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njokusboy:
She can cook for all the men in the world if she likes... As long as she does it for all her male friends and not one particular person and she doesn't go to their house to do it. AND she never complains when it's time to cook mine, even if it's by 12am.

crackhaus:
Hehehehe...so you sef don dey eye the woman.
You have committed the sin of lookery.

But seriously though, let me get something clear:
Is it that she cooked the normal daily meals at home for her family, and then had some of it packaged for this guy... OR is it that she's cooking specifically for the dude?

crackhaus:
I guess you don't have married female friends who just like being nice...

EfemenaXY:
Is this question for newly married ladies, or those that have been married tey-tey?

Be specific jor.

postmann:
You started well, but couldn't help twisting the facts as you bring your post to conclusion.
An abusive man doesn't need bride prize to abuse his wife.

Before a woman crosses that great chasm of marriage where she leaves her father's home for good and cling to a new home and culture, where she would bear children who will be the future generation, children who would be kings, presidents, leaders and teachers, children who will trace their lineage through their father, it is right that certain rites ought to be fulfilled.
A young unmarried girl belongs to her father and her father's family to an extent.

Bride price is both a physical and spiritual ritual as far as African culture goes. It is the appeasement of both man and spirit. It is also the fulfilment of manhood and a testament of financial responsibility on the side of the man that he is capable of taking care of his family.
As far as Africa goes, until a bride price is paid as stipulated by the girl's father, she's not properly married. The spirits won't recognise such a marriage even if it were conducted in a church by the Pope himself or in a court by the chief judge of the federation. Until a father's requirements are met in the traditional marriage setting, she remains not properly married. Only he has the privilege to give his daughter out.

Bride price does not in anyway depicts the trading off of women. Like every good custom and practice, it is bound to suffer abuse and corruption.

mizquote:
if a man want to show appreciation to the bride family by bringing gifts, it very okay, likewise the lady.

but no piece of paper should be presented to the man to pay certain amount of money to the family, even if the man can not afford it.

A lady's value is not on the money the man pays to her family, but expressed in the way he respects and treats her and her family.

bukatyne:
While I agree that people should not compare their relationships.... I find the rest of your post amusing.

You seem to suggest there are no good husbands & every woman is suffering and smiling somehow when she says she wouldn't take poo.

I know husbands who would do anything to make their wives happy always... If senerading her nightly or as oft as he can does it, he is willing.

It is hard to believe there are still fantastic husbands around as the sob stories and negativity sells and once a wife doesn't tell us how her husband pounds her daily or goes on a dick sharing campaign, she is lying.


This is why I find it hard & unnecessary discussing details of my relationship/marriage with anyone... and when people start their sob stories, I switch to listen only mode as I have none to tell.

I believe people have loving relationships on/offline because I have seen examples. Everyone knows what is good for them and if playing the fool helps them achieve it, great.

N.B.: You just managed to tell us that there are no good husbands.

bukatyne:
N.B.: You just managed to tell us that there are no good husbands.

tosyne2much:
Hahaha funny u

marshborn:
Mad man

Virginkpekus:
Hmmmm, I would surely react differently from all the listed.

Lezzlie:
You've been AWOL or MIA for long, bro.

A lot has happened.

But thank God you're back, hopefully for good this time.

Check my signature for poetry and vote

bukatyne:
Old story and I commented on a previous thread.

However OP, what was Biyi supposed to divorce her husband for

Wrong thread title.

shaybebaby:
Depends on the expectations not being met. I wouldn't divorce a guys for the reasons above re not having a job. A job doesn't define a person rather it would be his attempts at to solve the problem that I would analyse.

Anyways, I am going through a divorce right now and would advocate it when all else fails. The most important thing is determining when the horse is well and truly dead. At that point, it's time to move on.

So there! One divorce advocate present.!!!

KevinDein:
Don't you just love the way this thread is being deserted by nairaland resident divorce advocates?
I guess the story hit them real hard; Kinda reminded them of their lives
I will make it a duty to keep this thread alive for as long as possible.

WHOcarex:
Stale. I don read this drama how many years ago

Lezzlie:

Lolz, I've been doing that, bro. As witty as she is, she loves short stories more.

And I do send her all my hand written threads for her perusal before posting

Nice narrative and a true depiction of the character of most married women.


And that has been the bane of some marriages.

The needless penchant for petty competition and out-shinning their neighbours' wives.

A man who finds a wife that's true to reality has found a treasure here on earth.







I'm a killer and a lover;
I come with a gun and a rose

firstEVA:
wife

you don't look bad yourself

edwife:
When you focus on the 'have nots', you make yourself into the 'have nots'. You will then become very hostile,jealous and resentful at all the things your partner doesn't do instead of valuing what he/she brings on the table.

This attitude can turn into treading on thin ice and your desires will come across as demands that can set stage for a lot of fights. Whenever you think that your relationship is falling short compared to your friends or strangers,try remembering that you only see slices of their real lives.

What you can do while admiring other people relationships,is to recognize your own relationships strengths and focus on the thing that are working while trying to improve others by coming up with ideas for how to do it.

Over thinking and toiling over things that have absolutely no bearing to your relationship/marriage can be disastrous because things might never work for you because you are different.

montezz:
Lol....what can i say? Thanks.

firstEVA:
I am too lazy to read lengthy write ups.

montezz:
Hmmm. It was worth the read.