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Mehn the topic is very misleading, she didn't say she slept of lived there, she served, as in, helped people living under the bridge!
Nigerians, or should I say naira landers are very funny..

Fadiga24:
A head count should be conducted before and after the event, to avoid stories that touch.

Lol...

She didn't even bleach is just the make up and the camera lighting.. look at her hands naw, you will know she didn't bleach.
I don't know why we never mind our business on people's personal life and choices.
Even if she bleach, what is anyone's problem!

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emyibe:
if its true then its IVF! we know everything nah

And it's not worth celebrating because of that??

arvinsloane:
Lol. Urge to jump? You must be a monkey.

or suicidal.. how can the urge to jump be there

Papiikush:
I want to be the best man in the world to me lady.

But this shìt is scary as hell! Don't think I can bare the pains she is going through during labor. Nah....

This is so sweet

Ronaldinnioh:
You impregnated the Innocent Girl and you expect her to carry the baby. You did not even care to suggests marriage immediately so as to cover her up for the shame. Ask people 1992 it's a very big Taboo and very shameful for a lady to get pregnant in her father's house. Not this days we see alot of Baby Mama moving about happily without an iota of Shame.Parading themselves on social media. It's easy to lament on the past because you are not the one pregnant. My dear you should forgive yourself for not using CONDOM, because if you were infected you could have infected the innocent Lady. Thank God she moved on with her life and now in London, if she has followed you and decide to keep the baby,she might not have progressed in Life.

Hanhan

WellEndowed:
It is going physical, trust me

Exactly

Humility017:
well said...pride is one common traits wit people
it takes a humility to change...and one good thing about humble people they won't insult someone in such manner......
amokeme@ you're beautiful though from yr pic

Thank you...

jhudit:
Why are you so bitter.
If they all came here to say men are wicked, it's your type that will still get angry...Do you want them to paint their husbands bad to please you?? ?? It's a lie because their husbands are good.

Why do people like to hear bad news like this?

Welcome to Nigeria!

The saga of Evans, the kidnapper.

I don't like meddling in most trendy issues but I will say something about one of the recent ones. It is already a stale news that, one Evans was arrested because of his choice of hustling. I don't want to go into details but I will be quick to stating my points.

Almost everyone knows that, things are far from good in the Nigerian economy. In fact, because of the situation of things in Nigeria, almost everyone now know the meaning of recession because, it is one of the most frequently used words. However, even though some people may believe that hardship can push people into doing terrible things for survival, I don't believe that.

I have friends that smoke but I don't and cannot smoke.
I have friends that drink alcohol as if they were fishes, but I don't take alcohol.
I know some people that are into 'yahoo' business, but I don't and cannot do that.
I know some people who do certain things just to get money but I cannot do that.
I know Nigerians that are into crime but I won't follow suit but I am a Nigerian.

For someone to steal, the person must have some 'spirit' of stealing in him/her.
For someone to kill, the person must have some spirit of killing in him/her.
Situation per se cannot push us into what we don't want to do. We do what we do by choice.

I am not working in an oil company. I don't own a house. I don't own a car. In fact, I am not presently financially rich.
Most unemployed Nigerian graduates are into crimes and other 'dirty' source of income.
I am an unemployed (technically) Nigerian graduate but I am not involved in such things.

The Evans in question became a kidnapper not because things are hard or there is recession but because he CHOSE to. He became a kidnapper by choice and not by situation. Why? Because there are others who are in same or worst situation he was before he started kidnapping business that are not kidnappers.

If I become a kidnapper tomorrow, I am doing so by choice and not because I am unemployed or there is recession.

That is by the way.

