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bestmutiu2019:
please don't mind my bad English,please I need you to help me or advice me on what to do before I kill someone.
My name is ade second to last born in a family of 5,my mum first and second born were male follow by a girl then me and my jnr bro that is ma mum last born
The only girl of my family that is my sister married a guy this guy is so rude and mannerless I don't know maybe it was because of the little money he has,fast forward they had their first born a boy,then two years later my sister gave birth to twins she deliver the first one by herself then CS for the second one,as Almighty Allah pleases my sister died the 3rd day she gave birth to her twins that is November 2017.
Although my late sister husband lost both his parents so those little girls are with my mum she has been taking care of them since then,so one issue arise when one prophet told my mum that they should do this 1,1. tribal marks for those little girls to prevent their late mother from disturbing them in which my late sister husband decline,he came back the 3rd day September 29 2019 that he has come to claim these little girls that he has already paid for their boarding school that they are going to boarding school,twins that is not up to 2 years, meanwhile their first born is not staying with him a boy of 4 years old he says that he should go and be staying with one of his street uncle.
We accept these little twins started their boarding school in the neighboring state, like two months after then when mum go and visit the twins at the boarding school,they says my mum did not have any right to visit these twins because of the instructions their father gave them,my mum cried like say tomorrow no dey.

Meanwhile the first born that is staying with his street uncle he also order that man not to let any of us to see him.
PLEASE I NEED YOUR ADVICE ON WHAT TO DO,I TOLD MY SENIOR BROTHER TO TAKE ACTION THEY COME UP WITH NOTHING,PLEASE I NEED YOUR ADVICE,COS I CAN KILL THIS MAN

I am wondering why you asked your elder brother to question a man concerning the whereabout of his own biological children. Especially, after trying to give his children funny tribal mark without his approval.

Like you mentioned above, the man is financially capable, so what's your fuse?

I doubt you are married with kids of your own, reason why you are here asking for ways to struggle another man's kids with him

Mimiliciously:
Is it right for my hubby to ask for passwords to my social media passwords yet refuse to supply his.

This is a very dicey situation and I don't want it to lead to unecessary issues.

I love my privacy alot and hardly post pictures. I never post him and he never posts me too but he always blows out my not posting him out of proportion. He's obsessed with my social media accounts and I don't even care about his. I also feel giving him him my password will have him posting his picture at will, which I wouldn't like.

What do you guys think.

Your hubby appears immature and insecure. It'd be safe to say that he's having complex issues.

You may need to have a deep conversation with him to address the aforementioned and clear any gray area from your end.

pocohantas:
It’ll piss me off too. Reminds me of the NLder whose gf started posting her pictures on his WhatsApp status. What I am sure is, I will let him have the password. After that I will change it and he won’t have it again. Except he is ready to release his or say what is his problem.

It will piss you off if your hubby (not boyfriend) posts his picture on your TL?

Please, what type of union are we even referring to?

Mimiliciously:
I can give him because I truly have nothing to hide but what if he starts posting his pictures. That would really upset me.

Why are you so particular about him posting his picture on your TL? Are you not proud of him? Or is there something you are trying to hide or prevent?

Your major concern centers on him posting his pictures on your TL, and you appear so apprehensive about that.

What are you really hiding?

Toks2008:
You be sadist walahi.

You always pick out what you want... At least I prayed for those who may not have but ofcourse you no go see that part... .

OYO lo wa.

Grow up

Toks2008:
People see what they want to see. an unbias reader will know the fact that i used ''MANY'' to start removes the notion of generalization.

If i wrote this then why should i generalize.

You are certainly a bias writer, hence, your use of suggestive words.

I saw your highlighted assertions suggesting that men who fail to provide certain home appliances lacked common sense, without considering their pockets and financial capabilities.

I doubt a married man would use seedy words to describe his fellow men while feigning ignorance about his choice of words

Toks2008:
The idea of a wife material by many men is not different from the idea of having a slave in the house... Men want a woman who will be able to wake up as early as possible when others are still asleep, do the house chores and tend to the needs of the kids, the husband and after serving her household, she will go out to make ends meet and latter come back home to make sure her kids and husband are well taken care of and this includes cooking, washing their clothes and lots more... Men want a Nanny, A cook, A laundry lady, house cleaner, An errand lady, Sex provider and many more in one lady who is considered a weaker sex and as if this is not stressful enough, most men would rather boast about the ability of their lady in washing hard fabrics with bare hands, they will talk about how they so much love a lady because she can pound yam the natural way and will be proud to talk about how good their lady is in using archaic methods to prepare their meals... And the worst twist is that even if the lady is pregnant, they will still watch her do these tasks.

