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Kimoni:
Lolzzzzz
After one year of marriage, will your wife have any more tears left in her? Not after using one bucket per day to have her request granted.
Ezioku!

Amelian:
Exactly..! Or else he will relax and take full advantage of it.. Saying in his mind, Shebi she sabi hustle.. Abeg, lemme chill and watch how far she goes with her industrious acts..
Always allow be the man and before marriage couples should iron out financial responsibilities amongst themselves..
I was talking to my bf about his role and financial responsibilities in the home if we r to Get married.. He said I shudnt talk about finances as if we r about to go into contract marriage..
I say guy, I need to know what am going in for? We need to spell out our responsibiliies to each other.. I can't marry blindly.. I have a good buiz while he works for a company, so I earn abit more. But I still need us to understand on what and what financial responsibilities will be mine and his as well.. Cos he's always claiming broke.. When he said the subject is uncomfortable for him and he doesn't like to talk about finances in marriage.
I look this guy, I shake my head and to my self, na me u want put for gbese abi?
OK no problem... We will see who get sense pass..

I just wonder how some guys reason, u want to marry and u don't want to talk about financial responsibilities at this hard time?

OK OO.. Continue. Smmhh..

Anyways op, continue for the sake of Yur kids,but don't spend on frivolities . And pray Yur husband changes for the better.

Ghost447:
When men, were men!

I have been sacrificing my sleep this past month, as for various reasons both my kids have not been sleeping well. Raising kids means I have less disposable income, less time to myself, to do the things I like to indulge in. It's a sacrifice, but one I consider well worth it. Indeed, a shorthand way of putting it is sacrifice = love. Refer to the bible verse John 3:16

MmmS:
will you bribe your wife with gifts and surprises all your life just to get her to do something in the house?

MmmS:
When you want him to feed his child while you cook for him, you have to go seduce him first!.

When you want him to pick up his clothes that he dumps anywhere in the bedroom. You have to give lap dance first.

When you want him to wash some dishes while you cook and prepare for your guests coming over, you have to take your clothes off for it first.

When you want him to help the children with putting their clothes on for school while you prepare food for every one, you have to give him MouthAction first.


So what happens when she grows too old and wrinkled to bribe with sexual appeal? I assumed a responsible person helps where he sees the need to without being asked. Please help me understand

Would you be willing to bribe your wife with gifts and surprises all your life just to get her to do something in your home?

Simple. Use the gift that God gave you. Use the things that attracted your man to marry you in the first place. Use your womanliness, your feminine charms and grace! Use sweet words garnished with love and not commanding and off-putting tone that bristles with scorn. Esther was able to play with the crown of the most dangerous man in Babylon, not because she felt entitled, neither because she felt the man was equal to her. No! Her feminine charms made him as meek as a lamb in her hands.


Use your charm to handle your man and not your sharp tongue. Use your sweetness, quick wit,love and unsolicited kisses to get what you want from your king instead of declaring your rights like a country looking for every opportunity to secede. I assure you, you will get a lot more done by being a lady instead of a nag.

Peace.

crackhaus:
I wish I could reveal all I know about these women that prance around here calling themselves 'married women'... they will all deactivate.

I'm too nice

idesylvester:
Na waoo this matter strong ooo

So me wey neva marry hw I go come take get that kind powerful wife wey sabi everytin?

because my father told me that if u r lookin 4 a perfect wife u must b perfect 1st n if it's a good wife u must Polish urself 2 b gud 2...hmm

Me dey wait sha

banmee:
You people just like writing rubbish. Esther prevailed only because she was wise.

Timbuktou:
E suppose be so. More power to you.

Mindfulness:
How do you know how women want their men to act?

Mindfulness:
Has any of these women asked you for help or their husbands for that matter? NO!

Lesson number 1:
Unsolicited advice is annyoing.

And how would you know how these women talk to their husbands? Just because some of your opinions make them aggressive, doesn't mean they are aggressive towards their husbands.

Lesson number 2:
Don't jump into conclusions.

Mindfulness:
Nothing was used out of context. Everything fits the context of this thread.

I am female whether you consider me female or not. I have a vag.ina, boobies and a round azz. I menstruate and I can give birth. Even if I decide to become a soldier tomorrow and fight ISIS and BH, I am still female and even my passport says so. So your perception of and opinion on what a female should behave like is completely ireelevant.

And what most men like is irrelevant also. The last time I ckecked, you guys claimed women were not polygmaous by nature so it's enough for a woman that one man considers her attractive.

What the problem is?
The problem is the one-sided approach to an institution that is made of two people and the implication that women attack their husbands like they lack proper home training.

And he wonders why people told him to get married first.

Again, are you people surrounded by belligerent animals who don't know how to communicate in a civil way?
What the heck is your motivation behind such threads?

Timbuktou:
Baba, I deyo. How every?

Mindfulness:
I ignored this part of his post on purpose but I will touch upon it now that you have highlighted it.

Sometimes that things you type here explain so much of what is wrong with this country.

So now women are should also be blamed and made responisble other people's sexu.al orientation? Don't you see how du.mb it sounds?

