MizMyColi:
Moderation is key, in everything.

Case in point, me.

I like to be pampered.
No sane lady doesn't.

However, some of us (ladies) are too controlling in that regard.
We expect the man to go out of his way for us, we expect him to know just what to say to us, how to and when to.
We really don't care about him, except he cares about us.
Ideally, it shouldn't be that way.

A man thinks differently from a woman, there are those times when he just can't bring himself to pamper and be all lovey dovey.
This is why it is dangerous for ladies to base their sense of self worth on people's validation.
Let all the validation you need come from within, not without.

That way, when the pampering becomes less or totally absent, you're able to carry on without loosing confidence in your man/relationship.

To both sides of the divide, I have this to say.

A healthy relationship is about so many + factors.
One major + factor is; Compromise, healthy compromise.

5p1naz:
Pamper your girl... every girl deserves a guy who cares

...and every guy doesn't?

MizMyColi:
Moderation is key, in everything.

Case in point, me.

I like to be pampered.
No sane lady doesn't.

However, some of us (ladies) are too controlling in that regard.
We expect the man to go out of his way for us, we expect him to know just what to say to us, how to and when to.
We really don't care about him, except he cares about us.
Ideally, it shouldn't be that way.

A man thinks differently from a woman, there are those times when he just can't bring himself to pamper and be all lovey dovey.
This is why it is dangerous for ladies to base their sense of self worth on people's validation.
Let all the validation you need come from within, not without.

That way, when the pampering becomes less or totally absent, you're able to carry on without loosing confidence in your man/relationship.

To both sides of the divide, I have this to say.

A healthy relationship is about so many + factors.
One major + factor is; Compromise, healthy compromise.

RedBenson:


Pampers abi? D one wey my little cousin dey wear poo inside abi?

tranxo:

hmmmmm....this even looks like what your little cousin would write.

Yomieluv:
My girlfriends always call me a psycho..

I am indifferent to whatever attitude they put,I don't cram any one's phone number,incase she messes up,instant deletion,without any qualms..

I spent my time,and resources to look good,hardly have time for any dilly-dally with any babe.

Funniest thing,they can't just let me be..

Never treat her like a Celeb, else she will treat you like a Fan..

You just created this account.
Are you new here?

efilmakers:
you

smaddly:
Do girls need so much pampering in relationships-isnt it disastrous?
why pamper them so much..is it dat we guys ar afraid of loosin them...we guys just need to limit that and be absolutely truthful with them>>tell them their flaws then proffer solutions>>hopefully they would change.

Tobilastik:
nd does dz not worth FP?

mesoade:
If i don't pamper my girl,who will?

Rexxie:
Op shudda put certain factors into considerations,factors like some whimpy dudes who suddenly develop knock knees n pee in da pants when close to a girl or pencil_daicked priicks who cant wait to take advantage for feb 14 and who are so limp down there and may others ya know..
Its important,pataki,like the yorubas will say, for folks like these to book appointments with psychiatrists b4 they become hopelessly lonely and grumpus..

3cycle:

Keep thinking this way, I bet you will remain single till 40.... No offence

Tlovely:
he wld even get married b4 u, if u ar not ,or get a gf quicker than u can try, n even hve several women 2 select from... no offence..dats d irony...pamper women but not so much or ova d bar, even wen u do it ova still try 2 moderate again 2 balance it up wen u want.. dey even lov 2 be scolded ones in a wyl, wen they get out of touch or derail...sm even do it deliberately jst 2 test ur action..but i wld advice most times 2 take them unaware most times,n express ur displeasure wen they derail..it keeps dem on thier toes..n somehow keeps dem rooted 2 u,... so dey value ur pampering al times wen u give it...women by nature lvs their man, manly smtimes, sm hw a little scolding makes dem remorseful..n dats a form of affection, they seem 2 hv learnt one or 2 fins.. n might see as a mirror 2 adjust some of dia flaws dat cld make dem offensive, in d face of dis pamparing... dats y one girl go collect money from alhaji finish come carry am give u as her boyfriend...u go dey reject am self, she go dey insist...she sees u no longer as a lover, a bf, but also @s a broda...even if she get anoda bf she no go forget u... my gf a time like dat offended me n i jst kept quiet......she begged me seriously 2 scold her,.. if dat wld make me talk...dat d silence was killing her.. i was dazed n told her dat d scolding comes out natural n i cant jst start scolding her,dat all i feel like doin ryt now is to remain silent n be on my own..maybe she felt that my scoldin her cld atone 4 her wrong, but it jst made her feel corrected n maybe a chance u 2 apologise sincerely n be forgiven,or learn oneor 2 fins, i dnt know but she feels better..now she even knows wen am upset even if i dont talk or utter a word..yet she know say if na for pampering i be number 1....i dey even throw her suprise smtimes.. dey even gv am d tin 4 kitchen still dey tell am sorry...lol..d sweedie dey believe d mata....but d fact remains if u ar in a relationship be ur positive true self, so ur pampering is gonna cum out natural, ryt n sweet...n d girl is gonna lv it memorably.......

mezebel:

Lovexme:


...and every guy doesn't?

Rexxie:

take off da peru-braides n face_brownies n lets get to see da papa_ajasco_shinning_mirror_baldhead n wrinkles u're hiding...
n again,ugly,u see my arsse on such rainbow n playboy enclave like this doenst mean i wunna get jeff hefner's autograph or on an expedition for pinky_ninny_bunnies....now listin up fishie_brainnie,da red_dot aint4ya,so get that artificial stench of a mass outta my sight,am in no mood 4 a 4k...go get that 'he didnt come in pampers generation granddiddy' whimp..heard?

5p1naz:


bros abeg ooo. everyone deserves it. i thought the topic was about girls so i didn't want to divert.