So I ask: is there anything different between a wife material and a slave? Will heaven fall if the man assists his wife in the home front?

Does common sense not tell the man that he needs to make life easier for his wife by getting a washing machine, a vacuum cleaner, and several other home/cooking appliances that will make life easier for her. Must a lady even know how to cook before you tag her wife material? What if she just can't cook or is the ability to cook part of success in life?

Please don't get it twisted, I'm not here to advise ladies to be redundant in their homes. Every married lady must be a home keeper, ensuring that her kids and husband are her priority...but nevertheless, in my opinion, a wife material means a gentle, submissive wife who will love you for who you are, tolerate your weaknesses, a Wife Material is a woman who is about her business, can hold her own in a conversation, is generous and can handle money well. A woman who will put your needs first and values her marriage so much that she won't defile it by being unfaithful... And just as the book of proverbs 31 says,...'' a virtuous woman is one who leads her home with integrity, discipline, and more and all the virtues she is practicing are aimed at making the life of her husband better, teaching her children, and serving God'' this is never the same as having a slave in the house in the name of wife material.

My prayer for every man reading this is that God provides for you so that you will make life easier for your woman so that you can look beyond that slave-like quality that many men use to qualify a wife material.


I hope this makes sense.

You ruined your piece when you started using "men". Quit hasty generalization when passing your point. We have "some men" who are passionate and committed in their families.

For marriage to work, there must be an atom of love, and love is sacrifice.
Any marriage without sacrifice is THEFT.

Marriage is not a military barrack where they maintain the last order, but an institution laced with tolerance, affection and mutual respect from both parties

Righteousness89:


It's not by Power ooo..

A whole lot of things come into play..

What's it by?

Please leave religion out of football

Deblisio:


Shaibu is a tout and a cultist,he is the backbone behind all the gragra obaseki is doing.
As an ex-NANS leader,a former house of assembly of member he is vast and very experienced when it comes to Edo politics,he is the man behind the scene giving Mr Osho baba a run for his money.

But despite all this it is very certain,ize iyamu would emerge as the next governor,underrate short people like oshiomhole at your own risk,he hardly loses a fight.

The coming elections in September will prove to the whole Nigeria that."Edo is Lagos".

You mean he hardly loses a fight like the one (National Chairman of APC) he won?

You guys are comedians!

seunmsg:
Ozekhome of all people?

The panel is turning to a joke. It is just like putting DCP Abba Kyari on trial and asking Evans the kidnapper to come and testify against him. What do you guys expect? Malami and the corrupt elites are just making a joke out of this anti corruption fight.

Quite laughable!

Imagine comparing Mike (SAN) to Evans (Kidnapper). Mike has got no dent on his long law career, except your issue with him is because he was an unshakable attorney for some politicians you have reservations about.

State facts and stay away from controversy.

SonOfAfonja:
I think you’re the indecent one here, it’s your mind that’s polluted that’s why you’d see a picture like that and get offended...

Heck! Some men can view a woman in free flowing gowns, hijab e.t.c and still find it erotic...

People like you end up breaking your legs while jumping into conclusion. Drink enough water and go to bed. You'd be fine by morning

uvie66:
with all the Christianity and lslamisation in Nigeria, we are still one of the most corrupt Nation on earth.

�. But my concern is on the second visual which reeks of lack of decency

olaboy33:
She never had a sense of decency.

Her transformation simply gave her more confidence to ply her trade.

Touche

FirstSon01:
How is the the Second picture indecent??
Sometimes I wonder how come I also have local and ancient minded fanatics as fellow Christians

I hope you'd encourage your daughter/sisters to appear same way as the second visual?

When the Bible asked that women should dress in all modesty, i bet your own type of Christianity wasn't in existence then

DaddyRochie1642:
So she should be Fat in the name of Decency abi??

