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aoyih:
But this OP english sha...its Scape goat, not escape goat!

The smileys after "escape goats" should have suggested it was deliberate. My bad I didn't make use of quotation marks or something.

A friend sent me these pictures of two armed robbers who were this afternoon (23/12/16) burnt in their operational vehicle in Obudu, Cross River State. According to him, they had gone to rob a store around the market area and were about driving off when the brother to the store owner ran out after them and held onto the steer wheel from outside. The driver in a bid to accelerate , lost control and ran into the open roadside drainage.

Onlookers now seized the opportunity to pounce on them. One was fortunate to escape, while the cops were able to save one. But [un]fortunately, two were roasted beyond recognition.

It should be noted also that this is the first time something like this is happening in the town. According to him, there have been an increased spate of armed robbery in the town for months now, almost on a daily basis. I guess the people have had enough and were looking for escape goats. . No Christmas for them

Saraben, how do you look so beautiful? You single?

God.. Slim ladies are just beautiful. See how her outfits fits her.

JoaquinElChapo:
be lying there. God is looking at you

Hahahaha

prettythicksme:

Come on, say it.

Amelian:
And if you guys are expecting another make believe story.

Well sorry 2 burst y'all bubbles.. It ain't happening

Lol

Una wan hear story?

Story story? Storryyyy


Once upon a time? Time time

Oya make all of una siddon make I give another story

Oh jeez! Very funny peeps. Lol

Please just stop fooling yourself. No one after seeing this is going to take you serious. From your comment about learning from other people's experience, you earned my admiration and respect, so just do yourself some good and shut up.

Amelian:
Oga, Where did I mention hubby and baby?
Maybe I forgot am married with babies..

So pls remind me, am lost here?
When did u give me out for marriage? Smmmhhhh

My bad then, thought I once saw a picture of you and a lookalike baby on here. Again, you always have an advice for every marital issue on NL, so I guess it fuelled my assumption your advices were from your experience as a married woman.

Modified: Amelia, you claimed to be married on this thread https://www.nairaland.com/2096499/ladies-pls-pls-beware. Can you explain now please?

Cc: TheeDetective, thanks o. I was just too busy to search through her comments

Amelian:
No be if the woman agree to marry you?

If u don't do it, a better man will do the court wedding with her.
Shikena..
Choices full everywhere

Rather than have a healthy debate, you always come out gun blazing, attacking anyone whose opinion don't sit well with you. The embolden wasn't necessary.

I personally wouldn't have a court wedding for whatever reason. And I know people who never had one and are doing fine.

And by the way, thought you were already married as you always mention your hubby and baby? What's with the several proposals received this year?

Seatbelts saves lives..

SexyNairalander:
na you find trouble o

Lol..

Op you forgot to mention
The Economy : Using Nigeria as a case study, it generally expected of a man to take care and provide for his family, financially and otherwise. If any one has noticed, in the last decade, Job opportunities seems to be readily available to the female folk than their male counterparts. If in doubt, Graduates in the house, you can quickly list the number of your female university course mates currently employed and compare with your male colleagues employed.

For those of you in Lag and Abj, at the close of work, in traffic, have you ever compared the number of young ladies being driven by their male drivers (in flashy cars) and young males being driven. Most time the guys drive themselves. Now I'm not saying all these ladies are single, I'm just trying to illustrate the gender that obviously gets the better paying jobs.

Now let's use the scenario above as case study. All things being equal, the driver above might be ready to marry, but he is currently underpaid as compared to the available lady (in this case, his boss) who is also looking for a partner. Would she marry her driver?Educated and a graduate like herself? Even if she's willing, can she bring herself to respect him when she literally foots the bills? As a Typical Nigerian ma who saw his father take care of them, is he willing to let his wife take charge without feeling emasculated?

In summary, the available male for marriage is currently underpaid as compared to the available female. And the few well paid guys are not ready to marry since they have a whole lot of desperate ladies flocking around them, giving them the otherwise once "treasured cookies" free.

SexyNairalander:
This is what most people died for, got seriously injured and arrested for


abeg I take my leave before 1 stray bullet will touch me

Abeg wait for me...

Beautiful Pictures... HML to them

@Second picture, see how good looking, smart and professional they all look. You begin to wonder if such fine officers exist in the real Nigerian world.

Cos na the frowning, irresponsible and unkempt ones we dey always see around us.

LaCruzz:
There's nothing you can do to prevent your husband from cheating,all you need to do is to pray to God to give you your own husband,your right husband..you shouldn't be taught how to take care of him,and what to do to make him yours alone.

And wives do not cheat right? This is not another gender war or blame thread. The Op is not advising how to prevent partners from cheating, rather is advising couples certain steps to take to keep each of them from going against their marital vows.

Take your "husbands that want to cheat would cheat" argument/mentality elsewhere.

@Op, beautiful advice you've put up there. I particularly like the "Cheating does not begin in bedroom but the heart" quote.

Mods, this thread fp worthy.

All over the world, there's a clamour for change in the affairs of Nations. People are going against the establishment.

Poor NDC, like the PDP counterpart in Edo, rather than campaign amd tell the people what they have done so far with the mandate given to them (in the past), they were busy threatening them with Nigerian version of change.

I guess the people want the change after all.

From Britain, USA, Gambia, Seychelles etc., the opposition all won against the run of play. Lol

Kingbuhari:
from experience it can... the most expensive of them all is the roofing... from foundation to DPC and linter level to normal levelling won't take more than 1m...

