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Xilsbridalhouse:
I’m in so much tears right now!!!! Look at me just trying to do my business, and I just got scammed! Oh God tried to stop me but I wasn’t conscious enough!

It started with my card being declined and I reached out to Zenith bank on Twitter. I was told you add up a number on WhatsApp to chat with their customer care. I did and everything looked professional, honestly I had no idea that I was about to be scammed!

The scammer asked for my card details which I told him no, but he assured me that he is not a scammer. I sent it, but the card still didn’t work so I transferred my money to my dad’s account hoping to use his card, but the customer care kept disturbing me that they want to help me resolve it. I had to beg my dad to transfer back but he kept forgetting to transfer back and I was pissed!!!! I kept calling for hours till he finally did tonight and the customer care wiped off my account after I sent the OTP codes to him foolishly, thinking I was chatting with their staff!

After my account got wiped off, it was then I realized the mention on my Twitter was from a dorm account on Twitter!

I am in so much pains guys!

Scammers why did you do this to us?

Tell me, if something bad befalls your family will you be happy

I take all the blame...I have always been a security conscious person, but today .....


Please learn from my mistake.


I’m in so much tears right now.

the guy carry your card play betting for sportybet

GetMeOutofNaija:
Are you in the USA, Canada, U.K, Australia or Germany, at least 30 and looking for a wife? Pick me. Am a fashion designer, homely, respectful, ready to be your lovely wife. You come marry me in Naija then carry me go.

Serious men only.

Why in Abroad why not in Nigeria... some girl self na already cook food una dey find... una no wan start from scratch

izito:
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In 2016 she told me her salary was #50.000 And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only #5000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. #400,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine. 

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.” 

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?”  He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”


My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions. 

*What's your take?*

my guy no vex that's woman for you ... let it go .. let her know he shouldn't have done that... let her know you're hard working man... just be calm.... Don't collect the money from her for the car... let the matter die down... everything she does have it in mind is for also for your kids...

Woman are like that... try and build your own house too. God will help you

benjsniper33:
Dagrin gone Lala gone Dr Frabz gone

dagrin don vex for where he dey

Coronabirus:
Dangote Refinery is a jewel & blessing to Nigeria. The most expensive projects in the history of Nigeria.

You are talking like a child of yesterday. I guess you should ask the elders how Nigeria acquires 3 refinery that was destroy to impoverished by those saboteur

My Noticed:

I don't know if you can notice time without number seeing people of political and socialite visit Dangote refinery and Not Visit the Dead refineries

As from the time of Ambode, emefule, kemi adeosun, Sanwolu Among many other names

is Dangote refinery the only Investment or project that the Government of Nigeria think to be proud of.

The Dead Ajaokuta Steel is there I don't see any government think on how to visit the place ,None to mention.

I Don't think if you All could notice this, Very soon the Almighty Buhari will one day leave Abuja to say he want to visit Dangote refinery soon.

My opinion

drmikeadams:
The driving u talking bout bro..is it taxify driving or company driving bro?

virtually as a man you must know how to drive.

opportunity can show up

korope no bi work

Prospertochu:
No I don't know how to drive

Oga go learn am ooo ... that will settle your problem small... and then you look yourself and call yourself a man...

Driving has help to gain my ground as a man...

please do. if that work doesn't pay find keke maruwa dey drive

put away shame. woman need money forget office work and settle your home

may God bless your home

Prospertochu:
She isn’t working at the moment , she was selling drinks but her sister has stopped her from using her fridge. I only have 1 younger sister she still in school

Please Do you know how to drive??

Most men of nowadays doesn't know how to drive. I have a similar situation but knowing how to drive can help you alot. all this office work or salary work won't solve your situation

I mean double your hustle and find a way to leave that work that you're paid 55k too small consider house rent and Nepa Bill, adding lawma money among many other bill your to pay.

find a better work that you can call your own not working for people

Chuxx84:
Good evening nairalanders.
Please I need advice/opinions on this issue at hand.

