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Family / Re: My 19yr Old Wife Dumped My Daughter And Fled With Her Boyfriend Since On Sunday by akinade28(f): 3:39pm On May 18, 2022 |
Peter532:Companionship with a 15 year or 16 year old girl? What's your definition of companionship? What kind of companionship can she offer a much older person like you? Friendship? Sex? 6 Likes |
Family / Re: My 19yr Old Wife Dumped My Daughter And Fled With Her Boyfriend Since On Sunday by akinade28(f): 8:12am On May 18, 2022 |
takimsipho:It was the OP that came here to complain, hence, the lashes and advice he got. It is obvious the lady is the woman of the Op's dreams but the Op isn't the man of her dreams and she isn't ready to settle for the "unbalanced equation" marriage. She is still very young to remain in an unhappy marriage for the rest of her life. Even if the "unbalanced equation" marriage continues the lady will still continue to cheat on him, or might kill him to gain freedom. The OP himself might not be mature enough to handle a teenage wife. Acting like a father to her instead of a husband. He maybe mean, controlling, not listening to her, a master-slave relationship, hence, the her need for freedom. Even if it was the lady that came here seeking for advice, the best advice anyone can give her is that 1) she should acknowledge that she made a mistake by getting married and pregnant so early. 2) learn how to make better decisions, because the outcome of our lives depends on the decisions we make. 3) Take her life very serious, go back to school or learn a vocation. With this, she will be able to earn, take care of herself, her child without depending on any man or following men all around for survival. It is when you are broke that people make bad decisions for you and force you to "swallow it hook, line and sinker". Money stop some nonsense, assuming her parents were rich, they might not have given her so early in marriage, even if she had gotten pregnant. 4) She still a better chance at marriage because she is very young. Being a single mother doesn't mean she can never get the man of her dreams. However, she needs to apply caution. She should make sure she is fully ready for the commitment and responsibility attached to marriage before dabbling into it. 5 Likes |
Family / Re: My 19yr Old Wife Dumped My Daughter And Fled With Her Boyfriend Since On Sunday by akinade28(f): 10:18pm On May 17, 2022 |
takimsipho:Bro, the modern society is very different from that of our forefathers. Having a boyfriend is different from being a wife and a mother in a permanent lifetime relationship. She is too young for that decision yet hence her reason to still want to explore. She being more than 18 years doesn't mean she is ready for marriage especially in this generation. Same goes for teenage boys too who are forced into marriage just because they got a girl pregnant. See, forget Nollywood, life isn't black or white, so she might never regret the decision to run away from marital life especially if she is able to get a mentor/advisor to set her on the right track. It might turnout to be one of her best decisions. 19 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: My 19yr Old Wife Dumped My Daughter And Fled With Her Boyfriend Since On Sunday by akinade28(f): 7:46pm On May 17, 2022 |
takimsipho:@bolded, How are you sure her parents didn't force her against her will to marry the OP? Is being a student in the university the same thing as being a wife and a mother? Does age mean she is mentally and emotionally ready for marriage? 36 Likes 3 Shares |
Family / Re: My 19yr Old Wife Dumped My Daughter And Fled With Her Boyfriend Since On Sunday by akinade28(f): 6:52pm On May 17, 2022 |
Oga, forget about that girl o. Leave her to explore life. Don't entangle her in the name of marriage. The world has left the era where you force marriage on teenagers and they will just accept their fate. She is obviously not prepared for the responsibility of wifehood and motherhood. Her age mate are currently free and enjoying their life and she wants that. You simply can't force her to mature or grow up. She obviously made a wrong decision of been put in a family way at a very young age. I hope she's able to re- write her wrong. If you continue to force yourself on her, she will eventually resent/hate you. Or might be tempted to kill you just to gain her freedom. Count your loss and move on. Don't jump into another marriage in the name of looking for someone to take care of your daughter. In your next marriage, make sure your partner is fully convince that she wants to follow you in the journey. For your daughter, if you can't take care of her alone, get a nanny or take her to one of your relatives. 16 Likes 1 Share |
Career / Re: What's Affecting My Productivity? My Mindset, My Location, Or My Village People by akinade28(f): 1:46pm On May 16, 2022 |
Bro, you are suffering from depression as a result of losing your Dad. Getting over the loss of someone you love is not that easy. That's why you have lost motivation for anything. The best thing is to get professional help If you can, I mean psychotherapy. Then, surround yourself with people you love and those that really love and care about you. People that motivate and encourage you. If you are religious, knowing God has big plans for you and consistent prayers can help too. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: What My New Girlfriend Does Everyday by akinade28(f): 7:13am On May 15, 2022 |
