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Ujujoan: ROTFLMAO!

God help our Nigerian men!

yes na... whatever. na me me go love finish one daughter of eve go come take do futball? na 50-50 things... how is that, no sentiment shey? hahahahha... abeg I don rest for this one... and that was why i said she has to earn it.

Vanneni: 4get Sexkillz. Oya come let's go and develope new business ideas. *pulls his hands*

*ouch it hurts* Madam take it is easy I know say you like money pass cecilia Ibru

ferhyntorlah: Na wa oh! Different people with different perspectives to situations. My takes in all these is "Do unto others as you have them do unto you". If you love respect, then sow and exhibit respect in all you do.

thank you... I no stubborn ooo and not that I wouldnt love my wifey... as you saw in another thread, you remember when u said make I chop knuckle?

That is me... despite everything said, i know I will love my wife if she deserve. It is just how I grew up and thing I have seen in this life... that shaped me.

btw I slept almost 2 am and by 6 am I am awake again.... weird!

coogar: this thread has gone to the dogs again as usual....

some things would never change. only an uncouth, mannerless and idiotic wife would lash out at her mother-in-law and order her to leave.....for feck's sake, where is the moral code gone in africa these days? can the original poster ask her own mother out? how would the original poster react if the husband asks her mother out of the house? some women just love to think with the soles of their feet.

a woman had her son, raised him, trained him, educated him to be a responsible son. all her tears, all her pains, all her struggles, all her prayers and then a tooth-pick legged heifer comes into the son's life only to try and put a wedge between the son and his mother. it shall not be well with such wife and i hope and pray she raises a son whose wife would do the same to her. no woman born of a woman would disrespect my mother....that's the day she shall return to her parents and they had better return my bride price and my goat!

KAI bros, I didnt even see this initially... 1000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 likes

afolabisegun: I guess thats not ur thread and I hope my link is not worthless for people not too check.

Do you want to drag this further? then give it a short. I just hope that you don's regret it. I can't imagune someone who talk about IM does not know what spamming is. My friend you need to learn. Stop look for cheap opportunity, y you digg?

If you like try am again and see the other side of me... If you dont know, go and learn marketing because if what you do and spamming threads all over is marketing... you will never go far with it because day by day people are getting wiser and sensitive.

I have told, if all you want to do is spam threads, stay away from mine and take your importation elsewhere. A word is enough for the wise.

Vanneni: Was your ban up to a day? He gave both of us 2 days for doing nothing. We didn't derail as much as the rest of you but we got the longest ban because the rest of you have been active in the romance section for more than a day

As if I care about the romance section when it adds no financial value to my life. I have been a member of this forum probably longer than the SEXKILLZ himself who thinks he is god.

Your partiality stinks. All this time I come on the romance section at the same thread I was ban, I see derailing comments all over and what did he do? Oh na dem dem thing ehn?

RUBBISH...

what is this

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afolabisegun: Hey I have my own personal thread brother, just check my profile, and no one is spamming your thread, Thanks for that

oh really?

afolabisegun: check thats https://www.nairaland.com/1119489/how-make-own-money-online

I dont want to check anything... thank you. I guess I have made myself clear.

afolabisegun: Up till today information marketing is the easiest way to make money online, do you agree on that?

Thank God you are here. Why are you so fund of spreading you links and spamming thread all over nairaland? why not create your own thread specifically for the same purpose?

I want to specifically tell you here. DONT do that anywhere you see my thread because I will lash at you in way that yuor image will be tainted. I guess you dont want that, do you?

^^^Good... I think you should go back and modify the others...

sexkillz: [color=#000030]. . . I'll kiss you this minute, and ban you the next if you deserve it.
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As if others where not derailing. did you ban them? No!
Abegi... long hisssss

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Thank you for all you support, love,contribution to my life in one way or the other!
Something Big and Good will happen in 2013 I can feel it! Can you?

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rflexii: She tot me to love myself most, cos she gave me absolutely nothing while I give it all....

Gbam... That's why I now spend like 2k on myself just to eat at a nice bukka and maybe 250 on a chic and will even spend more in a fellow male friend... I no longer place them above a male fellow.

nonysmith: .....u sound very self centered irrespective....anyways ur name says in all

Many of them are wicked...

I can see that some of you are trying to turn this into a market for your products, abi? So your brain could not tell you to open your own thread?

PLease I beg you, dont make me say what I dont want to say because you will hate me for this... stop it are get what you didnt bargain for

I know wan derail again oooo.

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babyosisi: I know you asked someone else this question but if my mother came to my house and criticized my husband in his presence accusing him of being a bad husband or father or lacking in money making skills and husband duties and makes life unbearable for my husband and straining my marriage and would not listen or change her ways,yes I will send her packing and I expect my husband to do same if his mother is being the same way.

