I am an advocate for the boy child but I hate the narrative that women are responsible for whatever the boy child is going through.

The OP for instance has blamed mothers for failing to speak up for the boy child (that a lie though because as far as I know, at least in Africa, mothers generally pamper their sons than their daughters).

The feminist movements and the advocatefor the right of the girl child were championed by women and mothers not men. So that begs the question why haven't men and fathers began to speak and fight for the right of the boy child?
You are waiting for women to do that on behalf of silent men abi?

In the long run, both gender face issues but while one is vocal and expressive about her challenges, the other decides to be egoistic and macho about his and yet turn around to blame the other gender for his woes.

Anyways, there are not for profit organizations in Nigeria that are exclusively for the right of the boy child. One is Boys Quarters Africa, and thankfully the founder is a young man who has decided to do something about the peculiar issues of his gender, and not wait for girl rights advocates to change their agenda.

Lollittaa:

people are different and yes, people change. If op were to get a front desk job, as an introvert, won't she be doing lots of communication?

Being introverted doesn't mean you don't talk. Many introverts run businesses and careers successfully.

The issue is as an introvert you don't jump into people's personal spaces just like that. Discussion with people you are not close with is usually superficial and mostly nothing personal.

For an introvert to build close personal relationship with a person, that person must have been around mostly physically (within the same geographical space) like classmates, co-workers, housemates, roommates etc. Someone they see almost everyday and spend considerable amount of time with.

In this kind of situation, the introvert naturally warms up to closer and deeper relationships beyond the 'hello, hi'.

When people come together newly as in when you have new classmates, the extroverts and the introverts among them are easily spotted, but overtime within the same class, most of them will start relating with one another freely

frozen70:


It's obvious you do t just like relating with people and you don't see why you have to, but let me put somethings right to you

As a matter of fact, that you and your guy loves yourselves is not enough reason to carry on, family or no family

As it is now, your guy could get another lady that is head over heals I've his family and the family may advise him to drop you that you don't relate the wah this babe does. No matter your bond, he will follow his family, do you know why ?

Non of his family members can fight for you because you don't relate with them so they don't connect with you

If for example you have issues with your guy in this marriage, they will never stand with you because you didn't come close to them for them to understand you

Lastly they have concluded that you are not friendly and it's possible you will teach your children same way and those children may grow up not relating with their cousin's simply because you don't interact with their parents

Make sure your read the above post again and again and use it to guide yourself

Family is everything and no sensible one jokes their's

The bolded is the reason you have be very mindful about how much influence his family have over your fiancée decision making.

If you get married and they advise him to divorce you based on their personal reasons...the marriage is as good as gone.

It's also because for many couples, the real marriage has ended due to issues like infidelity, domestic violence and other unpleasant situations, and Parenting is the only thing left keeping them together under the same roof.

That's when women will say in Yoruba, 'o ti kuro l'ọkọ, o ti di baba ọmọ. i.e 'he's no more husband, he's just the father of my children'.

perambulator:
the Theraregem1, Joylove2324 and jollylolly, again!!!!! I dont know if you are 1 person using 3 different accounts to do osinbajo PR work but you all clearly work for him.

Check their post histories.

I have nothing Against the VP, but we are not fooled.

But what will you gain on insisting that the VP has anything to do with the building? Do you have any concrete proof of this or it's just bad belle?

As a public office holder, he is required to declare his assets both local and foreign publicly and do so regularly.

If he is indeed the ownerof the said property, documents would have surfaced online to prove so but till now nothing. Just this evil minded rumour mongers like you that are bent on tarnishing another man's image.

I hope you don't mind the same fate befalling you in the nearest future when your name will be dragged for something you know nothing of. If you don't have concrete proof desist from this your evil agenda or expect the same fate to befall you

TOPCRUISE:
They want to prevent Osinbajo from lying. That is why they want to talk for him. Let Osinbajo talk. Don't talk for him. He is a pastor. If a politician swore on oath not to lie he will ask good liars to talk for him inorder to vindicate himself

If you can swear on your life that the VP has something to do with the build, bring out the infallible proof since you are so sure they are lying on his behalf.

If not forever hold your peace or you will also be fingered for something you know nothing about.

Evangelynn:

Lol who is playing the religious card with you if not you.
Aunty are they not developed countries or not why should you spank a child when there are better forms of punishments to correct a child, taking the life of which child when did the so called life of a foetus become superior and more important than the life of the woman carrying the foetus/embryo use your God given brain and argue with sense not emotions they are not confused they are very sensible people no wonder they are much more developed nobody asked you about that

Lol,you know nothing abortion has been in existence since the beginning of time it will continue to be here nobody is forcing you to have an abortion just learn to accept the fact that life will happen to some people and abortion will be an option for them hence why many advocate for safe access to abortions because they know that life isn't just black and white some people said science and democracy was anti human blah,blah,blah but here we are today.


