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Chillisauce:
Which flowers? Maybe Na elephant grass the guy tie up give the babe
Come write love poem put for my Facebook wall? N'a to spoil show na

Thank you for being realistic.
I try if na Facebook wall.
I dey write am for paper seal am inside envelope come spray the envelope with male perfume . When I could have simply pinged
The Roses were imported and cost a pretty penny. Sista jus laugh thank me with one fake voice troway the tin for corner.


Money talks far Iouder than foolish words.

Chillisauce:
No smoke without fire. How dem talk am self.


All these angry NL boys, Girls don deal with them real life. Walahi

Writing love poem

Ogidigba.

EXACTLY.
@cococandy see what I'm talking about? Girls don't like that sh1t.

bukatyne:
Sorry to disappoint you

Lol!!!!!!
I can only believe what you wrote, I cant go and confirm it for myself. There is nothing to be disappointed in

bukatyne:
We are just dancing in circles.

Good you agree that the worst the man can do is send his wife parking (which would not matter to a wife who is not interested in the marriage)

If she is not interested then she shouldn't have waited to be sent packing in the first place.

Peterken05:
God chose a set of people and didn't choose, isn't that enough reason not to worship that god and start worshipping yours?

Oh, really? 5minsmadness, christianity is a jewish religion? Do you know your bible at all, do you understand history?
Jews were persecuted for thousands of years because they denied this dude called jesus, they didn't believe he existed, because there was no record of him whatsoever in their history.

Now lemme school you about the bible, christians were first called christians at antioch because there behavior was christlike, are these people jews? No, maybe not totally no. Jews are the ones that nailed to cross as the bible claims. Jews are the ones that persecute the disciples.

Christianity as we know it is a white men religion because the version of the christianity brought to africa, if not at all created by white men was modified by white men, the roman catholic church, church of england, protestants and co. These versions are the ones practiced today, goto isreal you won't see a jew practicing all these. (Consult any history textbook for details)

God didn't appear to our ancestors because he didn't choose them? Then Bleep him. That's enough reason not to practice xtianity

You see nothing wrong in keeping slaves? Seriously?
The bible told them to treat slaves with respect? No. You don't know your bible, its the other way round.

1 Peter 2:18 - Servants, [be] subject to [your]
masters with all fear; not only to the good and
gentle, but also to the froward.

Titus 2:9-10 - [Exhort] servants to be obedient unto
their own masters, [and] to please [them] well in all
[things]; not answering again

Ephesians 6:5 - Servants, be obedient to them that
are [your] masters according to the flesh, with fear
and trembling, in singleness of your heart, as unto
Christ;

Yh, just because some dunce treat people without respect nowadays doesn't mean we should justify that act, its bad and we should criticise it.

I know it is not God's fault but men, but god really did a bad job by allowing men to destroy his religion like that.

All this quantity and quality, I don't seem to understand any of it.

If God almighty is more powerful than the other gods and has a final say in your eternity regardless of whether he chose you or not wouldn't it be better to serve Him? The gods you want to worship bow to him already so you might as well follow their example. Anything other than that is just being unrewardingly stubborn.

Note that I said Jewish-originated, everyone knows Christianity is not a Jewish religion. I was using your example of origins of christianity. Christ was a jew and born among jews. Remember he was sent to the lost sheep of the house of Israel. Wether they received him or not is left to them. It is from the jews that Christianity spread to the gentiles and then all over the world. Wether it became roman catholic or protestant later is a redundant issue.

You seem to have the idea of modern Christians that God is looking for worshippers. He made himself clear a long time ago that he seeks those who seek him out with a pure heart. He wants those who will be loyal to him no matter what. He seeks QUALITY not quantity. He gave Lucifer everything lucifer needed and yet lucifer still betrayed him. He doesnt want that to happen again. Now He wants people who will love him because they want to not becasue they are being forced or cajoled or bribed to do so. That is pure love and that is what the modern chruches fail to preach nowadays. Nowadays its all about getting rich and owning jet planes and paying multiple tithes and living like gods on earth, lol. That is not what God wants but they won't listen.
Quality, Refinement, Loyalty. Not quantity.



