₦airaland Forum

TV01: The requirement for and the dispensation of grace does not end when you've met the one. You need it still once wed. It should be asked for and is freely given.

For example; I know a lot of men stray when their wives are expecting. Was it inevitable? No. Grace ad faith made that a lie, a non issue for us. I loved my wife more and we bonded the more. It heightened our journey.

For example; Nobody knows how pregnancy will change a woman physically. It can physically wreck women. My wife had - in my opinion - a near perfect figure when I met and married her. Did pregnancy take a toll? Yes, but I truly cherish her the more.

All my fears - based on observation - were groundless. But we still pray to love each other more, to cherish each other further, to remain faithful and for more grace. We don't take it for granted



I was and I am sure I made the right choice. It was a mixture of understanding and being led. By the end, I was bold to approach, confident to ask and knew what to look for. I also utterly trusted , that like all the ones before, that if she were the wrong one God would end it, as long as I stayed humble, stayed true and sought His Face.

On the one extreme, one can have total faith in God to lead you to your spouse - or bring your spouse to you. On the other, one can have the maturity and understanding to choose wisely and commit it to God. Or a mixture. We are all different. I heard umpteen testimonies about how people met and married. But God gave me my own template. Trust Him, he'll give you yours. I fleeced when I was "younger" in the Lord and God answered, but by the end, I wouldn't dream of doing that.

God bless
TV


On Divorce: I believe divorce is only permissible - not necessarily prescribed - where there is adultery. Re-marriage is only permitted in the event of death (there is some discussion to be had there to provide depth and clarity, but that is essentially it in my view).

On Spousal Abuse: Why is it worse than adultery? If it's incipient within marriage, there can be forgiveness, restoration and healing. It starts somewhere. Which part of "love and respect" is confusing? If before marriage,you should not have proceeded. Poor foundation. Marriage is for the mature, Xtian or not. Many things may be considered grounds for separation, but the truth is, only one is cited for divorce and one for remarriage. The exhortation is to marry properly, marry a God fearing person.

On The Past: Share everything about the past prior to marriage. If the trust is not there to share, you are probably not ready, if they are not willing to share, they are probably not right.

Gracious10: More reason u should wait till u know what u want. Confusion issues must be dealt with before u involve another serious focused person into a relationship.

sadeiyare: You can only marry one person ; You decide lol

Bibol: Have you considered focusing on the kind of husband you will like to become? Maybe you should quit thinking of what she should look like, because you may never have all those qualities in one single lady. You may marry a very petite woman today and later on, become +sized. Rather, i think you should be more concerned about who she is on the inside. It is the inner qualities that make a person. All in all, if you are still single, its best to set your affection on spiritual things, that way, you'll attract the right set of people and keep an open heart. You never know what God has in stock for you. All the best!

Bibol: He didn't create the thread. Toba did. The issue here is that we should emulate what the Scriptures say. I'm not sure Christ would have judged him because of his past. Remember Mary Magdalene's story? What makes a man a saint is when he falls and gets back up again. We should never stop encouraging our fellow believers because trust me, its really difficult to be a true Christian in this perverse generation.Its when we are faced with extremely tempting situations that we can say whether or not we are standing.The only consolation we have is that God will never let us face a situation that we cannot handle. That's why he gave us the willpower. Everything we have or ever hope to achieve is by the mercies of God.