Lol did you say abortionist are worse than rapist lol don't embarrass yourself please

Do these developed countries hold the standard code on how the human race should run? Are there no social issues they are battling with despite their development or are you saying they have an utopian society?

Even so, there are a whole lot of them from these countries who are against abortion and are pro-life, their governments legalized abortion (just like many other issues we frown at are legal over there).

Abortion is deliberately killing and terminating a pregnancy that otherwise would have been successful. The heart of an embryo starts beating with blood cells formed as early as week 5 of gestation (about a week after your missed period) when most women are not even aware that they are pregnant.

If that pregnancy progresses, and is successful, the heart that started beating at 5wks may continue to beat till the child becomes an old person; and by then that heart can stop beating, not by a decision between the mother and her doctor.

Abortion may be recommended in situations where the pregnancy threatens the life of the mother or if the feotus formed may have major health issues if allowed to live. Not for every Tom, Dick, Harry kind of reasons.

We should rather encourage people to be responsible with their sexuality. It is not just about unwanted pregnancies, it is also about STDs some of which are life long.

You can't keep making innocent fetuses pay for the irresponsibilities of their mothers (or parents). If a lady thinks about her own life and how she's not capable of handling a baby now, she should rather opts for safe sex that will also prevent pregnancy. Contraceptives: physical, hormonal, whatever; just don't make a baby's heart start beating and then end it at will just because it's your body and your government supports you.

If there's a baby around you, look at him or her and imagine that child had been killed in the womb and taken out because the mum is pro choice.

Now imagine op stopping two heart beats because of the challenges she facing now.

Enuf said.

Nooel1:
A former President of the Association of Lagos State Indigenes, Chief Layi Ajayi-Bembe, in this interview with BAYO AKINLOYE says the real owners of Lagos are the Binin, not the Yoruba.

WHAT IS YOUR LINEAGE AS A LAGOSIAN?
My grandfather was Ajayi Bembe; the eighth Obanikoro of Lagos – my father was the last of his children. My mother was the first child of Gbajabiamila (of Olowogbowo fame) – of course, of Lagos.

WHAT ABOUT ALHAJI FEMI OKUNNU’S VIEW OF THE AWORI BEING THE ORIGINAL OWNERS OF LAGOS?

WHO ARE THE AWORI? [s]The Awori and the Binin are the same. If an Awori spoke to me when I was young, I understood him. My parents spoke Awori. The Awori are partly from Dahomey and partly from Benin[/s].
My forebears came from the riverine area through the Bight of Benin and settled in Badagry for a long time before moving down to Lagos. And when they moved down to Lagos where did they go? They went to Idunsagbe – a place famed for Bini culture and tradition. I am an Awori. Tell me, which state did they create for the Awori now? If you say the indigenous people of Lagos State are the Awori, then the Awori are the Bini. We must put history in its right perspective. The right perspective is that Lagos does not belong to the Yoruba; it belongs to the Bini.

Comment your views ?

And the person who said this is supposed to be an elder statesman? This is either ghana-must-go talking or brown envelope or maybe bank transfer.

What sort of pálapàla did I just read up there? Awori, Bini, Bawo?

Aworis are fully Yoruba and there's no iota of Dahomey or Benin, Bini in them.

That other Yoruba groups are the majority holding the Lagos political space should be blamed on the Aworis not being politically savvy.
Then we have the Eguns and Ijebus also as indigenes in Lagos state I am still looking for where Binis are claiming as their territory in Lagos.

Awọn history twisters oshi.

DMerciful:
Nothing like Awori Yoruba. Yoruba are Oyo people. Aworis are a distinct people. Yoruba propaganda media wants everyone to believe that the entire SW are all Yoruba when other regions have missed ethnicities

Hellooo. I am Awori and fully Yoruba, and no Oyo people are not the only Yoruba people around. T for thanks

What about trunk B and Trunk C roads that are under your control Mr. Dapo? There are barely any motorable by-passes within sango-ota. If those are done, they will at least reduce the sufferings of commuters along Lagos-Abeokuta Express Road.

Oduduwa707:


But why should I be jealous? The Benefactor is a good guy and he's handled several of my projects (at least you know I'm not hungry and can't be jealous as you mentioned).
I'm not too surprised cuz that's the typical 9ja folks for you. Just like we read this morning abt someone that poisoned his friend.

Anyway, madam... You're MADDD!

Oto ọrọ koro, ko ni ki a ma sọ oun. Truth is bitter I know. You should apologize to the man for misquoting and insulting him without fault.