About slaves;
I said there was nothing wrong in keeping slaves those days, so it wasn't seen as anything. I didnt say i see nothing wrong in keeping slaves. It all depends on the times and what the time permits. back then a homosexual was called gay or twinkie or gay. Nowadays calling them such words is derogatory, they would rather be known as MSMs(Men who sleep with men). Prostitute was a legal term before, now they are called Commercial sex workers.
Time changes things.

The verses you quoted were admonitions to slaves to behave well with their masters. There were also admonitions to masters to treat their slaves well. And like I said, the bible wasn't totally in support of slavery. It was simply what was permissible at the time. See these verses:

Exodus 21:16 - And he that stealeth a man, and selleth him, or if he be found in his hand, he shall surely be put to death.

Colossians 4:1 - Masters, give unto [your] servants that which is just and equal; knowing that ye also have a Master in heaven.

Galatians 3:28 - There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.

Ephesians 6:9 - And masters, do the same things to them, and give up threatening(slaves-sic), knowing that both their Master and yours is in heaven, and there is no partiality with Him


Now then;
If Christianity wasn't the true religion then it should have fizzled out long ago, taking into consideration its humble and peculiar beginnings. Disciples used word of mouth and humility, kindness and wisdom to win over kingdoms long before the crusades began. In every religion man tries to reconcile himself to God. it is only in Christianity that God comes down to reconcile himself to man.

bukatyne:
None taken

I did. That was a prerequisite for moi

I met him when I was 17 and him 21 So you know the kain loff We played and still play.

He still says he wants to learn How to play a guitar So he can serenade his truly

I will not deny that Some ladies do not like TLC sha.

They loff stern husbands.

Hmn, ok.
good for you then.

bukatyne:
Husband stern kwa?

Why didn't I kuku stay with my papa?

You are going back to my first question....

If the husband is stern and barks that the wife goes to the kitchen and she refuses, What will he do more than beating her up or the infamous throw her stuffs out? Or will he bodily carry her to the kitchen to cook
Remember you can force a horse to the stream, you cannot force it to drink?

True you can force a horse to the stream but you cant force it to drink.
this applies both ways.

man comes home, no food for him meanwhile he provided money and left the house without any quarrel.
he asks wife(not barks, nobody is barking here) and wife refuses. husband asks what is wrong wife says nothing then makes food for herself and her son. Husband insists wife doesnt eat cos its from the same pot wife should have served him food. son can eat since he is a kid. next day husband jejely sends wife home to recover from whatever she is suffering from. If she doesnt want to come back she should stay there.shikena. the world will go on without her.
No time for BULLshit.

Peterken05:
Yh, thanks.

Wait, was that suppose to be sarcasm?

Nope.

bukatyne:
Your definition of a man is someone who is not caring or cold?

You really need to change the women around you.

I don't mean any insults but can you honestly tell me you married the man who wrote the most poems for you? Who adored you the most?

bukatyne:
Your definition of a man is someone who is not caring or cold?

You really need to change the women around you.

Where did I say the above?

Do not extrapolate or jump to conclusions.

A man can be caring and will still be stern. A man can provide all the needs of the house and when he comes home after a day's work he tells his wife with an assertive voice to make his food let him eat. if she refuses and makes for only her son he will know the reason why or end the relationship right there. An assertive man won't carry face and ignore and stagger into the kitchen himself cos he doesn't want to offend the wife, meanwhile he is dying inside.

A father can be caring yet you won't mess with him.

If the husband above has already set certain boundaries then madam knows the house wont be comfortable if she doesn't make the meal for him but makes for her son instead.

bukatyne:
Hahahahahahahahahahahaha!

You know, I thought I had read it all.

I can't stand a man not like that anyways

Different preferences anyways.

Sure.

cococandy:
no that there is very satisfying.
Any lady with a husband that does all that can attest that it is satisfying.
The man is being a true and considerate partner.

Just that 5mins dude considers such to be going all out so I wonder what being regular would mean to him.

This was regular for me. I had to stop it when one of the girls that got really close to me told me about it. if you are my girlfriend i would carry you on a silver platter. I believe in the old ways and i would write poems and compose songs on paper( yeah i admit it, silly now i come to think about it) and all this done during the facebook era o. I was a hopeless romantic.

Its all BULLshit.

Now I know the secret I'm having difficulty choosing who to marry cos the girls are too many.
Girls want men. No scratch that, Girls NEED men. Not pansies. It makes them feel fulfilled and womanly. It probably sounds obnoxious the way i'm saying it but its the gospel truth.

cococandy:
@bold is what you call 'treating like an egg'? Chai
The eggs where you come from must be pretty hard.

