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downcasted: Thanks everyone but I choose my friends wisely and I really
Do not want to_have anything to_do with her anymore, not because
I haven't gotten over her but because she's dangerous (more like on the_fetish side)

That's all I have to_share

Thanks everyone and God bless

Some girls are wicked... bro,we will smile in the end and they will hang their heads in shame when they see us.

ufotuko: i can finally say that what people are saying about this guy is true,his signals are fake,the market for the week has closed and i cannot even make profit and he kept asking me to be patient that it will soon hit it before the week runs out but it did not happen,thank GOD that i have not subscribed to his useless signal service.rubbish!!!!.

Bro, you need money, I need money, Bill Gates need money too but at different levels.

patience is very important bro.

Here is what I will advise that you do. get hold of the knowledge needed to trade forex and never depend on what comes from the GURUS... you will be fine. It may take time but you will get there.

Mynd_44: Mine is My resilience

I have that too. It's not something that I can really explain

Callotti: You simply overcome or you succumb.
Simple.

yeah...

ayobase: We now have 190 as the president
Acidosis as the Vice President.
2sexy as treasurers, more are still coming!

bro... Na so.

SpicyMimi: My dear, have read the post nd i felt so bad! Nd undastood y u dont wana be frds with her. I have been thru dis my self..infact mine ws somfn i wudnt pray for my enemy to xperience....bt at the end of d day nemesis caught upon him nd he felt bad for wt he made me went thru...nd i forgave him even bfore he apaologdzd! Y was it easy for me to do dat? D ansa is...i ve moved on nd ve stoppd lovn him nd i knew quite alright dat there is nothn he cud do to get me bak cuz d feelings i had for him wr gone! He tried all his best....bt it ws alwedi too late...bt d point here is i gat no problm being his frd cuz he means nothn to me enymre...so weda he is my frd or not..i just dont care! Now....as for u...i dnt think u ve gotten over her *justsayn* cuz if u ve, havn er bak as ur frd mite nt b a biggie, snc u ve moved on wid ur life! Bt i kinda sensed dat u r scared to ve her as ur frd cuz u mite fall for her again....hmmm...if dts d case den ignore her! Bt if u are truly sure dat u ve gottn ova her....then wts d biggie? Prove to her that u r now livn a better life wid or widout her, instead of havin a grudge against her for God knows how long. Serious u dont need all dis bitterness...life its too short for all this! Free ur heart, mind, soul nd body by forgvn her...u not forgvn her wil do u no good nor bad....so wt d heck? Rmber also dat u ve a God who is more strnger nd Greater than u are! You wont wnt Him to turn His bak on u either! Just being a frd.

Yes! you just pointed out one reason why I do contact mine if it comes to my mind but it is once in a blue moon. Well one bad thing about this is that she may want to start asking for money. My ex recently almost did that which i knew but shame couldnt allow her to say her mind because she flashed me and I called her to ask why she flashed and she muttered and said nothing. she flashed 3 times 2 days later and at that point,I knew she needed money. So, I didnt respond but a few days later when I called she said she is in PH which mean all that time she was flashing she wanted to ask me to give her money to return to Portharcourt from Asaba.

Well, I know I am quite strong enough not have given her even if she had been bold enough to ask. I would have still declined.

"Since eneke the bird has learnt to fly without perching, hunters have also learnt to shoot without missing" culled from Things Fall Apart.

SELFWORTH: I understand what you are saying but It's neither here or there. Why is he bothered at all if he no longer cares for her? Beats me!

let me tell you... I do it too and much worse that people on nairaland have gotten tired of me

Initially, people thought I still have feelings for her.. but the truth is that I dont.

In my own case, I even still call her but not because I still have anything for her but just to show off and make her see that when a man falls, he can still rise. But I wont be talking about anymore on nairaland.

In her mind she fèels I still love her or care about her but the truth is that I dont. I have my personal reasons for calling. It got to a point, she had to come see me when I was in school, even wanted to me to sleep with her. But I declined on two occasions. She probably think that she could use sex to lure me back but I made her to understand that not even her nake..d body would make me accept her.


Well she has even begged me in the Name of God to forgive her and this was a week and half ago.

the 9 points I gave above is just what I deduce from my experience with her and it will also be downcasted's experience too.

I am watching!

