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Pinnup:
I have never double-dated before. Many of my friends do and even have up to 4-5 boyfriends.

I have a boyfriend that I truly love and he loves me too. I'm not cheating on him and he has vouched he never cheated on me before. But there's this other guy that is troubling my life to consider him, a mere thought of giving this other guy a chance to come in makes me feel guilt already.

I don't think it's something I can do without guilty conscience killing me.

So ladies and gentlemen, how una dey do am? How una dey take dey double date without feeling guilty?

dont do it

orohbiro:
if you don't kW that to type just keep shut up who told u I plan to act single?

it’s clearly what you want. The next thing you will say now is as long as he has not married me, I am free to do anything but you want him to still spend his hard earned money on you and u no wan loyal. How I wish I sabi this guy, I for just show am this thread

Caramia2020:
He foot ur bills and take care of u but it's like u love to flirt a little that's y u are complaining. Why don't u discuss with him n sometimes explaining who the caller is, is never a bad idea. You wanted a wife package which he is doing by taking good care of u n ur bills but u don't want duty of a wife with open minded relationship . You want to eat ur cake and have it.

as in ehhh, they don’t want to be loyal like wives but they want you to provide like husbands. This girls

ugodson:
Truly and sincerely i was Heart broken bro. I wont like to remember it cos it till hurt.

bro it’s an open space, please share it, mine hurt but I just shared mine

My own na relationship of four years. She was pretending to be a good girl, she go Dey Bleep her friend husband for Benin and men guys for Benin. I got to know when she and her friend quarrel. Na ‘em that one call me tell me with full prove. This girl was so sleek, I never knew I was so gullible until this happened. I thank God for the experience sha cus it opened my eyes. And like a guy above said, if she’s so bothered if you’re cheating on her, she’s probably Che on you

ambimo:
“The more she’s bothered about whether you’re cheating, the more she’s likely to cheat on you.” This is deep!

i swear

yrhuhfy113:
When you parents paid all your bills, did they allow you be FREE with BOYS? if NO, then pls get a life, work with your hands....


RELATIONSHIP is not ORPHANAGE or CUTOMIZED prostitution.

Leave the guy alone, pay him back if you can because NOTHING IS FREE even in FREETOWN and move on and make your own money and take care of yourself.


You clearly don't know what you need to know about MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIPS.... so don't waste your time.

no mind dem. They want the benefits of being in a relationship but want to act single

uzomakanaki:
Bros I no dey vouch for woman oo. But to the best of my knowledge she's not seeing someone else. I might be wrong though.

u r wrong bro.

yungzed360:
This is my girl. Our problems are she most times receives calls and chats with lots of guys and she lies to me alot, I've told her severally to stop and always tell me as it is, although I get angry very easily bt it would be better to digest the truth than lies cus it's hurt me a lot. So I've broken up with her many times and she sometimes swear never to come back again. But after a few days or weeks. She will come begging, calling and texting again and then I keep forgiven her.

Below is a screenshots of our most recent quarrels when she came back begging and the reason for the quarrel was she was at my house when another guy called again, and she couldnt tell the guy she was at her boyfriend's house even though the guy kept asking where she went, she only said she went out.

What exactly could be the problem?
Is it me? Is it her? I'm I too over protective or feeling insecure? Please guys what should I do?

the way dem go Dey bang this girl ehhhn. Infact dnt call her your girl, call her our girl

Wordsfrombimpe:
Accept what you want ke

abi na. I can’t forgive one who I catch cheating. Do your thing, buy don’t expect me to forgive when I get you

Wordsfrombimpe:
Remember when I said some men can't dish what they give

They want you to be loyal

My sister double date

They want to cheat but you stay loyal

I say it with my full chest

Double date

I support you, but make I no catch you. If you have the free will to do anything, I also have the power to accept what I want

Sirchiboy:
How do I survive this regime?
This is suicide mission for a married man.
How do I filll my car I used to manage?

you no serious. U go born 5 children

Essenza01:
I really don't know anymore, i just did my budget for the month and i am scared, i have cut from everywhere possible and i fear for my self.. i dont have a GF, Wife, Children.. my salary is N400,000 and i have added side businesses and one or two's to even survive.. but with this fuel increase, what else is left... zero savings..

