Oyindamolah: I resigned from my job 8 months ago (July). I worked with this firm for one full year. It was a rollercoaster ride. I used to be very proactive and full of energy, going all out to achieve things no matter what was at stake.
When I took up this job last year, I was hoping to build a career and carve a niche for myself... But I was wrong. Before I resumed, a lot of people had resigned. Even on the day I resumed, I met just one staff on ground (he was trying to buy time before he eventually quits). So we were just two (2) in the office. It felt awkward because the environment wasn't challenging and competitive enough for me, but I had to do what was expected of me. Till the day I resigned, I was not found wanting in any aspect.. But I guess that was where everything went wrong. I was taken advantage of, used and manipulated. My boss was a chronic micromanager and very insecure.
Despite all these, I tried to allay his fears and made sure I did my best to assure him nothing would ever go wrong. He abuses us verbally with words I'm so ashamed to type here. When the other guy eventually resigned, I was left all alone with him. I took up his responsibilities coupled with mine. I was overworking myself every single day of the week. I became a shadow of myself and always felt sick whenever I get up from bed every morning. I was doing this for 4months till we were able to get a replacement for the guy. And believe you me, we were recruiting every month afterwards till I left because they were always resigning or should I say disappearing after the end of every month. So we practically had a new staff who would work for a month and disappear. And the reason was not far fetched, My Boss. He believes all job seekers are hungry and would take anything just for the cash (stipends). You can imagine a graduate bring sent on so many ridiculous domestic errands.
Though I'm not oblivious of the fact that it's not easy to set up a business here in Nigeria or even to pay salaries. I know what it takes, but that doesn't mean you should now use people like slaves.
As a service provider, you should know how to handle your clients, but this man would talk to them anyhow, insult them and then expect me to fix the mess or else I won't get paid. And because I was ready to do anything just for the progress of the company, he believed I had no choice. But I'm the kind of person that hates being idle. Hence, the reason for not seeing it as a big deal. Then came a time, I was at my wits end, couldn't go on anymore. I lost all motivation and up till now.
One of the most painful thing I heard after I left was when someone from the office called to tell me what happened that day. Sometimes, I usually use my money to quickly do some little office stuffs if the man is not around. So there were lapses after I left, he now asked what was really going on. So the guy on ground told him what I usually did.. And his response , "if I knew I had money, why did I come to work then?" Imagine. I felt so disappointed!
This is the same man that would refund you if you tell him you spent your money for the company, then go ahead to deduct it from your salary at the end of the month after looking for excuses or an offence you didn't commit.
Now, most people here in Lagos go through same or worse ordeal every single day. Leave home early, get abused at work, get home late. Looking rough and tired all for a pay that won't last up to 2weeks. I pity the married folks more, they can't resign/quit because they've got bills to pay, responsibilities (wife and kids), some even have girlfriends, they're stuck. I also have responsibilities and bills though, but thank God I'm still single.
This is the time to go all out and take chances, take risks and it will definitely pay off in the end. I've been able to focus more since I resigned, sleep well, eat well, learning some digital skills to boost my CV and running a little business of mine. Though it's not been easy, but I know I'm on the right path.
I have been there before, Naija one man business na big time slavery especially service providers.
Zonefree: Her mother shouldn't dictate when or how you make love to your wife. If she's not comfortable with that, let her go to her husband's house and allow young couple do what they're suppose to do.
Your wife and her mum are terrorising you in your home and it's not right. Put an end to this asap before see finish go enter.
The mama want 3some lol. Why is she monitoring their oza room affairs.
TOPCRUISE: If that dog was stolen then that breed is very useless except if it wasn't trained by the owner.
Even if it wasn't trained or trained otherwise a dog is still a dog and the natural protective instinct should work except the dog is a member of the robbers.
Mariangeles: I once read a man’s comment here on nairaland on how he wanted his daughter aborted at all cost. They later had the baby, and according to him, she’s the sweetest girl. The thought still haunts him every time he looks into her sweet eyes.
Like I once typed; it is hard enough to uproot a growing plant, how much more a growing child.
Very easy as hard as you said, but depends on the situation and personality involved.
Kobojunkie: Interesting claim there... so how exactly did you go about creating this kind of familiarity with him in the first place?
Um... why not do start by doing exactly what you would do to people who pose a nuisance here online... ignore? Why make it seem it all has to do with your ego and stuff?
Some days ago I read with amazement the takes of some persons on the attached thread.
So this lady was rejected by the recruiter for being "short". Perhaps the story is untrue just as many like it on Twitter, but I'm reacting on the premise that it's true (even though most likely greatly embellished).
Firstly, its crass and unprofessional for a recruiter to voice such words whether directly or indirectly, but sentiments is a huge part of decision making. Heck, most of y'all were never called back by the HR for the same reason as the complainant; only difference is that you weren't expressly told that you're short, fat, have terrible dentition, have bent legs or look too tacky and malnourished. Do you recall attending that interview where you believed you smashed it and impressed the recruiters, but never heard from them again? That could be it.
In certain businesses especially the hospitality sector, looks is a big deal. Have you seen airhosts? Have you see the attendants and receptionists at top range hotels? If all things are roughly equal among applicants, recruiter will tend to favor those who look more polished and are attractive.