Good for you... you guys are saying sentiments this and that. Well let it be " semtiment" I don't care. The only reason some of you aren't happy about how I and coogar has spoken is because of that void to allow you feel "yes she is the wife after all"

If that is what you expect women, I am sorry to say this, there will be no AUTOMATIC shirt in my house. You want to fill special, EARN it. Yes she will have to earn it.

I am sorry ladies for saying this but after what I have seen a woman did to my elder brother, my uncle, the brother of my mum's friend, Opa william's , the creator of a night of a thousand laugh, brother( we were neighbors in Lagos then) and some that I cant mention, I cant give a woman that 100% control... she HAS TO EARN IT!

The ladies here may not be this kind of women in the lives of this men, but I am the kind that learn from other people's experiences. That is just me and how I have chosen to live my life. I am just trying to be careful so that I dont end up dying before my time. I love peace of mind and if a woman chose to be an headache for me, I can easily exchange her space for my peace of mind, even if children were involved. Sorry if this sounds hash. When I love, I love like crazy but I cant tolerate BAD manners. NO WAY!


Now back to the quoted. If you choose to throw your mother out, good for you.... I wont even tell my MIL to pack out of my house because I cant do such to my own mother. But from what I understand from the OP, it hasn't gotten to that. she is just someone with a bad temper who get angry over little things, more like "who is this one telling me what to do"? and she probably hissed.

If you look critically at the the second response from the OP, wherein she had reconciled with her MIL you will see that the MIL isnt as bad as she painted her. The MIL only wanted her to be a better wife and also trying to correct those elements which her own parent or herself failed to equip her with.

If I mention my mum now, una go vex. But I knew her to be a VERY GOOD cook and she was known by her relatives for that. I remember when her sister,not immediate sister, came to our house one day and we served her food. She knew my mum didnt cook that food the moment she tasted it. She asked my elder brother who cooked it. That just to tell you the magic of skillful hands in the kicthen.

So, if my mum have to tell my wife how to be a better wife, I see nothing bad in that. Saying she will humiliate her DIL blah blah blah, I know she wouldnt do that.

My mother is not someone who only cares about her children but she also extended that same love to neighbours around. Sometime around 1995 or so, I was outside with her just to receive fresh air and there was no light. So, after a few minutes, we started hearing the child of a neighbour in the next compound crying. she waited for about 30 minutes the crying never ceased. She had stand up to go and see what was wrong with the child. Lo and behold, a few months old baby was left in the hands of a house help who knows little or nothing about nursing a baby because the parents had not returned at about 8:30pm- 9pm, maybe due to hold up or something else.

What did my mother do? she took child from the house help and ask her to get water ready and she bathed that child, cuddled her into sleep. That child slept till her parents came back. The mother came to our house the next morning to thank my mum.

Before she departed from this world, we had the been to Sango Otta to build our house. Since we did not permanently live there, but Benin City, my mum rented a house where we could stay while build the house. So we were coming to from Benin to Ogun State.

There was a neighbour who was also close to us in that compound and the husband was also helping my mum in building of our house. Something happened between the man and the wife. The wife was insulting her own mother and talking to her the she so pleased. Out anger, the husband descended on her. There is something you guys are missing and i don't care what you call it.Some men dont like 'mothers' being treated in unmerited manners.

I wouldnt beat my wife under such circumstance though, but it sure wont stop me from giving her a good hot slap in multiples of 3 or 4.

But the husband did what he deemed right because he saw a clear picture that if it had been his own mother, that's how she would have insulted his mother too.

So, what did my mother do? she went in there and spoke at length to the couples and everything came back to normal. Sometimes, if something was wrong with their 2nd child, my mother will tell the wife what do without the need to go and buy one drug or the other.

Now do you my mother humiliating HER own DIL? I dont think so. And there is nothing wrong in telling someone how to be a better wife.

The OP just didnt like the fact that someone was trying to correct what her parents failed to do or she failed to equip herself with.

That is my own oooo. If una like talk anything... WE AR ALL ENTITLE TO OUR OWN OPINIONS and we have our reasons.

QED

Kobojunkie: How can the word RESPECT be used to refer to a situation where one human being is UNJUSTLY subjected to insults and humiliation from another?

As far I am concerned, I dont see how telling someone that she does not cook well or take care of the son well or manage money and insult or humiliation. With the kind of women in this current generation some are lacking in those aspect if you ask me and did she say the MIL was shouting at her? NO Did the MIL hit her with a stick while telling her those words? NO. she probably said so politely and wanting her to be a better wife.

Me no fit chop potty... that is just me.

You dont get me... Where I have a problem is where the OP said the MIL should leave her house.

Would you throw your mother out?

ferhyntorlah: Guy, you no wan sleep?