Read to understand instead of reading to respond

Godswill Akpobio, minister of Niger Delta affairs, has named lawmakers who got contracts from the Niger Delta Development Commission (NDDC), THISDAY is reporting.

The newspaper said the names of the lawmakers were attached to the letter the minister sent to the house of representatives.

The former Akwa Ibom governor was responding to an ultimatum by Femi Gbajabiamila, speaker of the house of representatives, who had given him 48 hours to name the lawmakers who got the contracts or face the “wrath of the house”.

While appearing before a house panel probing the alleged mismanagement of N81.5 billion by the interim management committee (IMC) of the commission, Akpabio had said federal lawmakers were the biggest beneficiaries of the contracts awarded by the commission.

When Gbajabiamila read Akpabio’s letter on the floor of the house on Thursday, he did not mention that there was a list of contract beneficiaries attached to the letter.

Peter Nwaoboshi, senate committee chairman on NDDC; Matthew Urhoghide, senate committee chairman on public accounts, and James Manager, senator representing Delta South, were reportedly listed as beneficiaries.

Sam Anyanwu, a former senator representing Imo east, and Nicholas Mutu, a lawmaker from Delta who chaired the house NDDC committee in the last assembly, were also named as beneficiaries.

Mutu currently chairs the house committee on gas resources.

While Nwaoboshi’s name was tied to 53 projects, Mutu was said to have got 74 contracts.

Urhoghide, Manager and Anyanwu were said to have got 31 contracts in total.

There were no costs attached to the contracts said to have been awarded to these legislators.

https://www.thecable.ng/report-akpabio-names-lawmakers-who-got-nddc-contracts

Poseidon000:
For inexplicable reason, I like ladies that are way older than me. I don't even mind if she's 15yrs older.


It's an inherent disposition per se.

Just tell us say you like Sugar Mama's

PrettyBunny:
Oh my God.. You are funny..

Unfortunately, I vibe more with people that are younger than me..

My next bf might actually be younger than me..Lol..Just saying

Cougar!!!!

IrepChrist:
And many times it is concealed and done in secrecy.... Is it Godly without the Pastor's approval.... I need sincere responses...

Are you saying pastors have to approve who people should have in their lives?

As for your topic, most don't date, they just have sex and move on to the next after they are tired and the circle continues.

Officialgarri:
Because of ordinary Ecowas envoy appointment.
Goodman that Nigerians couldn't stand his sight and had to boot him out

When Buhari leaves power, he would struggle to get a single nomination or appointment of any sort.

I bet you know why!

tesppidd:
What do you mean can Amechi do anyhow?

Is it because APC is in disarray in Rivers?

The fact that APC is not as popular as PDP in Rivers does not mean Amaechi has any issues going to Rivers.

I doubt that you live or know anything about Rivers state

Here in Rivers the eiltes and the educated people are more on Amaechi's side while the government people, the streets people and touts are more on Wike side.
And as you would expect the touts and street people are much more.

Have you seen Amaechi come into town before from Abuja before?
Hmn
The whole state knows that whenever he comes around, he is all over the place.

Little boys like you don't know who Amaechi is simply because Wike is in PDP which was already 70 percent since the days of Odilli.



As for Wike he should dare Ganduje and go to Edo on election day let's see.

Abusing Ganduje about dollars won't mean anything cus I know that's the only thing he will do.
Let him go to Edo on election day and see that Edo is not Rivers.

Politically, Wike is better and more grounded than Ganduje.

Wike will go to Edo and nothing will happen.
One would have thought that you'd ask what exactly will Ganduje be coming to do in Edo

Chuky7:
like I told someone else here...


you think it's all banks that drop millions on small M.D. position...
they are smaller banks...remind you I said most...

I repeat, stop talking nonsense! No bank MD earns less than 2m monthly pay minus allowances. For one to be an MD, you must have gotten to the level of a GM. And most banks GM's earn about 4m plus monthly.

There is no commercial bank MD that earns less than 2m.i am not referring to Microfinance banks

Chuky7:
not bad...You are earning an MD salary of most banks...

how do you get remote jobs?...or which would you recommend...

what's the name of your own company?...

Will you close your mouth! What do you even know about banking pay system?

An entry level in Access Bank earns about 200k monthly minus allowances. ET's in First Bank were earning about 175k and it has just been revived upwards.