dasparrow: @Bolded Did God create the woman's mouth for a man to stick his private part into it? Was that God's intention when he gave you a p*en/is? What do you think sodomy is all about? If you see nothing wrong with o*ral s*ex, then you should not condemn homosex*uals either. O*ral s*ex is an unnatural s*ex activity and falls under the category of sex*ual perversion. It is not ordinary because the mouth was not created for you to stick your p*en/is which probably has dried up urine and sp*er/m around it into someone's mouth. It's not even hygienic. Those of you who practice unnatural sex*ual acts do not have the Holy Ghost in you and have rejected God. Just because someone is your wife does not mean you have to start engaging in unnatural crap with the person. Very soon, you will begin to think of sticking your p*en/is into your wife's nose and ears and any other opening in the body. And soon after, bestiality will follow and some of you will come back here again to ask if there is anything wrong engaging in intimacy with your dog and goat. Our world is becoming an increasingly sick place and judgement day will be very interesting. No wonder Jesus said that not everyone who called on him while on earth saying "Lord, Lord" will enter into the kingdom of heaven. He is referring to so-called Christians who want to serve Jesus and satan at the same time. Christians who go to church on Sunday but engage in worldly filth and perversion Monday through Saturday. Sadly, I see a lot of Nigerian Christians who fall under this category and then you wonder why God has turned His back on Nigeria and Nigerians are mocked and scorned everywhere we go.

dasparrow: @Bolded

Did God create the woman's mouth for a man to stick his private part into it? Was that God's intention when he gave you a p*en/is? What do you think sodomy is all about? If you see nothing wrong with o*ral s*ex, then you should not condemn homosex*uals either. O*ral s*ex is an unnatural s*ex activity and falls under the category of sex*ual perversion. It is not ordinary because the mouth was not created for you to stick your p*en/is which probably has dried up urine and sp*er/m around it into someone's mouth. It's not even hygienic.

Those of you who practice unnatural sex*ual acts do not have the Holy Ghost in you and have rejected God. Just because someone is your wife does not mean you have to start engaging in unnatural crap with the person. Very soon, you will begin to think of sticking your p*en/is into your wife's nose and ears and any other opening in the body. And soon after, bestiality will follow and some of you will come back here again to ask if there is anything wrong engaging in intimacy with your dog and goat.

Our world is becoming an increasingly sick place and judgement day will be very interesting. No wonder Jesus said that not everyone who called on him while on earth saying "Lord, Lord" will enter into the kingdom of heaven. He is referring to so-called Christians who want to serve Jesus and satan at the same time. Christians who go to church on Sunday but engage in worldly filth and perversion Monday through Saturday. Sadly, I see a lot of Nigerian Christians who fall under this category and then you wonder why God has turned His back on Nigeria and Nigerians are mocked and scorned everywhere we go.

RedReact: From my own perspective, God gave eternity to man, that is his will for him, but man forfeited the will of God by disobeying Him.
The fact that God says Sis A is a partner to Bro B does not mean that they will automatically be together forever if they neglect their own personal works and responsibility.

Chizolum: Me again...

Rossikk: Why won't they hate us? They turn on their TV and there is Nollywood. They switch on their radio and there's 2baba, Bracket, Whizkid and P-Square causing havoc. Everywhere they see Africans ballin', it's Nigerians.

It's like everywhere they turn, we dominate. Such a thing can induce real jealousy and animosity among people.

I suggest we ignore them, since they're hardly relevant in the wider scheme of things.

Mandelaguy: STFU. Your mouth has turned to sewage pipe. Can you properly outline the basis of the insult you are hauling at a man light years ahead of you? Or are you here to air an already stale pattern of abuse? Keep quiet if you don't have anything to say.

thelastPope: You can keep wallowing in ignorance all day. It wouldn't help your case. The only thing you know is that she is in germany in an hospital. Every other thing that is coming from an "undisclosed source" is lazy and msichievous gossip at best. You think the president will go around discussing his wife's condition with friends and family? Use that white matter between your eyes and stop being led around like a sheep

debrief08: He was honest from day 1, told me what he wanted even though I assumed it was one of those lines, but I accepted more lunch and dinner dates, I saw he was very intelligent, honest, decent, logical (not one of those my pastor said peeps), made me laugh, respected his parents, had good family relationship, not to forget the first kiss. Hmmmm, that kiss requires a thread of its own

Billyonaire: I never knew BBpin can be used to trace sim number. That's classic!!

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