SLOVFO:


And you think marriage makes men to stop fornicating? It's not marriage it's self control that helps to curb "fornication". Kids can be adventurous and that can't be said to be same as "courageous". It takes more than courage to make marriage work for a "lifetime". I would rather that kids learn to be self controlled and self awared rather than rush off to marriage because of raging hormones.

Well said

juman:
Both were still children.
Lot of headache in such marriage.

Age doesn't equal maturity. Some children are more responsible and mature than some adults.
The only thing they might have issues is with their finances. Once they do family planning and have kids only when they are financially ready, they will be fine.

Rokiat:
I wish them well but not an easy journey ahead. 30
Is when you really get to know yourself and what you really want. I really hope they have a strong healthy guidance because the person you are at 20 is not who you will be at 30. You evolved. Many people married in their 20s and by the time they hit their 30s they realised they are fu…ck this is not what they envisioned.



If they are willing to put in the work they can make it work. I wish them
Well.

Our forefathers got married in their teens and twenties, some of the marriages worked out well

Ihateheadslamer:
They are still growing, there is more to life

They will grow together. Our forefathers got married in their teens and twenties. And some of their marriages were better than modern marriages.

Cute couple.

It shock me o

Some people living abroad are oblivious of the current living cost in Nigeria. They assume everything is cheap and don't factor in inflation.

Earlier this year, my mum's friend (Mrs E) living in the UK, complainined to her that her own mom was always requesting for extra money. Mrs E assumed the monthly allowance she gives her aged mom should be more than enough than to meet her needs. She was suspecting foul play from her mom's caregivers and her siblings. My mom had to explain the present situation of things in the country and the inform her of the current price of regular household items. Then, Mrs E could understand the reason why she need to send her mom more money.

My brother, your kind heart towards your parents is commendable. I will suggest you get someone your sister listen to or respects to explain the situation of things to her. Maybe she will see the need to send more money to her parent.

However, if she refuse to change, stop expecting any money from her. Leave her to her conscience. Just assume you and your younger sibling are the only kids your parents have. This is will save you from any unnecessary anger, worries, anxiety or bitterness towards your sister. See any financial support from her as extra money.

Pray that God will bless the work of your hands, so that you can have more than enough to give your parents the best they deserve. The harsh truth is that if you were the only child or any of your siblings dies today, you have will have no choice than to take care of your parent alone. It is better to carry your cross joyfully and leave your siblings to their conscience.

May the good God continue to bless you and increase the work of your hands.

seanwilliam:
God bless you . This shows that you’re a responsible man
Not all men are lucky to have women that ‘support’ financially, even if she does, you should not rely on that 100% .
Hmm. . But ehn 100k in two months as a married man is very fair o.


It’s far more easier to save as a single man.

How? When you’re single, you only spend what you want , you can ignore billings you’re not comfortable with , no one can compel u except you’re generous or a simp. infact you can decide to be extremely thrifty , and it’s more easier to adjust and adapt to any situation. You can decide to suspend morning and afternoon food, you can decide not to sub to cable, you can decide to even sleep if you have little change in your account. It’s easier to take risk and you’re open to different opportunities.

But when you’re married, it’s impossible to do all that. No matter how wicked you are , you can’t watch your own wife and kids go hungry , 90% of time , you’ll have to consider your family before taking any decisions.
Except you’re financial buoyant , you can’t just buy any cloths, shoes, for yourself. You can’t go to expensive restaurant without thinking about what to give your family the next day .


If you have money in your acct, you’ll still be scared , 70% of time you’ll be experiencing heart palpitations, you’ll not want them to lack.

Technically as a man, when you marry, you’ve given up your freedom and comfort for others.









That’s why , a man needs to be smart and ‘prayerful’ while choosing life partner , not all women worth these sacrifices.

I love your perspective in this matter. God bless you

Obinoscopy:
As a statistician, I've always believed in the powers of deductive inference based on sampling.

