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So what did he now wear? Trousers abi?
We should only stick with king James
Brother, you need help ooo, you are using some Bible verses out of context.

When you over think or fix your mind on negative things, the mind has a way of processing those mental pictures into dreams. This will lead to constant fear, saddness, anxiety and worry. The food for negative thoughts is when you overthink or dwell on them. So don't feed negative thought.
Yes, you lost your father at a tender age, but it doesnt mean you will loose everyone you love. That's the reality of life
Whenever those negative thoughts come snap out of it and replace them with positive thought. Start imagining good things. Or distract yourself with other activities like listening to music or going out.
I repeat " Don't feed negative thought"
See a psychologist for professional help or if you are a religious person you can also see your pastor.

DenreleDave:
Can we get to know each other?

Just a humble request, omo Akin

sent you an email

Thanks OP, this is exactly what I need right now, I'm really trying to move on. Heartbreaks are terrible mehn

ginaolo:
No I’m thinking she might be too shy to discipline our kids in public maybe. Or she might not be able to stand up for the kids in the future I’m scared of her soft nature, I think people will walk all over her in the future.

oga, that's why you are there to defend her, if you truly love her. I'm also similar to your fiancee but no one dare mess with me because I have friends who are bold, daring and have got my back anytime.
Nobody is perfect, we all have our weakness, that's why we compliment each other.
You will see true value of what you have, once you can help her come out of her anxiety. She might not really be comfortable meeting a lot of new people at once but will comfortable meeting one new person at a time. You can start by trying to get her close to your immediate siblings or younger siblings before getting her close to other older members of the family.
But if you think you cannot cope or you can't be patient enough, kindly let her go and don't marry her out of pity. Because you will end up making her miserable.

Ariza:
Typical Nigerian Man ! who makes up on a day demanding, hoping and wishing to have what he never sowed. Oh man! oh black Nigerian Man when did intellectual ability become an attribute you cherish in a Woman? When? speak!

Physical qualities (big boobs, bums, hips, beautiful faces) have always being the ruling criteria in choosing mates by Nigerian men.It has always been beauty over brains.It can be justified if women focus more on these qualities than those that aren't appreciated. Sadly this only led to having more slay mamas and brainy women. You can only reap what you sow.

Yes, I totally agree with you. I have also observed that a typical Nigerian man prefers marrying an unintelligent lady to an intelligent one. They prefer someone that will say yes to whatever they say, not asking questions or making better suggestion once they are giving her money. When a lady ask questions, tries to prove a point or profer a better solution, they think you are questioning their authority or competing with them. This might be because of their ego.
I have observed that they'll rather keep intelligent ladies as friends in order to seek their advice and opinion concerning issues or for the purpose of mere conversation with one but marry a less intelligent one. Overtime, ladies prefer investing in their looks more than their brains because it is more appreciated. Only few Nigerian men consider the content of your brain over your looks.