing to u


n know for sure Karma knows when n how to pay back evil.

Mrbehave:
My relationship with her is one and a half year and we are to get married by the end of this year. The problem here is that am only two years older than her which so many people complained that the age gap is too small that she will get older than me very soon, infact some thought that she is older than me.Our height are thesame and we are not short.

The man who married her friend who is two years younger than her is five years older than me.The boy friends of all her mates and friends are much older than I am.

My uncle who is a pastor advised me that he doesn't want me to be involved in extra marital affairs base on the fact that my fiancee will grow older than me and might loose interest in sex due to aging.

The problem here is that I engaged her early this year but right now I don't have single love for her that even when I travelled I don't want to come back soon cos i never missed her.This my fiancee started a relationship with a guy at the age of 15.The guy deflowered her at teen age, promised her marriage and dumped her after 8 years of being with her and married another girl and now is me her dreamed man who wants to leave her again, so difficult.I have never had sex with her, was only involved in a French kiss with her and sucking of her boobs.

When I started friending her I told my family that it was GOD who spoke to me to friend her just to gain there approval, can you see the confusion here? We live in thesame street with her just three houses between my house and hers and her mother advised that we should never let anything come between us as it may affect the both families due to the closeness.

So many were happy for her for finding me as I am the right man according to them since I have never been laid and I am 28.

I don't just know what happened I felt unattracted to her and lost interest in her and this has been happening for 8 months now but I hid it because seeing what happened in her past relationship I became afraid.

I cried and cried, prayed to GOD to make her loose interest in me but to no avail.The dowry will be paid this month, I don't like it but my hands are tied.

During the engagement my pastor and church elders were present and they endorsed it.

I don't have any problem with her just the issue of age and zero love that I have for her. She fainted several time because of her last break up, hmm am afraid.Please am tired I want a break up but I don't know how.

1)How much will you pay me if I solve all these age quadratic equations you've stated there?

2)Work on YOURSELF NOT the lady....You're immature and infantile...

3)Invite us for the wedding when your self induced confusions clear up...

4)Remove 3rd party from your home...

5) Finally, Behave!!!!

Mrbehave:
I wanted to delay it but My mum pushed me and I cant say no since I said it was GOD who spoke to me to go the first time. Am thinking of quitting my job, run away to a place where nobody knows not even my parents and come back after she is married.

A poster just said u are not matured and u were arguing wit her.my frnd if u want to dump her go ahead and do it and stop giving us useless excuses,u never loved her.pls don't go into any relationship for now because u lack d mental,emotional and whatever capacity to do that.

Mrbehave:
I wanted to delay it but My mum pushed me and I cant say no since I said it was GOD who spoke to me to go the first time. Am thinking of quitting my job, run away to a place where nobody knows not even my parents and come back after she is married.

You told lies with God's name, now you are running. Guy you never see anything Oooh

Last bullet: Age is a f*** number, you see this aging of a thing, na maintenance. If you get the dolls, maintain your woman and She will always look like sweet sixteen.

Let me tell you the truth, if another man take over that babe, you will die of heart attack. You are doing nonsense because you aren't dragging her with another man.


Baba be wise before another man pick her up.

Other people are praying to God for a decent and honest lady to marry, here you are, you have found and engaged one, and your problem is the age(Number) Abeg send me her number, i would gladly relief you of the stress...

Mrbehave:
I wanted to delay it but My mum pushed me and I cant say no since I said it was GOD who spoke to me to go the first time. Am thinking of quitting my job, run away to a place where nobody knows not even my parents and come back after she is married.

You even lied on God. Seems like u gonna tell another lie bro.

Mrbehave:
My relationship with her is one and a half year and we are to get married by the end of this year. The problem here is that am only two years older than her which so many people complained that the age gap is too small that she will get older than me very soon, infact some thought that she is older than me.Our height are thesame and we are not short.

The man who married her friend who is two years younger than her is five years older than me.The boy friends of all her mates and friends are much older than I am.

My uncle who is a pastor advised me that he doesn't want me to be involved in extra marital affairs base on the fact that my fiancee will grow older than me and might loose interest in sex due to aging.

