₦airaland Forum

For the first time in the history of Nigeria, youths are more politically aware and are taking it upon themselves to campaign for their preferred candidates free of charge.

Obidience movement is gaining momentum by the day.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nf5YDp5K348

I have been battling same thing with my childhood friend's girlfriend of 9yrs.

My friend is one of the Best Human being I have met. We have been through alot together yet haven't quarrelled OR fought since our childhood.

He started dating this girl I think since 2012 OR so and I got to be friends with her too.

Being that I am doing better than him, as my blossom friend without asking him I gave him a start up capital to start up a business and quit his poor job (he paid back though), I also gave him money to rent an accommodation and leave his parents house because I didn't like the fact that he was still squatting.

His girlfriend happens to be my friend too (got close to her through my friend) and to her I have also been supportive especially with her accommodation which I gave to my friend to give to her, somehow she got to know that I was the one that raised the money.

My problem is that she will come visit me to discuss issues bothering her, I always feel uncomfortable whenever she comes then I make sure we stay outside and not inside. Many atimes she seeks my opinion without even seeking her man's own then when I ask her if she has spoken with my friend she says he is busy.

I only go-to her side along with my friend and most times she will say, you no dey come find person unless your friend follow you.

Recently she was angry with me because she invited me to come eat what she prepared but I didn't go.

All these makes me uncomfortable, my friend is a great guy and I will be sad if he starts thinking otherwise.

I have my fiancee I love to the core and I pray she herself doesn't misunderstand what I am avoiding

What others are paying billions to get Obi is getting them for free.

This is pure love and it is as a result of years of neglects and pains


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ZX6kbXEBtQ

JBriel:
I take an exception to that. I won't be silent while an uncircumcised thing throw a curse word at one of our own. Hundeyin, your secrets will be exposed and you will be disgraced. From your lofty heights you will fall and dash to the ground and never recover.

See how delusional you are. These pastorpreneurs take money for their candidates and manipulate scriptures to deceive you and you fall. The suffering comes, they have continuous flow of income from their pastoral business while you suffer but defend them
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blazingblender:
You did the right thing Sha
But don't tell anyone yet
Abi You de plan to marry the girl??
This one you don de eye am

Hahahahahah, far from it, the girl is a minor.

I think she was about 11yrs when it happened but she was given the task of an adult... Till today they thought it was the girl's teacher that reported them

Good morning beautiful people.

Sometime around 2016 I sent an anonymous letter to some human rights activist I got on nairaland about a neighbor of mine who was abusing her help.

I came to spend sometime with my mom when I observed that a young girl was living with her and her kids. The girl was being mistreated by her care giver with visible scars all over her body. I was pained so I came here on nairaland for contacts of any human right activist. I got about five details then I sent an anonymous mail to them.

I was shocked when I saw a very beautiful coastal bus in my compound with some beautiful ladies. They arrested my neighbor, her husband and daughter that day.

For weeks they were held and my conscience was already judging me for doing that to them because we were in good talking terms but I hated the way they treated the girl with them.

To cut the long story short, they had a plea bargain and were released after some months but the girl was retained by the organization.

Just yesterday after 6yrs, I paid a visit to my mom and the girl came around. Looking fresh like ajebota, dressed nicely, her English was so queens like and you can tell that her life has changed.

She came in the company of one of the ladies that came for her rescue that day.

I felt a big relief in my heart that my actions saved her and gave her a good life... She was full of life but till today nobody knows that I sent that mail for her rescue, even she herself doesn't know.

Obi is destined to win in South East but voter population will be reduced by the opposition with threats bombs OR use hoodlums to terrorize the people to remain indoor.

In South South, I feel only urban parts of Delta,Rivers, Cross River and Akwa Ibom will give Obi their votes, for the rural areas, the people are not too exposed and will not even be able to recognize logo of Labour Party... Most people are used to PDP umbrella and APC broom... Obi and labour party needs to do alot to register labour party logo Into their consciousness.

For South West, a large chunk will go-to Tinubu due to ethnic allegiance while those that are tired of Buhari will lean towards APC, as usual only the educated and exposed ones who do not want Tinubu will lean towards Obi... Once again illiteracy will short change him.

Come to North Central... The people do not want another northerner and also do not want APC because of the pepper bandits and herdsmen have shown them but once again Illiteracy will short changed Obi if they cannot recognize labour party logo

North East and North West, Obi will get less than 20% vote in the two regions combined irrespective of who he picks whether Kwankwanso OR not.

