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Nice write-up!

Sadly I read this write-up thru my smartphone
Turning off my phone now

kreamidiva:
One word:

5minsmadness.

You know... YOU'RE RIGHT!

Concerning lesbianism and homosexuality, we are just flowing with modern times and being polite with these people.

The truth is that same-sex relationship is an abnormality and a disease.

daveyjay:
Nairalanders, let's look into this, what do we think is really the cause of marital infidelities in marriaqes!


Your opinions, feelinqs and out pours are welcome

One word :

DISSATISFACTION.

The Kids are not alright: A lesbian's daughter speaks out.

Male and female biology each provide something every child needs—together.
- Brandi Walton

Dear LGBT Community,

I am not your daughter. I never carried a flag in one of your gay pride parades. I have never written a letter on your behalf to a congressman or anyone else, and I have never felt the need to make people accept the fact I am the daughter of a lesbian. Perhaps it’s because she never felt the need to force people to accept her for being one.

No, I would never align myself to a community as intolerant and self-absorbed as the LGBT community, a community that demands tolerance with fervor and passion, yet does not give it in return, even to its own members at times. In fact, this community attacks anyone who does not agree with them, no matter how lovingly any difference of opinion is expressed.

I myself am a product of the Lesbian Revolution of the 1980s. My mother always knew she liked girls, but tried hard to be a good, straight, southern Baptist girl. When I was a year old, she left my dad for another man, whom we lived with until I was somewhere around four years old. After the divorce, she told my father to leave, which he did, and in his own words, “I did because I knew I couldn’t fight the entire family to see you.” I cannot remember the man she left him for very well, but I can remember being happy living with him. It did not last, however, and when she left him, she left him for a woman.


Silencing People about Homosexuality Won’t Change What Kids Can See

I knew from a young age that living with two women was not natural. I could especially see it in the homes of my friends who had a mom and a dad. I spent as much time with those friends as I possibly could. I yearned for the affection that my friends received from their dads. I wanted to know what it was like to be held and cherished by a man, what it was like to live with one from day to day.


As far as I was concerned, I already had one mother; I did not need another. My dream was that my mother would decide she wanted to be with men again, but obviously that dream did not come true. My grandfathers and uncles did the best they could when it came to spending time with me and doing all the daddy-daughter stuff, but it was not the same as having a full-time father, and I knew it. It always felt secondhand.

Growing up without the presence of a man in my home damaged me personally. All I wanted from the time I was a little girl was a normal family. When I graduated high school, my thoughts were not entirely where they needed to be. While my friends were excited about college, a piece of me was missing, and I knew I would never feel whole until I found it



I had a desire unlike any other to create my own family and have stability, and this led to two extremely unhealthy relationships. Luckily, I found my way out of both, but after being hurt and used so badly, I decided happiness just was not meant for me. Shortly afterwards, I met my husband, and everything clicked. For the first time, I felt alive and complete. Having children and seeing a man parent a child for the first time was beautiful and awe-inspiring. It only reinforced my belief that a child needs a mother and a father, and that same-sex parenting and single parenting are far inferior to heterosexual parenting when done correctly

As an adult, I have tried to talk to my mom about how difficult my life was, but she simply cannot relate because she was raised by a mom and a dad.

http://thefederalist.com/2015/04/21/the-kids-are-not-alright-a-lesbians-daughter-speaks-out/

Daughter of Lesbians: ‘The Kids Are Not Alright’

The Supreme Court is hearing cases Tuesday that could determine if same-sex marriage becomes the law of the land.

One key part of the debate centers on whether sanctioning gay marriage is fair to the children who would then be raised by same-sex couples.

While gay activists argue same-sex couples have the right to marry and be parents, six children who were raised by same-sex parents have filed briefs stating their opposition to redefining marriage.

Heather Barwick and Katy Faust filed a “friend of the court” brief saying they were harmed because they were not raised by a father and a mother.

“While we love and cherish our mothers, we feel it’s imperative that we bring to the court’s attention the impact that redefining marriage will have on children like us,” they wrote.

“We oppose gay marriage on the grounds that it violates children’s rights and cannot provide children with the most foundational building blocks for child development – a mother and father living with and loving them,” they stated.