The problem here is that I engaged her early this year but right now I don't have single love for her that even when I travelled I don't want to come back soon cos i never missed her.This my fiancee started a relationship with a guy at the age of 15.The guy deflowered her at teen age, promised her marriage and dumped her after 8 years of being with her and married another girl and now is me her dreamed man who wants to leave her again, so difficult.I have never had sex with her, was only involved in a French kiss with her and sucking of her boobs.

When I started friending her I told my family that it was GOD who spoke to me to friend her just to gain there approval, can you see the confusion here? We live in thesame street with her just three houses between my house and hers and her mother advised that we should never let anything come between us as it may affect the both families due to the closeness.

So many were happy for her for finding me as I am the right man according to them since I have never been laid and I am 28.

I don't just know what happened I felt unattracted to her and lost interest in her and this has been happening for 8 months now but I hid it because seeing what happened in her past relationship I became afraid.

I cried and cried, prayed to GOD to make her loose interest in me but to no avail.The dowry will be paid this month, I don't like it but my hands are tied.

During the engagement my pastor and church elders were present and they endorsed it.

I don't have any problem with her just the issue of age and zero love that I have for her. She fainted several time because of her last break up, hmm am afraid.Please am tired I want a break up but I don't know how.

Lol
This is the most ridiculous post I have read in this year
It's unbelievable foolish.

For God's sake, do you have brains at all?
How old are you?


Did you consider the age difference when you where wooing her?
Now, you are tired of her and there is a younger lady in the picture and so, you thing two years age gap is too small now and it's a problem.


NONSENSE!

Bro, do you guys know your genotypes yet? If no, pray she turns out AS so you can either be AS too or claim to be. This can only be your way out without causing too much damage to her heart.

On the other hand to be truthful, age is no longer an issue in relationships/marriages these days. She might be 5 years older than you and your relationship can still be perfect, so your only reasonable excuse should be that you don't love her and not the age difference.

@op, why don't you start by opening up to your mum that you lied when you said God spoke to you?

Since its the 'people' that you are marrying the lady for, I think you should try to end the relationship earliest.

The lady sure don't deserve someone like you. I hope you don'd live to regret your action later on.

I'm just three month older than my partner and we are good together with a beautiful daughter.. U know what, my wife is a breastfeeding mother and anytime I see her naked, it still turns me on likewise herself.. I wouldn't blame you brother, but I guess there is more to this your story. There is more to life than sex oo,l. U need to ask yourself a lot of questions bro, this u said is not an excuse.. You just don't love that precious soul..

Mrbehave:
You can not call a man of 28yrs a kid. May be a novice in relationship since she is my first love.

Your age has nothing to do with your maturity. You lost interest in the relationship because of what other people told you. If you aren't man enough to make decisions then you certainly shouldn't be getting married.

When u ve chop the indomie finished . Countiue............ My relationship with her is one and a half year and we are to get married by the end of this year. The problem here is that am only two years older than her which so many people complained that the age gap is too small that she will get older than me very soon, infact some thought that she is older than me.Our height are thesame and we are not short.

The man who married her friend who is two years younger than her is five years older than me.The boy friends of all her mates and friends are much older than I am.

My uncle who is a pastor advised me that he doesn't want me to be involved in extra marital affairs base on the fact that my fiancee will grow older than me and might loose interest in sex due to aging.

The problem here is that I engaged her early this year but right now I don't have single love for her that even when I travelled I don't want to come back soon cos i never missed her.This my fiancee started a relationship with a guy at the age of 15.The guy deflowered her at teen age, promised her marriage and dumped her after 8 years of being with her and married another girl and now is me her dreamed man who wants to leave her again, so difficult.I have never had sex with her, was only involved in a French kiss with her and sucking of her boobs.

When I started friending her I told my family that it was GOD who spoke to me to friend her just to gain there approval, can you see the confusion here? We live in thesame street with her just three houses between my house and hers and her mother advised that we should never let anything come between us as it may affect the both families due to the closeness.

So many were happy for her for finding me as I am the right man according to them since I have never been laid and I am 28.

I don't just know what happened I felt unattracted to her and lost interest in her and this has been happening for 8 months now but I hid it because seeing what happened in her past relationship I became afraid.

I cried and cried, prayed to GOD to make her loose interest in me but to no avail.The dowry will be paid this month, I don't like it but my hands are tied.