SELFWORTH: You clearly still care for her in my opinion. Deal with your feelings first before making any decisions. Love is a risk but can also be rewarding. If you truly loved her, you won't want to hurt her and do all the nasty things others are recommending.

All you need is closure and the best way to get it is by keeping busy and filling your life with things that you enjoy. Each day will be a struggle but in time you will become stronger for it. Concentrate in your own recovery before anything else.

That is what most people often think when you discuss such issue here but I can tell you that the fact that someone discuss a thing like this doesnt mean he still has feeling for her...

it is not something that I can really explain to make you understand but I do know that downcasted has no feeling for this girl.

Change is the only constant thing in life and as someone said in the previous page "I guess there is a thin line between love and hate" which translate to if someone once loved you, it does not me he cant hate you in the long run because it is just a thin line between the two state.

ferhyntorlah, you have spoken well. It is girls like this that make men do evil to them.

After my own personal experience, I finally realize the reason behind some of those horror stories we hear about boyfriend or husband pouring acid on their partner, beheading them etc.

I wouldnt say it is right to do such, but for the same reason when I see such, I ask do you know what the victim did?

Some girls are complete disgrace to womanhood!

The thing is that she will still come back to beg you.

The time it will happen does not really matter.

It will happen when she start to realise that:

1. good things dont come easy

2. that it is hard to find someone that really love her

3. Most guys just want to sleep with her and have no plans for her

4. Most guys have no plan for marriage talkless of discussing such issues

5. Guys dont give free money like she used to get from you

6. Age is no longer on her side

7. she has only been used over the years

8. guys no longer consider her as attractive and would prefer to date girls younger than her

9. Fun... is no really fun.

caseless: Whatever the case may be , i believe is coming from creator(GOD). And in any situation, i dont think i'm the only one there...no matter how low it is with me, i believe i'm highier than million others....so, i look at people behind me not people ahead of me or happier than me. By so doing, i have always found reason to thank GOD in any situation or outcome....this is how i'm able to overcome my inseperable twin brother called CHALLENGE all the years i hav spent on earth.

Thanks... yeah God has been good to me. But sometimes, once in awhile, I just feel depressed. It comes on and off. When it is on, nothing interest me any more...

Imagine looking around you and things aren't the way you want them to be. How do you stay positive or what do you do to stay positive, focus and keep fighting and running the race of life?

What were those things you did to over come life challenges?

Please share.

centje: for me it depends on what led to the break up and how much i love the ex. But i cant help an arrogant person.

Exactly! Mine was arrogant, greedy and selfish

^ ^ May God bless, may your enemies leave to see you above them and your days on earth be favoured with good health and prosperity.

I said the same thing. But you know most surprising thing, she will feel the remorse but not now.

By the time customers no show face again, she will feel it even more.

SimplySEA: If she can be foolish and shameless enough to come to ME, then i will....
I still remember some of her last words when i was down trying to convince her not to go: "people de by car, build house for people and yet them de break up.....!" if she can overcome those words, then i can be very helpful.....

Hmmm... brother, you are not alone.

centje: It depends...

cool... it depends jare. No mind wetin I write ooo. I give and still help. But when giving to a girl, i become very sensitive.

sleekdot: So tell me the testimony of several Nigerian men (common among Igbos) who pick a girl train her in school till she gets her Masters while the guy slaves away in Alaba, taking care of the girl and her whole family only for the girl to graduate amd tell him that he is too local for her, He doesnt have 6 packs, he is not working a corporate job,

Thats what a lot of younger generation on men have seen happen to their fathers and uncles and now which man do you think would be willing to tow the path of these men.

The same girls who ignored you while you were a struggling student for the richer No Future Ambition Club boy or worse still an Aristo is now chasing you all over town because you don graduate and have a good job while her club boy boyfriends have failed outta school or the Aristo has dumped her for a younger woman

So men forget all that lovey crap women would feed you.

True talk brother... I remember it happened to a man in my street back in the days... I was still very little but because of our closeness, I knew what happened. The guy train this girl from secondary school to UNI and in the end, the girl told him that she can't marry him. This one no be them say... real life story.

elikiba: Leave our culture and tradition out of it stick to the topic. thank you

didnt you see why I responded? Haba... btw, I aint Benin.

