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ferhyntorlah: Afolabs101, Kenny is Dokpesi's BIL. His big sister, Moji is married to Dokpesi. I hope hardbody's post is enough to convince you?

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dmcdad: **Following**

na wetin u dey follow? Y dont u p'ple read d date b4 tying.

holluwizzy: Looking from a cool girl in benin ooooo.
interested.call me on 08060024303

FOOL AND A WEAKLING.... He can't walk up to a lady and woo her. Coming behind a pc or phone to look for a girl. Drop dat phone or pc, man up and walk up to girl.

If you think any girl will call you, u ar deceiving ya self. Na who know wea na xmas suya u dey find sef.

CastleandGreen: I am talking from experience bro, you know they say you don't
know what you 've got till its gone.

true. She would have said that a thousand times and wish I take her back, but I CANT and WONT do that.

Has anyone here tried to buy stuff at ebay or amazon.

I think thats what I shall do in order to avoid this issues of substandard products sold at alixpress or dhgate.

I would want to go into importation of phones but I want them to be Original and used.

I like the die-hard style you guys here have exhibited.

Therefore, I want to take that risk and report here. But I am possibly going to use ebay or Amazon for purchase of my phones.

There are some restrictions to this websites due to paypal wahala and fear of people being duped. At ebay, they only accept paypal and at Amazon, sellers don't ship to Nigeria.

But where there is will there is a way.

tellwsdom: Sorry, did u say u didnt yansh her?? ....You knw yansh gurl, u come here dey form chairman..Guy, are u a learner

u b mumu o. U no see d date? O boy I don pass dat level

2fishes: I sent ChrisVicMall the link to what i am buying yesterday. I requested for how to get the money acros for them to order. No reply yet

Patience, you are not the only one doing biz with them...

kandiikane: Damn! See as halitosis dey hover over this thread.

u nko?

gree-die:
why?? u tink im 16? im not a kid anymore

lol. Just wanted to confirm it.

That's nice to know

Guy guys guys,. Who here is on 2go.

You cant add anyone except you have his phone number or username. I go a friend request from a lady o and I suspect its from nairaland. My phone number is displayed. And I no know weda na where I go comment for that "how do you liked to be kissed" thread. My mind tells its because dropped a bomb there.

Just saying out of curiosity o. Anyways, I go ask her.

WARNING: Dont try to be like me *giggles*

gree-die:
I WILL BE 20 NEXT YEAR

Liar...

Kobojunkie: Stop trying to push it all off on others. Those are your words. I simply asked you a question --- which you never answered by the way. However, all you have done is innundate us with stories of how any woman you get married to essentially has to "PAY UP" for that 'privilege'. And I am simply giving my honest stance on those word that have been emanating from your own side of this.

I hear you na... when I mean earn it, I dont mean slavery, okay?

Ujujoan: Your mama dey try oh, cooking for another woman's husband while the wife is alive and well! I don't think people should meddle in other people's marriages. You can cook and take to him in the hospital, no wahala, but not take over feeding the man!

Do you know why he was hospitalized? Do you know if he was being treated for gonorrhea which he contacted from an ashewo? If you were the wife, will you visit him or cook for him?

But you mum went and made her look bad by cooking for her husband. I don't know sha, but that doesn't seem right!

My mother is different and she didnt just decide to cook. She heard that at about 5pm or so, someone who was sick hasnt eating. common... we are humans. Before the man was taken to the hospital, he was battling with the illness at home and did wife care? NO! it was after her saw that he could no longer cope that he went to the hospital himself. I followed him because he could no longer support himself. What if the man had died under such circumstance? Na to come inherit property abi?

Abeg me I no sabi support bad thing for this life way I come o. When I speak, I speak the truth.

Kobojunkie: Hence the reason why I feel nothing but pity for the wife and the marriage . . .