CBN News recently spoke with another adult daughter of a same-sex couple. Brandi Walton wrote about her experience in TheFederalist.com in an article called, “The Kids Are Not Alright: A Lesbian’s Daughter Speaks Out.”

kaboninc:


Kwontinue ohhhh

I would have spammed sexuality section with my stories but I'm not good at that kind of storytelling and also I feel it's kinda childish.

Peterken05:
No God doesn't, you can't know, there are many religions, many Gods, many possible things people have said that could happen to you after you die (with no evidence like yours). How can you know yours is the right one?

You should read about NDEs, Near Death Experiences. No, not the DVDs peddled in onitsha by people claiming they have seen heaven and hell and are willing to tell their tale for a price, but real authentic experiences by people who had nothing to gain or lose from telling a lie. Google it.
NDEs have a particular similarity all around the world. The people that experience it see a light like in a tunnel, and then they move on or are taken to a place of surrealism and bliss. But even in such a wonderful place people are categorised into those that are unhappy/unsatisfied and those that are at peace. This experience occurs regardless of religious inclinations.

What you should note here is the similarities in the experiences. A place of extreme bliss and a place of abject discomfort. Whether there is fire or brimstone or people with wings is irrelevant.

The probability is 1/1000. That's by no means close to been real.

This figure has no backing. There are more than a thousand gods surely so the probability should be higher.

You are just as atheistic as me, I don't believe in 2000 Gods, you don't believe in 1999, what's the difference? Your own God.

You misunderstand. You think I don't believe in the other '1999' gods? Of course I do. But there is one supreme God, the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords and the God of gods. And the others bow before Him.

So an Omnipotent, Omniscience, Omnipresent God gave lucifer everything but didn't know lucifer was going to betray him?
Many he is not as Omniscience as you think or not an Omniscient God at all.

I can't claim to know all of God's thoughts. A wise person said if God was so simple to understand then He wouldn't be God. Think about that.

If God really was omnipotent, omniscient, omni-everything... Don't you think He would be extremely bored? What would be the point of it all? Since He knows the end from the beginning why bother to create at all since he already knows the outcome?

I'm trying to recall the title of a book but have forgotten to title. If I remember I'll put it here.

If God was indeed God and is one and all and everything, then there would be no need for creation or life or death or destiny or anything.

Is it possible that God spent millions of years alone and then decided to create and when he did he knew how the creation would end and the outcome 'bored' him for want of a better word... And so he created free will?

With free will there were different permutations to eventualities, God would allow his creation to use free will without interference (something he still does till today), just to see what path of decision his creation would take. It would definitely make things more interesting.

So when he gave lucifer free will he knew lucifer might rebel, but he also knew lucifer might not. It was lucifer's choice. And when he made that choice God knew what would happen next.
Same thing in the garden of eden.
Same thing when he asked who would go down to die for mankind and Jesus freely offered to do so of his free will.

It's a whole book and this is an absurdly compact summary but I hope you get where am going with it.

No, it is not pure love, saying people will burn in hell for not following you is not love, its an ABUSE.

It's not abuse.
It is the law. Plain and simple.
Heaven was created for the pure soul. A soul stained with sin cannot enter heaven. That is the law. That is why Jesus had to come down and pay the ultimate price to cleanse man of his sin. All you have to do to enter is to acknowledge Jesus ' sacrifice. It s easier that way. Unfortunately, hearing the word and not heeding it is tantamount to breaking the law in a foreign country. You will still be penalised.
Those who never hear of Jesus will be judged by their works. That is a harder way.
But like I previously said. God is not interested in numbers. He wants loyalty. Those souls who will follow him regardless of miracles or blessings or wealth or easy living. This is what he wants.

All these verses still acknowledge slavery.
Why can't there be verses like:
Do not keep slaves, if someone works for you pay them.
My point exactly is the bible is not something a 21st century will write about. It is full of barbaric stuff.

You only call it barbaric because you are in the 21st century. In three hundred years people will call your way if living barbaric. They will laugh at your iPhone and Android phones and call them archaic ad primitive. They will be shocked at how you couldn't cure a simple disease like HIV/AIDS or how you really believed you were the only living beings in the universe. Time changes, culture changes, but good and evil remain the same.

It's not about owning slaves. It's about how the bible wanted slaves to be treated.

