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For me I don't give beyond my power no matter the blackmail.

Like this December my church did Thanksgiving and you know how it is for workers na, tax upon tax.

Since it's Thanksgiving, my aim was to give 50k as Thanksgiving offering to appreciate God for the year but things started having K-leg when they started tasking me.... I said no problem, from my thanksgiving budget I go take give una

First, I was tasked to buy the drinks for the day 10k since it isn't a big church

Secondly, they asked me to pay for Pastor's Uber fee 5k

Thirdly, pastor after preaching called for seed sowing, I didn't come out and he called me by my name to come... I said no wahala, I made pledge of 10k

After everything I just did my plus and minus, instead of 50k I initially wanted to give, I ended up putting 25k in envelope and use the remaining 25k to settle their tasks...

I will not fall for their emotional blackmail OR give beyond what I budgeted.

Palema007:
So because a lady sent your money back to you, you decided to let loose your frustrations and wail here. Lol...she was right never to be indebted to a lousy egoistic immature guy like you.

When you were making ladies your friends, being the office sugar daddy, spending unnecessary to impress them, who did you tell, Now one who isn't into your bullshit throws your money back to you and you come here ranting.

Fact is you weren't concerned she is ungrateful, the thread say ladies and parasitic nature. Your ego is bruised, you feel belittled by the lady's action. You like the Nigerian money hungry narrative, you only needed a trigger to post your own narrative here. It took another person to point out what your thread should have been based on (ungratefulness)

Sorry oooo 9ja santa Claus whose gift must not be rejected! Abeg getat!

You are a nincompoop who lacks sense of reasoning

Foolish fool. If you read through my write up and comprehended it well you wouldn't have type this rubbish.

You said I made friends with ladies and became their sugar daddy, that alone makes you a fool because in my write up you would see that I received gifts from male colleagues which should have painted a picture in your dirty skull about the kind of person that I am because I know guys don't just give to fellow guys unless to someone who has been beneficial to them or has been a great friend.

Secondly, you skipped the part where I talked about putting my relationship and family first, which should have made you to understand that I set my scale of preference before taking actions


And lastly you skipped the part where she called to tell me the money has been reversed wanting me to send back, or the part where the three were constantly requesting for Christmas Santa from me.

These alone paints pictures of the kind of person that you are, a parasite and a sucker


I know you are a lady who falls under the category of ladies I am referring to that's why the write up hurts you to your soul and you are seeking for ways to justify your parasitic nature.

Low life, go get a life and learn to be contented

Nigerian ladies are one of the worst set of humans beings on earth. So entitled, expectant and stingy.

This Christmas season to avoid unnecessary billing I locked up my money in Piggyvest safe lock plan to avoid unnecessary spending.

So since then I resulted to doing with what I have left and placed only few people in my Christmas budget and they are my mother, my fiancee, my brother and my brother's wife...

I have been getting calls and begging from friends, 90% from female friends and I tell them plainly that I don't have any money to give to anyone this season, it is Christmas celebration for all of us not a money making scheme for the ladies because every where the ladies are always like, come do Christmas for me, bla bla bla... Some have even stopped talking to me since I told them the fact.


In my office, we closed for the year since 17th and I noticed that my male colleagues bought gifts and gave to me, I wasn't expecting any gift though but the female ones, all I get from them is do Christmas for us.

Trying to emotionally blackmail me... So it happened that yesterday I decided to use my church mind to send something to them

These are ladies who earn same thing with me and even more because they get tips from the guys and people who come around...

So, I got some money and these three ladies (after settling my mom, fiancee, brother and in-law), I decided to send something to these female friends of mine and I sent 5k each to them.

The first two ladies called immediately to say thanks but the third one didn't, I asked if she saw any money I sent and she said yes, the tone sounded like someone who expected more...

Immediately I hung up, I saw that the money was reversed by my bank and the 5k got back to me.... She chatted me immediately that they have debited her and reversed the money...

Joy filled my heart and I said God thank you... Immediately I went out to get a nice dinner for myself.