I have been taking care of my mother since before I got married, I have other brothers older and younger but they are not financially buoyant. (So they claimed) I did not mind this but kept on caring for her ( house rent, feeding, other bills).

Although it's a burden to me, but she is my mother. Now my wife suggest that any money I want to give to her should pass through her (I will send to my wife then she sends to my mother) or she does the sending and I later pay her back.

Her claim is my mother is fetish with my money. I'm confused can this be true? Sometimes my mother will make simple money request my wife would say I should ignore her. She says she is taking me for a fool. I am beginning to get tired of this whole thing. Please help with advice or opinions.

Thanks.

your wife dey craze which kind talk bi that...

why are telling us like they want to vaccinate people of Covid 19

Golden147:
Good evening my elders,
Please I need your advice as I'm about to quit my relationship. May be long but please bear with me..I just createdthis Account for this.

Okay,I have been chatting with this girl online though she always chat me up first... Got to know shix from my place through a Friend.
So December 26 last year, she saw me on bike in the village nd Stopped me then asked me to come take her out after introducing herself. I promised to come pick her up by 6:30pm after my daily business activities. Then she gave me her number nd collected mine.by exact 6:30pm babe called me nd we hangout..
Shix the only girl in her family of five boy's, she went home nd the second bro asked who was that she was eating with nd she said it's me, unlike before, according to her, he will beat her but this time the brother only advised her.

I'm just a young hustling guy of 24, in my hnd 1, and shix 22 and in her ND 1..fastly, babe introduced me to all her family members without my knowledge nd the snr bro asked me to come , this I keep declining but one day I decided to go nd it all went well as the all welcomed me.

Long story short, everything has been fine, but after visiting her family I got to fall deeply inlove With babe unlike me....she explained how bad thing's are for her but I never mind spending on her to because I have it..
This semester I paid her Lodge fees, textbook,her feeding buy her clothes and did same for myself.
I'm now sponsoring our education but I don't feel it though because I can provide for Them.

Problems started as babe continuously tell me those asking her out which I don't feel anything about it nd she equally gave out her Facebook password together with phone password but I told her to keep it herself. I don't need it. She always post me on her Facebook and used my picture as her WhatsApp picture.

Today I was on video call with her, her roomie was shouting, I will tell him ,I will tell him nd I said say it, then she decided to tell me saying one guy in ph was asking her out nd she told the guy to sent money for her to come see her nd the guy sent the money..I got annoyed nd ended the call..
She called back several times to no avail..I didn't pick.

Right now, I feel much annoyed nd I want to end the relationship...I don't trust her anymore.

BEFORE You call me a sip, I take good care of my family also, nd my mum is proud nd has also supported me.. she knows about my relationship with her too, infact all My family... I'm not doing bad neither, as I have got my own personal home too.
I need advice right now.

he never reach that level to end a relationship now... those are roommate are more jealous of who she is now rolling out with. just warn her let her know what you like and what you don't

idea stealer

Hmmmmmm001:
I am really angry as I type this right now. Sorry to bore you with this epistle.
I have been dating this girl for two years and planning to settle down this year but there are some issues bothering me and one of it just happened few minutes before I typed posted this.

Before the coronavirus pandemic, she told me she would love to go into textile and sell in bales especially imported. I loved this idea as it was brilliant and I love girls who use valuable times for something productive. I offered to even lend her some money to start. I told her to start small and let me know when she took off the business. She started and I gave her 100k to augment the business. She started the business and all was going well before corona came. She couldn't continue the business during the corona period. After normal business resumed, I found out she isn't continuing the business as she gives excuses when I asked. I pressured her until she told me she's given her capital to her mom to do things she didn't disclosed. She crumbled the business just like that. It was only recently she's just about to start off another one which I had to offset 150k to meet up the deadline for the shop she intends to use.