INEC has uploaded over 94% of the Presidential Results on the IREV Portal. Now there are people who believe that the result announced by INEC is significantly different from the result uploaded on IREV. I decided to randomly select result sheets from IREV and collate. The sample size was 314 result sheets. That sample size was gotten from an online sample size calculator. Click on this link to see my research protocol: https://www.nairaland.com/7614305/statistical-analysis-inec-result-irev

The result is very interesting.

RESULT
So after collating the result sheets from randomly selected 314 polling units, APC got a total of 15394 votes. LP got 10430 votes. NNPP got 2613 votes. And PDP got 11533 votes. So APC got the majority of votes followed by the PDP, then LP and finally NNPP.

This means INEC declaration is in tune with what's uploaded on IREV. However I noticed that the result for Rivers State is very strange. My collated result shows LP has more than 4 times the votes gotten by either APC or PDP.

So in conclusion, the IREV result is almost exactly what INEC declared. The only discrepancy is that of Rivers State. I might have to inspect that of Rivers State even further in my next analysis. But despite the Rivers State discrepancy, APC won fair and square based on the results on IREV Portal. I say this with 95% confidence.

Whether the results from IREV is authentic or not is a matter for another discuss. My focus was just to use the results I saw on the IREV Portal.

How did you do your sampling? How can we trust your sampling process?

I would love to see Obi win this case.

Iamzik:

You all fail to see your foolishness. Always claiming to contribute and develop another man's land. Go and develop your own land because no matter how much you develop another man's land, it will never be yours. I know you hate the truth but it is what it is.

We are praying very hard for you to get your Biafra and go. Too much pride, arrogance and empty chest beating.

I and all my Yoruba friends voted for Peter obi during presidential election not minding insults from our fellow yoruba parent and elders....only for you lots to start calling us unprintable names and telling us to our face that you own Lagos. Y'all must be very mad.

This is the reason why it will be extremely difficult for an igbo man to ever be president of Nigeria. Igbos need to calm down and Introspect deeply. Peter Obi was you best shot at presidency in my lifetime. We all supported and voted along side Igbos only to be rewarded with insults.

Y'all will regret this for a long time

It was so heartbreaking to see them downplay the efforts of thousands of Yorubas who supported and voted for Peter Obi during the presidential election and even after the election.

They feel they are better than every other tribe, so, they overestimate themselves and underestimate other tribes. They won't listen to other people's opnion because they consider it to be inferior and therefore, they will keep losing.

Although, i personally feel Igbos have been treated unfairly in this marriage called Nigeria. However, all these bragging, noise and victimhood will not help them. It further exposes their weakness to their opponent.

They need to learn to evaluate their strength and weakness instead of blaming others. Acknowledge that other tribes have areas of strength and study their weakness. Fight their opponent at their weak point not their strong point. Then, they will be free from their grip.

I fear for subsequent elections in Nigeria. With Tinubu and his minions in power, it might become worse.
Who will save us from this mess?

Bigbayour:
1.No Yoruba should buy anything in traffic agaij going forward.


2. Sanwo Olu should ban traffic Hawkers going forward

3. All Ibo Senior officers in Govt house should be retired prematurely

4. Revokes majority of Igbo properties CofO. This can be done systematically and technically.

5. Take over alaba and Ladipo and demolish the structure under the guise of rebuilding modern lock up shops and ensure over 90% of the new structure are taken by Yorubas (Just like it was done in Tejuosho Markets).....

6. We will continue doing all Anti-igbo activities until we enslaved them and they started jumping inside Lagoon

Battleline has been drawn.

You people will see fire in the next 4 years...

Nah we get Aso Rock, nah we get Judiciary, nah we get media. No where to run to

Please, enough is enough. You guys shouldn't start any tribal war. It will benefit no one. You guys already made your point and that is enough.
Ori bibe ko ni ogun ori fifo. The solution to an headache is not cutting off the end. We want peace and progress in Nigeria.

Great, setting the pace for us.
Congratulations to the people of Adamawa state.
Happy mother's day to every mother and other aspiring moms like me.

Jnkay:
This Election really showed me how tribalistic we Yorubas are.
I will always give it to Seyi Makinde, we voted him massively here including the Igbos living here with us because his good works speak for him.

