afdynamic: hmmm.......
Anyway, 4rm my own point of view. I would want 2 to find out d potentials d security guy has. Who knws, he may be a graduate wit a gud potentials n a brighter future bt tryin 2 meet ends meet wit is current job cos of d situation of unemployment in d country. The guy may even be the CSO wit gud pay n less work. but if d guy his d otherwise, talk brain 2 ur sister's head. No woman on earth deserves 2 suffer. If a lady's father is poor, it is nt her fault but if her husband is poor, it is her fault. Why wil u fall in luv wit sumbody dat is nobody.

Gudintent: So from the Facebook picture there was no signboard on his head stating he was a security man at the bank?

Right! true love is unconditional, a security man today could head his own security firm 2moro, don't rule out this love because you think the man has nothing to offer or he is beneath your sister.

He works and earn an honest salary. If as you say your sister has bn maltreated in a previous relationship rather than being negative about this r/ship why don't you just be happy she is happy.

Being with a Banker does not equate to happiness for her, right now she seems happy cept she tells you otherwise.

Let it be.

Lil princey: Money without happiness is noting. [b]Gone are dos days [b]we choose men bcuz of wealth[/b][/b]

Ewoma45: No b pesin go marry security man.Why should your sister be an exemption?

heavy g: It all started the first time I saw a fluffy toy with my sister. Then I would see a love note here, a missed call there. I would see book gifts that had words written on it, all from the same guy. Later, when my sister was having a hard time at work, I used to hear her talking on the phone and from the response, it was obvious the guy was encouraging her. All these pointed to the fact that some chivalrous gentleman was showing some interest in my darling sister.

My sister has not been so lucky in love. She dated a guy who was abusive and really dealt with her, which is really painful as she's the most loving girl any guy can have.

Later, I got to know this new guy from her Facebook. He seemed decent enough. And then later I was utterly shocked to see him working as a security man at a bank.

I feel so disappointed in my sis. Is that the best She can do? Can't she get a decent man with a decent job? Must it be abusive man+ good job or good man+security job? I understand that he is loving. But, there are loving bankers out there, not the bank security guard.

Guys, I just want you to put yourself in my shoes. I can't even process that she's actually thinking of marrying this guy.

n.b
I'm surprised at all the castigation. you people should walk in my shoe to know How it pinches.

egbesegbe: This post stroked my attention then I decided to sign in and comment. I had similar issue in 1997 when I was a security guard working under arksego. I worked with Arsego security services for over 4 years before gaining admission to unilag and I was still doing the job during my second semester holidays till I got to 300 level. But today I am working as an expatriate in Qatar after doing my master in one of the best university in UK. You never can tell what await man in his life. Please pray for them and allow God who created them to work out things for them i.e if they are met to be. I used my case study not to boast or brag but for people to learn.

Dreamflyin: 'Book Gifts!'. Man, that dude is for keepers. It's hard though to accept him 'cos of his low job standards. Take your time to know the kind of person he is. Stalk his FB page, frame an acct, add him and stalk his posts, comments and likes. Those will give you the overall psyche of your future inlaw.
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Is he ambitious? A dreamer? Etc. Best of luck.

afdynamic: hmmm.......
Anyway, 4rm my own point of view. I would want 2 to find out d potentials d security guy has. Who knws, he may be a graduate wit a gud potentials n a brighter future bt tryin 2 meet ends meet wit is current job cos of d situation of unemployment in d country. The guy may even be the CSO wit gud pay n less work. but if d guy his d otherwise, talk brain 2 ur sister's head. No woman on earth deserves 2 suffer. If a lady's father is poor, it is nt her fault but if her husband is poor, it is her fault. Why wil u fall in luv wit sumbody dat is nobody.

Sageez: Man I understand your point. I feel same way. I know am too young to be saying this buh I have to say it.
In my sec skul days, I use to have this gf, I loved her so much, I use to sneak outta class just to see her face. Though her parents were richer than mine, I attained a public skul, she attained a private skul. Her friends told her not to continue the relationship because I was from a very poor background. After much pressure from her friends, she called-off the relationship telling me that she cannot date someone who is not sure of furthering his education. I asked her a simple question, what if I further? All she said was ''till then''.
Funny enough we meet last week after about 3years. Walk up to her and asked her ''how is skul'' she told me she just gained admission, all I did was smile and I wished her the best. After our discussion, she asked me what I was doin, and I told her am in skul, she did believe it until I showed her my ID card, all she did was shout '' a private skull? Can you cope with the fees?''. She felt so ashamed. Bro, I advice you give dem time, cuz time cures all wounds. Wit time, u wil get to know d type of person he is. Get close to the guy n get to know the type of person he is. Everyone has his/her bad time, u dont know, he may be in his

heavy g: It all started the first time I saw a fluffy toy with my sister. Then I would see a love note here, a missed call there. I would see book gifts that had words written on it, all from the same guy. Later, when my sister was having a hard time at work, I used to hear her talking on the phone and from the response, it was obvious the guy was encouraging her. All these pointed to the fact that some chivalrous gentleman was showing some interest in my darling sister.

My sister has not been so lucky in love. She dated a guy who was abusive and really dealt with her, which is really painful as she's the most loving girl any guy can have.

Later, I got to know this new guy from her Facebook. He seemed decent enough. And then later I was utterly shocked to see him working as a security man at a bank.

I feel so disappointed in my sis. Is that the best She can do? Can't she get a decent man with a decent job? Must it be abusive man+ good job or good man+security job? I understand that he is loving. But, there are loving bankers out there, not the bank security guard.

Guys, I just want you to put yourself in my shoes. I can't even process that she's actually thinking of marrying this guy.

n.b
I'm surprised at all the castigation. you people should walk in my shoe to know How it pinches.

osahonmk: Ops first of all.... wats ur occupation

iamswizz: So moderator dey gbagaun sef.. Na wa o.. See error for topic sha.





The op fit be mechanic sef

Standing5: She need some sense of security from a security guard.

Qmab: @op: if ur sister's boyfriend isnt wealthy or lavishin r wt goodies, is there any law dt says a woman shuldnt make it successfully on her own right? I'm sorry, bt work is work, bricklayer,laborer, is all work so long its all abt earning money nd no law is being broken. Wats imp in waterever amt we earn is God's grace. Am a girl bt i do nt belong to d sch of thot dt ll i av to rely on my husband to survive.