It all started the first time I saw a fluffy toy with my sister. Then I would see a love note here, a missed call there. I would see book gifts that had words written on it, all from the same guy. Later, when my sister was having a hard time at work, I used to hear her talking on the phone and from the response, it was obvious the guy was encouraging her. All these pointed to the fact that some chivalrous gentleman was showing some interest in my darling sister.

My sister has not been so lucky in love. She dated a guy who was abusive and really dealt with her, which is really painful as she's the most loving girl any guy can have.

Later, I got to know this new guy from her Facebook. He seemed decent enough. And then later I was utterly shocked to see him working as a security man at a bank.

I feel so disappointed in my sis. Is that the best She can do? Can't she get a decent man with a decent job? Must it be abusive man+ good job or good man+security job? I understand that he is loving. But, there are loving bankers out there, not the bank security guard.

Guys, I just want you to put yourself in my shoes. I can't even process that she's actually thinking of marrying this guy.

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I'm surprised at all the castigation. you people should walk in my shoe to know How it pinches.

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Anyway, 4rm my own point of view. I would want 2 to find out d potentials d security guy has. Who knws, he may be a graduate wit a gud potentials n a brighter future bt tryin 2 meet ends meet wit is current job cos of d situation of unemployment in d country. The guy may even be the CSO wit gud pay n less work. but if d guy his d otherwise, talk brain 2 ur sister's head. No woman on earth deserves 2 suffer. If a lady's father is poor, it is nt her fault but if her husband is poor, it is her fault. Why wil u fall in luv wit sumbody dat is nobody.

So from the Facebook picture there was no signboard on his head stating he was a security man at the bank?

Right! true love is unconditional, a security man today could head his own security firm 2moro, don't rule out this love because you think the man has nothing to offer or he is beneath your sister.

He works and earn an honest salary. If as you say your sister has bn maltreated in a previous relationship rather than being negative about this r/ship why don't you just be happy she is happy.

Being with a Banker does not equate to happiness for her, right now she seems happy cept she tells you otherwise.

Let it be.

Pardon me for a moment, is he not human? Being a security man does not mean he hopes to remain there forever. I don't see anything wrong.

Get to know the guy and MAKE sure he's a guy of vision and not just a wandering going with the wind. Know more about him, know his goals, plans for the future, educational background and so on.
You want your sister to marry a billionaire? Guess what, sister, millionaires are not throw from heaven...they are made. For all u know, this guy might just be someone on that route. Rome was not built in a day. They fact that he's a security man today does not mean he'll remain one forever. I wish you'd stop being paranoid and just face facts.

What's it with girls and rich men anyway?? Are there not woman out there making millions on daily basis? So are you saying she should be dependent on her hubby?

'Book Gifts!'. Man, that dude is for keepers. It's hard though to accept him 'cos of his low job standards. Take your time to know the kind of person he is. Stalk his FB page, frame an acct, add him and stalk his posts, comments and likes. Those will give you the overall psyche of your future inlaw.
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Is he ambitious? A dreamer? Etc. Best of luck.

... I will write after work....

Okay we done hear

you should mind your business and let your sister decide her own self. it is her heart not yours

Ops first of all.... wats ur occupation

She need some sense of security.

Would you rather give your sister to a Yahoo boy or a Security man. There's dignity in labour my friend. If your sister is happy with it you should support her. They have a long way to go. A security today might be a business owner tomorrow.

Oga o, so security no be work again?
What's d major prblm of our country 2day?
D'banj of 2day was once a security guard in one of the supermarket here in London 2geda with Don Jazzy but 2day n'ko did they still remain as security?
Blessing is very important in whatever we lay our hands 2 may be you're a civil servant or you set up ur private business, blessing is vital most.
Being a security guard doesn't mean he won't succeed in life or do you think dat's her final place?
Mind you everybody as his or her own gift 4rm God, you don't know wot ur sister has see b4 hooking up wt him. You might be thinking of 2day while your sister has already know wot the guy is gonna be in future, which she may not decide 2 speak out.
So let her go 4 her choice!!!

This is the silliest joke I've heard all month! OP, is this a joke or are you for real? No wonder the smileys beside your topic.