Yes

First was my female course mate in school, she gave all the signs, I saw them but ignored then when she couldn't hold it again she told me her mind but she was such a good girl, I had no girlfriend as at then but wasn't ready for relationship, so I politely told her I'd love to but not mentally ready for it... She cried ehh

Second was on facebook, two girls, we have been chatting and doing video calls and even offline calls... They shot their shots but I declined... My activities on facebook is strictly for catching cruise and nothing else.

Third was during NYSC. The babe was my fellowship member. Was giving all the signals but I wasn't attracted to her. I declined and she hated me till I left that state.

The last one that asked me just last year, we live in same neighborhood before I moved out, we weren't friends but she was friends with my guy. Kept on pestering my friend about me but on one faithful day she approached me and said her mind. I am not attracted black ladies much more chubby ones... Told her I have a girlfriend and till now she hates me

Obi can just have a smooth ride to victory if he picks a Yoruba VP

See, PDP made a grave mistake by picking Atiku because he will only get northern votes and nothing from the South.

Yorubas are so much divided. Some favour Tinubu's vote, Some favour Osibanjo while some are aligned towards Obi while some want Odua republic and those who do not want another old president


For the calculation... Atiku will completely lose the whole of southern region because the south clearly don't want another northerner.

For Tinubu, He will clearly lose south south and south East, there will be massive support from his south west region.

For Obi, he will definitely take south south and south East, come to South West, the remnants of Osibanjo's sympathizers, Odua republic advocates and those seeking for a neutral force aside PDP or APC will lean towards Obi.

So for southern region.... I give victory to Obi


Now let's go to North East

Obi, total failure less than 5%
Tinubu 30%
Atiku 50%
Kwankwanso 20%

Come to North West

Obi less than 15% (thanks to persecuted christians especially in southern kaduna and Kano)
Tinubu 20%
Kwankwanso 35%
Atiku 50%

Come to North Central
These people have said it that they do not want another northern president, this is where PDP and Kwankwanso will be handed another defeat.

Also, this northern region suffered the most under APC regime, from jos, to kogi to Benue state Nasarawa being ravaged by herdsmen and bandits May lean towards a Christian or neutral party... This is where Obi has another edge.


Bottom line is
Obi's path to victory is if APC gives the ticket to Lawan OR Amaechi... The coast will be clearer.

I made friends with mine and her family before shooting my shot.

She was 17yrs at the time, hid my intentions because at that age na prison straight. So I stayed as a friend. Her siblings and even parents really got comfortable with me and when she clocked 18yrs, few months after I asked her out and she accepted.... Fast forward to 5yrs after, we are prepping for our wedding


Guy so long as u are coming with the right intentions, if she is a decent girl, go close, keep your intentions to yourself and wait till she is 18

One way to track how much that comes in and goes out is with the KONNASH app.

There you will able to know whether your expenses exceeds your income and also what takes money out of your pocket more.

I use it and I discovered that my expenses was taking 70% of my income and worse is that food takes the most part, followed by transportation and also goodwill donations I give to family members and friends.

Since then I have scaled down my spending and I thinking I am having more to save now

You are not spending lavishly my dear... The Pay isn't good enough and country is messed up.

You earn 50k a monthly. Let's break it down

Let's assume you spend N1,000 on food daily (which isn't possible in this economy now), that is N30,000 in a month

Let's assume you spend just N200 on transport to work ( which I doubt), that is N6,000 a month

Let's assume you spend N500 on hair cut twice a month... That is N1,000

Let's assume you pay N2,000 Nepa bill a month (which I doubt)

Let's assume you spend total of N1,000 soap for washing your clothes monthly

Let's assume you spend N1,000 on data subscription monthly (which isn't possible)

Lets assume airtime purchase takes N1,000 too in a month

Let's assume offering OR goodwill to people takes a total of N1,000 from you in a month.

Let me stop there and sum everything up

That's is N43,000

Subtract N43,000 from N50,000 and you are left with N7,000


Mind you I over down sized your spending and removed alot of things.

So tell me how it is your fault? Country is messed up, money has no value and cost of living is too high.

That's the price you pay for being the greatest nation on earth.

No country or military can dare to invade the US because you will be dead before a street battle begins.

There are more guns than people in America and an average citizen can handle an automatic rifle better than most military personnel in the world.

The day USA ban guns that day they will begin to lose their world dominance.

