₦airaland Forum

Bellfun:
I think God just used the pastor to save the bride from danger!
However,is church wedding really necessary? #na wash!

It's necessary because it helps their case when doing the immigration interview.

stressedout:
thanks for the advice. it is clear. i have to leave that house. i will pack my things today and leave for calabar first things tomorrow. Why i say ordinary is because these people are not suffering at all, they live well. i did not live there free. i did various jobs for the man and even stayed in the wifes store where she sells provisions. This is someone i senior with over 5 yrs. such behaviour was not so at the beginning now i am almost treated as if i came to do househelp. so i will never rely on anyone again as man can fail, but God never fails.

Nigerians.
Being born before someone doesn't make them to now tolerate any bullshit from you.

So because you think "They live well", for people who owe you nothing and who have done you a favor, you will now open your mouth wide and be eating anyhow and drinking extra-rich milk at their expense. 3 tablespoons of powdered milk is rather much to be drinking at some one else's expense whom you are living with rent-free. Obviously you have now felt the need to mention how you bought a can of milk in the house ONCE (which at your rate of milk consumption, I won't be surprised if you finished).

Obviously from your manner of speaking, you are compound idiot and a typical ingrate of a nigerian who instead of getting sense, chooses to fallback on pointless things like "age" to signify why people should tolerate your fawking excesses.

What were you expecting?! You moving into a family, O boy they were nice O.
In this day and age, if you had any wisdom, you would have been planning how to go and do something.

I'm sure your type is the type that will say they are too big to carry cement.
I can't stand your kind of person at all. Parasite.

Women and drama...

Why do most women create fantasy negative assumptions about something, and then regardless of the facts and logic provided proving that their assumption was false, they stick to said assumption.

Is it an ego thing? Is it that these women do not know that there is such a thing as them being wrong? Their brain doesn't know how to process what comes next after being proven wrong or something.

Pure fucking emotion rendering facts and logic irrelevant.
My respect to all the fellow brothas (and logical brain-having sistas) who have to deal with this nasty trait of general womenfolk.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4U9o925rORY

Igbo people must find a way to chop FLENTY FLENTY money from you regardless of the situation

Amarabae:
if we are not unique, why are you having nightmares over Igbos?
LOLz.
We are a Unique and Beautiful People, Blessed by God.

How can you claim to be a woman's Rights activist when you are still here supporting your tribe's archaic practices like selling women like property and also, quite frankly, insulting the personal agency of women and their ability to take responsibility for their own actions.

I bet your people traded you very well to your husband. How much filthy lucre did he have to pay before your family tied rope around your neck and gave him the other end of the rope?
If there is one thing I will always laugh at, it's a feminist/WRH who allows herself to be traded like a thing to another person.
I just don't respect people who do not practice what they preach.

I generally stay away from igbo girls anyway so....

I know when its time for serious things, their family wahala is always too much.

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]Hi all, I just realized someone I was with for a year is a player.

He would date several women and then promise to marry them and then continue to have sex with them until he gets his fill. And then when he gets tired of having sex with them, he erases everything about them both texts and photos and starts all over again with another Woman. And then he continues with the same cycle.[/color]

Mamagee na you be that?
Omo You don chubby well well O. Still sexy

Anyway as to topic, na so this our generation dey do O.
Everybody just wan play basketball on top everybody head. Both man and woman dey fall hand dem two.
Na why prayer and confirmation na the real way to select life partner: person wey go be say you and am want the same thing, otherwise, we no dey know anymore O babes.

E go better.
Hope say he never give you belle sha. Because dat na the one mistake most babes dey make!

baby124:
O boy just ghost them and go and hustle for yourself. No be you tell them to give birth to kids they cannot afford to train. When you are earning money and can send money home, please do. But for now, focus on making a way for yourself legitimately. Don't let them use pressure to push you into crime for family members that will deny you when trouble come. We will all meet at the feet of Jesus...

Truth!

konfused:
LOL, reason the guy matter na.

Which matter dey to reason?

Person no get money (He's a freaking corper, in Nigeria's current economic situation on top), but people no go wan hear.
If the parents persist on everyone going through private school, then the parents need to be prepared to mount the responsibilities of that decision, not diverting the responsibility of THEIR DECISION to someone who is still struggling to get on his feet. It is selfish.

The only thing he can help with, if at all, is maybe small pocket money here and there....NOT private school fees. Not at this point in his life.
For anyone not to understand that, I'm sorry but that person is evil and selfish.

Kai some women sha.

Sounds like you need to sit that bitch down and have a candid discussion.

Nobody can force you to go to anything. They are in error if they do so.

You a man with a PR in another country.
You've made it. Please pack up and leave.

They will sort themselves out.

In fact, my response to that dumb statement would be: "When I leave, if you have a problem, you have my number."
And I would have walked out and began my moving process.