During the engagement my pastor and church elders were present and they endorsed it.

I don't have any problem with her just the issue of age and zero love that I have for her. She fainted several time because of her last break up, hmm am afraid.Please am tired I want a break up but I don't know how. [/quote]

Mrbehave with the body of an 28 year old and the mind of a 14 year old...Nonsense and Ingredients

kimbraa:
So many kids in relationships. Look at your narrative and judge yourself. You'll be saving that girl a lot if you don't marry her. See your mouth like "I'm two years older than her". The truth of the matter is, you're not matured yet, age is only but a number and you've never loved her. Maybe you were infatuated. Some women are older than their husband and they're doing very well in their respective marriages.

You said it all, he is even crying to God to make her lose interest in him, I opened this thread thinking the desire to break up was caused by bad behavior or something serious, alas its about age, how we not even sure he will also break up again with a silly excuse, when he finds a new woman, God help any lady that decides to date him

Mrbehave:
My relationship with her is one and a half year and we are to get married by the end of this year. The problem here is that am only two years older than her which so many people complained that the age gap is too small that she will get older than me very soon, infact some thought that she is older than me.Our height are thesame and we are not short.

The man who married her friend who is two years younger than her is five years older than me.The boy friends of all her mates and friends are much older than I am.

My uncle who is a pastor advised me that he doesn't want me to be involved in extra marital affairs base on the fact that my fiancee will grow older than me and might loose interest in sex due to aging.

The problem here is that I engaged her early this year but right now I don't have single love for her that even when I travelled I don't want to come back soon cos i never missed her.This my fiancee started a relationship with a guy at the age of 15.The guy deflowered her at teen age, promised her marriage and dumped her after 8 years of being with her and married another girl and now is me her dreamed man who wants to leave her again, so difficult.I have never had sex with her, was only involved in a French kiss with her and sucking of her boobs.

When I started friending her I told my family that it was GOD who spoke to me to friend her just to gain there approval, can you see the confusion here? We live in thesame street with her just three houses between my house and hers and her mother advised that we should never let anything come between us as it may affect the both families due to the closeness.

So many were happy for her for finding me as I am the right man according to them since I have never been laid and I am 28.

I don't just know what happened I felt unattracted to her and lost interest in her and this has been happening for 8 months now but I hid it because seeing what happened in her past relationship I became afraid.

I cried and cried, prayed to GOD to make her loose interest in me but to no avail.The dowry will be paid this month, I don't like it but my hands are tied.

During the engagement my pastor and church elders were present and they endorsed it.

I don't have any problem with her just the issue of age and zero love that I have for her. She fainted several time because of her last break up, hmm am afraid.Please am tired I want a break up but I don't know how.

Sir learn to make your decisions. A woman who takes good care of herself will look good. There 40-year-olds that look better than girls half their age. What is marriage to you? sex or companionship? God is never the author of confusion.
Keep yielding to other opinions without basis to your detriment. Running away won't help anything. Also, not marrying you won't end her life. Infact she's probably going to get a more mentally ready man. Even if you marry someone else and your mother,uncle, friends or family pressure you to do something so you will?As for your uncle, i wonder the counsel he gives to his congregation.

U are looking for fresh thing ba. My guy just pray pray. Sometime marriage bring out the best from a man and the other way round.

Dear OP, there is no correct way of breaking up a relationship. It is commendable that you are worried about her feelings but that should not stop you from doing what you have made up your mind to do. Start by avoiding her, stop calling and chatting her. Stay away from anywhere that she will see you. If she is not sharp enough to read between the lines; send her a text that you need some time away from her to review your life. it is okay that you don't love her enough to marry her and grow old with her. Any relationship built on pity and emotional blackmail is bound to hit the rocks eventually. Better now than later. I suggest you summon courage and call off the relationship as quickly as possible. Do not base your happiness on the opinion of your church, your pastor or anyone...Time heals ALL wounds. Good luck.

you are a boss baby.....go and hug a transformer....so childish

It's always very easy and simple to judge when you're not the driver.
My point is very simple,remember you will marry some day and raise your children,right?
I will also need you to remember "Karma",you can't miss it!
You sucked "boobs" and had French kiss,thats what's called "sampling" and now it just occurred to you after all that that she no longer meets your requirements based on her age.