Buying a piece of land in January after then bills almost killed me from family, to church, to friends, to girlfriend, to girlfriend's mom, to everything... Rest of the year got annoying and stressful but thank God I took that bold decision to quickly invest in a landed property at Ibeju lekki, if not I would have finished 2021 regretting...

Secondly, a friend just told me about crypto and I have poured all my money into some crypto projects this December to avoid family and friends incessant demands this period

I pray that sets the pace for a productive 2022

JackDaAlienz:
I went to my uncles home for christmas holiday and what i experienced there was dissapointing

How can a GROWN MAN not control and enforce home traning on his 4 little kids.
He always leave everything for the wife, who is overwhelmed and is not doing a good job either.

The worst part is that he will allow these kids to be awake watching tv till 12 am midnight while he will be playing video games.
If the kid misbehave, i correct them, they start crying loud and this man will always come out and defend them.
He cant command his kids to go to bed, he always beg them.
A grown man begging his kids to go to bed..
Wtfffff
And if you see how big this my incle is you will think he is ufc fighter but at home his children are the boss.

He always talks like he is smart but i feel PITY for him when these Children grow up to be mannerless cult boys, he will be scratching his head asking what did he do wrong.

Some men are not fit to be fathers
some of them are still Baby Adults that cant train their kids.

Oga keep kwiet... This is the same thing oyibo do yet with all the flogging and yeye discipline we dey receive for here none of us fit still think straight or produce meaningful something... Just rest

Blessingsam2318:
Please I need you all ideas on this.
Nothing too big abeg , I just wan surprise the babe this festive season.

I don search something for Jumia tired help a brother

I just gave my girlfriend a Samsung A12 phone last week and don't intend to give her anything again either for her birthday which is next week or for Christmas.

You are playing with your life.

Who taught you to use fire and red oil to close your wounds?

If you know what is good for you, run to a hospital or a good nurse to give you tetanus injection before the leg gets infested badly which could lead to death or amputation.

Tetanus causing bacteria are anaerobic bacteria that do not need oxygen to survive so using red oil and fire to close the wound is like giving it what it wants (no oxygen).

Like I said, if you love your life go and take tetanus injection quickly because that is what you should have done immediately you got punctured

Reminds me of queen of katwe

I wonder where we are heading as a country.

This is the size of N20 pure water bought in lagos today.

Very soon we will see ice water return back to the market....

For those born from 1990 downwards you remember how we used to buy water tied in nylon and sold for N1 each before coscharis sachet water entered the market.

I think we are heading back to ice water stage now

Good... Kill all of those Bastards and their youngs

Nigeria is not using her population numbers well. With our large population we should be the China of Africa because we have the market and the numbers

prince4pro2:
Met this snake today on our way we let it go . Nairaland snake masters oya gather around is it venomous snake or not?. Don't know how to upload the video


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RhU5FQEiuvg

Silly folks... If that snake kills anyone again, you guys are responsible

This is exactly the reason I had a quarrel with my girlfriend yesterday night.

Your story is same as mine.

I have been dating this girl for over 3yrs now and she gained admission. Our initial plan was for her to go and learning nursing because she is a caring and a kind hearted girl but the mother who wants to impress friends forced her to go-to school hoping that her uncles will assist.

She is in school now heading to 300Level and from day one I have been the one catering for her ranging from what she eats to what she wears and textbooks.... The parents literally abandoned her and the uncles don't even care.

The most annoying part now is the mother calling me all the time to seek for one monetary assistance or the other , occassionally the father calls when he is choked.

I feel so burdened and want to quit the relationship because it is parasitic and dragging me back but the only reason I am still with her is because she was with me all through when I was jobless.

That is the reason I am still pushing through with the relationship....

I have begged this girl to think of what side business she can do so I can assist her with the money to start so she can get money for feeding from it while I can focus on other things but she always gives excuses that school doesn't give her time and activities are choked.

I want to quit this relationship, I can cope with her but the mother always calling my line for assistance is pissing me off.

This same woman threw it an my face that I am a distraction to her daughter and her daughter will not marry a poor man, I was just a secondary school teacher then earning 50k, those words hurt me till today and I took the challenge to quit my job and start some petty business which by the grace of God is doing fine, table has changed and this distraction is the one she is seeking help from all the time.

