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Adonis69:
Earlier this year I met this guy and we became friends. He started visiting my apartment because him and his friends just moved into my compound. But I noticed that although he looks athletic, well built and physically fit but he's very sexually active, swinging both ways.
Yesterday I got an oral quick HIV test kit and told him it was for gonorrhea test because he's not that enlightened. So he accepted to the test. When the result came out, he's HIV positive. I wasn't so sure, so I contacted a HIV health worker and he confirmed that the owner of the test is positive.

Now, should I tell him or keep it to myself because he's already telling me that condom busted the last time he was having sex with a lady, which gave him gonorrhea. So he was taking drugs for it and was asking me how to prevent such from happening in future. I've advised him to double the condom, since he has a very huge and slightly curved dick, which is the cause of the tear during sex.

So pep, should I tell him he's positive or mind my business? He's been running temperature since yesterday and was complaining of cough and catarrh.

you r a gay. Which one be swinging both ways. Y u Dey check ur fellow man hiv status. Na cus una wan do na y una check

Yugoslavia247:
Pharmacist or chemist

Sperm never touch egg.
Postinor kills the sperm.
Prevent it from activity

Is she pregnant.
When did you have sex?

Anyways na you know

post I or no Dey kill sperm ooo. It only delays ovulation. If ovulation has occurred, e no go work. That’s y people still get pregnant after using it

GboyegaD:
I wish there was a written agreement before he went ahead donating his kidney. Some of our rich people are very wicked to say the least.

he messed up. How can you do that thing without collecting half payment upfront

Hayzed203:
I broke up with my girlfriend about 3months ago and I still struggle to convince myself that I did the right thing and I believe this is affecting me in the process of trying to move on and meeting new people. We both live abroad and you don't meet a lot of Nigerians easily around here.

She was very caring, admired me and always supportive but still I made a decision to end the relationship. Why ? It was based on some sort of things that happened when we started being together. We started as friends with benefits while in school though she was in a distance relationship at the time. We both agreed it was just sex and nothing more when we started and I was fine with it. However, we started acting like couple - sleeping over, going out together, doing everything exclusively, and all that despite not defining things officially.

She wasn't always happy when I'm on phone with any girl irrespective of whatever relationship I have with such girl and I just sort of started distancing myself from all other girls. On her side, I acted 'maturely' by not interfering during her phone calls and all. Things continued that way for some months till the pressure was just too much that we had no choice but to define things. At that point, I was hooked already - in that, I was saying in my mind that it was just friends with benefits but I couldn't even leave her and I also found it difficult to make a decision to commit to her forever due to some number of reasons:

1. She once asked me to give her MouthAction which I have never done before at that time. I told her I wasn't ready and her response was that If I don't do it, someone else will do it for her. She went on a dating site, hooked up with a guy for one a night stand and I was aware of this though shocked at such boldness. I couldn't complain because we were not dating officially though we were always together at this point.

2. Another time during our time together, I was on a night duty and she went to a party which I was aware of. I saw a guy with her and her female friend and she earlier told me the guy came with her friend. Unfortunately for her, her female friend left early without the guy. I added 2 + 2 together and fixed it that she had something with the guy that night. I subsequently saw their sex chat on her phone. She later confessed they had a one night stand only.

3. There was a guy disturbing her that I was aware of, she always told the guy off until one day she told me she was visiting the guy for the weekend. I was shocked because we were literally talking about building a genuine relationship the previous night confessing how we have come to like each other. She was love-bombing me throughout her stay with the guy and I knew they were probably having sex throughout the 3 days. She came back on the 3rd day and started acting all nice and all to me.

4. She has a bit of bad temper especially with others. She is not the most likeable person out there and she doesn't care and can say anything when she is angry. She can bullshit anyone and I was always wondering if she will do it to me too one day. She was an angel towards me but opposite towards others.

5. Unlike me, she was very experienced in Nigeria with series of sexual partners littered on her phone. I stumbled on her nudes being with different guys on her snapchat. Sex wasn't a big to her and that was a total turn off for me since I didn't live that kind of life.

I know this might not make sense to anyone reading as you may assume I have reasons to make an easy decision but trust me, it wasn't an easy decision for me as I was almost used to being with her which I have never had with any other woman. My mind kept tricking me saying maybe it is not totally her fault as I didn't commit her. Plus, I have never been with any woman that showered me with so much care in my life before this girl. I have met very decent girls that still showed me shege despite being ready to commit.

