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You will know in ur heart of hearts unless u choose to ignore it.
There are certain things she will do that it will be obvious - like act strange when her fone rings etc

Oga o.
The thread has taken a turn for the worse.

Hannibal - pig smell like safari, u so crazy.

Thor u do well.
Make u go rest, pele.

Oga o wetin this Deepzone girl do una now?
na wa o

chamotex:
please expantiate more, so that your market can move quicker

Haba e de gbami!
Which market are you selling?

Make u no let Mr Adeboo come catch u o.
Na weapon of mass destruction dem dey use fight o.
lol

onyinye2:
I really don't let it faze me. You know i really don't care about the guys who "disqualify" me. There is always something better out there. If a guy doesn't like me all in all, then bye bye. Cuz don't plan on confirming into something i aint. Cuz i follow the Gospel of Onyinye and she does what she wants.

Yes o.

Cristalz:
Hear hear. Most marketed product so far.  .  .any takers??  

Lol.
Yes o, going going gone - to the millionaire from Dubai.
lol

onyinye2:
Ada, thank you. Seriously. But you have to understand that men most of the time only look at a woman for the present, not the future.

I know. Thats one of the major problems that they have.
For instance, i am one outspoken person, i love to laugh and joke alot - u know the sisters in church that doesnt follow the status quo with regards to dressing.
The sort that will wear jeans and a top to Sunday service - lol
There are some men that will not even consider me cause they will see me as 'wayward' they want the quiet types and more reserved types - which am not, so they pass me over and disqualify me.

However, i know that i am a big time asset to any man, he will be lucky to have me and i know i will definitely make his life better.

I think in order to differentiate, u have to have experienced different dilemas or issues with the person u claim u love.
You must have had a few squibbles, had lots of experiences that will draw you closer to each other or certain things must have happened in ur relationsip and u pull through it, then u know that this partner is worth considering.

Hannibal:
CLASSIFIED information!!!

Temper Temper. . . . .

All i am saying is the qualities u listed above is what every straight thinking girl would put down.
So how do we know which is which when 1 million girls share the same qualities??
You dig??

Well ma temper is very cool darl.
I understand what u saying however, the points i have noted down are the foundation, and anything else i say is just building around it.

How would u know when a million girls share the same qualities? Then u have some kind of contact with them to see which ones really mean what they say thats all.

Hannibal:
Cheese n Rice!!!

All the women i have met this year said the same thing.
How are men expected to differentiate between the chaff and the wheat.
I think u need to offer more to stand a chance.

Hannibal, i didnt know it was u i was marketing myself for.
You met other women sweetie, it wasnt me u met - so what u talking about?

The problem that men have is that they go after certain features, some of them say they like light skinned girl, some say the girls have to have a big bumper etc. Thats how u always end up carrying the jumbo.

What i know is that when u are in a relationship with someone, u always know which one is the 'wheat' and which one is the 'chaff' as u so sdelicately put it. We all know, we just dont wanna see it.

I think u just let it run its course.
Cause honestly during the time of the month, i do get very very moody - so u just leave me alone and once the season passes, am good to go again.

Well it depends on how long i have known him.
If its a week, i will tell him to hold his horses.

I know of guys that know what they want that when they met their bone, they proposed straight away so that she doesnt get away from them.

If a guy i have known for a week proposes, i will be be tempted to know why he is in such a hurry.

Well, the fact of the matter is that am not looking for a millionaire but it would be nice to date someone who can afford to treat me and i will pay sometimes for nice things.
I just see it as being in a comfortable relationship thats all.

Well besides that i am the bone of his bone, he should marry me -

1) Because i will always add to the value of that person - will forever be an ever appreciating asset.
2) Because i will be a joy to live with and we'll make a beautiful family.
3) Because i will by God's grace meet all my womanly duties at home and am willing to learn even if i dont meet them.  

Well the fact of the matter is that we dont pick the sides we belong to most of the time.

