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kandiikane:

It is quite obvious that what the op is looking for in an arranged marriage is quite different to the one I stated. I do not think you get it, kids were an example. Some couples have kids already. Many people are fulfilled on their own so marriage would just be a bonus to them. Obviously, you won't understand because you have not seen or experienced such marriages, same way many won't understand the concept of open marriages. I have had experiences with arranged marriages by two consenting adults and i have seen it work because even though they are married, . I have also seen a consenting adult with older kids who became a second wife via an arranged marriage. She entered into it on her own terms and she has been married for 22years now. Not everyone is into that emotional attachment, some just want someone to grow old with, a friend Or someone to warm their beds each night, same way some are comfortable being alone.

TV01:
5minsmadness hi,

Love your premise. Meant to post a while back after reading the OP, then the thread and I kept on missing each other. I am absolutely a fan of arranged marriages and would consider then objectively better than those termed love marriages.

I don’t personally consider an arranged marriage one where, sight unseen, two families agree to marry off their children – without recourse to them and possibly before they are even born – sometimes for some other underlying reason such as an oath or debt. I consider those forced marriages.

For me, arranged marriages in the good/proper sense, is where the parents/elders take an active role in helping set selection criteria and vetting potential spouses. The final decision still rests with the two individuals.

It should of course be preceded by grounding their children in what marriage actually is and what it entails in a real pragmatic and practical sense. And have particular emphasis on what character attributes are essential for a fulfilling marriage.

It can be fairly loose or more formal and can even take on a more communal feel. A great example of this is the debutante season that was a highlight of the social calendar here in times past.

All it really entailed, was families of a certain social standing arranging for their young men and women to make social contact in an enabling environment – and hopefully things would natural happen. I know this may be a little harder in our more global times, but it is absolutely doable.

I think Ewuro4 mentioned plans for something like that at a family level. I actually know of someone who entered a much more formal arranged marriage – “only because I want to please my parents” – after 3 years she was totally in love. Why? She had a husband who acted accordingly – and ultimately that’s what sustains marriages.


I followed BabyOsisi' marital advice to new and intending thread and the one thing that struck me strongly was that most of the women would have been much better served and most of the issues raised obviated by involving their elders in their relationships. And at it's heart, that's what arranged marriages are really about.

Good one


TV

SAMBARRY:
it's a non existent tale . It happened in his imaginations don't you get it. Op is even male impersonating as female so why are you wasting your mb

bukatyne:
It seems you have experience in these matters.

True, your posts will console a wife with a cheating husband

Can you write up something for a husband with a cheating wife?

Perhaps we can all learn

Thanks

bukatyne:
It sounds so cra.zy...

A man you both took vows to be faithful, told you he loved you bla bla bla is giving another woman toe curling orgasms and you are telling me it is 'just' business

Happy business

Anyways, it is a 'man's' world.

SAMBARRY:
Save it. He's trolling

bukatyne:
LOL!

What a joke! only it is so sick that I can't even laugh!

Mistresses are short lived! An average mistress knows A, B, C is married and is in it for the money in the first place.

Anyways, whatever rocks your boat.

I am sure your target audience will be happy knowing that the woman their husband is currently Bleep.ing is short-lived before he moves to the next one.

Not every woman is willing to share her husband with a short-lived or a miniature-lived mistress

And I know the OP is trolling; he is male in another thread

Goldenboy007:
Change your perception and approach -
Learn this -

1) Every marriage has issues, yours isnt an exception
2) Leaving your marriage should not be an option for you
3)Never tell your wife - I am the man in the house - weak men say that - God has made you the man and you don't need to prove it to anybody
4) Marriage is all about patience , patience and more patience
5, Don't demand respect , earn it !
6) Loving you is not automatic, show her love first, be romantic, don't be old school. Treat her the way you treated her when you were dating, buy gifts, take her for dinner, send love poems to her , make her feel special, serve her like a gentle giant, use love not fear to win her over!
7) if you think there is a better woman out there you are a big joker ! If you leave this one you will never stop on two ! They are all the same, what this one has as strength the other will have it as a weakness, you will just trade a problem to inherit another problem!
if you cannot manage 1 person why do you think God will hand over a company or business to you?
9) What you can't accept don't give her, if you come back from work and you are tired, if she goes to work she is tired too. Be considerate ! Help out in all chores ! It doesn't make you less of a man !
10) 2 months is too early to complain - learning stage can take 8 years ....take it from me .
11) Marriage is a union of two people from different homes with different values! The value your mother taught you might be different from what her mother taught her. It doesn't make your own superior to hers, don't try to change her , the character she has had for years, you want to correct it in 2 months? Are you professor Pellar? Even God stopped trying to change man that He created so He gave them free will ! Do as you like !
13) Respect her as your equal, if you want a woman that will kneel down for you , leave the city and enter the village, I am telling you you will pick and choose! Plenty there !
14) You have a long way to go, carry your cross and follow God or whomever you have decided to follow. Weak men give up easily ! A failed marriage will haunt you for the rest of your life ! As far as she is not sleeping around then all other problems are manageable ! Be wise !

bukatyne:
The bolded is only a feel Good line for wives with cheating husbands.