I have only seen things like that on movies and I would have said it was juju but it was not. I have never experienced that kind of 'love' before and I didn't even care if it was fake or real. I enjoyed it as we both went on dates, vacations abroad and all but I was scared to commit to her.

Eventually I had to make a decision on whether I should stay or leave her and that was I how started going back and forth. I didn't want to leave or stay. I had never been so confused in my life. It was as if I was getting the kind of love I have always wished for but I am not exactly settled with our circumstances. I wanted to forget but I just couldn't given that I knew these men and it doesn't appear she has sexual discipline as well. I felt so bad for her and myself.

Though we ended up dating officially for 2months, I struggled to let bygone be bygone as she had requested. Not that I am so concerned about it but I just hate the fact that if anything happens in the future, I can't say I didn't see the signs but she was still a good person to me.

It is been 3months since we parted ways and I still randomly wonder if I did the right thing. Should I have given her a chance to change and prove herself ? Could I have influenced her positively ? I guess I will never know.

Who has experienced this before and what are your thoughts please?

you better free that girl. Someone is showing you her true color and you wan go back to am

Kelvin58:
My gf saw her leruid on 21 of last month and still now that is 28 she haven't seen her period......we have sex on first week of steptember. ..she have seen all the symptoms of period if it come out yet e no want come out...what should I do

get diapers

Abeg I have someone going from Canada to Nigeria and he wants to know what the Covid entry requirements are now

labake1:
A man's money is OUR money
A woman's money is HER money

ok when you marry, do am as you want

eepeepook:
There is a procedure called autopsy. Go back to X or Twitter and post this.

😂😂😀 u go first don sleep for cell first, chop beating bed dem go do dat one. I think the first think to do is to immediately get a lawyer before calling police

My story might sound quite complicated but I’ll tell, early last year, I was in a kinda open relationship with my ex boyfriend and I had this other guy I liked and I was hooking up with. I have not been in the country for sometime and this guy i was hooking up with flew me into the country to see him, I spent 4/5days with him and I went home and a week later I went to see my ex. Long story short I got pregnant for the guy I’m hooking up with and I couldn’t tell my ex because i didn’t want to loose him. I asked a few friends for advice and they advised I should tell the father of the baby first which I did and he sent me some money to get pills. But on the other hand I couldn’t abort the kid without my ex finding out because we speak almost every hour and he knows where I live and can come anytime. So I just told him I was pregnant and I got pills. (It was my first pregnancy) and I didn’t know what i was going to get into when I take the pills, so he asked me to come over to his which I did. On the other hand I couldn’t tell the other guy i was going to be staying at my bf when i take the pill because he would obviously think i was lieing about the kid, i just told him i was going to be staying with my friend and her sister. I was successful with the procedure and four months later I broke up with my ex. Lo and behold this other guy i was hooking up with whom i never saw myself dating became the love of my life and in turn he loved me back and made so much sacrifices for me. Fast forward to the present he found out about what went down with the pregnancy of last year and remember i told him i was at my frnds while i was at my exs, i’m about to lose the man of my dreams because of what happened, i think he will never get to trust me again. He doesn’t even believe the child was his, and i never for one day thought that i’ll come this far with him, please fam what will you advise I should do in this situation

I pray you lose the guy. Una no Dey stay one place

wis3:
There's always to option to ignore some things, act like they're not even in your presence. Not responding to some things is in itself a very strong response.

you can’t ignore everything

Skyview01:
I later did church with everybody two years after that.

but y did u do it dat way

labake1:
According to the UK nurse's statements, a man who is not capable of taking care of his family, shouldn't get married. I think this controversy started because of Kie kie's interview.
Bills splitting can be 50/50, 60/40, 70/30, I think all this depends on the financial strength of a man.

My opinion is, just like the nurse said, a man should be capable before getting married even if your wife will assist you, it should be little. A wife should help her husband out if he has financial challenges and husband that have financial challenges shouldn't just sit back and watch their wife do things. Try and do little things till you stand firm.

