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Ograke:
Is he wretched-looking or chronically ill?

He strikes me as someone with a very deadly disease.

He could slump and die anytime so he's got my seat!

Others can't die if they're standing.

Zombie.

Eberex:
He's not a zombie, just a wretched looking man

^^^
Na people like this zombie dey chop first for horror film..

Adeyemi said she was a victim of bad marriage, advising parents to always investigate on the kind of man their daughters intended to marry

[size=28pt]Arranged marriage is the best marriage! [/size]

This is what happens when a group struggles to maintain relevance. They start chasing after inconsequentials.

Is it not obvious yet that feminism has outlived it's usefulness at least in the western world, or at the very least it's members require some sort of retreat or introspection into what the feminist movement should really be about? So my peeing while standing is now oppressive to women?

Isn't it in this same vein that feminists will refuse to admit that men are naturally stronger, faster and more logical than women ? While women are more caring, nurturing and homely than men? Why delude yourself into hating your own God-given gender so much?

Stillfire:
There was nothing to address in the jargon you wrote. All relevant discussion had already taken place, refer to previous posts. Call me when you make logical statements on this thread.
There's nothing wrong with my high soprano. I can make millions from my lovely voice! Try harder!

Try harder how?
No one is trying to insult you
You just fly of at a tangent when u have nothing reasonable to say.
Suit yourself.

NEW YORK CITY- Members of the feminist group "Radical Feminists of America" performed a series of orchestrated raids in public buildings, smashing urinals with sledgehammers at random locations in New York City.

The group seems to have targeted buildings that have not yet installed gender-neutral restrooms. Witnesses say they heard loud "animal-like screeching" and the sounds of shattered porcelain as the activists battered the urinals and spray-painted "End Sadomasochism NOW" on the walls.


An outspoken member of the feminist organization who wished to be addressed as "big red" , left a letter at one of the scenes:



"We the women of America will no longer tolerate male bigotry, especially through the method of genderizing restrooms, just like they had colorized restrooms during the first half of the twentieth century. Men need to know that their reign in this world is OVER and we will show no mercy towards our enemy. These private rooms with urinals, which we call 'oppression rooms,' are nothing more than a pedestal that men have created to worship their phallic tools of hate and destruction. These shrines to men's egos must be destroyed if we are going to move beyond Stone Age male chauvinism!"



The group has also taken to the social media, urging women around the globe to pick up a sledgehammer and "Swing for Justice" in their own hometowns and cities.

Shortly after the announcement on their Twitter feed, videos of raids taking place as far as San Francisco, California were being uploaded onto their account.

"Big Red" pleaded that the women of America should all be doing their part to end a corrupt and unjust system created by an atmosphere of fear and intimidation, as well as the instilling of false man-made inferiority in women.

http://thepeoplescube.com/peoples-blog/feminist-group-breaks-urinals-as-a-symbol-of-male-chauvinism-t16210.html

FrancisTony:
Silly logics.

Osama bin laden was an alpha husband--atleast, his religious view says so. Same as all the islamic terrorists e.g ISIS, Al-queda, Bokoharam.

Same as Christian terrorists that killed in dark ages and still doing in some countries.

wtf has this got to do with anything we have been discussing?

Stillfire:
Boohooo! Jealousy!



This is so weak.
Do anyone of you pose as a threat to me? Rotflmao. One of my opening statements on this thread was that all illogical statements will be crushed. And crushed will it be.
God's original intention was not to make you rule over the woman. I hope you can sleep well at night knowing this revelation, that you were made EQUAL to a women. Rotflmao!

You ranted.
You didn't address my post.
You didnt address the valid interpretation of the NLT which is read by countless millions around the world.
You jumped over all that and gave your own unendorsed and unfounded opinion(and in a high soprano voice i would imagine)
That is the height of illogicality.
But I forgive you. It is not gentlemanly to continue arguing with you.
That would make me effeminate

coogar:
that was how that homicidal akolade arowolo started too. legend has it that he was a fantastic cook. a beta-type husband who would stop at nothing to do every house chore until.........

until he SNAPPED

https://www.skyladawncameron.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/go-crazy-o.gif

BlackLeopard:
I haven't viewed it that way either, yet how we as individuals view something doesn't change the notion in majority group of anywhere.

