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Japsylee:
Nice pictures.... but these are young nairalanders.... .

finest0007:
Been house hunting for over a week with no positive result. Anyone with knowledge of a self contain not too far from UI gate should hit me up. Agbowo, Ajibode, Bodija etc I need a self con with 120k max total package.

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RealMrNigerD:
My fellow smart nigerians. Please I would advise before we get all emotional and all, we take a minute to read through OP's profile and be sure you want to believe this post. Not saying the post's a lie, but it could very well be a "spark created for a living". Just so we don't all end up as iconic idiots floating around in the endless space of OP's mind for entertainment in her moment of boredom or a good laugh before bedtime, I suggest caution. For some reason, mode of presentation, I suppose, this looks more to me like a scripted post out of a book than an actual experience. Moreso, someone in this condition has much to fear sharing it on a public forum, except they went incognito(moniker-wise). But OP's picture is even there for all to see, almost nothing hidden. So this may just be a publicity stunt/attention seeking.
But well, to make the most of the post, for the sake of those actually in this condition and if at all, for OP's sake.
People who tend to this disposition are mostly highly Melancholic, undertone Phlegmatic. I have had many Melphlegs as best friends one time or another, my favorite temperament too, and I'm well read in temperaments so I know a lot about Melphlegs. They can indeed(only in extreme or dire cases) fit the description in the post, especially if they fail to achieve their idealistic dreams/ambitions but it's rare to find one in this condition.
Given that this condition mostly prevails for lack of fulfillment or feeling your potentials are underutilized and remembering that Man was created to work and will find ultimate pleasure in his work, here's what you should do if this fits you:
1. Get the right people around your life. The people you keep around should be those who can easily understand your temperament and are also achieving their dreams. Open relationships are best, share both your weaknesses and strengths together. This pushes you towards achieving your dreams and feeling "fitted" into society.

2. Rather than indulging your moody feelings, have a constructive getaway like reading history of major world events to understand patterns in human behaviour. Go for big discoveries like the secrets of the successful men(scientists, world rulers etc.) who have altered historical patterns and caused paradigm shifts.

3. Learn to have a good chill in between your working towards set goals and in your funtime, engage your mental strengths. Play mentally constructive games like chess(not simple fun games that kill time without building your mental capacity)

4. Do much research in the line of your dreams. This is the internet age. Live it. If possible, join online communities of people who share your goals and are working to achieve it, and make sure you work to become the best of them.

5. Set high goals for yourself, that others may call unachievable. But work towards them because they only are if you don't. Beat your own records again and again and become your only competition in this world.
I still have more to say o, but I've got to go now. Work just dropped on me table. Hopefully, I'll be back later to finish up.
And yeah, Brown Eyes, you are not a sadist for being sad and gloomy. You only are if you're a really evil villain who loves to watch others suffer and get tortured, take note.
Cc: lalasticlala , seun

DenreleDave:
You are very stupid..

Pls no moderator shud push this to the front page...

Imagine asking us if u shud concentrate on ur business or on a woman... Are you so sick to that extent... What is the essence of woman when there is no business? You are stupid for that question.. Imagine, business or woman

MrBrownJay1:
i highly suggest you STAY HOME... many have died for less than the above foolishness you are about to embark in...

since you are talking about god, why dont you A) ask for god to send you the funds to get an apt (instead of begging online strangers for free stay) or B) go to your nearest church and ask the people there to help you.

chukwuibuipob:
U are confused .U are mentally unstable upstairs .Check in to ARO

SarkinYarki:
Your dog? Does your have 100m of its own ..oga park well you cannot possibly have bah more than I do ...from your comment I know you are a broke ass , na una dey advise people to invest invest in what ? Gerrout ..I swear you are a broke ass

Amadioha02:
I picked the money on the street

Tnnig:
Buy a very clean car, register on UBER, TAXIFY or OPAY and start making cool cash without much stress

dangotesmummy:
ori e ope.... stupid thing..na you give me data buy? something wey them suppose use do menses.omo lasan ikeji aja

And to think this illiterate doesn't even know the difference between YOU AND "U". Doesn't know when to use SHUT and SHOT, doesn't know how to spell YOUR


Go back and learn how to write properly,then you can trade words with me but till then run along

Meanwhile

Who even dashed it jakandeola.you ought to be jakandeoriburuku...awon eyan gidi lonje jakandeola,kin shey awon oloriburuku bitie

Davash222:
I hate to see men saying all these thrash cos of women. The time spent in writing this epistles would have been used to watch YouTube videos on how to be a freelancer and free yourself from poverty.

3 guys are coming for her hand in marriage, and you believe she’s not dating any of them
I pray God should give you sense before this year runs out.

dannyla:
I opened a new account to remain anonymous.
This story is a bit long but pls bear with me.

I met this man almost 2yrs ago at an event a friend invited me to. The next week, he collected my number from my friend and called me, we began talking from there and agreed to go on a date. He proposed marriage to me on the first date which I rejected. I told him that I can't marry outside my church and from the little I've heard from him, our life dreams differ. I decided to cut him off from that day and I stayed away for about 3months. Meanwhile he got my friend to introduce him to my sis, mum and another friend who happened to be from his place, I'll call her Grace.
He made them all aware of his intent towards me and my stand and asked for their help to change my mind. Grace became his biggest ally and convinced me to have another date. He asked that we date for a while and see if we can work out our differences. During the date I noticed he has a very hot and quick temper and he listens to gossip a lot so I do tell Gracethat I don't see a future with him but he was too persistent, Grace always had words of encouragement and considering the fact that for some strange reason, it was mainly married men always approach me for a relationship with stories of how they got married to a wrong woman and they are or are almost divorced, dating a single man with no kids was very tempting and I decided to give it a try.