No, Time doesn't change things, things changed, improved because of scientific, secular knowledge over time and ignorance of scriptures

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See my above answer on change.
Even the bible says knowledge will increase in the latter days. Time is the ultimate gamechanger. And God has it in infinite abundance.

So God came down again, he didn't send his son.
So God prays to himself everyday on the mountain when he was here on earth,
So (Jesus) God prays to his father who is him to bless the meal before feeding 5000 people?
So (Jesus)God was praying or reffering to himself, when he said My Father, My Father/3x, why hath that forsaken me?

I assume you are referring to when I said God came down to reconcile himself to man. It wasn't meant literally though I might argue it out on the basis of the Trinity but I don't have the energy for that right now.

Or maybe I do.

Look at it this way. God took a piece of his self and implanted it in a Virgin's womb after asking her permission (here is that free will again). Mary had to accept, it wasn't by force. When Jesus was born he had that piece of the divine in Him, but he was also imbued with fallen worldly flesh with all its imperfections. Jesus had to spend time getting used to himself and what he could do. There are a lot of stories about Jesus' childhood that would be too lengthy to bring up here but suffice to say, Mary and Joseph knew they were not raising up an ordinary kid. Mary even sent him on a mission (changing water to wine) before his appointed time to 'show himself' came.
Jesus was to later begin his ministry and preach to the people and perform miracles. This is God reaching out to man. Zeus never did that, neither did amadioha.

There is another divine law. And that is the law of giving ALL the glory to God. The focus is on God and not on miracles or pastors or prophets or men of god. The glory is to God alone. So Jesus blessed God and gave him all the glory in front of all the people. He was showing both humility and reverence to his heavenly origin and father.

And when that piece of God called Jesus took upon the sins of the world on that cross, he became tainted. Sin is not an option for God at all. It doesn't matter who you are or what your origins are. So God saw the sin in Jesus and 'turned away'. Hence Jesus' exclamation "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me!"

Jesus had to shed his blood and die to atone for the sins of the world. That is the law. And he fulfilled it and triumphed.
And now you don't need to atone for your sins with 100lashes of the cane or by sacrificing anybody or anything. All you have to do is give yourself freely (free will) to God, from your heart, obey his commandments of love and let him into your heart and your soul(not your body, not wealth or riches or freedom from sickness) will be saved.

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Peterken05:
No God doesn't, you can't know, there are many religions, many Gods, many possible things people have said that could happen to you after you die (with no evidence like yours). How can you know yours is the right one?
The probability is 1/1000. That's by no means close to been real.

You are just as atheistic as me, I don't believe in 2000 Gods, you don't believe in 1999, what's the difference? Your own God.

So an Omnipotent, Omniscience, Omnipresent God gave lucifer everything but didn't know lucifer was going to betray him?
Many he is not as Omniscience as you think or not an Omniscient God at all.

No, it is not pure love, saying people will burn in hell for not following you is not love, its an ABUSE.

All these verses still acknowledge slavery.
Why can't there be verses like:
Do not keep slaves, if someone works for you pay them.
My point exactly is the bible is not something a 21st century will write about. It is full of barbaric stuff.

No, Time doesn't change things, things changed, improved because of scientific, secular knowledge over time and ignorance of scriptures.

So God came down again, he didn't send his son.
So God prays to himself everyday on the mountain when he was here on earth,
So (Jesus) God prays to his father who is him to bless the meal before feeding 5000 people?
So (Jesus)God was praying or reffering to himself, when he said My Father, My Father/3x, why hath that forsaken me?


who does that?

STOP CONFUSING YOURSELF.

It is you who is confused, and I don't mean that in a bad way.
You subscribe to what mushroom churches tell you about God, that is why you are confused.
You think God is human, you think God thinks like you do or sees good and evil like you do.

You have to seek God out by yourself. I strongly suggest you ignore secular Christian programmes and read the Bible by yourself. I recommend the Catholic Bible containing the apocrypha for starters, read it with an unbiased mind.

I was privy to a lot of spiritual information when I was little. So I know God exists. It's not just about religious brainwashing. I know about that too.