Thank you... you just want me to those say nice words or say I will do this for my wife, I buy this.. eh no, I wont take nonsense from anyone who speak of my wife any how. You talked about me being sentiment but I see you are being sentimental too in this case just because you are a woman and have chosen to take side along that line.

If that is what you want me to say, I am sorry to disappoint you. I repeat she has to earn it. I dont care what that means to you. Thank you.

babyosisi: I have enjoyed reading this response from you
You don't need permission to speak about your mom,it is obvious you love / loved her
Did I read you say she passed away,I know you must miss her and a thread like this must re open wounds for you
May God help you bear her loss
Keep those sweet memories of her alive and take care
may God guide and protect you and give you a good woman for a wife and bless your marriage abundantly.

Yes... I loved her and this month, on the 18th of December, will make it 4 years since she left us.
She pampered me and my other siblings and she was our mother and father from birth into adulthood. My only pain is that she didnt live long enough to eat the fruit of her labour.

But I guess she would be smiling in her grave because we learnt to be tough and survived without her. It wasnt easy initially but we fought on. She actually died in my arms. I watched helplessly and slowly as she left this world.

Please do not see me as someone that will maltreat my wife. Everything I have said is because of what I have experienced and seen happen around me.

Which mother will be happy to see her son not having a car but a wife who had nothing when she came into the his house has a bus used for transport and even went as far buying for her brother. They will conspire to fight her son in his own house, threatening to kill him etc. Read between line plus all I have been saying and you will know who I am referring to here.

May your sons never meet or marry a bad wife.

Thank you also for the prayers.

gree-die:
jst 30 mins?? i could kiss all day....... and all nyt

I only said 30 minutes because the girl I did it with last time had a swollen lips after. Yeah... she said that her lips is very soft . I think I mentioned 30minutes because I dont know how some will view me. the TRUTH is that that kiss with her lasted 2 hours of serious intense kissing and romance. CRAZY!

davidylan: my sister. the kain happiness wey grip me when i saw your moniker. Good to note you are doing very well as well.
lol a big YES to all your questions except the marry part o. Good women are hard to come by, i would not like a thief to reap where she has not sown.

did you women see that? I laugh in chinese *wong fi fu chi*

Kobojunkie: I am sure and the nuisance as you have made it obvious will be the woman you marry . . . hence the reason why I feel pity for whomever will decide to take on that role. Nothing but pity in fact. As it is obvious , as you continue to skirt around the question that you will be OK with her mistreatment.

People do not change after marriage . . . marriage has nothing to do with it. Change happens only when the person in question decides to turn a new leaf, whether after, before, pre, post marriage. However, most people change for the worse, and not for the better, hence the reason why I, again, feel pity, for that woman, whomever she may be.

and I am also letting you know that I am my wife will have to earn whatever she deserve. NO partiality.

If she was a good wife and tells my mother to leave my house, I am still telling you that I wont take it. I know that if such happens, my wife tell my mother to leave my house in my presence, she will definitely burst into tears. And you know what that is what I wont not be happy to see-- her tears.

The bottom line is that no matter how I try to make you see reasons, you wont. My up bringing is different. maybe I have been exposed to some bad experiences which has made me draw my conclusions, and i think I have also said what I have seen wives do to their husband. This does not mean that i am wishing to marry a bad wife or assuming that all women are the same,which of course they are not, but has really made me VERY sensitive with whom I am having a relationship with.

This bring to mind the landlord's wife. I mean the same compound where we rented while building our house. The parent of the landlord didnt like the wife and I wont blame them because I saw her display some traits of bad wife.

I want to ask you now, what crime could your husband commit now that will make you not to visit him at his hospital and also not cook for him to eat?

She was even flirting with another man within this period.

It may surprise you that it was my mother who cooked for this man and she would often sending me to go and give him at the hospital. Till the man left that hospital, she( the wife) never went there. It is not that my mother is the alpha and omega but it is who she was at heart, a loving and kind soul. Therefore I know she will NOT humiliate my wife unjustly.