That there is normal married-guy routine.
Any guy who doesn't do all the above and some more is a brute.

Seriously what other option does a normal guy have. Not help out at home? Rape his wife?

Majority of menfolk who behave like the guy in my example live to regret it.
The women take them for granted.
They start bossing the men around. This isn't theory, this is what i have seen first hand.
you can even read it in the few men that come on nairaland to complain.
Women don't like men that treat them like queens all the time, fact.

If a guy makes the mistake of asking his wife "may i have sex with you?" as a routine , he will regret it.
Before you know it sex will only come at her behest, NEVER at his.

A man who cooks and cleans and washes and does the dishes will soon find himself doing it alllll the time, the woman just sits back and becomes lazy.

I had a girl once when i was naive, I bought her flowers for valentine (not that i didnt have money but i thought roses would have a more significant meaning than any material gift, silly me ), I would carry her books to class and all the romantic stuff. Women can't stand that behavior for long. They want a man to be in control, to tell them what to do, to OWN them. This doesnt necessarily mean the man should be wicked or a slave-master, simply that being a man he should be more assertive, more confident, more steadfast and determined in what his likes and dislikes are.

I ended up handing my first love to another guy on a silver platter. she went after him because he was more assertive. he slapped her on the second week of thier dating because she made the mistake of thinking she could behave with him the way she did with me. she came to me to report but they made up the next day. they are married now with three kids.

This is the truth of the world we live in, men should stop taking examples from telemundo. Women want heroes, men they can look up to, not men who will worship them.

Peterken05:
One thing is clear either your god is confused and not so intelligent after all or you are confused.

Dolemite raised a reasonable point here and all you do is deceive yourself, commit the fallacy 'begging the question', use bible to defend bible, 'who does that?'

Nobody is talking about internet or anything, god appeared to abraham why didn't he appear to africans as well, why didn't he send jesus as a black man? He didn't love us so well after all I think,

Religion especially christianity is a white man religion, design by white, book written by white men, used to colonize black nations and took our brothers to slavery (because the bible doesn't see anything bad in keeping slaves), and yet we dumbass africans still take it seriously more than white people nowadays.

I see all the conmen on tv and feel sorry for we africans, and when it comes to some other things like LGBT rights, they claim its a white man culture, it shouldn't be allowed whereas you practice a white mans religion (you even claim you practice it better than they do just by creating so many versions). That's hypocrisy.

Dolemite, feeling you. Move on

No bible quotes then.

Since the beginning of time, God has desired to have a chosen race of people all to himself. He started by choosing Adam, then Enoch, Abraham, Moses etc etc and then finally founded a convenant with the Israelites. If anything, Christianity is a Jewish religion and not a 'white man's religion. The 'white men' fought against it for a long time but due to the faith, tenacity and perseverance of the saints, christianity won over the world and became a major world religion. It's not a whiteman's religion to colonise black men, If anything it will be a jewish-originated religion to colonise the world.

God did not appear to our ancestors with the good news because he did not choose them, simple. he has always favoured having special people He can call his own. He is not interested in quantity like the modern day pastor would have us believe but quantity.

There is an ancient legend that says the day Christ was born a voice cried out in the heavens "Pan is dead!" Pan represented all idols and foreign gods. In essence it symbolised the relinquishing of power to the Son of God in the flesh. Anywhere the name of Jesus Christ was going to be carried He would depose and dethrone other gods. And it was so.

There was nothing wrong in keeping slaves those days, but the bible recognised them as people with rights and exhorted that they should be treated fairly and with kindness. Even today we have nannies, househelps, huose cleaners, messengers, drivers etc and people in the lower social strata that we boss around and threaten with loss of their jobs if they stray. Such people carry the 'slave'status' just that we treat them with more respect nowadays; if you see the way some women handle their househelps it is even worse than what slaves suffered in days of old.

The adulteration of the christian faith in modern society is not God's fault but man's. it is not the message's fault but the messengers. Even the bible predicted things like these would happen in the last days when there would be false prophets and wolves in sheep's clothing. Then we as christians shuld be prayerful and steadfast and hold on to the true faith.

At the end of the day the road that leads to salvation is narrow and full of tribulation. Only quality christians will make it through. And that is what God wants, not quantity, but Quality.