The word “attractive” doesn’t just mean people want to have sex with them, it means people enjoy being around them more. It’s a reality, harsh as it may be. Businesses that appeal to the public work hard to make everything about the customer experience attractive….nice furniture and pretty pictures on the wall in a restaurant, attractive interiors, buildings or landscapes in the background of movies, and so on. It shouldn’t be surprising at all that they prefer attractive employees in customer facing positions.
This is natural.
Also, as a business owner, why will I employ a short first class receptionist when I can employ a tall first class receptionist? Wheres the wisdom? Beauty and intelligence are not mutually exclusive which means that one can have both. If as an HR, I have 100s of applicant for a single opening, does this not give me the privilege to pick "the best"?
Most of yall trying to be politically correct on the other thread certainly wont employ dwarfs in your organisation irrespective of qualifications. Image is super important especially in customer-facing positions and you're automatically a brand ambassador. Funnily enough, a lot of women only hang out with their beautiful friends while they call the average ones when they need relationship advise (I've had a couple of persons admit to this).
Some even ignorantly cursed out the country. Have you wondered why even some foreign orgs require you to attach a passport photograph or make a short video of yourself? That's right, they want to see what you look like. Even the military wont employ you if you're not up to a certain height or with a proper BMI.
That's why I always say that if you're goodlooking and well poised, then consider yourself as already having a fair headstart in life. Do not let anyone deceive you, beauty avails you a lot of privileges, but it's not just beauty.
nedubrazil111: Before you enter your UBER or BOLT ride in Nigeria, this are things you need to do for YOUR OWN SAFETY. Please watch this NIGERIA IS NOT SAFE ANYMORE.
Pesin commit internet fraud you still put internet for him lap top you have succeeded in giving him internet enabled laptop so what do you expect? He should lazy around or get busy.
In UK 2 gals marry for prison the official refuse cutting of cake because one of the girls can't stand a knife and not be tempted.
Ohyinyeah: Please, can anyone highlight the procedure for ejecting a tenant from one's building in lagos?
The said tenant was owing over 1 years rent, not paying and not leaving.
Tenant was charged to court. The case has been ongoing for more than a year. Tenant and her lawyer do not show up in court on hearing date and have been adjourned for this reason each time...
Now running to almost 3 years in the flat without paying rent and without leaving....
blue01: Good morning nairalanders, please you guys should pardon me because am not much of a good writer. Am here to seek advice from some of the great minds we have here, I got this little issue that has really put me in a state of confusion.
I applied for a job sometime last month and the job is 108k/month but the issue is that the opening is still very much shaky like they are still contemplating if to employ more hands or not so the person that linked me to the job anytime I call him he keeps telling me to pray hard because of the nature of things over there, then sometime Last week he called me and asked if I can manage another job of 50k pending when that other job will be available, both jobs comes with free lunch but the one of 50k comes with extra incentives like 2k everyday but the one of 108k come with no incentives (only your salary every month end), so am really confused if to wait or just resume at the one of 50k.
Any advice is highly welcome and will be appreciated.
I forgot to add that at both jobs I will be working morning shift two days, night shift two days and I will have two days as my off days too and it's not something stressful too.
A bird in hand is better if there is no enslavement clauses the 50k is worth it the 108 may be a distraction.
Pecoleee345: Should A Wife Be Allowed To Take A Big Decision Without Informing Her In-law?
Good afternoon everybody.i will make this short as possible.
A friend of mine just died in luth (cause of that was anemia). He was operated upon and they told his wife to get blood (2 r.o) for transfusion after the procedure but due to being a jehova witness she decided not to get the blood (jehova witness don't take blood,is against there faith).
She had a back and forth about the blood with the doctors and was asked to sign incase anything happen which she sign without the husband family knowledge....it was only her and her fellow jehova witness that took the decision.
He passed away this midnight, she called her in-law to inform them and I also got the information from the deceased younger brother.
On getting here the family found out the surgery was successful but he died of anemia, the doctors told them it was the wife decision not to get him blood against there prescriptions and infact she signed taking responsibility if anything happens.
A serious fight is happening here, the family are claiming she killed there son which I totally agree to as well.
So this my question, should a wife be allowed to take such a big decision without informing the husband family first.
Note; it was her in-laws that were paying the hospital bills.
Where are the bill payers when the operation was done? How many person/s sign for the operation initially? Is it not the ethics of the doctor to ensure total success of their operation in the event of such emergency or as this case.
Rosement: A man does not have to be rich to be financially independent but he must be comfortable on his own without depending on his family or his friends for survival. He needs to have a stable source of income or a means of livelihood and he and his fiancée should have the ability to cater for extras before marriage because they might start bearing kids a year or few years after marriage.
Marriage does not translate into automatic childrearing, the couple need to gather themselves to properly accommodate fresher.
Because they ask you to be elder State man you don begin talk trash thank God you don open your yarnsh early you are not deserving of any primary at all except for people to chop your money Obj is ever right about you.
judatech: The son of a Spanish-Venezuelan billionaire was killed in a boating accident during a fishing competition in the Florida Keys. Juan Carlos Escotet Alviárez, 31, dived into the water to rescue his fiancée after she fell overboard, only to get himself caught up in the boat’s propeller. He died of his injuries while his girlfriend, Andrea Montero, 30, swam clear. Escotet was the youngest son of the banker Juan Carlos Escotet Rodriguez, owner of the Banesco Bank, for which he worked in Miami. REUTERS
No carry woman enter water and if she is stuck just pray for her and japa titanic never do you something. Another rose and jack hope she is pregnant Sha.
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