Stephen2324:
Relationships are now more difficult than ever. Everyone is being wary and careful of the other person. Men don't trust ladies and ladies don't trust men. Everyone is on the edge, suspicious of the words and actions of other person. Distrust everywhere.

Voluntary unions are now built on falsehood and distrust. No one wants to be the fool. No one wants to be the "mugu". Everyone wants to be the smart one.

The winner of this unfortunate battlefield is he who has the least emotions and who cares less. It is more sad when one realises that these are two species that are meant to work together in a physical and spiritual upbuilding but this is where we are today.

More sad is that, it will get worse as time passes because even these wrong values are being passed on to the younger generation who cling to it more firmly and build on it. Building on the wrong values with so much energy and talent, directed in the wrong direction. And when one seeks to find the root cause of this pain and scar we all bear, we end up going round in circles and plunging ourselves into the very entities that birthed these false attitudes. A vicious cycle.

Well said. In addition, " hurting people hurt other people".

The partner with the greater emotional investment in a relationship ends up getting hurt. This partner will refuse to be the fool in their next relationship. So, the cycle continues.

A very sad reality.

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He has tried. He has done his part. He has made his little impact. Touched so many lives. May God comfort his family and give us grace to do his will untill our time is up.

Ironing

cutecommend:
I support No-Sex till marriage, but there are concerns about this ideology in this present dispensation..
What No-Sex in Marriage means especially in this generation..

(1) It means No-Sex with my partner because I want to marry him or her, but I will be having sex with other people or my EX.

(2) It may mean No-Sex with you, so that I can benefit certain nice things from you, and because if you sleep with me, you may stop doing the nice stuffs..

(3) It may mean No-Sex with you because I don't like you nor see a future with you, and will dump you when the right person comes.

(4) It may mean no-sex with you, and no sex with anyone else because I don't want sex with anyone at all; whether I love them or not.

(5) It means, no sex with you and no sex with anyone else, because I love you, and I want to make the relationship clean before I marry you.

Yes o. My Bible tells me to flee fornication. Marriage is to be held with honor, and the bed undefiled.

Is he ready to be a true christian husband? Since, he has listed the standard for a true christian wife, has he met the biblical standard for a true christian husband?
The husband of the proverbs 31 woman is a respectable man who sits at the city gates with the elders of the land

RTID:
Dear 33+ Igbo Men.

You people should stop this madness of picking any random girl you see and marrying her within a short time.

Any girl that enter your eye, you don't care if she is in a relationship or not, you just propose marriage and give her an ultimatum of two weeks to accept.

I know you have the money and resources to, but God will punish you.

Relationship someone has been building from scratch, you wait until it's time to roof it before you strike.

And you think God will not punish you?

When they give you another man's child, you come out to start ranting. You really think she won't be going back to her true love to collect one for the road?

Dey play.

Sorry for your loss op, i feel your pain. But this your ranting is hilarious 😂 😃. This is the funniest thing I have seen today. Take heart o

Yes, desktop charger, i remember those days. It is the charging backup when our phone charging point is spoilt. It can charge just one battery for as much as 8 hours. And the battery will still run down fastly after spending that huge amount of time charging.

Flangelo12:


In the bible they said you can only have one wife?

Here is the biblical standard for church leaders

1Tim.3.2 - Now the overseer must be above reproach, the husband of but one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach,

1Tim.3.12 - A deacon must be the husband of but one wife and must manage his children and his household well.

Titus.1.6 - An elder must be blameless, the husband of but one wife, a man whose children believe and are not open to the charge of being wild and disobedient.

CuriousMind2022:
It's a known fact that most Nigerian girls marry who they consider ready for marriage and not necessarily who they love. I am exactly in that dilemma and the question I am asking myself is whether I should continue in this loveless marriage or slowly drift and walk away.

My marriage is barely 2 years and a few months, but it has been a rough journey for me. Things I never envisaged I would experience in my marriage, I have suffered, from utmost disrespect to verbal abuse.

I came to the conclusion that she doesn't love or care about me based on what happened yesterday. I was recently transferred from my base to a new location and because of that, I would only be able to visit weekends or twice a month. Prior to that, we barely had sex once a week.

