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There's this case I'm trying to sort out now where the man has been sleeping around and wants to divorce his wife. Naturally his friends and neighbors were outraged and coming after the head of the man , calling him all sorts of names and swearing for him. Only to discover that the man recently found out that the reason they haven't had a child for 2yrs is cos the woman had a hysterectomy (surgery to remove her womb) whem she was a teenager following a bad abortion. And SHE KNEW BUT DIDNT TELL HIM. Why decieve the man and enter marriage under false pretenses only to start crying wolf when your deceit is found out. Now nobody knows how to proceed since the man has irrefutable proof that the lady he 'loved' decieved him into a childless marriage.

There was another one where the lady told her man she was AA before they got married, went as far as forging lab documents. Only for them to give birth to Sicklers children. On lab tests they found out she was SS and the man was AS. The man wa stunned to hear the family always knew she was a sickler and were happy when she said she had found a man to marry, not knowing she had decieved him to the alter. Now the husband is resentful. He doesn't believe in divorce but hs started sleeping around looking for how he can have a normal child after more than 3 sickler children. The woman has reported him to all and sundry and they were all blaming the man and raining abuses on him until the real story came out. And you wonder why he is bitter When you ruined his chances at a normal life? When you didn't respect him enough to give him a choice of what he wanted to feel with in life?

A third couple the man has turned to a chronic wife beater. He uses her for a punching bag daily, yet she refuses to leave him. Man bashing began before it came out that he never wanted to marry her, that she used a fake pregnancy to trap him into the marriage and he had a fiancee that he had to drop because he thought he was doing the right thing. Only to discover three months into the marriage that the pregnancy wasn't progressing and she was caught trying to arrange a faked miscarriage.

I can go on and on but it's the first story that happened recently that touched me to share this. It's sad to see women crying pitiably only to find that they are the source of their problems. The wedding day is not as important as the marriage proper. Getting married is a good thing, but getting married with deception will ALWAYS come back to bite you in the ass. You are going to be living with this person for the rest of your life. Make sure you start well so you can end well.

My take.

marcjane:
5minsmadness,peakabeau.pls elp a sister.

TBH I didn't understand the op.
She confided in a friend and then told her husband and he got upset? Over what? Or did the friend she confided in tell her to use juju to hold her husband down and she told him? Even if it was said as a joke I as the man would have my guard up from thenceforth.

There's also an issue of inability to conceive? What's the reason for it? Has she gone to a gynecologist to find out the cause, is she infertile or is her husband the one with the problem?

How long have they been married? Who did the chasing during the courtship, her or her husband? Were they really in love or was one of them forced/manipulated into the relationship?

The reason for the divorce sef isn't clear. He's the one cheating and he wants a divorce and she's begging him? The full story isn't out yet.


This looks like the problem of a faulty foundation. Op should answer some of the questions above if not all.

Op is not the shortness that was the reason for the sexual prowess. It was the 'akwa-ibom'ness. Talking from experience.

redwriter:
Yes. İ should have mentioned that.

This is a common experience with us firstborns. We are the experiments, the scapegoats of upbringing. Your parents have learned from their experience of training u and have decided to tone it down a bit hence the apparent favoritism. Also it is possible thier financial status and technological exposure have improved somewhat since your school days and they now see the importance of buying those things.
The funny thing is they will still see you as the reliable one at the end of the day. Don't hate them and try not to be angry. Rest assured you are not alone in this experience.

Also recant your usage of God's name. U can't expect him to answer that prayer in your favour when it goes against His 4th commandment, the only commandment with a promise of longevity.

It is well.

Are you the firstborn?

sleekdot:
Is too much sugar in the Milo a cause for diabetes?

Not necessarily.
Diabetes occurs when there is a deficiency of insulin in the body(the hormone that pushes glucose/sugar into the cells. This may be due to destruction of the beta cells of the pancreas which produces insulin. It can also be due to an abnormality of the insulin which is primarily a hereditary disease. In essence the sugar in the Milo won't directly cause diabetes.

At the end of the day moderation is the watchword.

Lucky, Lucky man!

It's doppelganger.
A doppelganger is someone u resemble facially even though he has no relations with you. He doesn't have to share your date of birth or tine of delivery either.

OP, no vex, look well, maybe na your long lost twin that was separated from you at birth. Ask your papa well.

delishpot:
In Nigeria it is not a joke. Wife is a man's property. Ask around if you doubt me.

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I did. Theu said very few men think like that nowadays.

My mom resorted to beating her when she goes wrong but I explained to my mom not to do that all the time cos[b] she is in her puberty stage, she is prone to misbehaving[/b]. I advised she should talk to her which she adhered to but my sis has refused to listen. On getting home this weekend, I was infuriated when I saw her painted nails. I had to choice than to smack her. I asked her why she has refused to obey my instructions despite all advice and corrections, she didnt say anthing.

@ Nlaand, Herein lies your problem.
. Your mom beat u and yet you turned out to be a responsible well adjusted individual and you understand now that she did it out of love.

Yet you are following oyibo method and don't want to do same to your sister cos oyibo says it's wrong.

Now you have the raw results in your hands.

Why should she obey you? Does she fear and respect you? You think fear is a bad thing, that is talk talk that will solve this matter?

