I don't think they deliberately want to look fat or shapeless. They need a lot of support from we the husbands. Its not easy for them. Personally I do a lot to encourage my wife.

The stress they go through on daily basis is something else. Most women don't even know that they are getting out of shape. Its d responsibility of the husband to point it out with love and care and suggest a workable solution. There is no need to start comparison class with those single ladies who are in their early twenties. All they need is love and encouragement to keep fit. I buy my wife what I love to see on her.

Pls if you deal on the above kindly call me 08083892384.

Some people really make life so difficult for themselves. What does giving her your password amount to?

At times I wonder how some people chose to suffer and have issues instead of enjoying life.

debrief08: We always say Men should talk more to avoid bottling up pain, now one does we are telling him to keep quiet and move on.

Let us let people express their pain how best it works for them, we are not in their shoes, we like to make people "forget the past" even when it is not dealt with.

Please let him share, sharing for some is healing.

Let's not scare other men into silence.

My own stories I have shared here are more whinny than his, that's his way of dealing with his pain.

When we silence men from sharing their pain we release a lot of angry men with pent up hurt looking to transfer it on others, talking is healthy, I fully endorse it

Goodmorning Debby. Pls can u send your phone number to my email ani4xst@yahoo.com I have very important issue to discuss with you. Thank you.

Try this:

1) Listen to what he is saying

2) Find out what he like and make an effort to accomplish them

3) Fulfil his se*xu*al urge and even suggest new style of doing it. Sometimes be the one to initiate love making

4) Give him special attention, don't be carried away by domestic chore.

5) Snd him love text

6)Tell him how important he is in ur world.

7) Buy him gifts occasionally

Dress the way he likes and keep ur shape.

9) Plan a surprise outing for only two of you

10) When he offends you find it easy to forgive.

Popowaa: just a few change

Then its a very difficult situation because those ladies involved would always believe that he might change someday.

@popowaa

It is well. I'm feeling so bad reading all this. I just can't say much than to pray for these ladies involved to find the needed strength and walk away.

But if I may ask, do some of them(men) eventually change?

kreami diva: A man in my town was known as a wife batterer. His wife kept on praying for him until he changed and really repented and stopped beating his wife. They fell in love the more. They would walk down the street holding hands and cuddling,giggling and just being happy!

One day,the woman fell ill and was rushed to the hospital. It was found out that she had an internal wound in her abdomen where the man usually kicked her. They battled to save her life but,months later she died!

Needless to say the man nearly went mad! Till today,he refused to remarry.

Its very good for him that the woman died in his house. Let him continue the kicking. Demons with human faces.

I think some ladies are actually the cause of what they are going through. What do I mean; this relationship started as boyfriend and girlfriend and they experience the first beating but in their minds believe that the guy would change and see where they are today.

I see no reason why a lady should stay in abuse boyfriend/girlfriend relationship and allow such to grow into marriage and now they feel trap down by their dictators.


The amazing thing is that even at this moment that everybody is having sleepless night to help these ladies out some girls with their eyes wide open and with all the negative signs are moving into a relationship also believing that the guy who is beating her at this bf/gf level will change when they finally get married. What a mind set!

I'm a man, so I really don't know how some ladies think.

I really don't blame those demon of theirs that they called husbands because there was a more better time to walk away than now.

As for those men that derive joy in tormenting other people's daughters you guys will not go unpunish. You will equally share in their pains either now or latter.

I'm so sad.

What exactly is your product. Which part of the country are u? There are many companies here in lagos that can handle such even individuals.

Is it really necessary for one to travel abroad for child's birth?

Presently, a family is at the crossroads over this issue. The wife is insisting that she must travel abroad but, the husband is not comfortable with this development. The man point of view is that let the wife deliver here in Nigeria in the best hospital while the money that would have been used for such trip be used to plan for the child's future. The man is expected to bring 80% while the wife is planning to bring 20% of the money.

The wife point of view is that according to her friends who delivered abroad that it is safer and also attract other benefits.

Please what do you thing of this?

Guys take it easy me ohhhh. I just notice it now. It's one of those things. I've edited it anyway.

I couldn't believe that I can make such a mistake. This clearly shows that no one is perfect.

Thanks for all the yappings - Lol.

maxwello.yg:
Now, private primary schools are better than public primary schools.
Private secondary schools are better than public secondary schools.
But, there is higher degree of competition in public universities than in private universities. However private universities have more modern infrastructure than the public ones.
If you compare American University of Nigeria with Unilag, you would understand my point.

Maxwell. If I may ask, in generic term, would you say that graduates from private uni have advantage over graduates from public uni based on the modern facilities you mentioned?

Please I want to hear insightful analysis for this subject matter.

It is believed by some people that to get quality education, one has to send his/her child to private school. But the output from private school is not commensurate with the high fees paid.

In competitions, students from public school always win the prize.

I have personally experienced from my former boss' daughter whose school fees amounted to millions of naira and yet she couldn't even write final exam by herself. They had to pay someone to do that for her.

Could it be "sing along syndrome" that is affecting majority of parents even when they know that amount spent in private is not equal the output.

Are private schools better than public schools?

Please I want to hear insightful analysis for this subject matter.

It is believed by some people that to get quality education, one has to send his/her child to private school. But the output from private school is not commensurate with the high fees paid.

In competition, students from public school always win the prize.

I have personally experienced from my former boss' daughter whose school fees amounted to millions of naira and yet she couldn't even write final exam by herself. They had to pay someone to do that for her.