The tenants had to make arrangement to alert his parents which the mother came and played her role as a mother. Now back to your question... if this this kind of wife, I can tell you that I WONT give a DAMN how she being treated because she deserve every bit of it.

The wife of this landlord is beautiful no doubt. But left for me o, I cant leave with such a person.

jennykadry: @2sexy, can you please answer the above? thank you

and I am telling you that my mother wont do such if she were still alive. Humiliating, abusing, oppressing someone wrongly, NO! I wont and that will mean that she is a good wife. The same also applies to be reversed. There are too sides to a coin isn't it? I wont be partial in any condition.

Kobojunkie: It is not about my view really, it is about what you said . . . I didn't put these words in your head, or make you type them.

I understand... I just cant tolerate nuisance. It depends on who is in the picture.

From all you have said, I can also assume that you are not even as bad as the woman I have put in my picture. But you know some people do change as after marriage and may be a with a child or two in the marriage, automatically assuming that the have arrived and therefore want to bring out their true colour.

It is for this reason I say there are no automatic shirt, taking a cue from my elder brother. Hope you understand.

Kobojunkie: Definitely not happy as I feel pity for any women who will end up with a man of your mentality. I can just imagine the heartaches and pain the person will have to endure when the honeymoon period(assuming their is one) is over.

That is what you think because I dont share your view. But I know I have heart of Gold but just want to be careful so as not to have it shattered. I can pamper a lady but I also learnt their language the hard way... screwed to my brain.

dmcdad: That one dey, badt guy

how far na...

Flytefalls: The first line is "My mynd's telling me NO! But my body, my bodyyyyy's telling me yerrrrrsss!...".

hmmm... more like 2 person in one body. I have heard that a lot of times. sad how women were wired.

Kiss? ahhahah... no go there o. The last I tried it, she almost tore me apart and confessed she never felt anything like that before. We dont forget the neck . #I am no vampire#

I could kiss a really romantic lady for over 30 minutes even if sex no dey sef.

Vikin: Ma friend, what you doing here! Talking about MIL you never had yet! As a future petroleum Engineer, pray you marry a old wife, if not, if you get those offshore job of one month on and off. She go hear whim for your wife hand.

lmfao laughing in india *nehi nehi nehi nehi*

Go to women that are childless or women that only had baby girls and they will give you chilling stories of what they have endured in the hands of their MIL and other inlaws and when the husband is on his wife's side,they conspire to turn his heart against her.
Obviously you are passionate about your mother and there is nothing wrong with it

I know about that, and I have seen it happen. But the OP isnt in that picture, is she?

It is not ok for an MIL to criticize her DIL's cooking or housekeeping or motherly roles,so please never allow your relatives do that to your wife
No woman will take kindly to that.
Just like no man will stand his Wife's mother or relatives lecturing him on how to make more money to become a better son inlaw for them
That is the equivalent

Agreed,I cant allow my relative. But always remember that it depends on the context under discussion, which in this case is the MIL and her DIL--the OP over-stepped her boundaries.

If my husband enjoys my food and my MiL comes and criticizes me and takes it upon herself to cook for her son because she says I am a bad cook,I would want her to leave too.that will be the action of almost every woman.
You owe it to your wife to give your mother and relatives rules and instructions when they visit to forestall any problems.It is insulting for a wife to be ridiculed in her own home by guests under her roof just because she is married to their son.
I am talking to you now as a married woman in the business a while too

If I enjoy my wife's food( I know a good food when I taste one) and my mum say's the food isnt good, then I would not want that. BUT if she isnt a good cook, I will find a way for her to learn from my mum. Me I know like poor food because I was not raised in that way. How can i be in my own house and still be thinking of my mum's food? ehn? Abeg oo.