Have you got numbers that prove that there were fewer ho.mos 50 years ago or in ancient Greece and Rome?

Gosh! The intellectual capacity of some people makes me almost lose hope.

Mindfulness:
And you opened this thread for them? Did their husbands complain to you?

If there are no aggressive women out there where you reside, there is no need to open threads like this and if you still feel the need to, then equally mention what the husband's role in all of it is and we can take it from there.

Thank you.

Timbuktou:
You're just using cliches out of context. How will their marriage work if they cannot resolve conflict effectively? I'll tell you how. By employing effective strategies. Some people shout their way to a resolution, some using physical force, some sulk, silent treatment, etc. Stop painting relationships as a place where husband and wife are programmed robots whose thoughts will always be in tandem and when there is a disagreement all that's needed is a reset of the programme.

I would like you to show me where OP or other married men have prescribed subjugating the women in their lives in this thread. The message has been simple: use your femininity to your advantage. I wonder why females are resisting femininity. [size=18pt]No wonder there's so much homo sexuality in the world today[/size]

Timbuktou:
You're just using cliches out of context. How will their marriage work if they cannot resolve conflict effectively? I'll tell you how. By employing effective strategies. Some people shout their way to a resolution, some using physical force, some sulk, silent treatment, etc. Stop painting relationships as a place where husband and wife are programmed robots whose thoughts will always be in tandem and when there is a disagreement all that's needed is a reset of the programme.

I would like you to show me where OP or other married men have prescribed subjugating the women in their lives in this thread. The message has been simple: use your femininity to your advantage. I wonder why females are resisting femininity. [size=18pt]No wonder there's so much homo sexuality in the world today[/size]

Timbuktou:
According to the OP, the woman has a better chance convincing her husband using feminine wiles than testoterone-induced confrontation. You women can twist it any way you please, but that is the essence of the OP. Whether the man has to do any convincing or not is not the subject of discourse

Mindfulness:
I am using cliches?

The whole thread is based on the cliche that women have to act in a particular way to be considered female and that they don't and instead behave like belligerent animals who are eager to attack their husbands.

I wonder, is 5minsmadness surrounded by aggressive women who attack their husbands unreasonably and have not learned to communicate in a civil way?

Ishilove:
Of age? It's like a woman who has never gone through labour pains advising pregnant women how to act in the labour room

aureen:
But come at me with your mouth, rudeness, manliness and nagging, and I will flex those muscles and my mind for war.

I know a man who is in jail now with this kind of mindset
He said his wife was rude to him when they were quarrelling and he blow her with his hands and she died, he is now in jail for MURDER.

What a pity.

ShaqFu:
What's wrong with single folks giving marital advice? As long as they're of age, I see nothing wrong with it.

Ishilove:
Single folks giving marital advice. It reminds me of Catholic reverend fathers and sisters handling marriage counselling.

Opinions are like ass holes. Everyone's got them.

cindybaby22:
lol
true... crying is even more powerful than force for a woman

mrwonlasewonie:
Mrs woman you get time o

After how many years on nl.is IT a little boy young to be your kid brother That you'll be arguing about the dynamics of marriage with

If you went to go and que in Lagos traffic for nothing it's more valuable expending your energy typing this because he won't understand and he'll still be justifying himself

nnamdibig:
Some of our ladies won't hear this.

EfemenaXY:
You're slowly but surely turning into a narcissist. And a misogynist.

Why do you automatically assume that if there's a problem in a union, it must be the woman's doing or better still, she has to take full responsibility for ironing things out? Why then is it called a union?




You use the wrong language and tone here:

~ Fighters. Who / what is the man born to fight? His wife? Society?

~ Dominate. Dominate who? The wife? Is she a foot mat / footstool to be 'dominated'?

Point of correction:

~ Not all men own the house or worse still, pay the rent. There are tons of families out there where the man does absolutely nothing and the buck is passed onto the wife who stoically carries on running that ship (a.k.a paying the bills) without so much of a mummer, covering his shame, while the outside world assumes this domineering, "fighter" of a man is captaining the ship.

~ Re: the underlined bit of your post, you're simply reaching. One'll be hard pressed to find a woman who does such. You're watching too many movies. You know very well that what really happens, the main bone of contention for many WORKING WOMEN with young kids, is the expectation that they go out and hustle like a man and contribute financially to the upkeep of the home, and yet on returning home after a hard day's graft, expected to tie wrapper and enter the kitchen to pound yam and cook fresh Egusi soup while the pot-bellied-football-watching hubby yells for her to take the kids away and demands she hurries up with serving his food (on her knees).

Re: the bit in green - seriously? Is that a threat? Meant to shake up the wife? Lol!!




Because if he uses half his brain and puts himself in her shoes and does the right thing - without having to be schooled like a two year old, then there wouldn't be a need to nag will there?



Mtcheeew!!

Because he is what? The beginning and the end of the woman's happiness?




And when he wants something done, how does he / how is he supposed to "cajole" / pamper his wife to do that? Without of course accusing her of lacking proper home training as per she should know what to do without having it spelt out to her?

Biko 5minsmadness, go 'n get married make we hear word.

general111:
op I think this fellow just nailed it...