ThoniaSlim: Hmmmm You claim your over her and you'll ignore the message. Yet your so bothered by the message that you come on NL and open a thread solely to share this message? I wonder why!

He is just trying to show the world how stupid some girls are. You digg?

Willy7: Bros take am easy,try and read well before commenting,d Op never said shame,he meant rare appearance,meaning its not an everyday or common practice of d oba to be seen publicly,or visiting d state house.

And that is true. It is the tradition here in Benin that the Oba doesnt leave the palace. It is sometime said that "Oba no dey go transfer" meaning that the Oba does not leave his palace. and that is why you can never see the oba at functions organise for national cause wherein you see the gathering of other traditional rulers across the country.

However, there have been some changes because this present Oba does smile and you see his teeth. In the olden days, you dont see the teeth of the Oba because they usually use white cloth to cover their mouth while talking.

The Obas of Benin dont see their first male child and vise vesa. The child only comes home after the death of his father but while the child is away, he is acquainted with what is going in the palace and the tradition of his people.

naijathings: stop crying. why are you my follower on nairaland? keep sniffing my arss-hole.
you should have thought about it before saying shiet to me about karma.
tell me where to meet you so you can kill me as you said. mouth maker.
by the time you get there i will be shieting on your mama's grave.

Bring on... Is that all?

naijathings: i guess thats the question your mother asked your father the first time she saw his dikkk.

Is that the best you can offer?

I dey laugh! You call me small boy but despite everything you have ever said to me, have ever insulted your mother or father...? Interesting!

Go ahead... bring it on...

is that all you got?

naijathings: See as you carry your small boy problems come dey worry nairaland.
did she force you?
did she steal from you?
you bought food for her so you can have a chance to get your money back. It didnt work out and now you are crying.
you already know how she behaves from the start and you decided to play along so why you dey cry?.
she asked you for money when your mama died? and so what?
everytime you keep telling us that your mama is dead and looking for sympathy.
you told me you will look for me and kill me and i am still asking you to show me your mother's grave so i can go there
and wait for you.

NICE ONE BRO... FINE BOY!

ehijayltd: @2sexy
i sent u a mail!

I have just replied you.

[size=15pt]Sweden striker Zlatan Ibrahimovic last night scored probably the ‘greatest goal ever’ to round off a crushing victory over England in the first match at his national stadium.[/size]

talented footballer’s remarkable overhead kick came when he was 30 yards from goal. He sprang six feet into the air to arch the ball over the helpless goalkeeper and into the net.

The world’s biggest football names are already queuing up to praise the goal, with even England’s gobsmacked stars hailing his achievement as ‘extraordinary’ and ‘world class’ as Sweden beat England 4-2 in the first match at their national stadium.

Four-goal burst unites Swedes

Ibrahimovic’s four-goal haul against England has given Swedes a timely reminder of the benefits of their multi-cultural society at a time of increasing support for anti-immigration parties.

“Just call it the Zlatan Arena,” wrote newspaper Expressen, after the Swedish captain scored four times – including an incredible angled bicycle kick – that gave Sweden a 4-2 win over England in an international friendly at the new Friends Arena.

His goal spree left coach Roy Hodgson beaten for the first time in 90 minutes as England manager. His only other setback was losing to Italy in a penalty shootout in the quarter-finals of Euro 2012.

Ibra’s goals came from across his broad register of skills – a classic poacher’s effort to open the scoring, a second where he chested the ball to himself and volleyed home, a thundering free kick and the bicycle kick in stoppage time that completed the scoring.

The goals also came on the day a politician from the far-right Sweden Democrats was forced to resign after a film showed him using offensive language about immigrants.

Sweden’s national soccer team has a number of players of different ethnic backgrounds including Ibrahimovic, who is of Bosnian and Croatian descent.

“They probably weren’t happy with that, the idiots,” second-half substitute Pontus Wernbloom told newspaper Sportbladet, referring to the Sweden Democrats. “I hope Zlatan shut them up.”

His midfield partner Kim Kallstrom also spoke to Sportbladet of Ibrahimovic’s value as a role model.

“With foreign-born parents and certain problems in society, he can hopefully unify the country in a very good way. Football builds bridges. He’s a modern Swede who stands for the new Sweden.”

In a column headlined “Sweden’s Pride”, Sportbladet columnist Simon Bank wrote: “We were in Zlatan’s arena. We come from Zlatan’s country. And if ever we needed symbols and leaders, it is now.”