He asked me to tell him everything about me so there are no secrets between us and I did. Starting from secondary school to that day, I told him everything, from my first kiss, the colleague who tried to rape me, my ex who lied about his marital status and disvirgined me etc. he did the same too and I felt a burden roll off my shoulder.

Few days later I began to notice changes in him especially towards my business. I thrive in a male dominated industry in a ratio of 9men to 1woman. He asked me to show him the pictures of my colleagues which I did, he also asked if they make passes at me which I said is almost inevitable but my boundaries are clear and rigid.

Fast forward to now. I noticed that whenever I drop my phone, he goes through it. Facebook, sms, WhatsApp etc. He even picks my call when I'm not close to the phone. He asked me about a certain colleague who cracks dirty jokes like how I rushed to get married (I told him I'm already married). I didn't think much about it.

He later began to complain about my partners and how I'm sleeping with them like the prostitute I am, called me an unrepentant liar, unsubmisive, manipulating etc. Said he regrets asking for my hand at all and he's just waiting forthe day he'll catch me redhanded so he can dump my sorry a*s.
I told him to end it now cus I'm fed up, family came in and I later found out that Grace has been telling a lot of lies against hoping to get him for herself as well as hate filled advises from some aggrieved friends who felt ladies from my tribe are no good and just there to "chop money". Apologies were said and received and we continued.

Another time I visited him and we had an argument, he gave me several heavy knocks on my head and I developed a headache and began to insult him which resultedin more heavy knocks. I broke up with him and left. Later my mum called him to ask why he laid his hands on me, he denied it swearing with his life. Said I insulted him and he lost his temper and insulted me back that he's sorry. He began to drop messages everywhere and I eventually gave in.

3rd incident happened on our way back from an event. He saw a message from a colleague he told me to stop doing business with cus he feels the man has his eyes on me which is totally not true. He flared up, stopped the car and was even threatening to beat me up. I came down from his car and stood by the roadside. He came down too and gave me the insult of my life in full public view and glare and told me to enter the car which I refused. I had no money on me and had to beg a stranger for money. By that time he was coming back, he quickly took a picture of both of us and sent it to everybody of how he caught me in the act with my lover on the road. He called me and said that if he must marry me, I must break my business sim card and look for a wife friendly occupation or sit at home.

He later apologised over it. Meanwhile he and my sis don't flow as before as he once called her a prostitute.

I want to call it quits but everyone around me feels it's a mistake and he is saying everything out of anger and if I'm patient enough, he will change completely.

I must admit that he has changed alot since we met but the progress compared to the timeframe and the heat I face everyday is nothing to write home about.

He loves me to a fault and I don't know if I can find someone who loves me like him but his other attitude is sniffing life out of me. Do I stay or quit?
Thanks for reading and pardon any typos

Ahkohlahde:
How much will it cost to change all data on my Nigeria passport,does anyone have an ideal on that

Eartquake1:
Queen of what??

Untainted007:
Both of them are not losers. They both gained money wise jst that one pass another.

cutieme:
Hello Nairalanders especially nigerians plying their trade in Namibia please i'd like to know more about the country(Namibia)I'm a fresh graduate from the university and i've been having this dream of moving to Namibia to stay,so pls can Nigerians there tell me how life is over there in terms of getting a job,doing business,accomodation,their economy,weather,currency,immigration law and e.t.c.Pls i'd be happy to hear from you guys over there Thanks.

rafou001:
Does anyone know the best way to export goods?

Nigerian postal service and DHL seam to be way too expensive.

youngkizo:
Jakarta not Malaysia
#Op it was caused as a result of a crusade held on the 16-19th of October by the proph. Chukwuemeka Odumeje (LionHimself)
Niggaz were spraying money at the event hall, that made the Indonesian government to start checkmating their source of income .

Eaganguolly:
Well said bro, it is a risk which I want to take. My guy over there took his own dicision in 2012 and today he earns in total 10000QAR which is nearly 1m per month.

blackz:
Dear all,
I finally got my bag untouched but I had to pay duty on it. The cost of duty really depends on the amount indicated on the items or luggage sent.

mrwonlasewonie:
talode yi tokanjawa layi lokun lorun.in your simple mind,bi oseponu to, English is a true test of intelligence ABI?alogoh,otun goh lasan o,otun fenu hora

Donclaracuzo:
Please, any guru for Turkish Visa in the house. I would like to know. Thank you.

aladey00:
I think you should try other countries.
Malaysia is too expensive for Naija Barbers unless you want dey play hide and seek with immigresen.



but how can I get visa and which visa and like how much it will cost me to travel there first so I may do like you said recent that unless we will likely marry Malaysia wowan or india and chinese women to be able to get license to work over there

Chainsmokers:
Everyone is tired of naija,,,, imagine everyone leaving the way you want to leave who will be left in the country?

Selfless1:
Which good country in Africa can I enter from Ghana. I'm tired of Nigeria.

steve13:
Is it not the same bolame that was asking about where to stay in malaysia/going to thailand?now you are ready to go on a suicide mission?am not discouraging u ooo,am just encouraging u to write ur WILL before departure,write am down.