How far? I sleep late but wake early... weird!

stillwater: For me rationality would rule over sentiments. My mum taught me well enough to know respect is reciprocal. If you want to be respected, act well. These wise words from my mum have kept me till date. I don't get disrespected because I act right. These are the same words I would tell my mum if she were the one in the story.

You may choose to call it sentiments but I call it respect.

Kobojunkie: Just one question! It is that it is OK for you to watch your mother abuse, disrespect and humiliate, another woman whom you supposedly love (just wondering is you married her to be pin-cushion for your mother's insults and venom) in her own house(I am assuming here that you know that once you are married, your house becomes your wife's as well),but it is not Ok for that women who has endured much abuse from your mother, on your behalf, to retaliate?

I get your point but knowing the kind of mother i had while she was alive, I dont see her doing any of those things you mention. Nah... though she is the very protective type for her children, mostly the men since she saw what a woman turned her first son into.

So, whatever stance I take, I have my reasons. HER MANNERS are her ONLY GUARANTEE in my house. That is me and how I have chosen to live my life.

I repeat again, I dont even have any problem with her throwing the food away. At least I could tolerate that BUT telling my mother to leave my house is NOT acceptable. I don't even care what you see me as. It does not mean I dont or wont love my wife. RESPECT is the watch word here and ther limits to certain things in life.

stillwater: I really don't get all these sentiments. My mama this, my mama that, she toiled for me bla bla. Who on earth was supposed to do that in the first place? Did you ask to be born?

I dont want to this to turn into something else please... I dont know what your mother did for you. I have my personal reasons why I wont take such from a woman.

It does not mean I wont love my wife. I just wont take it from her to insult my mum in my absence or presence because I can NEVER do the same to hers. I know how to respect my elders. EVEN when they offend me, I know what to say and what not say.

If what I say aches you, leave it at that... please.

coogar: if you act up then you are satan manifested in the flesh.....if you stand by and watch your mum get insulted by your wife then you are a "real man".

ha ha ha ha... you mean the opposite...

baby_123:

Especially the ones that marry men whose mums did alabaru to train them or toiled as a farm hand to send them to school. Which is very common with African's. Where exactly do you want mama to go if you marry a son from that kind of background? You also think you should get a free pass for disrespecting that kind of woman. Ok na. . Because you are auntie oni AC car, AC house and AC mouth. . Shes very lucky she didnt get assaulted. Most people, after God, it is their mothers o. Even my dad had great respect for my mum and taught us never to let anyone get away with insulting or disrespecting her. Same way he took his own mum. Dem no born my mama well to even talk back, not to talk of disrespecting his mum. She understood those boundaries and respected it. I wont take my husband disrespecting my mum, so i wont do the same.

When I was stressing why I cant allow my wife do such people didnt understand. This is my own case. For instance, I was not out after 9 months. I did not believe initially till I heard other people having saying they too are the same. Infact my last lecturer said he too is the same.

My mother raised me up without my father. when I grew to certain age, she narrated how she sold Ogogoro, yam etc just to feed I and my other siblings and at this point, she was traveling from one state to another. she later got blessed and had the opportunity of being a major supplier of building materials for the construction of Teslim Balogun stadium in the late 80s to early 90s before the project was later abandoned.

From there she tried has hands on other businesses, transpotation, publishing of note books etc. This are just the few that woman sacrificed for me and my siblings just for us to have a better life.

And how do you expect me to watch a woman abuse her in my presence? How? So unfortunate that she never lived long to eat the fruit of her labour.

blaise26.abj:
Na wa o. Una just dey make marriage fear person. Now i have added an important thing to lookout for in my search for a wife.

My mother is sacred. i think What most women know subconsciously is that their husbands chose them from the image they have of their mothers. So they turn it into a rivalry thing. But the truth is dat when u have ur own child, u will understand y MIL are so protective. Can u put a precious, luxurious car that u built and fabricated into the hands of an amateur without showing some concerns for the safety of the car? Mind you, MIL have manuals of that husband of yours. And with a flick of their fingers turn him against you. MILs know what to do to make their sons happy (look @ D way the OPs hubby was enjoying himself). Y not tap into that wealth of knowledge.

@op: Agreed, u want to understand and discover ur husband on your own, but please don't alienate ur MIL because she can really be of help in understanding ur hubby better.

If not that I am a fresh grad, I would have asked for a way to send you an EXPENSIVE xmaz gift... God knows I would have dont that. That was the exactly what I was trying to say. God bless you.

Uju... it is okay ooo. E don do. Besides remember that the OP has finally reconcile with he MIL.

Hardnut to crack I must say... You defended your end well... BUT mothers should be respected.

Everybody should chill.

Sorry to do this but from your link uju, where were you when the said millionaire was making his money?

https://www.nairaland.com/310952/wrong-want-marry-rich-man