America should do well to orientate their citizens and teach them values. They are losing it because the system allows them to behave anyhow

Normally Akwa Ibomites are not only beautiful but I noticed they are very neat so I am not surprised to see their state to be this neat.

I love their ladies so much... Have none as friend but yet to see an ugly one

You insulted yourself by washing those clothes. He is your junior and no matter how rich he is, he should never give you his clothes to wash.

Get yourself out of that house and go and hustle. People who behave like that are mostly fraudsters that got illegal money.

He will never help you except to take you out and buy u drinks... You will only find yourself with him in his car jumping from one club to another

NLElder:
I am a young man in my early 40s and married for 9 years now with 2 kids. My nature of work is such that I am living on another town 5hours away from my family. This has been the case 6years out of the 9 years I am married. I have never really enjoyed my marriage as a young man cos I am always driving up and down every weekend to meet my family and when I got a promotion with more responsibility I reduced it to every 2 weeks, and as the stress of work and driving became more stressful, I now go every month. I have tried all my best even till date to see if I can get another work in the same state my wife and kids reside to no avail and my wife can't leave her work in the state join me as she is in a federal government establishment that has no branch in the state I live and work.

Save yourself the long stories trying to justify your actions. The question is if you find out your wife also did the same thing you are doing with the same reasons you gave, will you forgive her?

Whatever the reason, we are solely responsible for the actions we take. I have been in a similar situation where my woman is in another state while me in another state.

Felt so lonely and hooked up with a female friend online who later graduated to offline friend. Got so attached and obsessed to the extent of almost having sex until I resisted the urge and pulled out though not after some hot romance and kisses.

I withdrew from her even though she kept begging and coming but only to find out later than my woman had a similar adventure with someone also in the state she was.

Bottom line is I had to forgive and move on because I was guilty of the same crime.

So back to my question, if you found out, will you forgive or punish her because you feel you are the man and have the right to misbehave while she doesn't.

Think about it

delightglobal:
Good evening my fellow nairalanders

I need you guys opinion ..

i worked in the mainland.... but my salary and the side hustles i do.. my monthly take home is about 150k

Now i got an offer in the Island which wants to pay the accumulation of both...



Now the questions is.... Should i accept the offer or stay in the mainland?

You didn't say anything

Good!

It is not always right to follow popular opinion.

I had a similar experience where I saw chat of my girl of 4years chatting with another guy and they were even doing regular video calls and at one point said I love you.

I was so angry that after all we have been through, she did such to me. I ended the relationship after listening to some of my friends (most especially the female ones) but then a friend of mine who is married and dated his wife for so many years before they got married talked to me.

He experienced worse but today they are living happily.

My girl is a good girl, when I say good I mean very good but she didn't mark her boundary and forgot that chatting with someone can be addictive. Sometimes you take it as just cruise or killing boredom but little by little you begin to get yourself attached.

I also search my conscience, though never cheated before but I am guilty of the same offense. On several occasions I find myself chatting some female friends, calling and at some point will begin to catch feelings.

Same offense I do and cover my tracks and I want to punish her for the same crime. I thought about it and went to visit her. She had become a shadow of herself. Her siblings said for two weeks she was indoor, being begged to eat, just lying like a vegetable with scattered hair.

I felt bad, why punish someone for same crime I have also committed. I went to her, apologized and it was like a knife piercing through me when I saw the tears rolling down her cheeks.

We are good now, we set boundaries.

Bottom line is, there is never a perfect partner. Sometimes jealousy can cost us alot. When you see a good woman that clicks and has majority of the good traits that you want, keep her, work on the bad ones and take eyes off the bad traits you can tolerate but cannot be changed.

Our world is too corrupt, most guys and ladies are easily influenced and do all the bad things. If you start ending relationships because of the slightest offense, you may end up getting over aged without the right person.

Fast forward... One of the female friends that advised me to leave my fiancee because of that issue just had her guy cheated on her with his ex... She has been crying but hiding the event from me until I found out. She still does not have the courage to end it like she advised

l3st3r:
Good day. I own a betking shop. I also run a POS service in the shop. One day a customer came that he wants to play virtual sports bet. He asked to use the POS cos he doesn't have any money on him. I tried his card and it was saying "insufficient funds". He says he has money in the card and I should try it again.