Could it be "sing along syndrome" that is affecting majority of parents even when they know that amount spent in private is not equal the output.

Are private schools better than public schools?

Thank you all. For your prayers we say Amen to them all.

I almost had it wrong because back then most of marriage related conversation was that, ah, marriage is very hard oh and difficult, that before one should even think of marriage one has to be this and that - Lol. Even though to some extent it is true but it is far from the way some people put it. But one day my Pastor confessed that how he wish he had married at a younger age. His confession gave me a rethink and I also thank God for my cousin who advise me the right way.

Again thank u all. Me and my beautiful queen we are grateful to ur prayers and wish u all the best in your home. And to those who wish to become one, one day,we say that blessings and favours await you in Jesus Name. Amen.

Pls do include my queen in your prayers as we look forward to our bundle of joy(baby)

Fellow NairaLanders. Marriage is good.

Right from the day we say to each other "I DO", we have been observing blessings and increase in all area of our lives.

In my biz I'm making progress and my angel is doing well in her own field.

There are indeed blessings that come with marriage. Hence the word of God is made manifest in our marriage.

Baby if you get to read this, you make my world go round. I love you with all my heart. You are indeed my queen and my light. As long as we live, I will continue to protect, care for u, lift you, make u smile, pamper you, cherish and love you.

God we are ever grateful for what you are doing in our lives.

Doc_Miss: GREAT UNIBEN ..

Well...I believe If Lecturers are Paid Well,they'll have no reason to extort money from Students.

Its not true. Politicians are well paid, but yet the stealing still goes on. The root cause is greed.

slimyem:
Biola,abeg o.I nor sabi who lawyer be.
Na behind the scene i dey for the matter o.
May God help us all too.

Slimi so u can be this scared. I used to think that you are very strong - Lol.

You really made me laugh out so loud.

Hmmmm. Although everybody will know when the pregnancy gets to a certain stage. One can still inform his immediate family.

But when u say announce that will call for a "concern".

Congrats bros. I use yours as a point of contact for mine. Remain blessed

What is the need for dropping of email addresses when ernie has already dropped the link. Why not take out time, go through the site and even read other related information. What would happen if you are sent a wrong list and you work base on that information?

In life, there is a price for everything. On this very forum I've had some ladies saying that "It is better to be crying inside a jeep than laughing on top a bicycle"

So, to some it is all about what they can see and touch at the moment.

loucrux: It's natural to want to help your children financially when they're starting out. But when is it OK to stop?

There is no time to stop helping someone let alone your children. Continue to help financially and otherwise as the need arises.

okechukwu2013: Millions applied the above principles and worked even harder than Dangote without making 2% of what he attained. I respect him so much but I strongly believe that without golden LUCK and Gods FAVOUR, man will only labour in vain!

Sir Chukwu, believe u me everybody is favoured. If you are into business try the steps outline by Dangote and see what will happen in the next 10years in your biz life.

debrief08: My Brother, My first Marriage was in my early 20s, logic should mean that I would have been popping out kids but it didn't happen.
In my 30s I started producing like a rabbit, practically touch and carry belle.

Just make sure you both get tested if you are unsure.

Best wishes

God is wonderful ohhh. Anty Debby I hope u have changed ur mind about that National Assembly stuff ohh, because there are even more funny thread now than that one. Lol

Have a fruitful week ahead.

debrief08: Dear Federal Government and ASUU, na God I dey take beg una, please call off this strike.

Hian, if I see anymore "He didn't answer my pings and I was murdered", Do prostitut3s use Lubrica", threads I will go and stand in front of the National Assembly nak3D till you call off this strike.

Anty Debby abeg na God name I teka beg you ohh. No go nakedd for NA because me I no fit shout ohhh.

Titusolufemi: I will apprc8 it if i knw more abt d product and d level of demand.i stays in sango ota

It is air freshener that is used in the car, office and home. Because of the quality and packaging the demand is on the increase. It contains 20pcs in a pack. U can retail them or distribute to shops and stores and boys that sells at hold-up and those that hawk at ur discretion. But to make almost 100% profit am talking about is when u retail them. A carton contains 50packets, that is 1000pcs.

There was a guy like you in Kogi State that came across it on this platform and contact me. Today he has something to say positively.

If u are interested call me.

Titusolufemi: After enduring so many days of hunger,i was able to get hold of #60,000 from being a factory worker.i need to boost my financial life and i need help on how to do so with just #60,000 so i can earn extra money plus my allowee.i dont want to live a wretched life.

Where do you live. I have a product that u can buy and resell and make almost 100% of ur capital within days or weeks. If u are interested I will send u free sample so that u can know exactly what am talking about if u are outside Lagos. U can reach me on 08061352480

greatgod2012: Sincerely, i love and respect them both, especially for kids feeling great, but, is it really possible for the kids not to be affected, either now or later?




#team never raise your hand against your spouse

I pray so. Because most of this wife/husband beater/abuser are from abusive home. I've seen some like this that is why I always feel for the children. But I think in a situation where the children are not allowed to see such "movie" for a long period of time, there is a possibility of them growing up into a normal human being.

My brother you have to be very careful. Its better to walk away now than turning your future home to wrestling pitch.

If I may ask, is she from abusive home? Because if yes, it's most likely for her to repeat what she has seen over the years.

Think deep, don't be carried away by skeletal love.