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it could be the case that the husband is told NOT to even attempt pushing such buttons unless the wife initiates it

So, the husband could be successful at more than the once a month if he really wanted to and would ignore what his wife wants - ie he could push her buttons and thus get her to give in to her feelings instead of not doing so as she wants

hmm. . I do agree with the BU website conclusion - that cohabitation is not exactly the problem, but the dis/mis/un value . . .of marriage. They do point our that the studies show that cohabitation can be a marker for this - and I think some of the studies do show this pretty well.

However, given the political links which you have so far show (which I confess - if i didn't imply it before - i didn't bother to look into) I could see a big conflict of interest in the study which may affect the wording of the results. Though, the people who ran the study - specifically the one I cited, they would seem not to be a part of the political jockeying. . but then w/o research, I cannot be sure that a university prof's status as a scientist would necessary be enough for me to assume independence from political taint.

or the guy has a large drive but the wife only feels like it once a month. . . lotsa frustration there that isn't cured by knitting

hmm. . . that i could agree with. Of course, there is a difference between love between two people of the same sex and two people of the opposite sex

lol, i know how that can be. I await your analysis.

i like the second to last text of this topic

you're telling me it will not feel good?

well, Janet has denied the rumours

sometimes, one woman isn't sufficient to meet a man's needs

aahh. . truth or dare only works for single people. A bf/gf couple cannot play it. . what if the dare involves going and kissing someone else. . . one person will start to get heated

i'd say it depends on the two - if you are both very competitive, play connect four, checkers, chess, chinese checkers, go, speed, go fish, uno, monopoly, etc against each other.

If you are looking for games that start out nice and move to naughty. . . well. . you gotta ask first.

hmm. . . i wouldn't say that

good - it will feel
bad - he may come after you

some idiot guys think if a girl does not start fawning over them when they yell "HEY SEXY" from across the street, then she is a stuck up B***ch snob. Ignore them. They are not worth your time. I keep telling people that when they complain about the idiocy of other people - sometimes, no matter how nice you are, you just have to not care

why would anyone want to kill fellow nigerians!

Do you live in Nigeria?

i've always wondered. . what exactly is the precious gift of virginity - other than it being the first time the woman has had intercourse with a man?

For women who agree that men should desire a virgin, do you too desire a virgin man - or it only matters for you?

If it is ok for your man to not be a virgin, then what is so special about your virginity?

lol, ppl are funny.

Thithing is a biblical command - yes - to the Israelites. It was done to support the priest class. The priests did not earn money doing any other work. Thithing was instituted as a financial support for them. The bible further goes to tell how much you should tithe. Typically, it is one out of ten (of some live stock that you have or grain that you grew). Further, the bible says that if in a certain year, a man did not raise X amount of crops or had X amount of livestock, HE DID NOT have to tithe. Further, there was a penalty for ANYONE who paid their tithe with cash!

Now, you must remember that the Levites were 1/12th of the Israelites - so it can be reasoned that a tithe of ten percent (for those who could pay it) was necessary. For us, who have very very very few pastors compared to the size of the congregation, we should not have to tithe as much. Further, some, heck, a lot, of churches pay their pastors a salary. That being the case, for those people, there should be very little reason to tithe at all.

Now, giving an offering to God as a thank you for his blessing - that too is not required. But, you try not showing thanks to someone who has blessed you with your life and see how far you get.

how come honda is not on the list?

cool. . .cuz i'm pretty sure i didn't see any political motivations in it. . . you're making me want to go and reread it again.

A lot of the studies I've read were not politically motivated. In fact, most are done by sociology faculty at american universities. They initially define a specific group they want to study and then survey a small sample at a few schools to get an idea of how to shape their questions for the national survey. And they end up discovering some other interesting connection that adds on to this.

I said they were complex because they are, and for me to go through the studies and show how some links are inferred, causality show, etc. . . is a lot of work . . . for a topic of which my interest is not professional. I didn't mean to imply that there were so many factors involved, that you could not scientifically show causality or strong corellations, just that I've been reading a variety of different studies, and they don't quite address the same problem, but there are lots of similar things that come up.

I don't know if that second paragraph made sense. . .

i think i may know what he's talking about.

I didn't look at the source for your page, but with some CSS link tags, when you change the link font/size letter spacing on a mouseover, if you don't "lock down" the current table or the rest of your page, you will cause everything else to shift to accomate the changing size of the text. Some browsers handle this ok, some don't.

i like the text below

that is fine. I can see where you are coming from. However, the studies of which I speak are scientifically sound.

They started with two groups C1 and C2. C1 - divorced couples C2 - couples that are married and then they ask - did you live together before marriage. They find that if a couple were a member of C1, they were more likely to be a member of group A1 - couples that lived together before marriage as opposed to A2 - couples that did not.

However, this is a very bad summary of most of the studies - because they typically study more factors that just these two. Also, the questions are not as simplistic as the one I just posed. But the studies tend to show that couples who live together tend to have higher divorce rates than those that do not. They also give their reasons for this - ie many children of divorce tend to think they should "test" out people before marriage - yet they still harbor the feeling that their marriage will not work out - due to what they experienced before.

So, the question of whether or not to live together before marriage is very complex and a simple yes or no answer is not satisfactory. In one of my previous posts, I copied 10 suggestions for couples considering this step. The suggestions do a good job of covering many of the factors that could lead to unsuccessful marriages (as found in the studies) and would (if used/applied honestly) probably weed out those who could be at risk for something which may not be good for their future relationship.

this is in part why I think many people will still stay away from linux - all the linux heads will proclaim the gui's that are being developed, and more security and control, but they you guy's talk about how to get certain things done, and most people are like . . whooaa. . thats not for me. I think the OS of the future will end up being some hybrid Windows/Linux thing. Sorry MacOs . . .but there are too many elements of it in both windows and linux that I see it being a dominant shaping force.

voodoo privates, my ass

umm. . .test the fertility of someone else? I hate to break it to you. . but a doctor can administer these "tests" without violating any law, man or God, and give you more accurate results.

no what isn't? You are saying that divorce leading to some people having distorted views about relationships with opposite sex leading to bad marriages is not a causal relationship - do you really know what you are talking about? Or are you looking for a direct link like - like getting stabbed in the heart, shot in the head with a 22 gauge shotgun and electrocuted will result in death?

btw, the language is spanish - cuando seas mia - When You're Mine

it is going to be hard to provide causal links between living together before marriage and divorce rates, so I'm not going to try. What I will do is provide link to another interesting study:

http://www.happinessonline.org/BeFaithfulToYourSexualPartner/p17.htm

I read through it all and it provides links between divorce and how it effects children, relatives, and friends of the children of the divorce and how that shapes their future decision - this maybe the closest to a causal relationship for you neferyn