I didn't view it that way, and you didn't view it that way either. So where is this phantom majority group coming from?

Those laws were long overdue. It's a shame they weren't there sooner, that it had to be this long to even get laws in effect guaranteeing basic human rights. So your statement 'it's the men who enacted the original laws' could surely be viewed as men doing a favor of sorts to women... but if you look at the larger scope, guaranteeing any minority group basic rights they have as fellow PEOPLE, it's really not doing any sort of a favor, but very belated apology after years of that other group's inmesurable suffering.

This is your interpretation. And i must say it is very wrongly twisted. If this is how you reason then it is no wonder that men can never do anything right in your eyes.
Kind of reminds me of someone here actually.
Em, pardon me, i don't mean to assume, but you are a man right?
Or is this an alternate moniker?

But look at the next many women who don't for instance even hear of having any rights, who whole their lives just hear to suck it up, it could have been worse somewhere. That sort of logic doesn't get us anywhere; it's always worse somewhere. I thought the goal is getting be better

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In every society there will always be the haves and have-nots, the fortunate and less unfortunate. there will always be women whose husbands are uncaring monsters and women whose husbands are loving caregivers. Surely you don't believe that all women living in male dominated societies are unhappy and 'sucking it up'?

And what desperate people do to get their voices heard is I don't think up for judgment of those not sharing that despair. It's as simple as that. It's not hypocritical to require respect however (preferably legally) available.

And thus you effectively throw responsibility out the window. Its not their fault the poor fragile women, they are looking for whatever means to be heard, poor fragile women.
please.

A woman had more respect then than they do now. The modern feminist woman puts herself first before family, she puts herself first before the children, she puts herself first before anything else. She knows nothing about honor and self-sacrifice. She barely respects herself as evidenced by her skimpily clad outfit and her freedom to bare all her honourable assets in the name of modern fashion. She objectifies herself and calls it freedom of expression. The modern feminist woman is a downright hypocrite and deserves none of my respect.(She can start earning it by starting a protest to abolish bride-price. Now that would be something to respect )

Neither. My first thought would be there's a naked person, who is walking, and depending the style of the walk and ocassion, it's either not my business, or my business to ask that person if they don't need an assistance, because a naked person in the middle of a street when it isn't a march specifically meant for that is surely experiencing a mental distress they better get addressed, and is requiring a medical attention.



The hurt party. The slapped person.

Individual. I can't respond to that with generic idea, there's multiple men who don't have that muscle mass and women who do.


Ditto, it's still individual.

The interpretation of those signs as masculine x feminine, is. We could well be simply talking of X trait, as required for Y activity, or as suitable Z activity instead of something else. We could be talking about bodies in a different way than label gender and the informational value woulda be the same, if not greater.

blackleopard, I hereby re-christian thee the Artful Dodger

I haven't - thank you for the movie recommendation and I will ammend that as soon as possible, it certainly sounds as an interesting movie to watch.

It is. It showcases the primitive reactionary role play of the male and female gender of man in response to survival situations. When push comes to shove, the men will always protect the women and the women will never speak up for gender equality at such a time.

However, that some people are inclined to do this or that role, still doesn't speak about biological determinism, more shared cultural values passed through genetically, if something, but the beginning of that division was still cultural, somewhere along the way, and then deciding it works out just well, let's do it repeatedly.

Wait
Cultural values can be passed genetically?

I officially give up!