I'm still in shock since the presidential election. I thought we are sophisticated, I never knew we are this tribalistic. We are known to be nice and accommodating, although i must acknowledge that some Igbos really overstepped their boundaries. I just hope this doesn't escalate into a tribal war for us and our unborn children.

shantti:


Lol
U r being manipalative on a thread that talks Abt how manipulatuve women are. Aren't u proving the poster right?

Kindly explain how my post is manipulative. Maybe I will be able to answer your question.

Kobojunkie:
1. OP created a thread that is biased against women, and you responded by introducing yet more gender-biased detail to essentially further cut down women whose personalities are of the type described by OP, personality types that aren't gender specific by the way.

My point is "love and concern" can be misinterpreted as an attempt to control the other person. I am not interested in any gender arguement. I just want each gender to see things from each other's point of view. At this juncture, i rest my case.

Kobojunkie:
Many men do exactly the same. So, why mention it as if it is some sort of achievement on the part of those women who are able to care for only their loved ones?

I guess you misunderstood my post. My response is specific tailored to answer the Op's question. It is not argument about male and female.

Kobojunkie:
1. This is not true at all!

You only need to open your eyes to see how this care you claim does not extend to the millions of orphans that litter the streets of Nigeria. Women aren't naturally caring. Some of them care while some of them don't. And this all depends majorly on personality and other factors.

I never said women are caring to everyone. I specifically mentioned their loved ones.

Schoolguy9:
Some women have this inbuilt desire to control the people around them especially the male folks and you see it happening in the society, family and within marriages.

It baffles me because women do not desire to be interefered with in issues that concern them yet you see them justling to determine what course their brothers study, what time their husbands should come back home and whose mother comes for Omugwo first!

All these things are even worse when the man is inexperienced. For crying out loud, why is it in some women's nature to control everything that concerns men?

Women are naturally caring and concerned about their loved ones and every aspect of their lives. In their own minds, they want the best for you. I guess you misunderstand that to mean they are controlling.

Karlifate:
Strong men make feminine women

Weak men make masculine women.
💯

So what makes a man masculine or feminine?

Got to the hospital. Have a check up. Self medication isn't the best. I once had palpitations (fast heartbeat), hand tremors ( shaking hands), memory loss and bulging eyes (grave's diseases). It turned out to be hyperthyroidism. I was placed on propanol and cabimazol for a while before it was changed to atenolol and cabimazole. I have been off drug for 8 years now

Isabi4lov:

Don't mind them , they're the ones doing themselves the most .

They knew their weak point is women, so they'll post seductive pics of a random girl on their Dps .

This same men are all over Nairaland abusing, belittling and talking trash about Nigerian women. They say we are all useless. Yet, they will carry our pictures to decieve their fellows. This is delusion and hypocrisy at its peak.

Isabi4lov:
🤣🤣🤣

Most of them parading as females here are actually men in reality.

We have them on Facebook with fake accounts to lure men into their DMs.

Men supporting decieveing men. Yet, they claim only women don't like each other. When busted, they will find a way of blaming women for their crimes.

Honesty pays, God bless that woman.

This is hilarious 😆😆😆😆😆

No single regret

elijahozzy:


Which area ?

Ile-Ife

Terrible, they only restore it between 1am and 5am. Staying awake all night is becoming usual for me.

Paulajeigbe:

To others who have been there too, how was it? If I see your response, I know you did not die. How did you heal? How did you move on? Did you finally find love in the person who truly sees you for you?

Your response who knows might help someone else.