I read you talking about beating or slapping your wife,i dont know your age but you need to change that ugly mindset
It is never ok to slap your wife,it tells more about you than about anything else

Ma'am, in all that has been said, I still respect your views... no matter how I may written it. I am not a woman beater as such. picture this, I am very gentle person, I dont easily get angry, I laugh off certain this, very tolerant, but if you know by this personality and later heard that I slapped someone, I can bet you that you will be forced to ask what happen. You be forced to ask why and what resulted to such. That is just that because before ever I could do something like that, then it means its has gotten to a point of no return.

Let me leave you with one last word hopefully it will mean something
No woman goes to her husbands house to show The man or his mother pepper most women come into marriage with all their heart with this idea that it will all be love in the air from all but many are often met with the worst hostility you can think from their inlaws and sadly husbands too in instances.when you see a woman lash out at her MIL try to find out what the MIL did,I guarantee most times,the MIL has pushed her to her limits.
Secondly many of those very nasty MILs didn't just become nasty MILs they are nasty people to begin with ,people who don't get along with neighbors and others

I can also guarantee you that if a woman comes into my house with hope of building a happy home, she will also be given the best of everything that I have got. I promise you here and now that she will, most of the time, have cause to be grateful to God for finding a man like me.

At the bold text, I agree with you. Everything I have said so far was used with my mother in the picture and trying to correlate with what the OP has done. If you permit me, my mother was an easy going person and flows well with everybody. I also know that my mum could tell my wife if there was something she wasnt do right, but she is wise enough not to let it seem like a bossy MIL. because of age, she would intelligently convince her DIL to see reason why she should it her way.

Like the neighbour I described who was insulting her mother, I have watch my mum do that a lot of times to different people. she tells them how and why. therefore, you will be left to think if she was saying something right or wrong, which most of the time, they always seem to agree with her. That's how she does her thing.

Dont also forget that sometimes, a mother warning is the a mirror of life, such that if a child does not heed his mother's warning, he end's up regretting it for the rest of his life. I am saying this due to what I saw happen to my mother's 1st son.

In all of this, I can only be careful and that's why I say there is no automatic shirt in my house, she will have to earn it as much as I earns hers. Pardon me; I am just trying to be careful.

Above all, it was REALLY nice to meet a new set of friends. Wow! no wonder they say that every disappointment is a blessing in disguise. I was banned at the romance section and I wandered around the street of NL which landed me here because I am following ivynwa, who happened to be the earlier poster of this thread.



I also want to thank everyone that has contributed to this thought-provoking ,brain-teasing and life-revealing debate. It was fun having you all.

I think this and the politic section is where I may be hanging out come 2013 plus, who know like money? Of course the the BUSINESS section.


babyosisi, I really appreciate the time spent here with you, stillwater, coogar, sapele don, the op. edit: kobojunkie

May God see us all through this year and beyond and also continue to bless our individual families. Amen ciao!

stillwater: Nope, not happy.

why are you not happy? Haven't I assured you of her peace of mind, what else do you want me to do?

stillwater: He never marry o. He still dey do single man.



My mother too has done a lot more. It still doesn't give her the right to make another woman's life a living hell.
That to me is witchcraft.
She should go and ask MILs that are cool with their DILs on how to behave, if her parents didn't teach her how to act with decorum around people.
Bad behaviour in an older person is worse than one in a younger person.

Whether married or not, my life wouldnt be much different... okay, my wife wouldnt have to deal with any of this because her MIL wouldn't be available. so I guess you are rest assured that my wife will live peacefully okay? Are you happy now?

Where luncezo na, the 6 packs abs terminator?

ferhyntorlah: Oh boyee, u sure say you ok sha? Only 4hrs of sleep? Better readjust and do all the necessary RE-something to balance the period your body needs to rest to recuperate for the day's tasks.

yes ma'am. I will!

TheJames: Bro's this thread is really inspiring. I am also an information marketer, but the problem I have is just "how to grow my email list"

For over six months now, I have not moved from the 3000 subscribers that I have. How can i get more??

Deji, Frank pls help here.!!

It is note about numbers bro, how responsive.