In all, I will ask you to ask for forgiveness of sin and fear God! I honestly doubt if you have a conscience.

Dear OP, I hope you are at home playing with your mates as today is children day because you are a child and should be treated as such. Who even wants to marry a child like you? Save this innocent woman a life long headache, break up with her and go to Northern Nigeria to get a 12 years old bride.

Just when I thought I had problems

Bros tgis kain thing no do am for another woman again e good make man get good heart in this life na why men dey marry out of sympathy

Whether you break up directly or manipulative you would still feel the guilt

the basic thing in marriage is lacking LOVE pls let her go no matter hw it hurts nw she will eventually heal before you too will kill her and stuff her in a bucket sooner or later...if you cant do it give me her number I know what to tell her that it wont hurt so bad....I will tell her you have HIV!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! she will dump you even before you blink

Mrbehave:
My relationship with her is one and a half year and we are to get married by the end of this year. The problem here is that am only two years older than her which so many people complained that the age gap is too small that she will get older than me very soon, infact some thought that she is older than me.Our height are thesame and we are not short.

The man who married her friend who is two years younger than her is five years older than me.The boy friends of all her mates and friends are much older than I am.

My uncle who is a pastor advised me that he doesn't want me to be involved in extra marital affairs base on the fact that my fiancee will grow older than me and might loose interest in sex due to aging.

The problem here is that I engaged her early this year but right now I don't have single love for her that even when I travelled I don't want to come back soon cos i never missed her.This my fiancee started a relationship with a guy at the age of 15.The guy deflowered her at teen age, promised her marriage and dumped her after 8 years of being with her and married another girl and now is me her dreamed man who wants to leave her again, so difficult.I have never had sex with her, was only involved in a French kiss with her and sucking of her boobs.

When I started friending her I told my family that it was GOD who spoke to me to friend her just to gain there approval, can you see the confusion here? We live in thesame street with her just three houses between my house and hers and her mother advised that we should never let anything come between us as it may affect the both families due to the closeness.

So many were happy for her for finding me as I am the right man according to them since I have never been laid and I am 28.

I don't just know what happened I felt unattracted to her and lost interest in her and this has been happening for 8 months now but I hid it because seeing what happened in her past relationship I became afraid.

I cried and cried, prayed to GOD to make her loose interest in me but to no avail.The dowry will be paid this month, I don't like it but my hands are tied.

During the engagement my pastor and church elders were present and they endorsed it.

I don't have any problem with her just the issue of age and zero love that I have for her. She fainted several time because of her last break up, hmm am afraid.Please am tired I want a break up but I don't know how.

I would have loved to see your picture... Because am very sure that some women far older than you look younger than you are.....

You know cookie in empire series, she's 47 and recently got engaged by a man far younger than her....

Nobody forced you into this and you saw something in her that made you ask her to marry you, and all of a sudden all the people that didn't see what you saw are now telling you to end it up...all of a sudden you're using their eye sight to look at her....

I think you should give yourself another five years because you're not ready to get married...
When you know what you want and can make those decisions then think about marriage!

this is why they say kids should not venture into marriage.

valentineuwakwe:
it seems you dnt know what you want yet and what marriage is all about. . .if you can't finish something, then dnt start it. . pls listen to yourself alone, you lost interest n love for ur woman when you went about discussing her age with every dick, Tom n Harry you see. . .am even surprise a pastor will advice you on that. . .so you want a woman you are 10 or 20 yrs older. .one you can intimidate and behave anyhow to at home, Abi? pls my advice is, marry her. .invest in her n make her shine aglow with the little money you have. . .my wife is 2 yrs older than me but if you see how I pet her, you will shout. . .my brother, live the age thing or get old, just take care of her when you marry her.thanks

Thank u my brother. He has not gotten enough reasons to love, or may he did not even love her in the first place.all he needed than was just a relationship but alas he got more than he expected. My wife is 11months older and we are enjoying it. Our marriage will be 10years soon.

Have you both done your genotype? who knows you might both be AS, that will save you

You are a kid GTFOH.

She trusted you by telling you everything about her & now you think you can use them against her.

Leave her alone, someone else would cherish & love her for who she is. Nonsense & APC