What's your opinion about splitting bills with your partner?

that means she has to b a house wife if I am to provide all cus there is no way you would be working and won’t contribute. So where your money Dey go? Kul I just b house wife

Mis3man:
Thank you please do u know of any shared apartment or someone who's willing to accommodate I newbie in Canada though I plan to enter next year but I want to connect with people already in Canada to avoid expensive mistakes

are you single?

Jennyclay:
Nobody is above mistake.

Biko, just forgive and leave everything and move on. Can’t you see how catastrophic the economy is How do you expect a nursing mother to pay you back when she also has a baby to cater for

Learn to forgive!!

May God help us.

I am trying to understand d mistake there

phemmybernabeu:
Honour your father and your mother... So that your days may be long.

This is an instruction without condition.

So irrespective of who they are, what they did or what they're doing...

The instruction is CLEAR.

You will not die young.

lol funny. So if your mama wan kill you, you go still honor am? Weyre

Ashirioluwa:
Ruin your life, how? We need to stop living this life of entitlement.

Okay, since you’ve moved on, have you been able to put your ruined life back on track?

We are all aware that the majority of Nigerian parents are authoritarian, and their behavior or ways can sometimes annoy the kids.

They don't give a damn about how the kids feel because they want things done their way. However, if you don't agree with your parents' behavior or ways of doing things, once you've reached adulthood, keep your distance and live your own life while remaining respectful to them.

how? Are you not entitled as their child?

TheCongo2:
The Canadian Governement recognizes that minority face subtle racism or everyday racism daily. And you are here telling the world that you have been living in Canada for 4 years without experiencing any racism !!! Something doesn't add up somewhere.

May I please ask what you do for living?

lol must I face it? You guys just like bad news

CandidAdmin:
Which country? Are you saying you've never experienced anything close to that?

WOW!!!

canada

CandidAdmin:
Nigerian based abroad, please share your experience with racist or when you are being discriminated because of your color.

Nlfpmod.
Mynd44

Note: This is not an Anti Japa thread.

been here four years. Never experienced such

Reminderz:
sleeping with different women you meant to say... have standards... not every girl is an olosho like your ex... the thing is, you guys avoid all the red flags and come back out crying... stop fvcking anyhow girls... but before you can even date valuable woman, ask yourself, are you valuable yourself? if not, I see why you see fvcking low standards women as a thing...

so you think the one you are with now has standards. You can swear with your life say she no Dey knack another guy. No worry, them no Dey tell person

Reminderz:
it's obvious you think with your dick... you're one of men who sees sex and paying for sex as a thing, so patronising hookups won't be anything to you.. you're already used, so I don't think you can be saved...

you never mentioned paying in ur comment. You said sleeping with different men. Your babe is currently chilling with another guy right now. You never catch am no mean say e no Dey happen

Reminderz:
I would rather masturbate than go patronise sex workers that different men with different demons have slept with... you men don't have standards at all, you lot will sleep with anything just because of your stupid konji... this is why the women keep manipulating y'll with sex and na why dem dey use rape or sexual molestation destroy una... sex doesn't worth all these stress... shey women finish for this world nii wey I go fvck olosho?

funny. The difference between my ex and olosho be say one Dey make money from am. I learnt my lesson the hard way. Many of the regular girls also sleep with different men while with you. See just protect yourself

sleek214:
Your dad wants to died on top properties that belonged to his elder brother. According to tradition, your uncle owns the properties since your grandfather didn't leave any will.

own what. Are they not sons of same father. They will share it equally

Quality20:
u have got a valid point. I myself would rather go for a beautiful girl without education than an ugly but highly educated girl- I know many modern men would disagree with me on this, but that's my point

when they say illiterate, I really want to understand. You know u don’t need to go to university to read, write and speak properly

Dpen11:
Wow

She is your mum is that she is your mum

On a normal day if you really do have to give ,give her because many are praying to have a mother that will disturb them or make them spend.

Whatsoever you passed through,let bygone be bygone,she is your family.

Be safe

I so much dislike this talk. So one shld take rubbish because she is your mum? Una sef ehhhh

Doolove:
Some time ago my boyfriend brought my matter here because I went to visit a male friend and I was called all sorts of derogatory names without anyone hearing my side of the story.

