Boss13:


I hope I don't piss you off by saying this - men who are in a committed relationship with a single mother have self esteem issues. Women are also aware of it too because out of the lots of better options, you considered them and their baggage. Men should understand the manipulative nature of women - they will stoop to conquer. Engaging in an emotional contest with women would only lead men to their grasp of women's control. You must rationalize women and their intentions at every phase of your life.

ubunja:
take your own advice and learn to respect me and my opinion

Joystark:

Keep mentioning me everywhere.

monex:

i have always taken my own advice and respected you.

You should do same to others

Jiang:
Actually I really don't mind dating single mothers, but they must not be a product of divorce. Assuming her husband passed away, no biggie I go marry her & take the kid as my own. of course the kid should not be above 10, be ready to call me daddy & carry my name as his surnames without.

emmaodet:


Ubunja, you are a God sent.
You always amaze me with your replys.
How i really wish i knew you 5-10 years ago.
80-90% of what you do say happened in my relationship.
I am the good/nice guy type but tbh, it really hurts.
How i wish i loved with my head and not my heart and also knowing that the reason why our wives married us is because of what we can provide or finance is really a bitter pill to swallow.
I have never seen a relationship or marriage were a man leaves a woman because she lost her job but have heard hundreds of where females leave, insults, disrespects a man because he lost his job.
It is a harsh world out there and really saddening.

pansophist:
This thread really exposed the hypocrisy in women. Somehow, these women think it is okay to saddle a promising man with a single mom, but refuse to acknowledge the opinion from the male contributors, that single moms and single dads fit themselves perfectly.

Also, dismissing all the challenges that a man will experience dating a single mom with statements like, ''if they love each other'' etc, like really? How does love prevent the baby daddy from showing up and causing trouble? how does love rewire her sexual imprint to her new partner? how will love make the child accept the young man as his father? how will love prevent his innocent actions, such as scolding the child not to be interpreted as hate? How about the risk associated with raising up a kid that will never love you, or see you as a father?

In a romantic context, ''Love'' is the most abused word and a go-to convenience for irresponsible people without any shred of accountability in them. If we turn the table around and ask these women if they will marry a divorced single dad with kids and broke, I can bet my life that they will all flee, and even if they said yes, its virtue-signaling. They won't allow their sons, or brothers to do the same, but somehow, wants to guilt-trip young ambitious men to be with one. The only exemption that I will not be against a young man going for a single mom is if the baby dad is deceased, and even at that, he must have been a responsible man prior to passing away. Her previous partner is the evidence to judge her standards and the life choice she made, which is crucial in determining if she is worthy of a ring.

No man should save any woman. If you mess up with your life, you should bear the consequences that come with it. Special thanks to Ubunja, boss13, franchasng and other contributors for the dose of common sense.

Boss13:


You are yet to understand women.

ubunja:
even Joseph the father of Jesus was a step father.

But to this day who is remembered more?
Mary the mother of Jesus
Or Joseph the step father of Jesus

okewumi:




Hmmmm.
I decided not to make comment but you unlock me at last

YOUNG MEN hmmmmm. Be wise. I love her, she loves me era is a joke and only meant for relationship and first 4years of marriage. When your marriage is above 10years, you will know women are one million times smarter than men. 99% of them value their kids. They only build wall around you because they don't want any alien to disturb their source of income which is you.
They are tactical to cut-off friends, ladies, neighbors, family members, even your parent if you are not wise

.
Lastly if the single mum husband is dead, that is a different ball game but if the man is still alive, just have it mind that whenever the child is above 12years and mature, your story will get to Quota or nairaland

Work hard,
Pray to God for his direction,
Use your sense always

okewumi:




Hmmmm.
I decided not to make comment but you unlock me at last

YOUNG MEN hmmmmm. Be wise. I love her, she loves me era is a joke and only meant for relationship and first 4years of marriage. When your marriage is above 10years, you will know women are one million times smarter than men. 99% of them value their kids. They only build wall around you because they don't want any alien to disturb their source of income which is you.
They are tactical to cut-off friends, ladies, neighbors, family members, even your parent if you are not wise

.
Lastly if the single mum husband is dead, that is a different ball game but if the man is still alive, just have it mind that whenever the child is above 12years and mature, your story will get to Quota or nairaland

Work hard,
Pray to God for his direction,
Use your sense always

Chukapage:
his father didn't care because he is his "Father" not step father if my wife putting me second will help raise my kids in a healthy then I'm fine because am their father not step father and my responsibility is to take care of them even if I have to come second in their mothers life what men don't want is coming second for another man's baggage.

PoliteActivist:


But he is remembered at all. If he wasn't married to Mary no one would know he even existed like trillions of others. So also with these presidents

ubunja:

Until a man realises this truth and internalize it at the core of his soul, he's still not ready to marry.

BlueAir:
Who wants old toys to new ones

Angel246:
Keep quiet! You are so bad hearted.

PUSSYWHORE:
I got my first ban on nairaland since 3years just because i antagonised and refused to die for lady i don't know, you remember that thread?

ubunja:
I feel bad I don't remember it. Can you put up the link?

amuwo1980:
All the ladies saying nothing wrong with dating and marrying a single mother will never support their brothers talk less of their own sons to marry one, dont belive whatever u hear from women hook,line and sink

Kazeemakeem:




For me single mum are the best,they must have learn from past experience

PUSSYWHORE:


https://www.nairaland.com/5359851/3-men-die-accident-trying/2#81275948

Kazeemakeem:




For me single mum are the best,they must have learn from past experience

zebszebs:


They arent, they are just not interested in shouldering another mans responsibility in the name of love.
Only a mad man does that.

ubunja:
you are just Mr Clean Up.

A woman screws up her life and you come running with that salary and that house and you save her. Smh

Imagine how blessed it would have been to find a chaste virgin who has kept herself pure in this corrupt world and then reward her with that lifestyle.

But because you've such low standards and you don't believe you deserve the best you go find a woman whom you don't even know how she got pregnant, and you reward her.

*spits*

Respect Yourself.

akbahbah:



Guy I'm sorry for you and your naivety. I pray you don't learn in hard way. Many virgins are even worst in marriage than many single mothers who have retraced their steps. If you like, call it loss of self esteem to marry a single mother. Guy go live your life as you want. Experience is the greatest teacher.