I only give to her because of my girlfriend, her daughter who believed in me and stood against her mother for me if not....

Anonymoususher:
Good morning my people.

I want to get a phone and my budget is 70k.

My specifications are minimum of 4gb ram, 64GB storage and at least 5000mAh battery. Most especially the camera and battery are very important.

Excluded brands are Tecno, itel and Gionee products.

Please your suggestions will help me make wise choice.

Thank

As regards my post early last week... I finally settled for Samsung A12 which I ordered via Jumia... 4GB/128GB/5000mah

So far the device works perfectly well and the camera is fair...

I got it via one of the black Friday offers for 80k.... Thanks all for the recommendations

ukaface:
Redmi 9

.

Do they have nice camera and battery?

Sapiosexuality:
Good camera for 70k? You can get an okay camera but good? Not possible. 70k phones with good camera are now 140k thanks to the Naira.

Even phones now are more expensive than laptops

sunshineV:
tecno cameras fade out after 6 month even dis new one dat come with gimbal will fade out after 6 month

It's a very useless brand... I will never go close to it again

sunshineV:
GOOGLE PIXEL

OK thanks, I will look at it

sunshineV:
Buy used pixel

Used pixel? What brand is that please

Charisgeorge:
Samsung A12

I went to computer village slot and it is above my budget

Cheezzyy:
Good camera and battery? Think Camon 15

I have a Tecno Pouvoir 4 pro which I bought last year and the phone has been annoying ever since... It hangs, camera overnight turned into something else. It just made me to detest Tecno products.

That's why I excluded it from the list

Good morning my people.

I want to get a phone and my budget is 70k.

My specifications are minimum of 4gb ram, 64GB storage and at least 5000mAh battery. Most especially the camera and battery are very important.

Excluded brands are Tecno, itel and Gionee products.

Please your suggestions will help me make wise choice.

Thank

I met this guy on facebook and we got talking. found out he lived in the area I was born ( a popular ghetto) though we both have relocated and we also share the same date of birth.

after three months of talking we decided to meet for the first time so I paid him a visit at his residence and he entertained me, though asked if we could make love, I said No and he didn't push further.

We continued talking and a month after he asked me out. I didn't give him a yes or no answer because I was double minded for some reasons....

1. He is always working, has a business he is grooming and Monday to Saturday he is busy, then on Sundays he goes to church and uses the remaining time for laundry and sleep

2. He is boring, he is a private fellow that doesn't go out, any day he decides to stay at home, he remains indoor morning till night. he doesn't party, drink nor keep friends

3. He told me plainly that he doesn't post his pictures or private issues on social media, while I am the opposite.

4. his dress sense is 6/10, only thing he does is perfume, no watch, no jewelries, just like that.

I was skeptical about the kind of relationship I will have with him, though he can be funny on phone but in person he is ice cold.

I visited him three more times, the second time I kissed him and it ended there. He asked me out again, I still told him to give me more time.

last September, he told me he has asked someone out and she accepted immediately... I felt jealous but didn't bother...

I discussed him with my sister and closed friends and they told me to accept him...

I was beginning to like him and we met at his place last month and I told him I was willing to accept him because I have developed feelings but to my surprise he told me he has moved on and looking forward to building a bond with his present babe.

I feel like I missed my opportunity, I love him but making a decision was difficult for me and now seeing him with another lady hurts me badly.

How do I move on or handle this?

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I am surprised you People allowed yourselves to be fooled when there is information about human trafficking everywhere...

Listen to educative radio stations like Nigeria Info you people will say No that it is the one that plays music from morning till night that you want.

Good evening Ops!

I will try and be brief. I have been in a relationship with my fiancee for about 4yrs now. I am her first love and the one that deflowered her after 3yrs of no sex relationship.

We started dating when I just finished my youth service and was jobless, she stuck by me and to be frank I love her and plans to make her my wife because she meets everything I want in a wife.

we practically lived and grew up in the same area so I know and have relationship with practically everyone in her family including uncles and in-laws while the same can be said for my family too but here is the issue...

after three years of dating, she gained admission of which I played a key role, she went to school and I relocated to a new environment, I am not financially buoyant but can comfortably feed, pay my bills and at least send something home for my mom and siblings. I also try to send some tips to my girl in school because I know how tough it is for the family at home.

