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Romance / Re: One Fact Every Wig Wearing Lady should Know. by akinade28(f): 8:35pm On Jan 09, 2022 |
Contrary to popular opinion that ladies wear wig to look European. No, that's not the case. Natural hair is more difficult to maintain compare to wig. It is more painful to weave and loose, it is also time consuming. It gets rough easily. I have tried both and prefer the latter. 8 Likes |
Romance / Re: Why Do Girls Insist On Being Friends When A Guy Does Not? by akinade28(f): 1:43pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Someone said this: Dear friendships of life, I will hate more than anything to wake up one day and find that I can no longer call you, chat you up, play with you, feel free with you like we used to because you picked romantic interest in me and I turned it down. It will be so painful to see your WhatsApp story and then after typing a lengthy funny response, I will then pause to think and then go ahead to delete the message on remembering that we are not as we use to be. It will be sad to soil the friendship we have built over the years because one of us did not understand that God did not put everyone in our life for us to date, no matter how beautiful the friendship might be. I know there is this pressure to get married from your end but please hold your fire. Maybe it is not even marriage pressure. It could be a longing to fish in love waters but we must not fish together. You might want to ask 'what then happens to marry your friend?' That might be correct. You should marry your friend but unfortunately, that friend is not me And this doesn't mean you should shut the door on our friendship. That will be repeating the mistake many other persons are making. Young folks are missing out on amazing valuable relationships because immediately we get close to someone and start building a beautiful friendship, the closeness can easily be misinterpreted to mean that the other party has feelings for us. And that can stir us up to want to try and make a move to explore love waters. When things don't go as we expect, we start reacting from mismatch or unmet expectations. And then the 'what are we?' questions will follow. But I don't understand. I thought we were friends? Which one is 'what are we?' Ain't you supposed to assume nothing until I say something? Abi you're dating me without my permission? And from experience, almost all the time, this is where we begin to bury opportunities, close important doors, and short change ourselves Only to wake up one day to discover we wasted our angels simply because we didn't understand that not all beautiful friendships should evolve into a romantic relationship. In my opinion 90% of the time, those friendships should stay as just friendships History is filled with beautiful friendship stories that turned sour because of this. Think of some of the most beautiful friendships that lack of discernment made you convert into love affairs. How did they end? Sometimes, it wasn't even a heartbreak that happened, maybe both of you just didn't work out and because of that, you have drifted apart. You drifted so far apart that the value you would have gained from your friendship has now been truncated. This is 2022 Don't waste another angel. Be discerning! Protect your friendships. If a relationship leading towards marriage is what God wants, He will find a way to put the puzzles together, even when you both go ahead dating other people. Don't immediately turn the next beautiful friendship into a soul mate searching adventure. Calm down. Your soul mate might still be under a bridge in Ajegunle and perhaps this next friendship is what might connect the dot for you. Master the act of providing values in your friendship without fantasizing about matrimony and baecation in Maimi. Value people. Stick to the purpose of that friendship Practice self-control And learn to hold your body So, my friendship of life, like I was saying before I got distracted, those your dreams of doing pyjamas photshot with matching pyjamas, hold them first. It is not me and you that will do that pyjamas shot becasue I don't even like pyjamas� And if I have been ignorantly leading you on all the while, please let this note say all the things I am too shy to say to your face. Yours, Potential Monk in the monastery. If this post bless you, please share to provoke sanity for someone else Walk on gold Philip Emmanuel 1 Like 2 Shares |
Crime / Re: Gunmen Kidnap Plateau Bride At Pastor's House Few Hours To Her Wedding by akinade28(f): 12:39pm On Jan 04, 2022 |
NaijaGoBetter20:Yes, it is a tradition in some churches, the pastor's wife is supposed to teach the bride what to do on her wedding night |
Celebrities / Re: “when Your Wife Is 50 But Looks 20”–man Celebrates His Wife 50th Birthday by akinade28(f): 11:07pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