You're entitled to your views, but you're still owing fellow people a basic respect, and a way for them to not feel threatened around you. Which spreading hate everywhere one goes, indeed isn't. This isn't just about being politically correct. This isn't about rhetorics. This is about lived feeling of safety. About being a decent person to fellow people. You don't have to adapt the same mindset, values, lifestyles. But to restrict people's right to live their lives in peace, with who they are happy with? Yeah, I do see an issue with that.

i dont spread hate. i am a male and if i see a male and a female in trouble i will always help the female first. I am not ashamed to say it(unlike you who couldn't be honest with your answers) it is in my nature, it is the right thing to do. I don't open the door for girls because they are ladies, I open the door because I am a gentleman. THAT is my mindset, my value, my lifestyle.
And when I see a man behaving less than himself it is completely within my rights to lift him up and make him all he can be. There are too many 'manginas' in the world already and they will grow up to become effeminate fathers who cannot instill courage and discipline into their sons when those sons need it the most, thus giving rise to even more effeminate men who will soon start looking up to the women to defend them. And that my dear, will be a travesty to nature.

cc francistony, the last paragraph is for you.

Stillfire:
Rubbish! In your spare time, go and shoot those female pastors running churches for daring to preach, you hear.
The need for superiority in you men is a devilish attitude that christianity needs to deal with.
If God's original intention was to create hierarchy on earth, why then did He make this a curse to the woman

Your desire will be for your husband,
and he will rule over you.

I prefer the NLT version:
Then he said to the woman, "I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy, and in pain you will give birth. And you will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you."

Fighting for equality can be a depressing sport at times. No matter how many women advance to positions of power, and in spite of all those progressive action movies out there to prove that scantily-clad blondes can karate chop and headbutt just as well as the men, it is still much pretty obvious that the female is the gentler and more fragile of the species.

The need for superiority in you men is a devilish attitude that christianity needs to deal with.

And all i see in this statement is overwhelming jealously for the male species. "the need for superiority"? loooool! My dear, it is your need to not appear inferior that makes you see any man that approaches you as a threat. Truth be told, you will only settle down when you outgrow this insecure attitude.


Twist it anyhow you want, God (Omnipotent, Omniscient) created Eve as an afterthought. It might sting, but there it is. And creation has not rested since.

Am back!
I see you guys are still at it
Wait make I go catch-up

FrancisTony:
I'm not towing the line of literature. So, there's no need surpassing her because she's not above me either.

Oh please, I don't have a brother either. Stop nurturing any nasty thoughts.
By the way, i'm not antagonizing men. Family section men hypocrisy irks me.

You'll like "Purple Hibiscus" and "Things around your neck" because they are secondary school novels.

Single child!!!!!! I thought as much, grandma's pet eh?

All family section men hypocrisy? All?? Show me a post where you supported a man, any man's view, on this forum.

Yes, that must be the reason why I like them, the others are long, boring and worst of all without pictures and send me to sleep fasting than my sleeping pills

BlackLeopard:
The only issue with this: I wasn't in fact speaking about myself. What I believe or don't believe; what I spoke of was societal notion of the word effeminate and how it's used in colloquial use.

I am a member of society and I have never viewed the word like you view it. go figure.

There is a dictionary definition for everything, yet the practical use (and common idea when certain words are spoken) still need to be taken into account when discussing this. Though I'm thankful you've provided with what definition of effeminate you're operating, that can certainly help us reach a common ground.

I like this statement. It is very true also for feminists and the feminist movement. The dictionary meaning is so not at par with the behavior of so called feminists of today. Hence the bitterness and angst towards them.
They think men don't want them to be empowered and yet they forget that it was the men that pushed the first wave and enacted laws that empowered women in the first place. You see a poster coming here to say that it was because of feminism she got an education meanwhile her father never heard the word but sent her to school anyway and her mother was never uneducated. Their sensationalism and hypocrisy stinks to high heavens and is beyond irritating.

And again as stated above - I wasn't speaking about my beliefs or lack of. More the language and associations as I've observed them in use. Which of course would differ from codified version as outlined by a dictionary.

ok.

I beg to differ. There's nothing as biologically determined nature of men, women, or other people. How we perceive manhood and womanhood is a social construct, it's not nature that places these limitations, but societies, and societies raised with a particular doctrinal (and outdated) biology view (yes, I just called Darwin outdated.). Findings in other sciences past half a century have found actually biologically, in hormonal structure, in brain structure, in chromosomes, we're very alike, and the differences are rather fluid. Ditto appropriate behavior for male and female roles - that's all a question of social conditioning, more than hard wired predetermined traits.