Wait when she brings home Belle then you will know why there is so much teenage pregnancy abroad. Then u can counsel her like they do abroad too

Or you can teach her the fear of God now. Tell your father let him deal with her and bring her back to her senses, adolescent or not. Later when she is older she will realise what you do now. That he was strict to you out of LOVE.

My 5 dollars worth.

uckennety:
Ur a compound idiot!african men u'll neeva grw because of ignorance

Fixed.
I know a lot of African men who will worship her forthwith cos of what she did.

delishpot:
Well, wife is considered property so yes, a man can arrest someone for defiling his property.

Hahahahahaha






You're joking right

richyblink1:
Yeah, she is in her first trimester. But my fear is the way she carried the whole tin to the sitting room yesterday licking with so much joy. Is really well oh!

Lol
Allow her enjoy her milo jo. She hasn't started sending u out in the middle of the night to buy moi moi and you're complaining

Prettiepearlz:
Na wa oooooo. Three lives wasted just like that because of the greed for money. I just don't see the importance of the oath our doctors make. They vow to save lives but their negligence and love for money is taking the lives they so vow to save. May the souls of the faithful departed through the mercy of God rest in peace. Amen

Correction pls. This happened in Cameroun.

Doctors don't touch patients for many reasons, one of them being liability reasons. Agreed some doctors are greedy but most are not mean enough to the extent of letting a pregnant woman and her kids die. Usually there is another part to the story the public doesn't hear of.

An investigation should be done and this case looked into.

richyblink1:
Can you be elaborate as I do not understand you

OP harbeordune asked a very important question.

If she is still in her first trimester then u don't have to worry about weight gain of baby. Allow her enjoy her milo. Stopping early cravings will only make her miserable and trust me, you don't want that wahala.

All those saying milo will make her add weight should chill. If it's her first three months the baby is undergoing more of development and taking milo is not an issue.

Milo only contains 0.01mg of caffeine per 100g. More or less insignificant for a healthy mother and baby.

But what o, can somebody be arrested for commiting adultery

EfemenaXY:
And would you advocate such a man encourage his wife to do the same in search of a female child if he has issues fathering a girl child?

Na wa.
You like quarrel sha.
Read his last paragraph to you. It shows his view, although warped, is balanced.

@blustreak
It won't matter if they get a surrogate since the determinant of the sex of the child is from the male. As long as the man is the one involved he will most likely have another female child. The best bet is for both of them to agree for another man to impregnate his wife either through local surrogacy or IVF. The other man's sperm has a better chance of producing a male child than the husband's own.

Buhahahahaha

But come o, some people r taking this op Serious

And some responses are

So you guys answering, if your wife decides to give u bj una go call am prostitute


But how una first know wetin bj mean? Cos u don do am before abi?

Hypocrites!

tearoses:


make I no talk

This looks like curry rice sha o!

Madam tearoses but I try small na abi?

pickabeau1:
Same to you sir
I meant the steps

So we can learn

Kk I no sabi describe but lemme try.

Boil rice in well seasoned chicken broth, let it not be too soft. I added curry to the rice hence it's yellowness, u can leave that out.

Chop up the vegetables and sausage into reasonable sized chunks.

Stir fry the vegetables and sausage in a wok, with a little oil or butter. Sprinkle some Maggi and salt on top to taste. I also use some chef sauce at times though I don't like the colour it gives the rice afterwards.

Make sure your vegetables r still alive i.e don't fry for too long. Then gradually add in your rice and stir it in.

Serve and it's ready to eat!

Its supposed to have a crunchy savoury taste, not too dry, and the sausage should be like medium rare.
That's it o

EfemenaXY:
Haha!!

You dig Evi Edna's 80's song??

I know what u r going to say

But honestly those were the days when songs made sense!
I'm an unashamed fan of Evi Edna!

SAMBARRY:
By their stove we shall know how clean they are.dirty boy.obunnnnn

The money you wasted in doing competition of who sabi cook pass if you used the money to buy morning fresh it Will have been better. Dirty boy

Yes ayamadirtyboi
Come and clean me up


How u dey. Thot u all had deactivated.
Or na me una dey wait for since

EfemenaXY:
Oh dear.

You must have lots of rats and cockroaches running amok in your kitchen...

Jealousy...
Jealousy...
Jealousy... Is the root of hatred
Happy sunday!

armyofone:
It is not hard to clean. Just make sure to do it right after you are done eating. Now for starter, get Ajax powder cleanser w/bleach. 5 mins later, you're done leaving your stove sparkling.
Nicely presented food.

Thanks!

Swissheart:
yeah very easy.. .. . Except for the chopping of stuffs which a manual blender will do. Try Fried Maraconi.

Thank me later

Hmmm. Never thought of that.
Wil definitely try the macaroni. Thanks!

darlenese:
OK then. good luck

I like ur sense of humour ! some peeps in nairaland for don set blows and send slaps everywhere for this candid comment

Lol
I no get power for fight.
Life is too short

obowunmi:
Looks yummy my love...

Is this how you'll be cooking my meals?

Guy abeg am a man biko biko biko

desire222:
G Great job, you u win. I hope u no add Jamaican weed to it ??

Look very well. See that thing that looks like leaves