I saw short videos of this woman on Instagram. She looks a lot younger than her age and I love it. She has a beautiful shape and stature. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: What Attracts Women The Most? by akinade28(f): 7:34am On Dec 31, 2021 |
Miracood2:If it were to be only money that keeps a woman, Femi fani-kayode and Ooni of Ife and other rich Nigerian men who got divorced won't have Nigerian women leaving them. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by akinade28(f): 11:08am On Dec 24, 2021 |
KiNg0G:I like your mindset, God bless you bro 1 Like |
Romance / Re: My Expectations Are Too High by akinade28(f): 12:27pm On Dec 22, 2021 |
Sosotired:Bros, there's no perfect man/woman. Everyone has their own flaws, even if you marry the perfect woman, what If the so called "perfect woman" develops an illness after marriage that makes her imperfect. Will you divorce her because of that? One thing I think you need is tolerance and forbearing. Ability to accommodate people's flaws for long while helping them get solution. I believe your girlfriend bad breath issue is solvable though it might not be instant. Some bad breath might be an indicaton for an underlying health conditions. Taking her to a good doctor/dentist and she maintaining good oral hygiene can solve it. If you leave her because of this, the next girl will definitely come with her own set of problems which can be worse. |
Travel / Re: Malawian Bride Dies In Motor Accident On Her Wedding Day (Photos) by akinade28(f): 6:57pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
I can't imagine the state of the bride's family and the groom May our day of joy never turn into day of sorrow. 128 Likes 7 Shares |
Romance / Re: Am I Really Guilty For Ending This Relationship by akinade28(f): 10:16am On Dec 19, 2021 |
Princeadebayo11:You don't need to allow conscience prick, you did the two of you a big favour. She maybe very angry and I understand it will be very tough for her now but she will later appreciate what you have done in the future. A one sided relationship or marriage will be terrible for the two of you. However, I have question for you o. 1) Did you thoroughly think through this decision ? My brother the street is not smiling oo. If you are thinking that you might get someone better , that may never be the case especially if this girl is a wonderful person. Though I don't know how critical or genuine your reasons are for your refusal to commit to the relationship ( some people have commitment issues), but I will advise you to run back if she is a very good person, good people are rare to come by nowadays. You might not know the value of what you have until you lose it. The issue of getting married by 2023 can be sorted out by the two of you, if you are genuine about marrying her. Any sane lady can wait for any man she can trust with her life. Then from experience this your case is peculiar to long distant relationships, these relationship becomes cold after a while except the two parties are determine to make it work. You can ask anyone that has been in a distant relationship. My advice is based on my experience, I was in a similar scenerio with the lady though I wasn't the one that asked him out nor did we have sex, but it pained me to the bones I almost lost my mind. The guy later came back o because the street wasn't smiling the ladies out there showed him pepper, from then he respect me a lot till now. 2 Likes |
Nairaland / General / Re: Mention One Mistake You Made That Cost You Alot In Life. by akinade28(f): 10:26am On Dec 14, 2021 |
NOETHNICITY:You don't need to feel bad God made you this way, believe me there are few people like you all over the world. You feel people's emotions ( pain and joy) that's why you find it difficult to hurt them, you often consider other people's feelings before yours. However, you must realize: 1) We are in a selfish world: the action of 90% of human are based on their own selfishness or personal gains irrespective of who they are to you 2) you are one of a kind: there are only few good hearted people in this world. So don't expect other people to act or behave like you. Their mindset is entirely different. This will help you anticipate their actions and save you from getting hurt. 7 Likes |
Family / Re: My Wife's Aunty Wants To Destroy My Marriage! by akinade28(f): 6:13pm On Dec 13, 2021 |
NemoDatQuod:I totally agree with you 1 Like |
Family / Re: My Wife's Aunty Wants To Destroy My Marriage! by akinade28(f): 5:21pm On Dec 13, 2021 |
NemoDatQuod:Boss, try to understand my point. Yes any third party shouldn't never interfere in anyone's marriage, but it takes wisdom and caution in dealing with the third party especially family members. Yes, the bible instructed that both parties must leave their family members and cleave to their spouse but the reality is that you can't just delete every relationship you had prior to marriage especially with family members just because you are married, you need wisdom to put them in their place. Let's not forget, anyone that's gets married is a spouse and a parent in their new home but still a child with obligations to the family they came from. |