AM's, earn about 500 - 600k monthly, DM's, 600 - 700k etc.

Quit smoking paw-paw leave!

BigTableShaker:
Den of thieves.

Many thanks

Opinionated:
Provided these guys are drug dealers, atleast we should be expecting their bounty men to come pick them up maybe intercepting the officers with heavily armed choppers

Who will take care of their cars now

How to maintain your car during Lockdown

[img]https://pmcvariety.files./2018/01/den-of-thieves.jpg?w=681&h=383&crop=1[/img]

Please, which movie has the attached visual?

Officialgarri:
Look at this fat dunce, someone who owns fake neco result thinks he understands the law better than a SAN.


What will a senator be doing with 20k, yet you owe your workers and be deceiving others with palliatives

You are yet to address the issue at hand. What is Kayemo hustling around for?

While Kayemo might be your SAN, i am yet to see his positive contributions that's relevant to the society at large. Ubah on the other hand has touched so many lives positively

HOW TO KEEP A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

Often, we have a lot of tales to tell about relationships whether good, bad or ugly. A lot of us have had our fingers burnt one way or the other and as such, we have bitter experiences to narrate.

Today, our focus would be on how to keep not just a relationship, but an healthy one.

1. Mutual affection: It's quite important and necessary to ensure you and your supposed partner are headed same direction. Do not assume and allow your nails be burnt. You need to ascertain if your partner has the tiniest of butterfly in his/her heart for you. This will help you make a conscious and informed decision about where you guys are headed.

2. Equal respect: We're in 21st century and not the days of our fathers where women are seen aa slaves and unequal to men. Both parties in a relationship should be treated with equal amount of courtesy and respect. No room for seeing anyone as a lesser human.

3. Care and undivided attention: Women are prone to believing that it's a man's job to care and show them unreserved attention. No, sister, brother got blood flowing in his system. Care and give him attention like a King deserves, then watch him honour and treasure you like a Trojan Horse.

4. Zero complex: Hey man! Hide your stinking ego and treat your woman like a lady. She isn't your subordinate or slave, but your better half that needs to be treated right.
Woman, learn to hide your pride. Be submissive and humble as much as possible.

5. Respect each others space and boundary: Couples should desist from sounding like a Sheriff of a local district just because they are in a relationship. You dare not try to control or restrict your partners movement in the name of being in a relationship. Humans are free moral agents who are free to associate and move about without any form of hindrance.
You can reach out to your partner and enquire about their itinerary politely and not sound like a Chief Justice of their life.

Femsyn:
Don't worry, your mum won't disown you. Infact, you have no problem, but you see your girlfriend, she must get ready for future battle.

What do you take marriage for?
Foundations like this are a recipe for disaster! Shaky starts like is one of the reasons we have so many divorces. Root causes are often overlooked for superficial symptoms.

Having someone else represent your mother, while she's alive, is sending a wrong signal to your in laws, in particular.

Would your father allow the suggestion he's proffering, if he was in your mother's shoes?

Open up to your mother, and plead with her, since the lady is already pregnant.

Plead with her on what exactly?

You must be a comedian

SenorFax:
There is a reason God placed marriage blessings in the hands of the parent. He knew the children will always thought they are smarter. Unless you've been married, you need parental and God's guidance.

What exactly are you talking about? You mean he should sacrifice his peace of mind to massage the emotion of visibly seen tribal bigot?

If the so called mother (with all due respect) couldn't keep a marriage, how then can she advice one on how to keep one?

I bet you see her response and choice of words when the son asked her if she would say same if it was her own daughter

BlackfireX:
Tinubu will move the senate to impeach and removed buhari from the presidency..

And osinbanjo will take over... A win win for the SW

Just like he moved the senate to impeach Saraki?

Abeg shift make we see road

Naxtrad:
I was on my way to fill gas today when my car broke down so I had to come down to fix it as a real guy... so I overhead a Man presume to be married saying he can not go and fill gas while the wife is at home. I was surprised because I do this for fun when my late wife was alive (RIP) without reasoning anything even when I'm busy and suddenly gas finish and food is on the cooker bro na my responsibility to go and fill the gas and come back to what I was doing... I no understand

I pity the man's wife. The man is one of those men who believes women are inferior and less of a human.

My wife has never gone to fill gas, buy fuel etc. I handle them personally