We had already had sex the normal once we usually had it (Saturday morning), but I wanted more because I will only be coming back after two weeks. I initiated a move on Sunday morning, she declined because she was thinking of preparing food for our baby before we leave for church. We went to church and came back, and as usual, my wife was in her undies (just panties and bra) in the sitting room (This was what she wore throughout that Sunday).

I watched her walk around the house in that and that even turned me on the more. I am a practicing Christian, and I try not to look after other women lustfully, but common this is my wife, even God sanctions that. After being turned on throughout the day, I went to my wife in the night, (note she slept in the sitting room with our baby leaving me alone in the room) to enjoy my conjugal rights with her, but she gave me excuses that she is upset and not in the mood.

I left and went back, seriously konjified, I managed to sleep. The next morning, I woke up with my urges and went to the sitting room to have my morning devotion, but I could barely concentrate because I was still very Hot. I explained to her that so really wants me to go to my new station like this knowing fully well I will not be coming back until 2 weeks time. This woman did not care!

I took my bath, prepared myself, and set out for my office. I was not happy with her but I kept my cool and left for work. She had demanded that I dropped some money for her before leaving and despite the fact that I was not happy with her, I dropped the money in a conspicuous place where I know she will see it before leaving. This was my own way of saying I am not happy with what you did, but I still cared.

I try to do things I usually do for my wife even when I am angry with her. This is my own way of saying I may be angry with you, but I still cared about you and I am open to a resolution. On the other hand, my wife doesn't care what happens to me when she is upset. She immediately stops cooking for me ad any other thing she does for me when she is upset. It is obvious to me now that to my wife I don't really matter in the grand scheme of things. She is only caring and concerned, when she is not angry (when we are good and we don't have any issues). I believe that when you love somebody, you treat them right and show genuine love and care for them even when you're upset with them. This is what I have constantly shown to my wife in our 2+ years of marriage.

Back to my story of what happened weekend/Monday. My wife never bothered to call me to check if I arrived safely since I left the house yesterday. I even called her once (primarily to check on my daughter), but she didn't pick up and she didn't call back, and up till now, we have not spoken.

She obviously does not care whether I arrived safely in my station or not. In this country of insecurities, a family member of yours will travel and you do not care whether he/she arrived safely, that is the height for me, and in the actual sense, I should be the one upset here because she left me high and dry, despite knowing fully well I am very Hot.

I am a family-oriented person, I have always dreamt of having a peaceful, loving, and Godly home but unfortunately, the reverse is the case for my wife. I began to understand why family background is very important in a person's life, after getting married. My wife is from a family where they place little or no value on marriage. Her mother had children with 2 men, and my wife is obviously working very hard to follow that same path. She shows little or no enthusiasm in making our marriage work. I am always the one to initiate moves to resolve issues when we quarrel, whether I am right or wrong, I do not care, my focus is just on making my marriage work and my home peaceful.

This last episode shook me very hard, and I have been asking myself whether I want to continue in this loveless marriage or opt out. Working and living in a different city will even make it easier for me.

I needed to let my thoughts out and thanks to Nairaland, I have done so.

Brother, your marriage and peace is at stake here. You need to be careful with the kind of advice you will follow. As a Christian, it is better you seek advice from the right quarters, get the people your wife listens to, so that they can speak some senses into her head. Get your mentors and pastors to interfere and give the appropriate advice.

I am definitely buying land

Jos, Plateau State, 2015/2016

NCCF gave me the best memories

I initially thought it was a joke too, well received, God bless your good heart. I'm very grateful

GTB

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I'm here

Onu4:
Yes although ex now. We broke up in February.
She and her twins do not really like alike



Am also a twins (but mine is a girl)

My elder sister are also twins...(2 girls)

My dad is a twins (but I never had the opportunity to her as my dad said she died while they were very little)

My mum's mum is also a twins

Wow, are you from igboora, the town with the highest number of twins?

Rice ni o

You are in a relationship with a toxic person, get out ASAP. This woman will bring out the worst in you, not the best.