You think every lady will be moved by your money and material gift. I love the way this lady respects herself. It is when some men think your livelihood depends on them, that's when they shove a lot of nonsense down your throat and expect you to accept it. These kind of men want to use the money and gifts as a means of control. Op, you have gotten a treasure, you better learn to treat her with respect or else she give you your size. Every guy should note that not all women are materialistic or greedy. Some will rather give than be given. |
Romance / Re: My Ex Is Making Me Depressed by akinade28(f): 9:32am On May 12, 2022 |
6pack:Hey bro, you are not a robot, this was a five-year relationship. Memories are not something you can just wipe out or delete easily. Humans are different, because of our personalities, it easier for some people to recover from a break up than other. So don't let anyone discourage you, give yourself enough time to heal. With time you will discover you have completely forgotten about her, and she looks like a statue to you. |
Politics / Re: Fulani Group Buys APC Presidential Nomination Form For Goodluck Jonathan. by akinade28(f): 7:40pm On May 09, 2022 |
I will be very disappointed in Goodluck Jonathan if he should accept this nonsense form. How can APC blame a man for 7 years and still want him to contest on the same platform. APC is a shameless party 2 Likes |
Properties / Re: Why Do Landlords Refuse To Rent Rooms To Single Women In Nigeria?? by akinade28(f): 1:46pm On May 06, 2022 |
So many discrimination against Nigerian women. |
Politics / Re: 2023 Presidency: Why South East Can’t Reap Where It Didn’t Sow, By Yoruba Youths by akinade28(f): 2:09pm On May 03, 2022 |
LeoDeKing:Epele o, English teacher. Eku ise. I'm pretty sure you are a lagosian, you think every other south western state are think like you. Go to the streets of Ekiti, Ondo, Osun, Oyo, sample other people's opinions aside lagosian and you will be surprised |
Politics / Re: 2023 Presidency: Why South East Can’t Reap Where It Didn’t Sow, By Yoruba Youths by akinade28(f): 2:04pm On May 03, 2022 |
LeoDeKing:Smiling...... because I'm Yoruba doesn't mean I should follow the crowd dogmatically, this was how I was shouting against buhari in 2015 but the voice of the majority shut us down. |
Politics / Re: 2023 Presidency: Why South East Can’t Reap Where It Didn’t Sow, By Yoruba Youths by akinade28(f): 1:48pm On May 03, 2022 |
OkoroBufo:You think everyone that says the bitter truth is a bastard. Not everyone from the southwest have turn off their brain. |
Politics / Re: 2023 Presidency: Why South East Can’t Reap Where It Didn’t Sow, By Yoruba Youths by akinade28(f): 1:33pm On May 03, 2022 |
What is this people's problem? In normal sane society, everyone in their right sense should know it is should be turn of south east to become President. You can't just sideline a major tribe and claim unity. And yes, I am a Yoruba girl. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Politics / Re: Omisore Visits Bisi Akande In Osun by akinade28(f): 3:28pm On May 02, 2022 |
AMGBoss:You are very accurate. |
Celebrities / Re: Yul Edochie's First Wife, May, Reacts To His Second Marriage & New Baby by akinade28(f): 8:18pm On Apr 27, 2022 |
Madam, your statement is biblical Hebrew13.4 - Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. |
Celebrities / Re: Yul Edochie's First Wife, May, Reacts To His Second Marriage & New Baby by akinade28(f): 7:35pm On Apr 27, 2022 |
When men hurt women, their fellows come out to justify their actions with a lot of nonsense reasons like "it is a man's world and they can do or undo". When women hurt men and retaliate, you see them wailing up and down, saying "fear the daughters of eve", " women are evil", "don't ever trust a woman", creating etc. Men often forget the law of retribution. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Education / Re: My Dad Wanted Me Aborted, Says LAUTECH Best Graduating Student by akinade28(f): 7:06pm On Apr 26, 2022 |
obiekunie01:Why all these assumption? Do you know this lady personally? Have you ever dated her? Do you know her family personally? |
Family / Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by akinade28(f): 5:46pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
Hathor5:God bless you, I wish I could like this post a million times |
Family / Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by akinade28(f): 6:47pm On Apr 16, 2022 |
apatheticme: Please, go ahead, I will like to see it. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by akinade28(f): 5:50pm On Apr 16, 2022 |
apatheticme:Dear sis, Nairaland is the least place for me to seek male validation. Yes, I agree some women are financially stronger than their husbands, but their percentage is a lot lesser. All over the world, stastics has shown that women earn lesser than men. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by akinade28(f): 2:56pm On Apr 16, 2022 |