Let's talk about the wife. Was the wife ignorant of his choice of source of livelihood? No! According to available information, she was even an accomplice to her husband. Was she having the opportunity to talk her husband out of it? Yes but what did she she do, she chose to join and cover her up because of the money involved. She did not want to be with a broke 'ass'. She did not want to live with a man who is not as rich as her husband. She knew what the husband was into. She was left with two choices; to change her husband (yes, she could have been able to do that. Do not underestimate the strength of a woman) or to leave her husband when he refused to change (if she took the first choice) but she did not do any of those. Will she be free now that the husband has been apprehended? No, she will not. Directly or indirectly, she will go in for it.

Let's come back home.

You know your boyfriend is a drug dealer, kidnapper, a ritualist, fraud, armed robber, assassin etc. Yes, you know but you chose to stay with him because of the financial benefit. You chose to be quiet. You even chose to join him. You like the respect that comes with being a millionaire boyfriend. You like the feeling of driving exotic cars, changing your wardrobe every week, traveling to any country of your choice, eating whatever you want to eat, so, the option of talking him out of it or leaving him will never be available. It is OKAY. But I have news for you. You are not free! What affects the nose affects the eyes. I can assure you that it will not end well. You still have the chance of changing him now or stepping out when he refuses to change.

What if he did not tell me what he is into? You may want to ask. You have no business staying with someone whose source of income you don't know. It is not an excuse. You should know. I know sometimes men lie just to make a lady stay but unless you are dumb, you should be able to find out the truth in no distant time. There should be evidence of where he claim to be working.

Am I compelling anyone to leave their boyfriends who are into 'dirty' source of income? No, I am not. It is your choice but be ready to embrace the consequence of your choice.

©Benjamin Inana
#Think_Positive

Source; copied on fb from Lucky Osas Asenoguan

Kingsteve:
Aww, if to say I'm still available, I for make you my blossom friend.
Your smile exudes peace and tranquility.

Thank you...

tosyne2much:
Hehehe.. Lemme keep quiet sha

you know I'm not naw...

SgtKisswhere:
even you do the D O?

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ADENIKETINA2015:
I'm all of the above but for number 1,8&12
I'm an only child BTW
Growing up with no siblings to talk to/with made me a secretive person. I only share stuff with my mom. I don't have any other confidant other than my mom. My husband get work sha

Lol same here... I do have very few friends tho, but my mum gets updated before anyone else

tosyne2much:
Lemme add to the list

They are usually spoilt brats
that they talk to people anyhow because they know their parents will always support them

Most of them are lazy when it comes to doing chores

Before marriage, they will start telling you how many maids they want, (even though theirs hands are not amputated ooo)

When you go to seek her hand in marriage, the interview her parents will conduct for you will be harder than World bank job interview

They cry over any little thing (even during love making)

Most of them usually masturbate since their parents always place them on curfew

This is just so wrong except the bold. And the bold is only natural for any Good parent. I'm not a "spoilt brat"

Funny enough the OP is very correct..
And we don't have wahala

"Paid 22m instead" the father much really love his baby..
This is a warning too, know the kind of driver you employ.. drivers are the fastest to kill you. They know your every move and conversations.
May God help us

chynie:
insult him back so he will have a taste of his own pills
if he beats you or gets angry about it
my sister talk to him, if he wouldn't change have a rethink
cos some verbal abuse can hurt pax beating
and verbal abuse kills emotional

Talk? One thing you need to understand about men like this is that, they see absolutely nothing wrong with what they are doing. As in nothing! Let her talk to him and you will hear how he turns the whole thing on her head.
It's in him already, he needs to be with someone who doesn't see anything wrong with the insults. That's the only way, but the change aspect? Forget it

tosyne2much:
This is just a preamble of how he will unleash the beast in him when you enter his house. These are the qualities of potential wife beaters

You can see the signs of dangers with your eyes yet LOVE don becloud your reasoning

Anyway, I wish you an abusive marriage life in advance

Exactly...
I'm not saying there shouldn't be disagreements in a relationship, but there should be respect from both parties even when the disagreement is heated up. There are words/attitude you shouldn't use on your partner no matter what. A broken engagement is far better than a broken marriage.. he is doing this now, then what is he going to do when you are both married?
And some words are worst than beating trust me.. I know from experience
But if you know you can "endure" it, well, fine, you know yourself better than we do.
But this is another form of an abusive relationship, it doesn't have to be physical.