- Rent - N108,333/mth (1,300,000/12)
- Fuel for car - N180,000 (36k for 5-6days)
- Auto maintenance - N30,000/mth (service/repair)
- Fuel for generator - N50,000/mth (20ltr/wk)
- Feeding - N62,000 - (N2,000/day)
- Health miscellenous - N5,000/mth
- Dstv - N4,500/mth
- Data - N7,000/mth
- Recharge card - N3,000/mth
- Dry cleaner - N4,000/mth (Starch/iron)
- Hygiene maintenance - N10,000 (body spray/perfume, roll on, soap, cream) etc..
-  Gift to people - N10,000/mth
-  Family House contribution - N20,000/mth
- Eko electric - N10,000/mth
- repairs and maintenance - N12,000/mth
- Clothing, footwear etc - N10,000/mth
- Outings, restaurant, sit outs and provisions - N30,000/mth

Total = N556,500...

My rent is average rent for where i stay, its a two bed flat, i use the other room for home office..

Feeding is N2,000/day.. its not anything out of the ordinary.. tried cooking and spent more with time wasting.

Fuel for car is at the new rate of N500/ltr, my car is a 70ltr car tank..

Auto maintenance is basic brake pads, shocks, service 2mths, tire guage, police pr, tire purchase if any, minor touch ups etc... nothing major.

Fuel for generator is 20ltr/day (2hrs or less daily)

I need help.... how are you people doing it, what am i doing wrong? The rat race is killing me..

lol weyre. You be big man. Only u Dey stay for 1.3 mil house. You Dey do cad maintenance every month, because then tell u say we no get car.

boldx:
How can you be living in an accomodation of N1.3 million per annum with 400k monthly salary. That is way too much.

no mind am

MetaBroadband:
Good morning mature men and women in the house. Please I need your help on this topic.

My Fiancee told me about how her biological dad abandoned her and her mum after getting her mum pregnant.

Her mum later married another man who adopted her as his child.

Now she's grown and I've proposed to her, I wanted to go for her official introduction and list collection.

Would it not be nice to hear the biological father's opinion? Should I just ignore the fact that the man is still alive and proceed with the marriage arrangement?

Although she said I should not bother about that, but this is Nigeria and as an Akwa Ibomite I don't think it's proper. Although she's against me trying to find out about the man's opinion. Should I care?

What can you say about this?

Note: she only told me that the man abandoned them, but what if it was her mum that actually took her away?

oga hear from the man oooo. Find am

Borntosmoke:
From age 17 upward if you are still collecting money from your parent to buy food, shoe, cloth. You are useless to the society. Except expenses like school fees or other responsibility of your parent anything apart from that you are useless to the society. If there is a good policy working in Nigeria. Such person need to be disown by is parent. This is what is been done in north Korea.

I collected till I was 23. I’m at doing very well in life now. So how are they useless

Edipet:
please help my with any amount let me use and buy Data to download courses online. Please. I'm broke, learning software engineering

him resemble ur papa?

DrDunamis:
Okay ooh, I sha also saw in this space too that someone came back and got mad, another came back and died just before leaving.
Not attempting to be negative at all but 2years doesn't seem like a long time

I came back twice, I have only been abroad for four years. I never mad

Tourist123:
I will be visiting Nigeria for the first time since Japaing 2 years ago, any security tips or economic tips I should know?

bro, do not mind these people saying it’s just two years, what are you coming to do. Missing home is a valid reason to want to come. Most of them talking never cross nigeria before. I was once like you when I wanted to visit in 2021. Bro if u wan Dey come every six months, if u get spare money for am, abeg Dey go. That few weeks wont stop you from achieving what you want. About nigeria, don’t mind this security issue, just be careful as a normal human. No too loud am say you Dey around. Even if you wan Dey post for social media do it when you don go back. Them no Dey write say u Dey abroad for head

DrDunamis:
Just 2 years?
What are you coming to do?
Have you fully achieved the goals that made you japa in the first place?
Is it the Lord that is guiding you back?
Just stay your away

so someone can’t just miss home? It’s not like he is coming to stay permanently, two weeks or 1 months won’t stop him from achieving his goals. Na wa for una sef. Na so when I bin wan come person dey tell me d same rubbish. It’s just a freaking vacation, what does goals have to the with it.

emekajacobogbon:
How much have you made just after 2 years. If your coming back isn't very very very very very necessary, STAY BACK THERE

someone told you he wants to come back, you Dey ask am how much he made. Did he seek your advice for that? He might just be missing home and wants to come and you Dey ask am how much him make. Him ask you for money? I so much dislike this talk. Na so when I come back nigeria the last the previous time bfor last year, people Dey ask why I come because I only was away for two years. If I wan Dey come back every six months cus I miss home, e no concern anyone. Na my money. The next time I come, I no even tell dem asides my mama, I stayed a month and left:

emperor4love:
Dey were u dey ooh

why? Person no fit come back again?