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I feel so disappointed in my sis. Is that the best She can do? Can't she get a decent man with a decent job? Must it be abusive man+ good job or good man+security job? I understand that he is loving. But, there are loving bankers out there, not the bank security guard.

Imagine the trash you're typing! How old are you again? (Make I know, so I fit stoop a little low to your thinking capacity before responding further)

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Booked

Lol

If the guy is educated, obviously there would be prospect. Stories can be rewritten. Pray for them.

Bros, this is a tough one but don't make conclusions yet. I will like to know more about your background and especially what your sister was like as a child. Are you guys rich and with some social status you need to protect or are you from an average middle class family? Is your sister a graduate and you all are graduates with good jobs? How was your sister as a child. Was she pampered, loved or insecure? Was she an only girl or a middle child? Does she feel confident in herself and does she feel beautiful? How old is she?

I am asking these questions to fully understand what her problem may be and how best to solve it. That is if she has a problem at all.

So moderator dey gbagaun sef.. Na wa o.. See error for topic sha.





The op fit be mechanic sef

Is it bad? C nothing bad in it

Pic?

Man I understand your point. I feel same way. I know am too young to be saying this buh I have to say it.
In my sec skul days, I use to have this gf, I loved her so much, I use to sneak outta class just to see her face. Though her parents were richer than mine, I attained a public skul, she attained a private skul. Her friends told her not to continue the relationship because I was from a very poor background. After much pressure from her friends, she called-off the relationship telling me that she cannot date someone who is not sure of furthering his education. I asked her a simple question, what if I further? All she said was ''till then''.
Funny enough we meet last week after about 3years. Walk up to her and asked her ''how is skul'' she told me she just gained admission, all I did was smile and I wished her the best. After our discussion, she asked me what I was doin, and I told her am in skul, she did believe it until I showed her my ID card, all she did was shout '' a private skull? Can you cope with the fees?''. She felt so ashamed. Bro, I advice you give dem time, cuz time cures all wounds. Wit time, u wil get to know d type of person he is. Get close to the guy n get to know the type of person he is. Everyone has his/her bad time, u dont know, he may be in his

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heavy g: It all started the first time I saw a Teddy with my sister. Then I would see a love note here, a missed call there. I would see book gifts that had words written on it, all from the same guy. Later, when my sister was having a hard time at work, I used to hear her talking on the phone and from the response, it was obvious the guy was encouraging her. All these pointed to the fact that some chivalrous gentleman was showing some interest in my darling sister.

My sister has not been so lucky in love. She dated a guy who was abusive and really dealt with her, which is really painful as she's the most loving girl any guy can have.

Later, I got to know this new guy from her Facebook. He seemed decent enough. And then later I was utterly shocked to see him working as a security man at a bank.

I feel so disappointed in my sis. Is that the best She can do? Can't she get a decent man with a decent job? Must it be abusive man+ good job or good man+security job? I understand that he is loving. But, there are loving bankers out there, not the bank security guard.

Guys, I just want you to put yourself in my shoes. I can't even process that she's actually thinking of marrying this guy.

k

If she marries him nd u are nt ok wit it, go and hug a transformer. Do u evn wish well for ur sista @ all? If my sis marries a cobbler nd she's ok wit it,nd dey love each oda, y won't i support dem. Marrying a begger wit peace of mind is better dan marrying Dangote wit no peace and love. Remember dat d Rich also cry. Wake up bro nd wish well for ur sista unless u want to marry her urself.

Wot is d level of education of ur sister?

@Op, love is in the eye of the beholder. you knw type of woman u go marry?

If he is loving, not Abusive and a graduate....I dnt c y she shud not marry d love of her life....provided he is hardworkn n will sooner or later get a better job....i prefer to marry a man who is hard workn buh is nt yet rich(we will struggle together n make it together)to a man who is rich now n is nt hardworkn....(God forbid tho)wat wud now happn wen sumtin hapns to his riches........@op allow ur sis to marry her love provided he has dos qualities I mentioned above.....my 2 cents

Money isnt everything,love and peace of mind is paramount in marriage.

If the guy was a security man for barclays bank earning hard currency I guess you will not be disappointed.