Now today, I have my own personal business which runs into some millions. My sister oversees it when I'm away because I had to travel alot last earlier this year. Now my sister could wasn't free as usual as she's out of the country now. I brought my girlfriend in to oversees the sales especially the invoice and cash payment. Yesterday, I went through the inventory and cross-checked with the records and found about 180k missing. I have only only about 1.4m worth of goods now down from 1.6m I started with this year.
I had to go meet some new suppliers who were introduced to me by a friend. She opted to come stay till I get back. I recieved a call from her that she sold some goods and the person used our POS payment system but the balance isn't adding up. I told her if it's less than 30 seconds, it will still reflect. I logged into the mobile app of the payment platform to check the transaction and found out it was a failed transaction. I called her immediately but she said it was approved at her end. I stopped everything I was doing to come back to the shop and reprinted all transactions for the day, it was the highest and written as failed. The transaction was 290k and she wasn't even concentrating while it was going on. She issued a receipt for it and the person made away with the goods. I even searched around and saw the printout of the failed transaction. It was until then she stopped arguing that it was approved.

Now, I am visibly angry. How can someone be so careless with money the way she is. I am even planning of collecting a refund from her to teach her a lesson. Can I marry someone like this who is nonchalant this way.
I just have thousands of thoughts running through my mind right now.

Just tell her a lil mistake or repeated mistake of this next time she is going ... or probably make her a full house wife and give her stipend for upkeep... maybe her mother is using her or her friend to milk you.... Most woman dont know how to handle money....

This act is called plastic surgery in Africans way

Righteousness2:
Bobrisky has done well!
But the Truth about life and Eternity must be told.

Good deeds are Good and Commendable!
Infact you could be blessed here on Earth. That's a principle of life. But doing good does not give you Eternal life.

The Ticket to Eternal life is a Genuie relationship with JESUS Christ and Living according to his Word.

So no matter how good you are,
No matter how philanthropic you are,
If you Do not have a relationship with JESUS, forget about Eternal life in Heaven..

na you wan judge?

hermesprogidy:
Stop lying. It's either you don't trade on Binance or just promoting hearsay. Either ways, stop lying!

tell me where to trade on it..

Oyindamolah:
The link is on my signature

I like what am seeing in your siggy just want to know you more... reply your email

patricia

you're just 32

Oyindamolah:
Tye invest in US stock market using my signature

send your email to get sign up

when last did Aisha spoke with Buhari

dannybomb:
Say who ?

withdrawal charges is bad is as fix like taking a whole $5

Binance is the worst place to have you money

yeyepeople

I hope they sell for 50naira per liter as promised


APC Na bad Market,

if I were BUHARI, I will just resign

inoki247:
He be like say ones u become an artist in Nigeria you automatically turn Father Abraham....

a complete one

iphone 6 Legbe gbe
Now them no stay to use iPhone 12 ProMax
Nonsense People

Due to infidelity in marital affair.

A man attended a 3 days Revival at Genesis Model parish own by the popular Man of God. Prophet Dele Ogundipe Genesis.


That man God gave him a Deep Eyes that can see beyond himself

During the Revival terms "Taking it By force"

After the first day of the Revival he said God showed him that most home are not settled, due to reason that most of the first Born are bastard

that by tomorrow God will settle those home and heal those home...

My brother the next day come... Every ladies and women refuse to show up for the Revival oooo

We just see those woman Grumbling saying na everything him dey see....


my brother I can't laugh... that day... Na only woman know the father of their children

The pastor main mentioned that most woman double date so when they are pregnant they look for who is rich among their lover and give him the pregnancy.

May God help Us

Kaduna1stson:
What's bad about it, doesn't he remove his cloth at home?

He was trying to topple a good northern president.

We northerners cannot sit idle and allow the SW to paint our president bad. This same president built the Lagos to Maradi Niger Republic train tracks to ensure that the yorubas travel to Niger to get education and tourism.

Allah punish you there

all is well