We met early last year, he was just out of school without a job but I still accepted him regardless. I had a stubborn ex that wouldn't go away so he was taking care of my bills while I was dating my new boyfriend which he was well aware of. I later had an issue with the ex that led to him calling the police on me accusing me of stealing the iPhone 7 that he bought for me while insisting that I return it or he would take the matter to his village and make sure I run mad. I stood my ground amid all the threats held on to the phone.

Coincidentally, things picked up for my guy when the ex left, he started getting lots of freelance gigs online so I didn't feel the absence of the old guy. My boyfriend made sure I didn't lack anything even without me asking. I had to break up with him once because I felt he was doing too much and I might be running him down. He laughed it off and gave me screenshots of some of his account balance.

Fast forward to this year and things went south again, The gigs stopped coming in, and some of the firms he worked for closed shop so he was surviving on his savings which were depleting very quickly. It's worthy to note that before now the major issue that I have had with him is the way he sees my relationships with other men. He practically doesn't want me to have male friends or even go on harmless sitouts with friends. He thinks it's a disrespect to him for me to have anything to do with other guys while I am in his place.

This has resulted in serious fights each I come back from seeing a friend, At times he gets so mad that he flings my things outside to go stay with whoever I went to see.

Meanwhile, things have been very tough for him recently to the extent that feeding has become difficult. He quickly invested in a farm with with a friend when his savings were going down and used the remaining money to startup a blog. Now it's looking as if the guy he's doing the farm business with has scammed him because it's been from one story to the other and he's so broke right now that he can't even afford data to write content for his blog which we all know blogging is even saturated and takes time to start paying.

I started work two weeks ago and I have been the one taking care of my transport fare, he only gives me 1k once in a while to support. It's this same men he doesn't want me to communicate with that has been helping me out all this while. He sits at home all day waiting for the proceeds of the farm so he can start mini importation of wigs.

Every guy that asks me out seems to be well to do than my guy and it really bothers me. They all have nice cares and ready to spend while my own guy now depends on begging to feed. Even though he's smart and all but I don't know where the break through will come from and it seems I am wasting my time with him.

On Monday was my off day and I was at home, I woke up with a mood swing so I wasn't talking to him. He was busy cleaning the house without mentioning breakfast so I had to call someone to come get breakfast for me. He got mad at me tagging it an insult to him. It caused issues and I left the house and dared him to do his worst and he asked me not to leave because I needed some positive vibes since he was boring me with his attitude. I actually went to my family house but he feels I always go to see a guy each time I leave the house.

I came back around 8pm to meet the house locked and he kept ignoring my calls knowing fully well that I didn't leave with my key and I wasn't feeling fine and needed to take my drugs. I got drenched by the rain and my sickness go worst. He came back home by 11pm that night.

Now I haven't been able to go to work for the past three days and he's been running around buying drugs and food on credit so I can get well when he caused it. On the other hand a guy that has been giving me stuffs asked me to take a break from work and rest and he will give me my full salary.

I am just confused, it seems I am leaving better things out there for a broke guy and it's bothering me. What do you guys think I should do

Please ignore any typos, I wrote in a hurry

harmless seat outs with male friends. Lol funny lady. Even me sef no go take that disrespect

gbengz101:
Abeg Mr akube, I sent you email,pls respond. Thanks

i did

dealhunter:
Pls Mr Akube, what type of temporary jobs can a vv get in Manitoba)other province and what is salary range?

like I said earlier, it is difficult to get a job here on a vv. It might be possible but I don’t know of anyone

Mis3man:
Oh thanks a lot yea I'm ready to do any job to get going pending when something reasonable comes up. How long have you been in the city and are you also on VV what is the range to get a single room apartment over there

I have been here a while and currently a citizen. You can get a single room between $900-$1200 per month. I was just lucky to get my for $800 cus na older building

Nataliace:
If I were you I would build first.
It's hard to find reasonable women like this nowadays.

una Dey talk like say e easy to build. See the guy will build it finish in 3 years, then find a younger lady to put inside

woginid967:
The free one is whatsappweb on playstores

Then link it with her qr code. And you will be able to see what she sees and even reply... Its for Whatsapp alone.

Also you need to install phoenix browser on her phone and you can always borrow it from her see her deleted chats.

Notisave does this too.


The paid ones i used are banned on any playstore. I get location, call recording, sms and the entire phone activity sent to my email.

give me an example of a paid one