We just kinda fall in either categories depending on the situation.

lucabrasi:
abegi get with the programme,we r in the 21st century of independent women who know what they want and go for it, if a guy is not doing the proposing then you take the initiative, its love and respect e.t.c that matters, let us nigerians move away from the old school

I understand what u saying however, u Nija men know urself.
When she takes the 'initiative' and propses now,thats when u will say something like 'I never really wanted tomarry you, it was u that proposed' when things arent going rite.

I say stick to the old fashion ideas o and wait for him to talk, when he isnt and its taking too long,then just move on now maybe he never wanted to marry u in the first instance. (thats just ma take on it)

Just wait till he speaks.

Yes i do.
The guy that has kept me waiting all this time for him.

NA WA O - Hewillbe one lucky dude sha.

I would feel very disappointed because he should have mentioned this to me during the course of our telephone conversations.

I probably wouldnt be able to trust him.

Just tell him you are nolonger interested, abi?

If he doesnt listen, then make sure ur actions speak very loud for u, e.g ignoring his calls, giving him the cold shoulder etc

How can he propose to u if he doesnt say it?
There are times when men have to men ad this isone of those times.

Na wao,how can he say he loves ya and wanst u to be his when he doesnt say it?
Abeg dont assume for him o, make sure he says it.

When u honestly feellike u love her, then tell her.
There isnt a rite time, just make sure u dont make it out to be really cheesy - some guys meet u today and they love u tomorrow - thats not rite.

The fact is that i always tell females NEVER EVER EVER TELL YOU MAN HOW MANY MEN YOU HAVE DATED because men arent that reliable, they will always use your sensitive issues against you.

Well poster, the thing you need to ask yourself is that-do i love this girl? why did i choose to be with her? You honestly need to consider these questions because if you continue like this, this girl will leave you.

I kinda understand wat u saying but u need to work on forgetting otherwise u will give yourself a heart attack.

THINK ON THESE AND START THE PROCESS OF FORGETTING.


These days, there are too many of us that dont work at relationships, we just let it go - so just work at it, get counselling if u can because there is gonna be a baby involved.

GOOD LUCK

Well both should be faithful but as a woman, i would say the ladies should be more faithful because we have the tendencies of getting a bad name and a bad reputation than a man would.

Say for example, when a man appears as a man LovePeddler and sleeps around, when he wants to settle down, he gets a partner at the drop of a hat. however, if u turned the tables, and a lady lived a ver 'adventerous'life, she gets tagged or life and could never play down her past.

So in ma opinion, females should try as hard to be faithful, and if u know u cant - then get out!

ifyalways:
where have u been hiding beau?
missed u lots
@Topic,Ok.

Ifybaby, i have been here there and everywhere o.
Nice to know u missed me - lol

Am back sha.
what i miss?

If he can, he is welcome to it.

Well it depends on what age i am.
If i am like in ma thirties and maybe have a kid or two already, i may consider the man.

However, if am just startin ma life - no way.
He is nearly divorced and he has three kids, no thats too many kids and when we do get married, he will be using part of our money to pay child maintenance am not saying its bad but thats just a bit much for me.

I dont think i can endure these long distance relationships - there are too many cold nights and too many temptations.
I would never agree to it.

Some women have their 'safe' men - men that u always come back to when the going is wrong and u need a date.
U ma guy are one of them. She knows you are in love with her and that is why she is treating u like that.

If u aint careful, she will come back and kwep coming back making u stay in the same spot - she wount allow u move on in life.
The only person that can help u is u - when u make up ur mind to get rid of her, u will.

I just pray it wont be too late sha.

Its better u tell him over the phone before h finds out on the wedding nite.
U have no choice, just tell him.

Oga o.
Poster its like u are going through what am going through - i have read the messages and i am learning fast.
Thanks to the people that contributed intelligently and to the rest, i say thank u sha.