₦airaland Forum

Timbuktou:
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How many Nigerians use condom with their steady partners? Nigerian women that like skin-to-skin more than flies love poop? Cocoa, I'm a Lagos boy. Please, show me some respect. . Nigerian girls that will keep face like Buhari if they hear "con.." sef?

freecocoa:
Yea right, Why shouldn't I mention alum and co?, doesn't it help with tightening? And I hear the vagina doesn't even slack, especially not from 'too much sêx' like really slack the way you people make it sound. Viagra is to peenis what alum is to vajayjay.

We are talking about women and suddenly condoms are unheard of, plus what does sperm have to do with anything?

It's just your mind Biko.

freecocoa:
Good stuff ko, like yourself is good.


Mscheww.

ApexTitan:
Boys Night Out thread and you guys keep engaging the ladies directly here. To what end?

SAMBARRY:
you said "as IF the women will allow in the child raising process and I said liar because you know between you and I you're lying. Isn't IT African men that like forming child raising and dressing them up is a woman's affair?

TyLegal:
Sometimes, ignorance is bliss. If Brother Bayo had not gone through his wife's phone, he would probably still be a happy man.

Living4christ:
I did not write this thread because i am over wise or I know all, I only wrote to see contributions, not for me alone but for those who might see it and presumably overcome the lapses others have failed to see and avoid, it is good also to noth "understanding is not confined in age or experience, there is a spirit in man and the spirit of God giveth it understanding"

Even an 18 year old boy will ends up getting married, and i am responsible not just a stay at home person, (am not trying to pride myself) i am currently typing from office.

last time i check 18 year is adulthood.

I only want to see contribution for me and also for others.

jashar:
No be your pikin?

It takes 2 to tangle and make a baby. It should take 2 to raise that baby.

BoboYekini:
If I hear. Every older woman hates the guts of the young supple ones. With their smooth tight bodies in sheer clothing, catwalking up and down like say na their papa get the complex.

Timbuktou:
You mean the older ones that regret not sampling a million men before getting married? The older ones that advise the younger ones to date as many as they can so that they can get it out of their system? " The older ones that are distributing kpomo as we speak? Bros abeg. Where do you think the younger ones are getting their present orientation from?

SAMBARRY:
So you reduce your kids to using them to make money. Iyen na daaa.oun lo nice ju.and this was what 5minsmadness was talking about the other day.he's right though but his manner of addressing useless mother's like this is very rude.smh

SAMBARRY:
liar!!!!!!!!

ifyalways:
If you check very well, the mother will be a failed model hence living her failed dream on the poor child. So so pathetic.

Where is the child's dad

Men should get more involved please. Screaming on NLD is not enough.

tearoses:
Yes
Air strikes have started
The UK is now at threat of a revenge terrorist attack.

itstpia8:
Does it fulfil a function or keep people healthier/richer?


Not sure if I'm missing something.


of course friendly or general mocking is inevitable sometimes, but other times it comes across as cruel.

RoyalRoy:
[color=#000033] Lol....trying to protect u from your boss!!

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tearoses:
So we are officially at war
People please be extra careful
May Gods protection be upon us all and may we not be caught up in this

nasha1:
we have many obsess people on nairaland.when someone always quote u to abuse u or throw snide comments,that person is obsess with u.
when they cant control themselves anytime u are in an argument with someone they are always there 2 like and share comments as long as it insult u then that person is obsess with u.plenty sick people from this place.

SAMBARRY:
Only if your utterances were as cute and innocent as your face.I don't even know where to start dissecting your post because everything about it is wrong

SAMBARRY:
5minsmadness aka cupcake I know if the woman was forming career woman. I'm a boss at work. I have to leave home 6.30am and get home 9pm.NO time or attention for the husband. Work target has enveloped her so much that she doesn't have time .NO be una go bash am say she's not giving her husband attention and if she's not another woman will now you have the effontery to talk about "my space","my time ".I just taya for you

Gaggi:
Before i start, let me say i am no misogynist. I'm in a happy and committed relationship and my partner is happy. Men need to know how to relate with women and know what to expect and not expect. Women are not equal to men.

Do's:
1. Provide for them. Only a lazy man would expect a woman to provide or ask a woman to provide. Men should take care of all the responsibilities in the relationship. Pay the rent, provide food and provide for the kids. Let the woman use her money for herself and the kids if she likes. Remove your eyes from her money even if she earns more than you.

2. Whip her into line and be the authority in the relationship. Always take charge. Only a weak man wants his woman to help him take major decisions. Women are weak and sentimental. Don't leave major decisions in their hands. Allow her sort out the little things like the decor and menu's etc.
If she steps out of line, correct her immediately. Always lay down the law. Guide her. Women need our guidance to flourish irrespective of what they tell you.