Family / Re: My Wife's Aunty Wants To Destroy My Marriage! by akinade28(f): 11:05am On Dec 13, 2021 |
Montaque:I'm not disputing the fact that a man marries a woman. I'm just saying let's learn to put ourselves in each other's shoes. The husband should try to understand the reason behind his wives actions and vice versa. Understanding is key in any relationship |
Family / Re: My Wife's Aunty Wants To Destroy My Marriage! by akinade28(f): 10:31am On Dec 13, 2021 |
jimmychang:I had no intentions of turning it to a gender war, I just want you guys to see things from our point of view |
Family / Re: My Wife's Aunty Wants To Destroy My Marriage! by akinade28(f): 8:56am On Dec 13, 2021 |
Op, I want you to "put yourself in your wife's shoes". You need to understand that women are often emotionally attached to their family members especially those that raised them, it is usually difficult to break the bond suddenly because of marriage. Everyone has that evil crazy extended family member, but we don't throw them away just because they are bad, we just establish caution when relating with them, blood is thicker than water. She has known this woman all her life and see the aunt as her second mother, forcing her to break all ties will put her in a very difficult position ( that's how you get a bitter wife). She might hold it against you in the future especially when relating to your own family members. However, you can relocate to a different place where it will be difficult them to have free access to your house. Then, you can tell her to reduce communication with them to the barest minimum. To nairalanders with their baised and one sided advice. Assuming it was a woman that came to seek advice on the case of her husband's evil aunt who practically raised him for 18 years, but didn't like her nor wanted him to marry her, so she laid curses on her during the wedding ceremony but she and her children still comes to the house at will after the wedding. The advice will be completely different. You will hear things like " forgive her, she is like a mother to your husband", " no wife should separate a man from his relatives irrespective of what they have done", " you have to learn to accommodate your husband's relatives" etc. Most of you guys can't take half of what you dish out. Just because we are women doesn't mean no one ever sacrificed for us, you usually forget that someone raised your wives, they paid the price and invested so much in them to that level that you got married to them. If they had not sacrifice for them, you won't have gotten that beautiful woman you call your wife today. 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: For Singles: What's Your Biggest Fear About Getting Married? by akinade28(f): 6:12am On Dec 09, 2021 |
Moonie911:This is thought provoking for any woman with big dreams. |
Family / Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by akinade28(f): 8:28am On Dec 08, 2021 |
lilyheaven:Do you know there is something called marital rape?, you want to get this man into big trouble. Even some states in Nigeria have some law against it not to talk of "abroad" 4 Likes |
Family / Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by akinade28(f): 8:41pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
50pseamer:50pseamer, I'm trying to understand your situation. Why doesn't believe in the leadership of a man? Have you done anything in the past that makes her doubt your leadership capacity? I wonder why a woman marry someone she can't accept his leadership or submit to. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble Please Help! by akinade28(f): 8:27pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
50pseamer, as a woman I'm sorry to tell you that you are married to an ungrateful and uncooperative woman. Did you do offend her or have you hurt her deeply in time past? Cos I can't see any reason why a woman should be this unreasonable and mean. You really need to get someone she respects to speak some senses into her head or else she will soon lose that marriage. I must commend you for putting efforts to make your marriage work by all means but bro prepare for the worse. Navigating through life is a very tough task, you don't need a partner that will make things difficult worse for you. you should have posted this topic in the family section. 4 Likes |
Crime / Re: Update On Timothy Adegoke Oludare!!! by akinade28(f): 9:17am On Nov 18, 2021 |
akinade28:people do evil in exchange for money, power and political influence |
Crime / Re: Update On Timothy Adegoke Oludare!!! by akinade28(f): 9:15am On Nov 18, 2021 |
PoliteActivist:The hidden technology and hidden poison is the juju we are talking about na. People doing evil in exchange for money, power and political influence |
Crime / Re: Update On Timothy Adegoke Oludare!!! by akinade28(f): 9:09am On Nov 18, 2021 |