canada123:
Honestly it’s painful to say but , if she genuinely like me and all I might forgive cause she’s 21 and in her second year the chances of this happening is really high and i would be naive to think she would be holy and all. Even me sef I’m not holy , most people that pass through university no how it goes. But I’m hoping she’s matured mentally and understand how things work.

ok then you don’t have an issue. As long as you are ok with the other guys

canada123:
So I posted some time of falling into deep temptation of using escort service in Toronto and paying $500 for an hour of sex. Thought it would be a one off something but I’ve spent thousand of dollars in that habit and recently wanted to go to Miami or Las Vegas to see a really pretty girl for $1,500 an hour. God save me

So recently my Cousin in Nigeria posted a really pretty girl on his status , the girl is 21 and in second year of school and right now I’m really thinking of settling down in 2-3 year time . I’m 26 years old

I’m just curious from those experienced here can long distance relationship work or I’m just deceiving myself.

I honestly really like the girl though haven’t really spoken much with her only few things like she’s from Edo state and schools in port harcourt (Uni port) and she’s in second year and her age being 21 . Basic stuffs but she’s really pretty and she attends same church with my cousin in port harcourt. But my cousin said she’s a really good and decent girl.

I’m thinking of giving this a shot and probably delivering myself from spending lots of money here on girls . I don’t really like western women for marriage , the divorce rate and all scared me a lot , want someone who values the fundamental principles of marriage.

Would appreciate advice

take it from me, dem go Dey bang am

thesilentman:
Because we live in proximity-same town,she wouldnt quit checking up on her daughter virtually every day or atleast every other day.I felt a deep intrusion on my privacy so yesterday i summoned the gut and asked her if she didn't have a house.Before she could reply,i told her,'learn to stay where you belong!I did not marry daughter and mother!`
She has since disappeared into thin air.
This evening am thinking whether i bleeped up or not.

na your wife suppose talk to am not you.

Kog45:
Stop checking your woman phone and you will live longer

na this quote give that guy for instagram HIV. Continue

DaudaTheSexyGuy:
Oga make you put padlock for her toto

why I go do that one.

lovediehatelive:
I met this pretty homely girl sometimes ago.

She was reluctant the first time I toasted her and won't want to date me. However, I persisted till she succumbed.

She's everything I want in a lady. She didn't want to visit me when we started dating until one day I promised that I won't touch her.

She visited and was so graceful that I thanked the heavens for sending my soul mate to me.

We discussed a bit and I made her feel comfortable because she was really uneasy.

As promised, I didn't touch her. She felt so free that she rested her head on my chest.

The urge to kiss her became so strong, but I resisted.

What's the use of spoiling things now when she can be mine forever?

She later left and we became really close from then.

I was happy because she's madly beautiful yet so down to earth.

I was thinking she is a virgin but I needed to clarify.

So one day, I used talk to bring talk and stylishly told her a bit about some rough life of my past for her to feel uncomfortable.

She later opened up to me about her first kiss and how the guy went on to have sex with her even though he promised her nothing will happen.

She was 19 years then.

Since then she stopped visiting guys and is no longer in contact with the guy.

She swore that she hasn't kissed or had sex since then.

Now she's 23.

The thing is I really deeply love this girl because she's just exactly what I needed. But I promise myself that I will marry a virgin and nothing else.

My love for this girl is beginning to affect my thinking.

Should I ditch her and keep looking for a virgin?

Or should I continue with her?

I'm planning to see her people this December.

are you a virgin?

worldclass68:
So your saying until I do introduction/marriage, my supposed fiancee has the right to go about fvcking other dudes

So after the supposed marriage/intro she would suddenly stop bah??

I think the purpose of dating/courtship is to get to know themselves..and u your saying they can go around and fvck other guys too?

Of course according to ur own opinion....

no mind the rubbish them Dey talk. Like she is free to do what she wants even as your fiancée. She should only stop when you marry am. Them Dey talk like mumu

doggedfighter:
Nothing serious.


She's just keeping her options open just in case you end up telling her stories.


At 35 you're not old.


You can still marry a 20 year old even at 75

They said men never age.

so we can also keep ours open too Abi? Many of you ladies don’t just want accountability.