Polls show that support for the anti-immigration Sweden Democrats has risen from six percent at the last election to 11 percent this week.

The country’s newspapers highlighted Ibrahimovic’s goals in the domestic political context while also delighting in the reaction of their English counterparts.

The British media have been slow to warm to the giant from Malmo as he previously has struggled against their sides in the Champions League but that came to an end at the Friends Arena.

Sportbladet’s London correspondent said it had been “my greatest moment in 10 years with the English press pack, and I just have Mr. Ibrahimovic to thank for that.”

Ibrahimovic told a news conference afterwards that the breath-taking bicycle kick was the best of his 39 goals for the national side, but it was the first one, the first goal in the new stadium, that gave him the most pleasure.

“I liked the first goal more, because it made history in a new arena. It’s not the best goal I have scored, but its the one I have enjoyed the most.”

True to form, he didn’t mention politics at all during the post—match press conference, preferring to let his feet do his talking for him on the pitch.


http://www.channelstv.com/home/2012/11/15/is-this-the-greatest-goal-ever-scored/

EXCELLENCE Abia: that ex that you are turning down because of oone thing or the other, then turns you down when he/she ought to be your saviour? learn to be good no matter what. see nigeria is like this because of malice and unforgiving spirit. when you are good you are teaching others of its importance.

I could easily tolerate many things but I hardly tolerate it when someone take me for a ride. I hate the thought of being fooled.

That I describe above NEVER appreciated what I did for her. Where in this world, this present world will you easily find a guy dating you and who will give you money without demanding for 5ex? You think it is that easy? Like I said there are many things she did and I cant list them here.

But did she find a guy to give her money without sleepig with her? ha ha ha ha ha!

READ IT

2sexy: Ah... Left for me o o o... na na na na... e no go happen laye laye .

I would rather look for a beggar on the street to give it to.

No time!

Anyways, she has tried it a couple of times but I always know how to ignore the calls when they come in. That is the only time she ever calls me... when she needs something.

Una my people, wetin you go do?

Oya, lets hear it!

[size=20pt]THIS IS WHY I SAID I CANT GIVE HER MONEY[/size]

Honestly, I am a very generous person, and generous to a fault such some people tend to step on my toes and take me for a ride.

I did a lot of things for this girl but along the line, I realised she doesn't love me and only saw me as an ATM machine. I realised that if it were her she wouldnt help. There are many things she did but I will tell you just one.

In the beginning of the relationship it got to a point when she need money to supplement the one she had to pay school fees. She begged me to help her with money and that she will pay back. she said I should borrow. well, I didnt borrow but used my own money and sent it to her. I lied that it was my sister's money I borrowed. To be honest, I didnt plan to lie but I didnt know why I did it.

Several months later, she came to see me from school and we got on talking. I took her out to eat(my money ooo).I dont know what came over me and I just unconsciously asked her about the money. I said, you told me to help you with money to pay your school fees and up till now, you have never told me if you were going to refund the money, you never asked how I got the money. Honestly, it wasnt plan and I didnt really mean to collect the money back from her but may be God just wanted show me the kind of person she is.

Here is her response.... "so you mean I should give you money?" I said "yes, if I can give you money, why cant you give me?" Here is the bomb shell " Me I cant give you money ooo, why should I?" She was saying this while even eating the food I paid for. I didnt mention the phone I bought, the series of times I sent money to her at school...

What can you say about that?

Another incident that happened, we were making arrangement to lay my mum to rest and do you know what this girl did? Instead of discussing she would come for the burial the BA5tard was asking me to buy another phone, despite buying one for before... Guys just imagine someone you claim to love telling you that on that day. Put yourself in my shoes and think.

That is the only girl I can never give a dime!

I believe in giving... I take pleasure in giving so much that I have instances were total strangers give me things...

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Click on the link in my signature first to see things before we proceed.. yes I know you wella karlxavier

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My pc cant view the fonts... too small and I cant strain my eyes

General Garicks: If you dont have fear for any nation, it shouldnt be Isreal. I wonder where their wealth comes from. Nothing depletes the wealth of a Nation like fighting a war. Ask USA. Isreal is always fighting yet their economy keeps afloat.

it is all about planning.