Meanwhile I saw he was attempting to still play the bet. I told him he should wait let's resolve the withdrawal before he plays his bet. He went ahead and play a bet of #1000. I became angry and asked him if I didn't ask him not to play that bet until we resolve his withdrawal. I asked him how he intend paying for the bet now. He says I should use his atm. I told him his atm card is still showing insufficient fund. He said why am I shouting at him if I know who he is.

I asked who are you? na you open shop for me. The whole thing broke into a shouting bout. Luckily his game won. I deducted my #1000 and asked him to leave that he won't be allowed to play game here anymore as he is a troublesome person.

He says he is going to play and if I know who he is. We got into more shouting bout again. He finally left and says he would be coming back.

He came back today one month later wearing an army uniform with two of his other colleagues. He started hitting me with belt. Says I should do frog jump and other nonsensical punishment. People around later heard the noise. They started begging. When they asked me what the problem is before I try to explain, they would hit me with the belt that I should shut up. When they are satisfied they finally left.

I checked for the name tag on his uniform but he has removed it. His other two colleague are putting on muftty. I do have a CCTV camera in my shop which they are not aware, so everything is on video.

Please, how do I proceed with this case and get justice, pls don't say police cos I took an issue to the police the other time when money was stolen in my shop. Even with video evidence nothing was done. They tasked me anyhow. One naira no come out..

I know this is not the right section for this just want somewhere with a bit of traffic. Mods pls move this to the frontpage so I can get a range of advice.

Very stupid folks...

First place to start with his twitter... Post the two videos and make sure you Tag all news media like vanguard, peoples gazette, Sahara reporters, punch, BBC pidgin, etc and also tag human right activists like Rinu, Harrison Gwamnishu, Sowore, deji adeyanju, tag Nigeria defense headquarter, Tag instablog,
tag gistlover etc.

Post both on twitter and facebook... Nigerians will make it trend until the right authorities attention is gotten.

Na election season be this, politicians too will want to score some points.

An engineer by name Simon Adeyemo who specializes in construction of fish ponds took to his social media page to complain about the intimidation faced by him and his team by Youths in Irete who demanded two million naira compensation before they can proceed with their work.

The team who spoke mostly in Yoruba could be heard begging the angry youths not to destroy their water materials, pleas which fell on deaf ears.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qXdm_9UfYBA

The rise of social media and our entertainment industry fueled these killings.

We already know that the country has failed us for not engaging our youths with something meaningful to do and that gave room for a lot of evils.

You see the lyrics in most of the songs released these days, they encourage these ritual killings.

Imagine a song by VIP "if your boyfriend no dey do you well, away! "

Imagine " Bye bye to yeye boyfriend, and in the video you see the girl cruising in exotic cars after dumping the so called boyfriend "

The same Zlatan sang " Las Las school na scam "

HDT came and sang " oya credit me, I wan do big boy I wan do dorime credit me"


Another one came "Ahhh finesse if I broke na my business... "

Then another "suffer e no dey finish, make you try dey enjoy... "


These songs encourage one thing? And that's desperation.

Then hypemen joined the trend with
"You no get money, u dey talk love, who u wan impress"

Another came with "I love you no dey pay bills oo, I like you no dey pay bills ooo"

The trend is endless and youths jump into them, borrowing motivation to live the life these so called celebrities preach in their songs.

Then you come to social media, you see the likes of Cubana, E-money abusing the naira notes anyhow in a show of affluence, you see them allowing a scammer like hushpuppi and Ponle oppressing people and building cult like fellowships. You see people jumping up and down into different trends on social media, people living fake life pose by celebrities just to keep up.

When there is joblessness, these things will thrive. Only an idle man or woman live to impress, anybody that is conversant with all social media trends and just jump at it, watch that person, he or she is one step away from getting used or using someone because they must surely live to impress.

I don't hang out, I don't drink, I don't keep late nights, max I am at home 7pm , my fiancee does not drink and neither does she like hanging out, my friends don't drink and neither are they party freaks OR womaniser

oldienavie:
So I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months and she is perfect, actually she is a virgin, well behaved and very respectful. The relationship is going very fine but I am starting to really think deeply and I may just break up.
Why ? I have lived abroad for a while and do have a very serious phobia for travelling on Nigerian roads, her parents are a journey of 4 hours from where I am and I understand the area is rife with kidnapping and robbery of all sorts.

I find myself obsessing over having to make that trip to her parents place and also have my family embark on that journey and I always shudder at the thought of it.

I am seriously considering breaking up with her and looking for a lady whoose parents are here in the same city I reside, cos one of the things that gives me serious head ache is travelling on Nigerian roads.