Pardon my french, but if you see a naked person walking down the road with a dick swinging between the legs, what will be your first assumption? Male or female?

A madman slaps a woman and a madwoman slaps a man, who are you going to assist first?

Who has a higher muscle mass?

Who has higher testosterone and aggression levels?

Are all these socially conditioned as well?

Have you watched the movie "The Blue Lagoon"?
Two children stranded on an island in the middle of the ocean, one male, one female. Total abscence of the guidance or restrictions of society. Both grew to adolescence and eventually adulthood together. The boy naturally took on the leadership and protection and hunter role. The girl naturally took on the carer, nurturer and home-maker role.

It is movements like feminism and gayism that is forcing us through societal, legal and political pressures to perceive them as normal when we all quite clearly know they are not. If i ask if you are gay you will deny it yet in a bid to be politically correct you will immediately add that you see nothing wrong in it and they (not you) are free to express themselves however they see fit. Anyone who makes an anti-feminist statement is called a misogynist and if he holds public office he/she is called upon to publicly apologise or possibly risk not being re-elected. It goes on and on.


Man is the head.
Woman his helper.
Child their responsibility.
Society their legacy.
End of story.

FrancisTony:
I won't mind worshipping her than dumbtards.
I've got no sister and that's the love I need to show women.

Meanwhile, I'm not her fan freak because she's a feminist.

I love her writings and yes! We hail from the same state.

In Osho's voice, "Go and ......"

Instead of worshiping her why not try to surpass her, how about that?

Awwwww, no sister and raised by grandma (I find nothing wrong with this by the way, but it does shed some light on your mannerisms). But you can support women without being so blatantly antagonistic towards men, don't you think?

Personally I think after purple hibiscus the rest of her novels were blah. But thats just my opinion.

you know once you start raising hairs it means our discussion will soon be over...

BlackLeopard:
Yes because the context to the 'effeminate' used against men is to denote 'lacking in some area important for men', masculinity. It implies women are weaker, or less worthy, by default state. That a man who even remotely has feminine characteristics, is a bad man, because it's bad to be a womanly man.

Cool logic.
Misplaced, but cool.

I dont believe men and women are equal. Never have. No apologies.
It doesn't make women "less worthy" as you so erroneously believe.

Your interpretation of "effeminate' is very wrong. In fact I think this is where your irksomeness comes from.

Effeminate, according to Webster's dictionary, means having or showing qualities that are considered more suited to women than to men.

If you on your own now feel that the qualities displayed by women are "weaker", or "less worthy", that's your problem.


p.s
The average woman is physically weaker than the average man. Fact.
Yet with her beauty alone she sent nations of men to war and ultimately to their deaths.
there is nothing wrong in a woman being effeminate, it is their nature.
There is everything wrong in a man being effeminate, it is against his nature.

FrancisTony:
Balderdash!
I have got many men and women around me.
No need to believe any hearsay.

em...meaning you are too stubborn to listen to any facts?

Like Bukatyne asked you, why do men get riled and darn emotional finding out that their couple cheat meanwhile women handle it maturedly? You stylishly ignored.

what?
how can even you believe this statement? Women handle it maturely and everyday we see threads and pity parties and screenshots and pics of how "he cheated on me?"

Leave my bukatyne out of this, I know how i respond to her. It's you we're talking about here.

Angelo is a male name in greek translating to Angel. Mtcheew

Now this part of you i admire. Stubbornly holding on to your falacies despite irrefutable proof that you are wrong
Kindly google up "angelos, greek meaning" and origins of the word "angel"
I know you will do it and appreciate it even if you don't admit it here

You might wanna downloading and listen to this Voice Note shout out.

https://www.nairaland.com/2242683/romancelanders-voice-note-thread-2015/60#32646519

Thanks Didn't open it but i appreciate it all the same

BlackLeopard:
We're on the internet, that goes for granted.

With using femininity as an insult, even if against other men and not women? You're insulting every woman out there.

Wait, let me understand your last statement well. By calling francistony effeminate, I have insulted women?