Treadway:
lol. Thanks for reminding me of Sebastian the crab. As far as I'm concerned Sebastian was the highlight of the Little Mermaid that made it golden, not even Ariel....lol

You are correct, the Sebastian character was hilarious. I so love this animation when I was little.

Gladly following your journey.

This is a very childish comparison. You are comparing the strength of men with the weakness of women.

Men have always been sole providers for women, as fathers, husbands, sons and brothers. So, men have always been self-made.
Men have always been economically independent and women economically dependent. Our men are our cover, providers and protectors. It is only in modern times (last 200 years) women are learning and striving to become financially independent and have their own money. Home/family care has always been the strength of women.

I'm beginning to see that a lot of young modern men are confused. You shame women for not being substantial financial contributors in the home. You will still shame women for abandoning the home to source for their own money.

You belittle women who are not rich or self-made, yet you see the ones richer than you as threat to your masculinity.

I'm looking forward to seeing you compare the strength of women to the weakness of men

You guys keep pushing women down the path of masculinity and will still complain there are fewer feminine women/home makers.

If your wife is not your family, why should she give up her family surname and identity for yours?
Just asking for a friend

placeofallure:


You're very correct. I like it and find irresistible men who have confidence. It always feels like there's an enigma around them and you'll be curious to unravel it. If you flaunt one useless wealth around me, it's minus one for me. The signal that sends to me is - who do you think you are? - I switch off instantly. I've always believed in making my own money, that won't fly. Unfortunately, most women these days will rate you according to how deep your pocket is.

My mindset is similar to yours. Flaunting of wealth is a big turn off. Guys who do that only attract golddiggers, yet, they complain that Nigerian girls are always billing them. Why won't they bill them when money is the only thing they have to offer. It is like luring a dog with food,and expecting the dog not eat the food.

My mum (introvert) is a cool, gentle, easy going woman. No unnecessary drama. It is my Dad that is dramatic (extrovert)

What were you expecting in a highly sexualized world? Will a woman or man with multiple sexual partners suddenly become faithful because she or he is married? After exploring several sizes, shape and color, will they satisfied sticking to one?

It is liking expecting someone who has tasted different variations of rice, to only stick with white rice everyday. He or she will become bored and want more spice and flavor. Same with people, except there is high level of discipline and determination, sticking with one sexual partner thereafter will be difficult.

A lot of modern marriages will continue to fail because of infidelity for both spouses.

For people who are not yet sexually active before marriage, you are doing yourself and your future spouse a big favor when it comes to infidelity. However, this might not be true in all cases, people who married as virgins have also been caught up in cases of infidelity.

Yes, shorthand and typewriting

helinues:
My dad's punishment is the funniest I have ever seen.

Dad will eat the food without eating meat. Or eat meat alone without eating the food. Whenever such happened, we don know say wahala dey.

This is hilarious .

APC keeps working overtime to intimidate this Peter Obi.

tunjidachosen:


I can say boldly that Yorubas have pushed the Obi agenda more strategically and effectively than you Ibos. Non of your prominent leaders really supported Obi even current governors of ibo states.
You have the guts to come here and generalize with reckless statements. Even Obi’s preferred lawyer is a Yoruba man. Falz is taking it to an unprecedented level. All most of you do is express bitterness online.

The bitterness is alarming and worrisome. They ignore the efforts of thousands of Yorubas rooting for them, and only focus on the bad ones. My concern is that if Obi wins his court case and the real election result is published. How will they reconcile with other tribes after the curses and evil wishes, mockery, abuses, blame shifting, false accusations and other malicious things they have said.

Chochovini:
. Yes, that WAS in those days.
Time has change don‘t forget that. So that what worked well just 10yrs ago cannot work today. People should stop encouraging mediocrity.
This is nonesense. Marriage is not kids. Take it or leave it.

I agree times has changed but there are certain marriage principles that has worked in the past and will work forever. These principles includebkindness, empathy, forgiveness, selflessness, discipline, patience, long-suffering and a lot more. They work for everyone irrespective of their age. Failure to practice these principles will make any marriage fail even if you marry at 50.