God has removed you from that toxic environment so you can heal, progress, and potentially be in a better position to help that family in the future. What are you thinking twice for? You can't help anyone in your current situation.

munas:
Regret what?

Helping to see his sibling through school?

Why did he not see himself through the private university if its substandard?

How do you people think self? mtwew

Are you daft? How do YOU think?
Did he ask to be put in the private school?
That was the decision of the parents. After realizing the parents were actually not cutting their coat according to their size, he gave them the proper advice (As if private school guarantees one anything these days). If you advice someone and they do what they want to do, is it not on their head that they have decided to carry the thing they say they want to do?

So you think the fact that someone is serving means they automatically have money to sponsor someone else's child through private school?
Your selfishness has rendered you illogical.

A sensible sibling will be like "Mum/Dad, there is no way bro can handle these expectations. He's just getting on his feet in life to be burdened with this. If a private school isn't affordable for us anymore, we can go to something else".

But nope, "ME ME ME" and trying to use some false sense of responsibility/guilt to be stressing the dude.
You cannot draw water from a rock. If he has good, if he doesn't, will you cut his left leg and sell it for school fees?

hardeycute:
Do not be coerced to do what you will later regret.You attended a private school do not translate to have been to a standard school

You need to sit down with them and let them realize your position and condition.

Save for the raining days

Thank you!

Poor corper scraping pot to try and get on his feet and some idiots on this thread only have parasite mind.
If he does not have to give, WHAT THEN? Did he give birth to you?

Fear naija family members O.
Dem go chop you finish.

You know a selfish person because they are usually the ones who cannot fathom the concept of someone else not having money to give them (even if it should be obvious - what does a corper have gan?).
Some of them will still feel they have a right to ask for your resources even if they meet you in a hospital bed after not having worked for several months.

If one is not careful, these people never let someone invest and move forward with life.

munas:
The managed and sent you to private university and now you want them to send your siblings to public university right?
Thats been selfish.
You have to lend a helping hand and see your siblings through school.

If my elder brother did not help out,i and my 3 sibling will not be where we are today.

You just graudated and serving and you are talking of them leaving you so that you settle down.

How old are you? Are you more than 30yrs old?

Even if you are,you can still cut your expense and bring in your siblings fees into the budget.Thats the right thing to do.

You cannot back out like that...a whole lot of Igbo people went through that route to see there brothers through school and
a whole lot are still doing it till today.You are not alone.

Of course you think this way. As you've just said, you were a benefactor.
Who will not feel that someone else giving him money is "the right thing" for the other person to do?

The fact that he is serving (i.e no money) is not a deterrent to you sha sha still wanting to collect from him.
Now that you have collected, you did not sponsor any sibling O. But you believe that you should be sponsored.
He didn't give birth to you. He can help as he can, but don't you ever think that it is his "responsibility" to sponsor you and that he is some kind of failure if he doesn't.

Oni ranu

Afam4eva:
While i feel sorry for for you based on the situation you found yourself, i think you're being a bit selfish. If you didn't complain when your parents sent you to good private school, why don't you now want your siblings to enjoy the same privileges. Your parents are trying to give you guys the very best of education.

That being said, i don't think you should kill yourself for anyone. Tell them the true situation of things and hope they understand. To convince them, i recommend what someone else advised which is to beg them for money frequently so that they'll get the memo.

To be Igbo no be beans my brother especially if you're the first male or an Ada.

He is not! This is r3tarded logic.

Instead of investing so he can see something to use in the future, children he never chose to have are being sponsored with his miniscule SEED resources. It's doubly annoying when the person JUST graduates and is already being expected to be funding a football team!
How is that fair to him?

Why can't africans give birth to only what they know they can handle?

@ikihealthplus

Your responsibility is to your future family (wife and children) and your parents ONLY.

If from what you budget to give your parents they use it to sponsor your siblings, thats their prerogative.
But you should have a standard thing you give your parents out of honor.

After that standard thing, your responsibility as far as God is concerned is covered. The rest is as you can do.
If you can't do, don't. I've been that guy, constantly broke because of "family matters"...it's not the way. It delays you from progressing, and it also leads to abuse, especially when the parent or the sibling are spoilt and are looking to live luxuriously through your scant resources.
Being that you are also igbo, When the time comes for you to marry, do you think anyone will hear that you don't have money because you were training your siblings? You'll be that old unmarried guy due to lack of savings while your younger ones will finish school, with no responsibilities and start saving and move forward with their life fast. You also have a destiny. Don't let someone cut it short because they chose to not measure their coat according to their size.

I don't understand why Africans feel the need to give birth to 5+ children when they know that they plan to put the rearing of these children (according to the standard they have set for themselves) on the heads of others.