See Francis? Even the women don't want to be associated with u

FrancisTony:
Exactly! Any man that doesn't agree with them is effiminate.
Funny how some people equate effiminate men to gays and masculine women to lesbianism.

It might interest them to know that some gay men are chauvinistic and misogynist going by some articles/research I have read online.

Smh for emotional family section men.

blackleopard doesnt sound effeminate, yet he is pro-feminism.
study his moniker for pete's sake.

You on the other hand ooooze feminity, not even feminism sef.
and it has nothing to do with supporting the feminist cause.
you even have chimamanda as your dp, you literally worship the air she breathes. I bet you would faint if she gave you a call.
I have her number, do you want it?

BlackLeopard:
All women behave the same, didn't you know. He's expert on women behavior. I guess maybe from listening to laments of all those he insulted. But I wouldn't know, not knowing him and all.

No you don't know me.
Examples of women I have insulted pls.

FrancisTony:
Says who? You!

Says God almighty himself.

Or if you can't stomach that;
Says millions of years of evolution.

Or better yet;
Says Science.

Take your pick.

Messenger of who? GOD? And that equals Angel.
Get over yourself.

Angelos is ancient greek for "messenger", not "male". Accept correction pls.

Behave? Sound like a woman? Online?

*Interesting* It's good to know that we can now see how someone behaves and sound like a woman online.

You know I'm not the only one that has pointed this out to you.
Honestly i think even them ladies should be getting tired of your effeminate behaviour. I could be wrong, but i doubt it.

FrancisTony:
1) Men and Women are equal.
Mary is a theotokos meaning "Mother of God"

Men and women are not equal.
Physically
Emotionally
Mentally
Spiritually.

Not the same at all.
It doesn't make any of the sexes inferior.
Just different.


What has Mary got to do with this?

Luke1:43
Why am I so favoured that the mother of my lord should come and visit me.

2) She's the new Eve that liberated women from mental slavery.

She is the vessel though which God became flesh. she was a fulfillment of a prophecy and is forever revered for that. Anything else you wrote up there is false. Women are not under any form of mental slavery. But you already knew that.

3) Angelo is a greek word for an Angel meaning "Male"

It's angelos, and the greek interpretation is "messenger". Stop breeding false information.

Luke1:28 Hail Mary full of grace the Lord is with you - Angel Gabriel saluted her.

I'm sure 21st century man would tag Angel Gabriel an effiminate.

Yes Angel Gabriel saluted her. She was imbued with freewill and yet she chose to take on the task of bringing the Son of God to the world for the salvation of all mankind. She would encounter sorrow, ridicule and pain. She chose to do all this and in admiration the angel hailed her and called her blessed.

Nothing effeminate about that.


You on the other hand sound and behave like a woman.

Stillfire:
Nope. I hope I am talking to a Christian, otherwise do not waste my time. You are called to live with such qualities on earth as well as in heaven.
Where did I accept hierarchy on earth?
Hierarchy was never the original plan of God. It was as a result of a curse.

Even in heaven there is heirarchy.
God is not equal with his angels. he comes first and His Word is Law.
Then there are the cherubim and seraphim, higher angels that stand in the holy of holies
then there are the principalities and powers in high places
then we have arch angels, guardian angels, messenger angels, etc.

Heirarchy.

We have had this discussion before. Bible scholars say Paul mediated over various matters that may arise in each church and he set guidelines for each church to follow. The book of corithinans, is actually the book for the church in corinthians. If the women of corinth were troublesome, it doesn't mean women in Antioch were. That was the way he settled the matter for the people of corinth. That is why Christianity permits both men and women to preach.

Preach to the public you mean, right? Not in the church.

BABE3:
If the main message of Christ is love your neighbor as yourself, what makes Christianity so special then? Just asking.

Laozi, Buddha, Confucius, even Mohammed preached "love" Before any of them, there was love.
So, what's the deal ?

None of them was the Son of God.

Vickybee:
Was devil himself not a man who once had the same thought?