It's not real. It was a drama (or rather a short movie)
Happened in UDUS

magni101:
You can just say yes or no. It's not that difficult na!
Be polite!

Exactly. People just like to complicate things

I read some comments on NL and I wonder the kind of women that raised this men or how dilapidated the family they come from or grew up in must be. Or what kind of role model fathers they had while growing up

Davash222:
Weaklings everywhere. His prime duty as a husband is to console the wife if need be not the wife to console him. Tomorrow now, this one will be telling the wife 'do you realize I'm the man In this house' nonsense!!

You see, mentality like this is the cause of depression in men. Making them believe it's not OK to express emotions (either positive or negative) and it's wrong! They end up bottling a whole lot inside them and it translates into frustration.
To me, for a man to show this kind of emotion to my face means he trusts me with his vulnerability and I don't take that for granted. That is strength and people who are very expressive with their emotions enjoy life. Not like you bottle everything in and walk around with your pile of garbage trashing on everyone you come in contact with. Up right there is a man with healthy emotional state of mind!

saasala:
And that girl is you.

Spent a whole lot of time going through your profile (posts and topics, picture and signature etc), and I am impressed!

I would like to know you off Nairaland.

Could you please give me the opportunity to become a real life friend with you?

OK... that's fine..

saasala:
Please I need your help. As a lady I am sure you can help in this situation that I have found myself in. How do I get the attention of a girl om Nairaland?

Thanks so much.

By simply doing what you just did now, mention her.

MurderForFree:

I will rather have ugly unkempt nails than to have a non functioning brain

[b]Were you born on the highway because that's where most accidents do happen[/b]

NwaAmaikpe:


See her ugly unkempt nails....



Why is he hiding the car's model

Unkempt nails... because she didn't fix them?
And the model doesn't matter... she appreciates the gift from her husband. That's the most important thing.

DeRay98:
Solid advice from a lady who has a sound mind, a pretty look and brains.
This combination is what a call a "beauty".
But wait oh, this your long refined "dada" no dey heavy you?

lol, trust me, you have no idea...

saasala:
Bro, na the same thing dey do us o. I feel the need to settle down and seriously in search of a good woman who can stand the chance of becoming a wife soon, but sorry, coming here to search for a wife is a no no

Hanahn what do you mean?

The "story" is even somehow. But let me go by it.
1. How will your parents(or her own, whichever one) be comfortable that their daughter is in school and doesn't have a phone and refuse to do nothing about it? How do they communicate then? And the laptop(not everyone in the university have a laptop, and they don't fail because of that)

2. I don't know about you(or her) I can't put my man in a situation where he will be ridiculed either silently or directly by other guys or toasters at that. Just because my parents can not get me a phone., your boyfriend is not mandated to buy you a phone because that's not his responsibility. But if he gets it for you, fine, but let it be out of the goodness of his heart and not because you feel you are entitled to it because you are dating him.

3. I think she is already getting carried away by the gifts the toaster is going to shower her with if she eventually starts dating him. Because now she is talking about her boyfriend not giving her valentine gift. Valentine that was since February o, she will has that in mind.

I don't want to say she has longer throat. But collecting something from a toaster she claims not to "really" like(that means she likes him small) that you can't afford or your parents can't get for you for reasons best know to them(because they should provide everything you need since they don't want you doing any business while in school) is clearly disrespecting yourself and your relationship and is not worth it if you truly love your boyfriend as you say. Because she is already asking for advise to lie or not.. and unfortunately, there will be trouble either way.

She knows the right thing to do, so she should try to overcome the longer throat and save herself from wahala and guilt