My advice: Wait until you are thirty, then make up your mind whether you want to remain an atheist or not. Every man goes through a desert phase in their life when they feel there is no god. Some are destined to come out of it while others are not. It would be best to come out of it without much baggage. By baggage I mean memories of things you cannot undo. Like a repentant killer cannot raise the dead soul of that whom he has killed, you may never be able to undo the damage you might cause by leading others astray. Be patient. When you are totally convinced, when you have seen enough of life (at thirty is usually the best time), then you can cuss god out all you want.


Now to your questions.

OK, it's been 24hrs.
Polls over.
Cc bukatyne
Anonimus

Caveat!

1. Insult him back. Use his exact words. Most people don't know how harmful their behavior is until it is thrown back at them.

This was my exact quote. The idea is to give him a taste of his own words o, not for you to insult his man-hood or parents. I backed it up with my own experience. ANYTHING beyond that I am not in support.

I stand by my advice cos I believe you have ignored him already and it didn't work nd I don't think it's something you should invite external family unless it is absolutely necessary.

P. S
Now I'm curious. What did you actually do that made him insult you?

BlackLeopard:
I took it from the text and subsequent replies you're having problems with a lady, and weren't believed because there ain't 'no woman rapist in naija', which is what I found sad. Statement was meant as a sympathy for you deserve your peace just as well.

Lol, OK thanks, but it happened a long time ago during my Bible clutching days. Not anymore though. Nowadays I send female rapists invites

cococandy:
So you're one of these tout wives who insult their husbands?
I don catch you today.
Your case don be.
See folks taking indirect swipes at you
You go hearam

Na only me talk say make she retaliate?
But honestly I feel that's the best course of action, talking from experience.
The guy is taking it like play, probably doing it out of 'love'. Ignoring won't help IMHO.

I could be wrong though. Let's see how it goes.

Me a wife
That's a first

nicequeen:
Thank you

Hehehee
Take it easy nicequeen. Na so she dey do.

When I was younger and just back in naija from the US there was something I used to do. If someone did something I didn't like I would call the person "a fool" or "don't be stupid!", don't be an idi0t! " It wasn't an insult in my eyes, seriously, it was the normal lingo where I came from. But in naija calling someone those things was a very big deal or so I was told. I just couldn't see what was wrong with it.

What finally stopped me? The day I insulted my junior bro and he went on to call me an idi0t back and then complimented it with some well placed jibes to my ego. The fact that I haven't forgotten it even till now tells you how much of an effect it had on me. After our parents settled us I was pointed out as being in the wrong for using such words in the first place.


It's possible this man thinks it's all harmless fun or that you are making a big deal out of nothing and he might be feeling he is trying to help you by desenstizing you with continuous insults. You need to shock him small.

Not everybody will agree to be in this position even if it involves emotion, money and sex combined. Some people refuse to bend their principles no matter what.

Not judging though.

EggovinMma:

Yes na.
TVs are the modern shrines..
They are sacred.

Tallesty1:
You will soon regret buying Iphone 6.

Why?

Cc
Ishilove
Farano
Rocktation

A little help, guys?
Pls am trying to take an opinion poll.

Orijin101:
Must you beg for likes

Bro, honestly this has nothing to do with likes. Check my profile I have enough likes there. Just that I really need help on this.

richidinho:
If you still want the relationship to continue go for lphone 6

She doesn't know I'm planning for either one, it'd meant to be a surprise.

Click like for the original authentic red roses.

Click like for iPhone 6

Dear romancelanders,
Pls am in a dilemma and need some help. It's my gf's birthday soon and am torn between what to give her. I feel the flowers will be more significant as a sign of love but a friend feels I should get her the iPhone 6 since I can afford it right now.

This is serious pls. Which do I get her?

1. Insult him back. Use his exact words. Most people don't know how harmful their behavior is until it is thrown back at them.

Or

2. Next time he is verbally abusive, throw a hissy fit. Be dramatic about it. Break glass, tableware(but for the love of god, not the TV!) something that will shock the living daylights out of him. Then break down and cry and ask why he keeps insulting you. If this doesn't work then am sorry but your husband is possessed.


Do not ignore. Ignoring, although easier to do, doesn't work, at least not on men.

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No. 4 is a lie?

BlackLeopard:
It's so sad you even have to defend yo on this stuff bro.
Hope you can avoid that hurt and vindictive lady in question.

?? ?
Just seeing this.
Don't understand the statement though.