3. Let her know women and sex are cheap to get. You are staying faithful because you love her. Let her know the day she begins to deny you of your needs, you can dump her. In the case of the married, let her know you can get a side chick and the world would not end. Women were created to pleasure us. It's the right of any real man to always have a woman to take care of his needs.

Don't:

1. Hit her or abuse her verbally. It's beneath any real man to begin to fight or exchange words with a woman. Just laugh at her if she begins to nag or rant or simply walk out and get a beer. It's not their fault, they are emotional. You can't compare an emotional being with a rational being. There are in different classes.

2. Stop calling women gold diggers. Only half men keep referring to women as gold diggers. Women were made to look up to us for their needs. It's too bad a lot of men are lazy and can't provide, hence they result to calling women gold diggers. Every guy should look for his level. If you are a bricklayer, look for a pepper seller that you can meet her needs, don't go eyeing the girl that wears a Brazilian wig. Men should spend money on their women. It's their right to be taken care of by us financially, just the same way it is our right to be taken care of sexually and domestically by them.
No matter how rich she is, still provide for her. it's not a crime.

3. Don't keep platonic friendship. If you like a woman, tell her you like her and want you. If she refuses, move on. Stop hanging around like a lost puppy. friendship with women is a waste of time. Nothing to be gained. Keep friends with fellow men instead. If she is a classmate, colleague or neighbour you can make an exception and be friendly just because it is expected. Mere friendship with a woman is useless and irrelevant. 1 yr of friendship with a man is more beneficial than 20 yrs friendship with a woman.

Feel free to disagree if you wish, it's your headache. Lalasticlala, let's school these men.

raumdeuter:
There are many things that make a person not just being married. Most women are actually self centered.

The guy was that way before he married, He had other things that made him happy. After work, A guy has to probably prepare for more professional exams, higher education, weekly Chess or Tennis clubs games, have weekly bible studies to attend, have Saturdays dedicated to football to watch, Maybe goes to the gym 2 hrs for 3 days a week. These are the things that make him who he is for her to desire a marital union with him but as soon as he gets married, he has to drop all those and just stay watching the eyes of the wife.

Its usually with girls who have no social life and nothing going for them hoping to dump all their emotional burden on the man post marriage

Even Zukerberg or Obama you think they dont have other things they do with their lives? If sitting down to stare at the faces of their spouse is what makes them who they are today. You think Obama made the connections to be popular in Politics and become a president by staring at Michelle's eyes day and night? Do you know how many round the clock meeting he had to do, how much networking he had to do, how much hanging out with colleagues he had to do. The guy was even a community organiser which means endless meetings here and there

Those men that became Bank MD, that became partners in their firms that became succesful people do you think they made it by sitting down at home all day starring at their wifes face? Yet na the same wife would tell him after a few years that why isnt he succcesful like Mr A and B.

If you know how many business deals are completed at the typical Boys night club hangout, Golf course or Tennis club

Which man became succesful in life by sitting at home all day looking at his wifes face day and night. Am sure if he does that. the same woman would tell him to go and be a man and not just sit at home

Why isnt the man forcing the wife to be in his own image rather its the women always looking to change their husband

Let her go ahead and get that someone real quick so both of their lives wont be miserable. The guy is sad because the wife doesnt want him to be who he is, the wife is sad because the husband isnt who she wants him to be
Rather than have 2 unhappy people she should serve him divorce papers and go pursue her happiness

Ujoan:
Why don't you reverse the table . . . What would you say if OP is always out till late in the night, leaving hubby all alone at home. All the the name of hanging out with her friends?

I understand the need to jump to this man's defense, we all know that 80% of Nigerian married men still live like bachelors. OF course you have to justify your actions to yourselves, forgetting you wives are also humans, just like you.

Ujoan:
A woman stays home and makes the house a home for the man to come home to (cooking, cleaning) . .

Contributes financially to the family (sometimes more than the man) . . . .

Has to go through life-changing experiences to have his children . . .

Has to nurture the children till adulthood . . .

How does the man staying home to help out make marriage about women's convenience

Or what was your point again?

Ujoan:
Maybe she's saying this out of anger . . or maybe she never knew this part of him. How else will you knot this about a man, except you live with him?



I can't believe you will compare his kids with his friends? Should't he also be lavishing love on the kids, are they not his?
You men forget that there is a thin line between love and hate. When a man (who claims) to love me would rather spend time with other people than me, I start to question his love. If someone hurst you over and over and over again, without remorse, the love is bound to 'reduce'.
What you men don't know is that [size=18pt]this lifestlye is a type of cheating[/size]. Anything that constantly takes a man's attention away from his wife is not a good thing.



Now who's childish? SMH!