But her parents on the other hand (especially the mom) calls me only to make one monetary plea or the other. Anytime her call comes, I already know what it is for... Money.

Most times promise to pay back but never pays.... I know things are tough and I am willing to assist whenever I have but I feel pissed knowing that they only call to seek assistance.

I want to marry this girl and build a future with her, but the parents billings are scaring me, especially with the thought of being double taxed by my family and wife's family after marrying.

How do I handle this, my girl knows about this and most times quarrels with the mom anytime she finds out and this has strained their relationship badly, for the father he barely asks but when he does, you can feel the disappointment on his voice like one who has no other option.

I'd love to assist if I have, because before the relationship I was friends with the family.

Good morning!

Please I will try as much as possible to be brief.

I am into business, electronics to be precise and this friend of mine from a distant state called for a gadget. We discussed and agreed price (N95,000) which my profit is 15,000.

Upon agreeing price, he told me to write N155,000 on the receipt as what he bought. I did as he requested.

I sent the gadget to his location and about two weeks later the real buyer called the number on the receipt, I found out it is his father he bought it for and the father complained that he doesn't like it, I was like OK, speak with your son to call me.

The son called, we agreed and the gadget was returned back after two weeks. Additional 10k was added by the son to get the specification the father requested for and before sending the gadget back, I took several pictures and videos and sent directly to the father and he approved it that it is what he wants. We finalized and I sent the gadget to the father directly this time as requested by the both of them (father and son).

It took about two months and the father called me again saying he wants to return the gadget back. I was like what happened? Is it faulty?

He said No, that he hasnt used the gadget since I sent it and reason is because he doesn't like it. I was like, if you didn't like it why not send it back as quickly as possible since it is fairly used. You kept it with you for two months and now wants to return it.

The father said, he is willing to add up money to get another one, I referred him back to his son, because I did business with his son not him.

After everything, I told the father that I won't be accepting the gadget and he shouldn't send it back because it is UK used I bought from another dealer and warranty (two weeks provided there is an issue) for return has long passed.

Now the father feels I cheated his son and gave him a cheap product for a high amount when in actual sense, I sold at normal rate.

How should I handle this issue, because my conscience already disturbs me for writing a different amount I sold on the receipt based on the son's request... Though I didn't know the transaction that happened between father and son or how much the son actually billed the father until after I sold my product

Good morning!

Please I will try as much as possible to be brief.

I am into business, electronics to be precise and this friend of mine from a distant state called for a gadget. We discussed and agreed price (N95,000) which my profit is 15,000.

Upon agreeing price, he told me to write N155,000 on the receipt as what he bought. I did as he requested.

I sent the gadget to his location and about two weeks later the real buyer called the number on the receipt, I found out it is his father he bought it for and the father complained that he doesn't like it, I was like OK, speak with your son to call me.

The son called, we agreed and the gadget was returned back after two weeks. Additional 10k was added by the son to get the specification the father requested for and before sending the gadget back, I took several pictures and videos and sent directly to the father and he approved it that it is what he wants. We finalized and I sent the gadget to the father directly this time as requested by the both of them (father and son).

It took about two months and the father called me again saying he wants to return the gadget back. I was like what happened? Is it faulty?

He said No, that he hasnt used the gadget since I sent it and reason is because he doesn't like it. I was like, if you didn't like it why not send it back as quickly as possible since it is fairly used. You kept it with you for two months and now wants to return it.

The father said, he is willing to add up money to get another one, I referred him back to his son, because I did business with his son not him.

After everything, I told the father that I won't be accepting the gadget and he shouldn't send it back because it is UK used I bought from another dealer and warranty (two weeks provided there is an issue) for return has long passed.

Now the father feels I cheated his son and gave him a cheap product for a high amount when in actual sense, I sold at normal rate.

How should I handle this issue, because my conscience already disturbs me for writing a different amount I sold on the receipt based on the son's request... Though I didn't know the transaction that happened between father and son or how much the son actually billed the father until after I sold my product