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obiksam:
5minsmadness Please kindly send me your email for me to be able to forward it to him. Or should I send my?

yhusiee:
I need ur advice ppl. I'm goin tru a vry rough financial crisis ryt now as a result of a project I vowed I must complete. D truth is, my parents dnt knw abt ds project, I'm scared of lettin dem knw, esp my Dad. He'll nt encourage me @ all. He will always say I shld face my studies cuz dtz my only biz in lyf ryt nw. He luvs controllin my lyf wtout listenin 2 my reasons. We dnt really communic8 bcs I grew up in fear of him. My problem wv him ryt nw is abt my lil sis. Shez d last child n a teenager. She gvs srs teenage wahala, esp 2 my mum. Usually, wn drz an ish lk ds, I'll ask my parents 2 send her 2 my hostel so she'll stay wt me durin d hols 2 avoid all dz juvenile wahala, bt ds tym, bcs of my project, I refuse 2 let her come. She'll b a liability 2 me n dtz wt I'm tryin 2 avoid bu my Dad dznt understand. He hung up d fone on me, I dnt knw wt 2 do.

craziebone:
don't mind these people. The victim mentality is not only an evidence of an unfortunate pathology on their own part, but also an example silly excuse! For them, it always has to do with the other person.

Since most feminists are arrongant towards religion and religious stories of the creation, may be they can answer this question: if men and women started off with the same psychological wiring such that what interests us and makes us feel fulfiled are one and exactly the same, then at what point did the difference come in? What were the factors that led to it? How was it that women were 'held down' by almost all cultures all through history? How did the man force her into that position of 'oppression'?

I really want answers from the smartest feminist in here.

craziebone:
african men have always washed plates. When he was at the university and boarding house, where you there to do it for him? I have always washed my own plate and it is the best for men. Don't need any woman to do what can oly be best done by me.

Stillfire:
Crying more than the so called bereaved is what they call it.

I repeat African man MUST wash plates!
You must partake in house chores!
If you want your wife to 'strike a balance' between career and family, you must help with the house chores. Hahahaha

lezz:
I choose to believe you misunderstood me. By women trying to be men, I was implying the prioritizing of thier goal to achieving happiness which is as a result of modern feminism.

The rate of divorces were lower in 1979 as compared to today , and yes women were happier then as research shows. Divorce is hard on humans, both male and female. But I think women are worse hit not because of any social conditioning or cultural inclinations, but because they are inherently different by psychological and biological dispositions.


Evolution has balanced the gap between man and woman for millions of years. Modern feminists get confused and wicked and spun lies from a selfish political ideological point of view.

Men pursue power, glory, money and social status to satisfy their abundant testosterone and also to impress the ladies.

Evolution balanced this gap by giving women the skills and ability to control men. All she needed to do was invoke her inbuilt feminine meekness and wiles. That's what our mothers did with wisdom without the corruption of modern feminist education.

Men control the money, power and politics plus resources,and women control men. That's the balance of power by God in his wisdom of mystery of evolution.

Today's feminist have become pretenders who venture out side their natural comfort zones and area of strength to compete and think what a man can do they can do better.
they can't be further from the truth, the difference between men and women means they both have areas of natural expertise.


The Swedish and Americans have begun ripping the folly of their intelligence. All the nations of feminist movement have come to report the increasing unhappiness of women even as their financial and economic status rise.

craziebone:
People need to understand that porn is to men as telenovela is to women.

DaMayor1:
Bro,
You have my sympathy. Sometimes conditions help us understand the true nature of human beings. She's probably a good person, but unstable and easily influenced. Certainly not ready for marriage (yet). Such people end up with people who will either force their will on them through violence, or ignore them completely because they have another woman outside that gives him peace of mind. You my friend are neither, so thank God and pray for a mentally and spiritually mature lady.

imagodei:
Hello Nairalanders,

In my place of work, I want to help one of our cleaners but I don’t know the best way to do this. What attracted me to this girl was her impeccable english. So one day, I asked her why she was doing such kind of work and a couple of other questions.
I guess that was what endeared me to her and that is how we became friends and I found out about her.

She told me how frustrating life has been for her; how her father had wished she was not alive because according to her, her parents tried on 5 occasions to abort her but it was not successful. Ever since then, growing up has not been easy. Her parents especially her dad always find fault with what she does. Her father demoralizes her personality with a lot of unkind words, even in the presence of her siblings. Although I have tried to dig deep to find out more about her past but I have found out it hurts her so I don’t delve deeper. But from what I can infer, her dad is opposed to her happiness

The issue at hand now is she wants to go to UNIILORIN but her Dad wants her go to Ambrose Ali University, Ekpoma. She has tried all she could: asking her mum to beg her dad, asking their pastor to help talk to her dad but all to no avail. She has finally made up her mind to run away since she does not feel happy staying in her home. She feels rejected. Schooling in UNIILORIN will take her far from the source of her sorrow temporary while she figures out a long term plan to be happy and be in charge of her life but it seems things are not working out.

I want to help her but I don’t have any ideas how. If she runs away where will she go? She may run into people who will take advantage of her. I have been encouraging her to keep striving to be happy but for how long, the situation seems to be getting worse. I need you advice so that we can do the needful so the lady can leave a fulfilled life. She always tells me she is not wanted but I keep inspiring her positively because I believe the rejected stone will one day become the keystone.

Cheers

qbd2:
Haha, what made u arrive at such conclusion?

qbd2:
This post is for those raised in a single parent home.in other words raised by either their father or mother alone. This could be as a result of parents being divorced, widowed or unmarried.
My own parents r divorced nd I was raised by my mother and below is a list of what coming from a single parent home has taught me
_ to be independent
_ to not be too crazy in loving
_to learn how to think like an adult at an early age
_ to not feel too pained by insults and stereotypes from pple around
_to plan a better marriage.

qbd2:
Hmm, usually. I lockd doorto the bathroom.
But it depends, if its a male child of course dmum muusn bargein.ifits d ather its overlookable but shudnt be. A habit.
Similarly d father shouldn't everbarge into his daugther in d bathrroom. Olewu. Naija of nowadays ehn!

millstone:
I'll get someone with a bigger ass. Probably rokiatu

LordReed:
Gosh man do you actually read my posts at all?

My intro into this discussion was not even based on
whether or not arranged marriages are good or bad. I was after your thought on how love and physical abuse worked in arranged and modern marriage.

I need to ask, do you have something against me?

LordReed:
Nothing, I would have had an arranged marriage myself but I discovered that family are just as flawed and fickle as anyone else,might as well make my own choice instead of having to blame someone else for anything.

LordReed:
Roses grow out of shit so why not?

LordReed:
Why do the things I write just slip past you like ghosts? I wrote forced marriage is a subset of arranged marriage and somehow to you I wrote arranged marriage is forced marriage. My intro into this discussion was not even based on whether or not arranged marriages are good or bad. I was after your thought on how love and physical abuse worked in arranged and modern marriage so to write I "insist on nothing good at all" means you are the one reading my posts upside down.

LordReed:
You do realise that forced marriage is a subset of arranged marriage don't you?

uselessgoat:



BUY A KOBOKO OR AN IRON BELT TO BEAT SENSES INTO HER. THAT IS HOW MY FATHER BEATS MY MOTHER TILL SHE LOST HER LEFT EYE. EVER SINCE SHE HAS BEEN GENTLE. CAN'T WAIT TO BEAT MY WIFE WHEN I'M MARRIED