Ewuro4:
5minsmadness... They all say that phrase ( she's changed) even when you don't serve them food for one night in a month.

They -Men

nairalife2013:
I found out loving a lady and giving her too much attention actually creat certain overconfidence in women. I used to doubt this and strongly believed if u love yur wife or girlfriend so much u must show. I ignored all indirect reference advanced by freinds and older relations abt spoiling my wife wid so much care, attention and gifts - I couldn't allow my wife to do anything, I would drive her anywhere she wanted to go, I constantly missed work to be around her her and forged excuses to butress my point, I got a car for her when she was still in sch, I installed all necessary domestic gadgets at home to ensure she was absolutely comfortable, I was d one dat procured all her clothings even undies at very regular intervals. She started behaving just like yur spouse. Coming bak hom became disturbing to me. I was going bunkers and my mind was filled wid bitter regrets. I was constantly hoping she would do somthing worst to embolden me to practically file for a divorce. I started withdrawing my self from her. I was tired of life and I hoped I could just die and go and rest. No words can ever depict what I had to go tro inside of me. I lost great numbers of contract jobs cos of low spirit and money became hard to come by. She had to start paying some bills from her own purse and run d home. She has changed now and has apologised severally owing all her past deeds to d devil's handiwork and hoping time can be brought bak so she can undo all her erroneous deeds and make me the loving, caring, weeping man I used to be. Am now convinced women are but like the world itself - u can never understand them...

tmama1:
How come you only just opened this account?

Blendy77:
Someone just spoke with the mother of the kids and confirms the kids have not yet been found

[size=24pt]Definitely, its the Kidnappers that composed the fake BC that the kids have been found...! Pls keep spreading until we find them...! [/size]

Pls feel free to call any of these numbers 08052062117, 09098097935 or 08060184514 to speak with the mum directly...!

God will help us find them

bukatyne:
The bolded is only a feel Good line for wives with cheating husbands.

A man 'snatches' OP;

Pays her N150k monthly

Will give her toe curling orgasms

Would probably not have to cook, clean etc. al

Would be travelled about eith

Has been on for 3yrs


And she is not important?

I can bet my breakfast tomorrow that he doesn't give his wife that amount monthly or spend as much quality time as he spends with OP.

The wife is losing and is currently not as important as OP


I think the OP is trolling sha

iyanbuko:
Some women are foolish, why can't the man show his own yansh

pickabeau1:
Big Hero 6

coogar:
nothing more than nostalgia.
old exes reminiscing about what they used to have back in the days. how is this cheating?

he was even asking if she screams during sėx now that she is fat.......it means he's yet to sleep with her since they broken up.

this wife is an idïot, she should have kept her cool and wait a little more to get more compelling evidence. she has now forewarned her hubby & he would be more careful.

Jackeeh:
Ashawo man. He even thought his ''size'' will discourage her. Bros madam ''mistress'' doesn't care how tiny or big it is, she's more concerned about ur wallet size. Marriages theses days ehn!!!!

Godmystrength:
PRESUMPTUOUS



YARCIDTOIN

thepatroit:
This is a plot for your story, right?

Begonia:
Yes, I will.
So, did it happen?

cococandy:
Yes I can do it

Begonia:
Wow..@op; did this happen in real life?

cococandy:
you've never heard this song before?

cococandy:
Little boxes on the hillside,
Little boxes made of ticky tacky,
Little boxes on the hillside,
Little boxes all the same.
There's a green one and a pink one
And a blue one and a yellow one,
And they're all made out of ticky tacky
And they all look just the same.

And the people in the houses
All went to the university,
Where they were put in boxes
And they came out all the same,
And there's doctors and lawyers,
And business executives,
And they're all made out of ticky tacky
And they all look just the same.

And they all play on the golf course
And drink their martinis dry,
And they all have pretty children
And the children go to school,
And the children go to summer camp
And then to the university,
Where they are put in boxes
And they come out all the same.

And the boys go into business
And marry and raise a family
In boxes made of ticky tacky
And they all look just the same.
There's a green one and a pink one
And a blue one and a yellow one,
And they're all made out of ticky tacky
And they all are just the same