luminouz:please re-read my post: I am not in any way justifying domestic violence from any gender, in fact, no gender should justify domestic violence, we should all, love, accept, tolerate, forbear and forgive one another. However, 1) my first statement was a counter response to emmanuelbrown's claims that no man will beat a woman for no reason. 2) men are found of blaming women for their action as if they are perfect or saints. You people believe you can justify domestic violence and shift the blame to women, you can just shove anything down our throat just because we are women. See any gender can justify domestic violence if they wish to, women are not as complicated as men's belief. Most of these women you claim provoke you are only reacting to your actions and inactions the best way they can. No human will condone any form of hurt or irrational behavior from the other party for example irresponsibility or cheating(adultery). Because women are not as strong as you are either physically or financially, so, they get back at you emotionally. 3) the best thing for any part is to walk away when you can no longer bear it instead of justifying domestic violence or blaming your actions on the opposite gender 4) the second paragraph acknowledges the fact that there are some unreasonable human beings (both men and women) existing who are very wicked, but that can never justify domestic violence. |
Family / Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by akinade28(f): 1:37pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
emmanuelbrown26:No sane woman can just wake up and start provoking her husband without a reasonable cause. Husband should also bring peace as well if you want peace. Bro, two wrongs can never make a right. You don't solve a problem by creating a greater problem. I understand that some wives can be provocative, verbally abusive or might be violent at times. They can cause or look for trouble. But all these can never justify domestic violence, you can conquer evil with evil. Look for better ways of dealing with this kind of women, instead of beating them. Or better still, separate or walk out of the marriage if it has become unbearable. Men are always looking for who to blame for their actions since the time of Adam and Eve. Men should learn to take responsibilities for their actions 6 Likes 1 Share |
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: What Does Working Hard Actually Mean To You? by akinade28(f): 1:17pm On Apr 13, 2022 |
Proudlyomonna:Apt and accurate. I love your points |
Celebrities / Re: Osinachi's Son: My Father Said Beating Women Good, Pushed Mum Out Of Her Car by akinade28(f): 8:38pm On Apr 12, 2022 |
Preacherrr:Hope all is well with you bro or sis? I'm very sure you didn't read the comment I responded to before quoting me. You really need to calm down and re-read what I wrote. And please check my monicker and previous post to understand my comment. I'm very disappointed in your post, if you are christian. |
Celebrities / Re: Osinachi's Son: My Father Said Beating Women Good, Pushed Mum Out Of Her Car by akinade28(f): 7:39pm On Apr 12, 2022 |
Kayode3747:Haven't you seen people stay in abusive boy-girl relationships hoping the other party will change. With the so much importance attached to marriage here in Nigeria, no woman wants her marriage to fail. It takes a lot of courage and boldness for any woman to leave her home or come out of a bad marriage. I guess one of her problem was religion. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: Recipe For Young Men Looking To Marry A Good Woman. by akinade28(f): 3:19am On Apr 12, 2022 |
kudos to the OP, I appreciate guys that have common sense. oldienavie:These are very important points. you cannot be a bad person and be looking for a good person to marry. you will definitely attract your kind. Any woman you attract with money, you will need more money to keep her, she will carry her back and leave when the money finishes. Enough of most guys on this platform thinking all you need to impress a lady is money Money will only impress gold-diggers 2 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Gospel Artist, Osinachi Nwachukwu Is Dead by akinade28(f): 10:06pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
Wetin happen I remember the song "nara ekele mo" , she sang with Dr. Paul Eneche. Such a strong and powerful voice. 7 Likes |
Health / Re: From E.Coli To Staphylococcus Aureus by akinade28(f): 9:20pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
SaintEVU:No, E.coli can't transform into Staphylococcus aereus Bro, normally, your urine is meant to be sterile that is free from all form of microorganisms. What you have is Urinary tract infection ( UTI) which is caused by presence of microorganisms in urinary tract. However, what has happpened might be that the Laboratory gave a wrong identify to the microrganism responsible for the infection. Or the two microrganism are involved. What you have is mild or minor problem, the right prescription of antibiotics will solve it except you have been misusing antibiotics previously and you have MRSA. 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: Does A Lady Really Bring Luck To A Man by akinade28(f): 12:13pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
Just the way your association ( friends, family, aquitances) bring either good luck or back luck, the man or woman you marry can bring good luck or bad luck to you. 1 Like 1 Share |
Phones / Re: Subscribers Lament As Their Numbers Are Blocked Despite Linking Their NIN (Pics) by akinade28(f): 3:48pm On Apr 05, 2022 |
GLO did the same thing to me and someone close to me. I really don't understand GLO. 3 Likes 1 Share |
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