FarahAideed:People are not so stupidly foolish to kill a stranger or their loved ones ( mother, father, siblings or children) for something that doesn't work at all. This is the 21st century, a lot of people are educated and enlightened, yet some people still involve themselves in ritual killings. 1 Like |
Crime / Re: Update On Timothy Adegoke Oludare!!! by akinade28(f): 8:48am On Nov 18, 2021 |
PoliteActivist:I understand your point of view; though the impact might be very minimal but if these don't work at all people will never be involved in them. You won't hear of yahoo boys, some spiritual leaders or politicians doing them. The risk and pain involved is too much for something that doesn't work at all. 1 Like |
Crime / Re: Update On Timothy Adegoke Oludare!!! by akinade28(f): 8:16am On Nov 18, 2021 |
PoliteActivist:Toor, I rest my case. It seems you don't understand what I'm talking about. You are using logic to explain spiritual things. |
Crime / Re: Update On Timothy Adegoke Oludare!!! by akinade28(f): 6:34am On Nov 18, 2021 |
PoliteActivist:Rituals is not always about money, some do it for influence. The ability to hypnotize, subdue and control people against their wishes. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Crime / Re: Update On Timothy Adegoke Oludare!!! by akinade28(f): 10:34pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
Bunmhi:This incident reminded me of the story. Though I heard the story over fifteen years ago. |
Crime / Re: Update On Timothy Adegoke Oludare!!! by akinade28(f): 7:52pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
FarahAideed:I guess the story my secondary school classmate told us about how this Adedoyin's mother confessed at the popular "oja Ife" market before her death that she had done "ájò àje" money ritual for all her children might be true. 1 Like 1 Share |
Romance / Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by akinade28(f): 4:26pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
Havilaah1:My Sister you don't need to pretend at all. It better to just be yourself. Guys put a lot of ladies under this kind of pressure to pretend to be who they are not just to get married. And a lot of ladies have mastered this act of manipulation. It is quite unfortunate that people don't love people who are real, they prefer fake people. They prefer people who will pretend just to get what they want, then show their true colors afterwards. I have heard stories of how desperate women Just pretend and show fake love to their inlaws just in the bait to get married, then start showing their real nature after marriage. Then it becomes a tug of war between the wife and the inlaws. You will see the husband complaining that my wife has changed, this and that but she was never real in the first place. 17 Likes 1 Share |
Religion / Re: Pastor Mensah Otabil Lambast Christians In Habit Of ''Tapping'' Grace (Video) by akinade28(f): 3:55pm On Nov 07, 2021 |
BJanta:Brother, you are the one getting it all wrong. You need a deeper understanding. The Elijah's case you cited has nothing to do with grace. Elijah's relationship with Elisha was initiated by God. God already instructed Elijah to anoint Elisha as his replacement 1king 19:16. Then, it was Elijah that asked from Elisha what he wanted from him, not the other way round. It wasn't Elisah that initiated the conversation. Then, Elisha requested for a double portion of Elijah's spirt. All these happened in the old testament where only few people had direct access to God. Spiritual gift impartation in the new testament was always initiated by the holy spirit, it was the holy spirit that moved peter to go to Cornelius house, an angel apeared to Cornelius as well to invite peter. Peter reported that while he was still preaching the Holy Ghost came upon them. Also, for Paul's case in act 19, it was also Paul that initiated the conversation not vice versa, he asked them "have you received the Holy Ghost since you believed? Roman 1:11 it was also Paul that initiated it. He longed to impart to them spiritual gifts. It is very different from people going up and down looking for whose grace to tap into, or looking for ways to tap into other people's grace. |
Religion / Re: Pastor Mensah Otabil Lambast Christians In Habit Of ''Tapping'' Grace (Video) by akinade28(f): 10:56am On Nov 07, 2021 |
[img][/img] OmoEpe:The example you cited has nothing to do with grace. 2 king 2:9 only mentioned Elisha requested for a double portion of Elijah's spirt. That was also in the old testament where only few people had direct access to God and could manifest the supernatural. Jesus broke the barrier, so everyone has a direct access to God. 1 Like 1 Share |
Romance / Re: This Is The Type Of Relationship I Desire. by akinade28(f): 10:42pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
Eyinju112:Nigerian men can never agree to this. How do they take care of their children? Is that on a weekly basis too? But I believe nature has made some roles more suitable to each gender. I mean men and women are better in certain roles. 6 Likes |
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