And that thought led to his downfall. The same rebellious thoughts women have nowadays concerning marriage. The truth is, if it was all about fairness and equal rights, feminism wouldn't have been all bad. But now y'all want to usurp the man, usurp his God-given (nature-given) right to rule. This is where the problem lies. Most feminists come off as if they hate feminist and anything that makes them womanly. They want to be men. They want to sit with their legs apart. And that's not just their nature. They rebel against their very innate make-up, the thing that makes them female. They are in constant rebellion with themselves all the days of their lives. And that is what makes them sad.

Lezz:
The devil also said " you will be like God, knowing evil from good. Your eyes shall be opened" Eve didn't only fall for the sweet voice modern women still fall for, she actually was an usurper who wished to out grow her husband by being equal to God

This is rhema right here. I never thought of it like that before. This is very deep.

crackhaus:
That article is a very poor attempt at sounding intellectual, very poor - the best way to misinterpret the scriptures is to try applying logic in its interpretation, and that is what the writer did.

A non-christian (someone not filled with/led by the holy spirit) has no business trying to explain Bible accounts, at best what he/she resorts to is conjectures and baseless rhetorics.

Eve was deceived into eating of the forbidden fruit by Satan because she was the one more likely to give in easily, that's the kind of weakness being alluded to when a woman is called a weaker vessel.
That conjecture about Adam abandoning his home thus leaving Eve at the mercy of Satan to be deceived, is just comical...how anyone could imply that is beyond me - it's a large garden, how possible is it that they be together every single time?

Between Adam and Eve, Satan knew which could be easily swayed by words and promises of good things... which till this day is true - women are so easily sold a dream and keep falling for the tactics of men who just want to get into their pants.
Eve was moved by the promise of having more wisdom, the allure of being more than she was - this is why Satan picked her. Adam couldn't have been swayed by such things because he already had charge over everything that was created, an appointment God bestowed on him...so it woulda been hard for Satan to have convinced him that eating the forbidden fruit could give him more.

Now the article also says that because Adam was deceived by Eve (another human), that makes him weaker - this is another conjecture based on layman interpretation.
The reason Satan chose Eve was because he knew that no matter how great this new man (God's priciest creation) was, his weakness was the woman by his side.

Adam did not get deceived by Eve into eating of the fruit because he was weaker than her, but because of the love he had for her - this is still man's greatest weakness today.
Woe unto that man that can easily be manipulated by the love he has for a woman.

The article also said Eve argued with Satan, I don't know where the writer got that from...definitely not the same Bible and concordances I have read.

I also don't know where he read that Adam shifted blame to the woman.
God asked them why they were hiding, and Adam replied that they saw that they were naked.
God knowing why, then asked if they had eaten of the tree...to which Adam replied that the woman gave him to eat.
If this is what the writer calls passing blame, then why not also refer to Eve as shifting blame when she was asked the same question?
Didn't she also answer when asked that it was the serpent that made (beguiled) her to eat of the fruit?

The exact word used in the King James's Version is beguiled.
Beguile in modern English means to be charmed or enchanted... In our naija vocabulary, it means to toast, chyke, or woo.
This is what Satan did to Eve, and is something that women still fall for till this day - be charming, enchanting, and appeal to a woman's vanity and watch her fall miserably for you.
Satan could never have succeeded in beguiling Adam.

Consequently, Adam trusted and loved this woman a little too much and didn't feel the need to resist, and this was his downfall...as is the downfall of many great men till this day.



Bro, there are too many things wrong with that article... I would have loved to tear it apart bit by bit, but my fingers ache right now.

Bro, I duff my hat. Excellent post.

FrancisTony:
1) I'm not effiminate. You can believe whatever you want.

Yes you are dude, though i don't necessarily think its a bad thing. i think its kinda cute.

Oh Lord! Who gave this dolt notion that i'm gay?

Only Eve was created from the rib of Adam. Other people both men and women of today, were formed from male sperm and female egg.
Meanwhile, Adam and Eve fell and shouldn't be used as an example here - Jesus is the new Adam and Mary is the new Eve.

.

Meanwhile, bible has many irregularities, don't think I concur with all passage(s).
I'm more of a theist who believe in some portions of the bible and Jesus.