That's how I was talking to one silly girl this year and she was telling me how she "won't feel fulfilled until after giving birth to at least 6 children".
Dummy! Who will take care of them?! Her response was just as dumb "There will be money na, and shebi they will have older siblings?". Some foolish africans still think like this in this day and age.
You will create so many children and use them to inconvenience the lives of other people. Is that not wickedness/selfishness?...

konfused:
some folks sef, when they were doing same to train you, you didn't give them this advice, so you sabi something like this and you didn't advice them to withdraw you from the private university so you can go to a public university and save cost.

Dude if you have the money and means to help out, do so and stop complaining. One day, those your junior ones will still graduate and help out too. There is a reason you were made the head.

You sound like a spoilt last child

What are you doing going to his house on a "first date" for starters?

Now Normally, the first couple times a GUEST comes over, the proper thing to do is to cater to them.

Sounds like a small boy if a guest comes to his house and he is already trying to command the guest about. Good she caught herself and left. Doesn't work like that.

Just means he paid for 9 oloshos.
Doesn't mean he is anyone important.

MrBrownJay1:
Whether your woman is having lots of female OR male friends, so long as she is happy, respects YOU and your union, it's all good.

Yes, there are many undercover lesbians out there, just as there is many undercover gay dudes having gfs. should we stop our partners from having any friends and let them be miserable?! Hell no... Let them be themselves, and if they are indeed on the "down low" then drop them, but no need to poison your mind by thinking the worse.

If you can't even trust your partner, then what are you doing dating them?

Personally, and I've said this before, I don't care if my girl likes girls.
It just makes things....interesting. A lot of possibilities.

Trap

ebonflexy:
As a bachelor, living in a city with too many "surprises", you tend to know how to get these things so you know who to miss!

Pretty much...there are ways to get these things.

It's because men are not materialistic.
Women have life all wrong. They always feel something has to be passing something.

See Adam, the guy was just chilling in Eden. Then one silly woman started her noise: "What kind of useless man is this sef? So you are just okay here in this place? Is God not your mate? See the things He is doing, yet you're here playing with animals like a little bich. Eat this thing jor! Hopefully it will give you some sense! I can't even fawk you if you be thinking like a little bich-nigga!"

Hence our wahala today.

Woman will go to party and see another woman wearing the same dress. She makes a generational Enemy that day.

Unnecessary and constant No-chill. Constant and pointless grudges...
In fact, how women make heaven is beyond me. We thank God for his Mercy.

5

That equation STILL doesn't even add up because the sex is equally enjoyed by both parties!

The fact that men may want to initiate sex more does not mean we enjoy it more than them. I would even argue that females enjoy it more viz-a-viz having multiple orgasms and all that, so if we want to be misers about it, she is even owing me the more each time we have sex. But to be modest, let's just say it's an equal enjoyment.

So in sum total....where does the balance of sacrifice lie?
What you have is the guy flushing his resources into someone who is unable to give anything back, and who has apparently taken it upon her silly self to overvalue what she feels she has between her legs (as if she is the only one that has it) as her prime contribution to the union.
How does this make sense?

Dare I say, it is better to pick an actual leech and attach it to your arm because they at least have a practical/healthy use for sucking bad blood from your body. A broke girl....is more useless than a leech because there is no such thing as bad money.

Fawk, I want my babe to be able to surprise me with expensive things too! Na only woman suppose enjoy good thing for this life?!


My brothers, just stay away from broke girls, unless she has good future earning potential.
It profiteth no man! We are entering an era in time where, as a man, you can't afford to even be thinking that na only you go make all the money your family needs to thrive. As the general price of things rise due to inflation and feminism (Feminism powers the expectation that every home will have 2 income earners, which powers inflation), you and her will need to join forces and power-couple the heck out of life. This cannot happen if you go and attach a liability to your life that only knows how to chop money all in the name of cheap pucci.

Get you a girl that can stand on her own but craves inter-dependence with you. I didn't say independence. I didn't say dependence. I said Inter-dependence.

Those thick thighs would make you think this is a woman, but no...it's a trap.
Fellas, A feminine body should NEVER stop you from asking WHAT she is. If she is the one for you, she will understand.

You'd probably see this by the pool and think this is a hot girl you should say hello to. But you'd be wrong, because this is a trap.

Confirmed!

These men do exist. Their usually called creeps though.

When will women simply be honest with themselves and also add the prequalifications to their bullshit "what Id like my man to be" statements. Aka he must be rich, hot AND THEN learns everything about me, blah blah, blah, other things that don't mean a thing. Because at the end of the day, a guy that is rich and hot and doesn't send them all that much because he has his own life is a challenge they Like to run after.

Any grown man knows that women don't want what they say. They only want what they want.

Where are all these Kenyan girls getting yansh from these days Sha?
That's how I saw another kenyan smalley this week with that thick-thick . Aren't they supposed to be skinny? Or am I thinking about Sudanese women?