You are not a better Nigerian yourself, you are very typical. You are just who you are. Next time calm down and read threads with open mind not with your bad belle looking for faults upandan.

Oduduwa707:


Ordinary "Thank you", the fool no fit talk. All he fit yan na he don see notification.

9ja pple sha...

Oga calm down. Why are you like this? Go back and read the thread and what notification he saw. Stop vilifying him because someone decided to help him. It is not your money. If he is entitled, you are jealous!

He received notification of mail from his benefactor but couldn't open the mail on his feature phone. Did you see where he acknowledged receiving the payment? You will not see that, bad belle and jealousy will not allow. Just look at you.

miniziter:

Who's is she to you please?

She was my senior in secondary school.

Congratulations Senior Bukky Coker. More wins and greater heights in Jesus name

abobote:
Reconcile with her, but don't beg, just find a way to do it, like surprise outing. Don't tell her about your daughter first, make her to fall more in love for you, before letting the cat. Even we wey marry still de keep am secret at times to enjoy fresh pusy

Hmmm...na them! Birds of same feather. All your tricks and scheming will always backfire! So you deny your marriage to get fresh pussy, just look at you! Smh

Mercychen:
Someone will just be getting prepared to chop beating all the days of his life.
I pity what he's doing to his body. Old age, body go tell am.

Can this kind of person ever get married? The wife and children will just learn to behave.

Hmmm... Tell me you are not crushing on him.

All what you wrote up there tells me you dey trip for the guy.

sammirano:
Abiodun is a mistake. Hate Amosun all you want he is one of the best governors ogun state ever had. His legacy would have continued should his candidate win and build a type of lagos structure but bad belle osinbajo no go ket am happen. Its well

Abegiii. Amosun is the genesis of this gratuity issue. Did you read they have not been paid for the past 10 years? Amosun's 8 years + Dapo's 2 years. What is the guarantee that Amosun's candidate will not follow his oga's style.

stagger:


Take the Kaduna job. I order inputs from some of those agric companies and I am aware that their marketing agents cut a lot of side deals. I was once in a shop owned by one of these companies and one of their people made a call to preserve 250 bags of maize seedlings for a top politician.

Even an extra N500 for such an order puts extra N125,000 into your pocket. Not so?

Typical Nigerian

Rest on sir. May God comfort the Foursquare family.

Nonybb:
But to be very sincere with you. Some of these things were oftentimes caused by two individuals: the mother of that child and the daughter itself. For example, I went to one family like that at one certain time and I discover one girl like that, aged maybe around 15-17 years, undressing in front of his dad. This girl I'm telling you about has developed every part of her womanhood. Some wives look at such and wave it aside. You see, men are not built that way, to fight every now and then on this serious temptation. A little sight can provoke a man and he doesn't reason entirely when it comes to penile erection. The degree of temptation are different. Some fall easily, some withheld it and cry Jesus but it do comes.

Men are disorganized by sight and sensual seduction; women might be emotions and physical touch. Let us understand that. Secondly, how the wife caused it was how complacent she was. Whenever you see tha

Trash! You are a pervert! You dare blame the women for the atrocities of their father?!

Let's assume the picture you painted is true, what stops the idiotic father from disciplining his daughter on exposing her body unduly?
Only perverts like you and all those who liked your trashy reply will have erection at their daughters' unclothedness.

RIP Baba, rest well. Condolences to Gov Dapo Abiodun and family. Eyin baba a da o. Ojo a jina Si ara wọn.

Hi

Ibrahimmrfish:
I thought i was the only one that notice this.Buhari is too soft on southerners, they are now forgetting their place.

What's the meaning of this? Where is the place of the southerners?

Proadroit:

Nairaland used to have a classifieds ads listing site called Nairalist, it died a natural death.

It should be revive,we are getting better at buying goods and services online. The major iss will be how to deal with scammers.

Many more people buy stuff online these days.

Facebook has marketplace and it's been help lots of people

Seun:
Thanks for these suggestions. (1) is very interesting.

I think you should also develop market place arm for Nairaland since e-commerce is the in thing now.

Please add a dislike button too

Jesuschristus:

Oh, Christ worshipers! We want an answer to our question from your wise.

If the Lord was murdered by some people’s act…what sort of god is this?

We wonder! Was He pleased by what they did to Him? If yes,
blessed be they..they achieved the pleasure of His

But if He was discontented….this means their power subjugated His!!

Was the whole entity left without a Sustainer… so who answered the prayers?

Were the heavens vacated…when He laid under the ground somewheres?

Were all the worlds left without a God…to manage while His hands were nailed?

Why did not the angles help Him when they heard him while he wailed?

How could the rods stand to bear the True Lord when He was fastened

How could the iron reach Him and His body pinioned?