Since I got back to Nigeria I have not travelled outside of the city that I am and it is because of how serious that phobia is.

But how do I tell her I am breaking up with her for this reason, it sounds very trivial but its a serious issue for me.

Mtchwww

StilmaVsBorn2w:
Back then when my mom was warning me not to go that far when our relationship started She kept on insisting I should go for the girls in my tribe, I thought she was just been a tribalist bigot. If only I had listened

She bore me a son, he's 3years now... though her people knows me well from normal visitation..but I haven't been able to pay her bride price yet due to the hardship this regime has on us. life happened, unfortunately she got sick since February, ever since then from one hospital to another..I took several loans from people for hospital bills to the point of me looking sick myself.so sad for us we lost her last night.

I informed her elder brother who knows about all thats happening, he called me back this morning to tell me that his people told me to be prepared to marry her corpse. He went further and said if I don't pay her bride price, my boy will be taken from me and I should be ready to withstand the consequences.
I was surprised, I called for the burial arrangements not for a marriage ceremony

I blantly told him, I won't, why would I get married to her corpse. He was angry and cut the call on me.

Am more concerned about my son, please lawyer's in the house do they have any right to take my son away from me?
Even if they do am ready to give it to them, but spending money to Marry her corpse I will not.

I only brought this here, if had chance for my son whose still in my custody.

Stop being stubborn and do what they ask you to do, it is not a ritual act but just an acknowledgement for you to be able to claim your son.

It is an igbo tradition, you don't have access to any child who's mother you didn't pay her dowry.

Maybe the way the brother said it sounded scary but it is normal, it simply means you bring the things on the list they ask for and they recognize you as their son and the father of their son.

For the sake of your son, go and give them everything they demand for and don't put the boy into unnecessary stress when he grows in to a man.

Rain entered it but why are u so quick to turn it on? The laptop is on now but will pack up very soon.

Electronic and water don't agree in the presence of electricity and it will fry your board and all parts.

Shut down that system and put it in front of your fan to completely dry up.

Another option would be to give it to an engineer to clean up the water with fuel and dry the board.

I sell laptops in computer village and this is a first hand experience I gave to you now.

learnfaster:
Buy now

Nice content you have. How do I get to ur telegram group?

Most women are guilty of this especially when they contribute little to nothing to support the home.

It's high time they understood that times are hard and their desire for a large family should be trimmed.

For me personally, I don't want more than a kid and the maximum should be two children and I am praying for the male birth control pill to be fully ready before I start procreating.

Why Senegal? He should look for an English speaking country to go to and exploit.

Most African countries don't have access to the kind information Nigerians have so with his experience in nigeria he can set up a business or tech

I doubt if they know what is POS biz
What is Piggyvest
What is ogavenue.
What is uber

What about those living in cold regions of the earth like yakust, Greenland and Canada where even a boiling water takes just few seconds to turn ice cold?

The human body is on average 37° celcius , a cold water will warm up before absorption of the drug begins.

Anybody who tells you after secondary school is just deceiving his or herself.

The world is advancing pretty fast and a child as early as possible is expecting to get going with computers and phones because we are in IT world. There are lots of kids making alot of money on YouTube, also by playing metaverse games or selling NFTs.

Most of the Tech billionaires today got their first computers at a very tender age and started writing lines of codes.

One good thing about children is that as they play games on computers, they dream of creating their own games to their tastes and from there a programmer is born.

As for me, my kids will have computers then tablets and phones as early as possible.

They won't be allowed to take it to school and they will have hours when they are allowed to play and explore it. The internet at home will be restricted and a firewall place to permit Just a certain sites.

These I did with my nephew back then when I was still with them and I noticed he became fun of constructing stuffs. My bad laptop. I don't discard them. They are at home and I notice he derives fun opening and closing the parts. Also there is no. Folder in a system. He can explore.

That is the way forward with kids. Not outright ban

This is not a gift because he will evict them immediately they are sacked OR leave the church.

You don't take back a gift. Those pastors are his employees

What some people don't understand is that, the fact that you are straight doesn't mean you should persecute those that are not.

If you do, then you are no different than Hitler who killed over 50million jews because he saw them to be less humans

Racists who call blacks monkeys because they feel their skin makes them a god

Terrorists who kill others for not accepting their God.

Live and let others live, your way of life should be the convincing force not your persecution

Before you come here to type rubbish, know that I am a proud straight