Personally, I think the term "love" and "attraction/attachment" are sometimes confused. I believe emotional and physical attraction (falling in love) is often beyond our control, we cannot choose the people we get physically or emotionally attracted/attached to. It can come as an unexplainable longing for someone. However, you can choose who you will love. Let me share my experience though it is a little bit different from what you wrote.
My experience
As young girl i have always wanted "one relationship, one marriage". So, i decided i was going to face my studies, only get into a relationship when I'm ready for marriage and marry the love of my life forever. I met guys who really loved me, but i let go as soon as possible because I don't believe in leading people on emotionally.
I was almost 24 years when I got into my first relationship ever, i believed I had found the person i will be committed to for the rest of my life. I wasn't emotional attracted at first but I feel in love few months into the relationship. We planned marriage and he met my parents.
Unfortunately for me, the relationship broke after a while. But I could not detached from him emotionally. I couldn't just imagine my life without him. He was always in thoughts and dreams, faces i see around me were looking like his. I thought I was going mad. I just couldn't let go. I couldn't stop communicating with him, i will block and unblock him. I hoped and prayed that things will work out, that he will come back to his senses. He disrespect me a few times, took me for granted and often advised me to move on.
After a while, he became a little bit serious with me, though he never committed to a relationship with me like he did before. Unknowingly to me, he had been in another relationship all these while and the relationship broke. He will often advice me to move on, that he doesn't want to be the reason for my late marriage, he had no plans to marry me. However, i just could not find closure or any tangible reason to move on.
Through these period, i cried bucket of tears, lost appetite for food, there were times i couldn't sleep, i had to take pills, so i could sleep. I had to seek counsel from a psychologist and spiritual counsel. Everyone was screaming "move on" into my ears but i just couldn't help myself. I will promise everyone never to contact him again, but i will end up breaking my promise.
Then i started researching into "being in love" and what it does to the brain. I discovered that being in love is similar to alcohol or drug addiction. They all release dopamine in the brain which give you a sense of pleasure. When you see or talk to the person you love, you get excited because of dopamine release, then you want more. Your brain craves for it more. You want to see the person more or talk to them, then you become addicted. Other people don't excite you as much as this person, you want them around all the time.
Similar to other addictions, once, the person breaks up with you or doesn't give you a chance, then it seems like your whole world had comes crashing. The craving starts, you are looking for every means possible to get the dopamine release. It seems you cannot do without the person.
Back to my story
Finally, two years after the break up, i was able to let go and move on. This was because I got enough support from family and friends. Also, i met a friend here on Nairaland whom i was emotionally attracted to for a while. This showed me i can still fall in love.
Then my Ex came back, he said it was after I moved on and reduced all communication with him that he became attracted to me. Unfortunately for him, that ship has already sailed. He is still trying to get me back till now.
It's been almost four years since the break up drama, never been into any other relationship. I'm still single and trusting God to be married. Honestly, i don't think i can stupidly fall in love with any guy till marriage. "Once bitten, twice shy". However, anything can happen o.

twosquare:
I've heard all these said by some,,,but there may be a thin line between a new Nigeria and separation...of course, there will be bloodshed.

But you see those ones you mention, especially the first two? They are devils...but to think Fulani will hand over to the East, will be a miracle...the new Nigeria may mostly go for regional government and a "small Nigeria" in-between.

It may happen, but it may also not happen...these forces also study prophecy and know where to attack from with evil wisdom. But as for me, I'm not interested in Nigeria. It is beating a dead horse.

Yes, some prophecies are conditional and can be reversed. It happened in Nineveh in the bible, when the people repented and pray. So, we pray for God's mercy upon Nigeria.
I honestly don't know about the separation of Nigeria. Some say it will come, some say it will not. I pray God's will is done in Nigeria

twosquare:
What's the summary of what he said?

The election will be inconclusive and in shambles, there will be so many evidences of the rigging. However, BAT will be shakily declared as winner. Revolution greater than End SARS will be break out all over Nigeria. It will start as peaceful protest before things become bloody. There will be military intervention. There will be United Nations intervention. BAT will not be sworn in.There will be an interim government and committee. And past leader such as Obasanjo, Abdulsalam Abubakar and Buhari will maintain peace and restore the nation. Peter Obi will win through a court case and be sworn in. The new Nigeria will come.
Aside this, a lot of prophecies indicate God want to judge the Nigeria space especially the political space and the church. This is because we are a stiffed neck people. Churches have been praying and we are still praying that the losses be minimal. It advised that everyone repent from sin and start living a righteous life.
Disclaimer: I'm not a prophet of doom, i only summarized what men of God have been saying.