Peterken05:
I didn't insult you, if you think I do, I'm sorry.

I'm not that kind of person

Good to know,
If true then you're like a breath of fresh air around here

bukatyne:
That 100% depends on if the wife still wants the marriage in the first place.

He should try the 'disciplinarian' husband first; I would agree there are some women who do not like care

BTW, is there anything wrong with a 'caring' husband?

It depends on what u mean by 'caring'.

A man goes all out for his wife and treats her like an egg. He helps with the house chores, washes the clothes, gives her preference when watching TV, doesn't force her to have sex, cooks occasionally, etc and you find out that most women treat men like them like dirt. They don't appreciate them and abuse them verbally and emotionally at every opportunity.

Such a man is 'caring'.

Sometimes however a man has to show his assertive side. He has to exhibit a little bit of madness to draw wifey back on track. He has to go at it with an "I don't care" attitude and mean it. Most times the woman will complain but rarely will they quit the marriage.

bukatyne:
There is little the man or anyone else can do when the partner decides to misbehave .

The worst is to part ways.

But there are cases when the man learns to become a disciplinarian and the woman starts to behave responsibly. That way the marriage is saved.

That's what I think they mean when they say the man is weak. He cares too much for her and won't want to carry out any disciplinary action on her.

Peterken05:
Lemme be frank with you. It is because it is a product of 5minsmadness as your username implies. I can't see any sense in it.

Insults as usual. It gets old after a while I assure you.

Peterken05:
I don't really get anything out of your post

That's because you don't want to.

ayoku777:
You're the one getting it wrong.

Until Jesus died for our sins and rose for our justification; everyone who died went straight to hell (sheol -the place of the dead). Everyone; including Abraham, David, Samuel, etc.

Except for Enoch and Elijah, who God whisked away before death could come for them; everyone who died went to hell (sheol).

No one was righteous enough for eternal life or for heaven until Jesus died and rose and gave us His righteousness.

1Samuel 28v13 -And the king said unto her, Be not afraid: for what sawest thou? And the woman said unto Saul, I saw gods ascending out of the earth.

This was when Saul went to the witch of Endor for her to help him conjur the spirit of Samuel the prophet.

Notice that the spirit of samuel was ascending out of the earth. meaning that, even Samuel, the prophet of the Lord descended into sheol when he died.

And hear what Samuel said unto Saul;

1Samuel 28v19 -Moreover the Lord will also deliver Israel with thee into the hands of the philistines: and tomorrow shalt thou and thy sons BE WITH ME:

Here was Samuel, a good man and the Lord's prophet; telling Saul, the evil king rejected by God; that by tomorrow, Saul and his sons will be with him (Samuel).

Meaning that, both the good and the evil went to the same place after death -Hell or Sheol.

Its clear however, from Christ's account of the rich man and Lazarus, that those who did good and pleased God relatively in their lifetime did not stay in the torment side of sheol. But they were in Hell (sheol) all the same.

Both Abraham and Lazarus and the rich went to hell (sheol); but Abraham and Lazarus were not in the torment side. But they were all in hell.

No one was righteous enough for eternal life or for heaven until Jesus came and gave us His righteous. Both the good and the evil went to sheol until Jesus came.

God bless you.

Good answer.

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prissyluv:
What of making yourself visible when next the man visits your office? That should send a signal to him you know...

Wendy80 I think u should follow this advice.

I used to be in favour of telling the unaware partner about what is going on until something nasty happened.

You'll be amazed how quickly the tables can turn on you if you don't handle it well.


My first advice is MYOB, but if your conscience won't let you then take an opportunity to let the man see you and make sure he recognises you and leave it at that. Let his own conscience judge him.

Or U can use the anonymous SIM message method to let THE GIRL know that he is married.


It's a tough place to be in sha.

dorin27:
Only the Wretched looking man will make me give up my sit....I hate ugly things

Na wa o, zombie go really chop plenty people if e happen for naija now o.

You see a guy will pale dead skin, torn clothes, white eyes, his jaw hanging down and shuffling slowly towards you and the first thing dat pops into your head is "wretched looking man?"





Anyway. As soon as I see the ZOMBIE at the back, I'm out the window. They can then fight over my seat. It won't matter anyway cos once there's even one ZOMBIE on the scene it means soon everybody on that bus will turn into zombies.