Oh? Thought you were declaring your affiliation with deism not so long ago. See why i said you still need some growing up to do?

Yahweh was a misogyny in the old testament.

You are strongly advised not to use the name of the Lord your God in vain. At least not until you stop believing in him completely.

babyosisi:
You already established he is physically abusive she may also has post partum depression in addition
He should stop impregnating her

Or she might just be manic-depressive and the man is suffering from generalised anxiety stress disorder following her incessant sudden escapades from the house.

babyosisi:
How do you know that was the first time,do you live with them?
Possibly beating child to stupor,you are now adding pepper
For a woman to leave a suckling child to flee,something is seriously wrong in the marriage
He should tell the truth to you guys so you can advice him well

Imagine beating her for not cooking
Do you know the reason she didn't cook might have been because of a previous beating
He won't tell you that

You know, I'm going to stop quoting you in a minute...
First because you keep editing your original posts.
secondly because you are so adamant in your biased insinuations that arguing with you is pointless.

he came back from a renovational house that he is surpervising about 8pm and ask her to gave him garri she said that there is no soap he kept silent and sent there house boy to buy psoup in which he then boiled rice and still ask her to come and eat she refuse. Then her 3yr duaghter and his son where crying he ask her to prepare goldenmorn for them which she did and call her duaghter to come and eat she refused that that was when he said to her, "u see? when your husband talks to u u dnt listen that nor see ur children are doing the same thing to u, he said that she replied husband my foot that was when he jokingly tell his 3 yr gurl to spank her which she did and that she did not only beat her once and then slap him and carry bottel that was when he lose and gave her a man slap

What happened was that he came home around 8pm, said he hadn't eaten all day and asked for eba. she said there is no soup. He didnt rush at her to beat her like you would have us believe, instead he called the houseboy/maiguard to go and buy peppersoup. HE THEN WENT INTO THE KITCHEN TO BOIL RICE BY HIMSELF and then asked her to come and eat, she refused.

the kids started crying, (they were hungry too) and he told her to prepare golden morn for them which she did but when she asked them to come and eat they refused.(afraid of her?)
So the man teased her that when he talks to her she doesnt listen, that this is what the children are copying. She replied "husband my foot".
he then told the daughter to spank her for being rude and when the girl did she retaliated by beating the girl and slapping him. it was when she threathened him with a bottle that he slapped her hard. The next day she was gone and i found him carrying the children looking for what kind of artificial feeds to give the baby. I am not going to disclose any more.

I am not saying the man is spotless but you should have seen him that day carrying the children up and down without an inkling what to do for the weeping baby. That was a major no-no for me and honestly left to me that woman will NOT return. If she can run and leave her suckling baby alone and defenseless then she does not deserve to be a mother. But he went abegging and apologising and finally the parents agreed they knew where she was and sent her back (or she came of her own accord, i cant remember for sure).

babyosisi, even if she comes to this thread and confirms she is truly the couple i have in mind, then i want to ask her why run and leave your baby at the hands of a 'poverty-stricken madman'?

Am off to bed jo.

babyosisi:
How do you know that was the first time,do you live with them?
Possibly beating child to stupor,you are now adding pepper


For a woman to leave a suckling child to flee,something is seriously wrong in the marriage
He should tell the truth to you guys so you can advice him well

Of course, the baby was too heavy for her to carry so she locked it up in the house and fled before the man came home, not minding what can happen to the child as she left! What a poor defenseless victim! What a caring mother to leave her baby wailing in the house for the man to come and find.

You don't know this couple, I do. Try and read the opening post with unbiased spectacles and then read my post and put two and two together. The man is not always the monster as you are so adamant to believe.

babyosisi:
The man slaps her you wonder why she runs away?
I wonder why she keeps going back

You won't see where she has been running away since and it was on the last occassion after possibly beating her child to stupor and not cooking food for the family before he slapped her o, madam feminist and champion of the slapped. At least i tabled both sides of the story and didnt try to paint the man a saint though i know the woman has not been trying at all. Am sure you have no qualms with her leaving her suckling child to run away from the house.

Abeg shift jo.