How could His enemies’ hands reach Him and slap His rear

And was Christ revived by himself…or the Reviver was another god?

What a sight it is!A grave that enclosed a god!
What’s more weird is the belly that had Him in it!

He stayed there for nine months in utter darkness…fed by blood!

Then he got out of the womb as a small baby,
weak and gaping to be breastfed!

He ate and drank, and did what that naturally resulted in
Is this a god??!!

High Exalted be Allah above the lies of Christians
All of them will be held accountable for their libels

Oh cross worshipers…for what reason is it exalted
and blamed who rejects it?

Is it not the logic to break and burn it along with the one who innovated it?



So, Christ worshiper, open your eyes,
this is what the matter is all about.

Not here to argue, but here is your answer.

1. First of all God is a Spirit.
Joh 4:24 KJV God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth.

2. Jesus Christ came in human form as God in flesh (if you believe God can do anything, and nothing is impossible for Him, this should not be difficult for you to believe)

Rom 8:3 KJV For what the law could not do, in that it was weak through the flesh, God sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh, and for sin, condemned sin in the flesh

3. Everything you highlight were done to Jesus' body (i.e flesh) not His Spirit which in essence is God. Remember, His conception was by God's Spirit not by human sperm. His body was formed within Mary. Jesus is the Seed of the woman (not seed of man) prophesied in the book of Genesis to bruise the head of the serpent).

4. So, Jesus has a different kind of Spirit from every human conceived through human copulation. He had God's Spirit (in His body) and we have human spirit.

5. So all that was done to Him including His crucifixion was on His flesh. His Spirit, God's Spirit was alive and well and being God.

6. About His resurrection, He is God, death could not hold Him down. He rose up, not in a corruptible, decaying body like ours but in an incorruptible spiritual body. 1Corith 15: 42-47.

The annoying thing is Senators from the south allowed this to pass first reading. How they keep sabotaging their region for financial and personal gains while their northern counterparts keep pushing policies that will favour the north.

A perfect definition of 'Community Penis'. This is just the teaser, the main show starts when you guys final gets married.

How do you love another woman in your matrimonial bed and you can't do shit about it because you knew exactly what you were signing up for?

Or what about you being scared to have maids or female visitors, related and unrelated because your hubby always follows the direction of his erection? I fear for your daughters too (God forbids).

What about him hitting on young girls in your estate or area where you'll live? Sis, the scenarios are endless.
If you don't mind, you can tie the nupital knot with him.

And his parents that have come to beg you today may also come to beg you tomorrow to accept pregnant side chick. A time will come, they will tell you your wahala is too much if you begin to complain about his cheating. As you have been told already by the mum, 'all men cheat'.

He is selfish, thinking of himself alone. Ask him if he wouldn't mind you playing some away games too, as no gender has the monopoly of cheating.

How does his cheating benefit you? Or you are ready to sacrifice your joy and peace to maintain relationships with him?

Remember, you are not just going to have him as your husband, he'll also be the father of your children.

Think am well o.


And to the many morally weak men on this thread justifying cheating men, I hope you don't mind your daughters and sisters ending up with men like you. I pray you all receive the taste of your own medicine

Is he going to wear the wig and the shoes? I am sure the stupid girl will go back to beg the idiotic man. He's sure she will soon come for the items. But the guy no get class sha, so much for Alpha men.

lanreHeda:
But those ladies were not his family na........and you call them vague stories but the fact that numerous men can relate and act on such "vague stories" should tell you something

Imagine if the ladies in your life, related and non related treat you based on their sad experiences with men and sore stories from other women?

You'd not mind being treated like a scum because there's a general belief that 'men are scum'? Right?

tyup:


whatever y'all got to think is solely ur business and heartburn not mine

I still maintain the stand that if such opportunity comes up and there's no Guy/male to fill in I'm helping no female. go Bleep urself

I pray all the females in your life get to know about this your stance and belief so they'll know how to relate with you, what to expect from you, and what they can do for you based on your gender.

The females I am referring to includes your mum, sisters, aunties, girlfriends, your wife(or wives), your female colleagues and your daughters.

The funny thing is another female will get the opportunity you have denied your female friends because about 70 to 80 percent of nurses are women.

How do you think your friends will feel if they get to know you denied them an opportunity just because of their gender? They'll continue to be friends with you? I am sure you don't care about that. You care about females not been helped by men because they are 'whores'.

Continue to let the vague stories you read on social media influence your decisions and life.

The love of money is indeed the root of all evil. Nigerians will do anything for the money.

Wetin Nigerians gain if dey no make money?
We trade values for money
Integrity goes for money
Family and relationships are sacrificed for money

Money has conquered the average Nigerian. He commits evil just for money that will finish.