Oga mi spread the gospel well abeg. A lot of these "city" dwellers need to stop using Lagos and Abuja as yardstick when making comments on NL. Agreed there is recession, but things are still happening.

crystalzoe:
Be sincere pls. 4m cannot complete a 5 bedroom house even with minimal finishing. Septic tank alone will cost abt 350k A standard 5 bedroom house will have at least 15 windows d cheapest sliding goes for abt 17k each now . Then doors, tiling, wiring, plumbing etc.
Op if ur budget is 4m pls build a smaller house say 3 bedrooms.it will still be tight but its possible

Oga calm down. Na village him talk o. No be everybody village be Lagos Island.

To be sure of this, I had to call a labourer that usually does things like this for my family before posting. He told me to give him 15k to dig a 10 by 10ft septic tank. We didn't negotiate o. If I were serious, I'll offer him 10 or 12k max and in two days, it'll be dug.

Now how many blocks am I gonna use to building up? I can assure you I wouldn't spend up to or more 40k to get it completed. Now this is in a town o and not a village sef.

And for the windows, my guy offered me 12k. We never negotiate o.

Op, in case you see this, Long story short, people earning less than a 100k monthly are building standard homes here daily, make you no allow "city" people deceive you.

1bkaye:
Lol nah not really. I read, I wasn't entirely sure, I thus asked for clarification

I'm good lol

My apologies for that comment. Came out wrongly...

I understand you now. Funny I'm a bit confused now.

First post, she said it was because she had hid it from him. Next she said it's because she didn't give details.

1bkaye:
How long had you been dating for if you don't mind me asking? Also, is it the fact that you kept the fact that you had previously ever been married or the fact that you hadn't gone into details about exactly what had happened that upset him and caused him to break up with you? Asking so I'm more informed for my conclusion.

My bad..

1bkaye:
I don't think she hid the fact that she had been married once before (details like this should be disclosed to a new partner right away in my opinion), so it's not that he didn't know. (Am
I correct Orabamxy52?)

Here, lemme help you. Though I'm curious you didn't see it. In the Op's own words

Orabamxy52:
The relationship went sour few months after he Went overseas when I eventually opened up about my failed marriage to another man 6 years ago while I was still schooling in Netherlands.

That's a part of me I never tell anyone who didn't know me back then because I don't want to relieve the pain, depression and trauma I went through.

Anyways, Mr X ended our relationship because he was shocked I kept such an info from him for that long a time He told a friend he fears I'll hide some more info if we get married.

When you finally go back and read it again, mention me

Sorry, it's probably just me but are you highlighting this point as an issue? What has it got to do with anything?

This was an attempt to highlight the divorce happened six years ago, she had long moved on by even dating someone else before Mr.X.

Learn to read before commenting while also paying attention to details. Glad you modified your earlier comment

Op, from your initial post and comments so far, I'm of the opinion the guy still loves you but is just scared. Do you blame him?

I can tell he thinks/knows that (beside the secret you kept from him) you're a great person, reason why he still wanted to keep in touch, to a point of asking for a meet up again. Some other persons might never want to see your face again. Like you mentioned, you both seem to quash your feelings on purpose. But again, trust is like a glass, once cracked, the mark would always be there. Dude is just worried.

Trust me, he has gone past your not telling him. He's probably at a stage where he is wondering what must have happened in your old marriage, what his folks might say about you being married before, can or do you truly love him since you were married to another before, can he learn to trust you again etc...

But then again, I might be wrong. So my advice is, take the bull by the horn. You mentioned you aren't a sixteen years old, I take it to mean you know what you want. It's best you get over the issue once and for all so you know if you guys have a chance, or you're going to start looking elsewhere.

In one of your good moments together, tell him you are sorry for the past, you truly do love and want him back. And that you're willing to make it work including answering the many questions in his head. I wish you all the best

1bkaye:
I mean, I don't know the details on what happened between you and your ex-husband but you opened up and allowed yourself to be quite vulnerable around this new guy and he left you at a time you probably needed his support the most, do you really want to be with someone like that ?

Were you serious when you made this comment?

Put yourself in his position. You met this guy and dated him for 11 months . Great guy you think/conclude. Then one day he tells you he was once married but the union ended six years ago.

It's not like it just ended few months before he met you. But six years ago. Which means he [probably] must have been in other relationship(s) before meeting you.

So it's not about her needing "his support the most now", it's about her insincerity for 11 months. The guy's fears/reasons for ending the relationship is justified.

Speaking as a man, my advice to ladies is "Come as you are". No pretending or secrets, you'll be surprised that guy would still stand or be with you. That's why ladies written off by the society, often times end up with great partners

[quote author=diportivo post=51547377][/quote]Lol... You no well

diportivo:
How about I ask u to show me ur friend so I can tell u who u are

Yea.. I screw the Rev. Sisters myself

All that Viagra is a lie. If it stands up, which blood will remain for his heart to pump. That’s why they are dying anyhow

This part had me rolling in laughter

Imagine my friend just went from park to see the husband in the office behind mega plaza and this girl that walk pass her at the reception had the same lip stick that stained her husband’s sokoto. And he went to mosque that day oooo. shebi she came to collect the weekend money. My friend too collected 300k that day. So now every Friday she goes to his office. Then after, these same girls get married they will say they don’t want to catch their husbands with another girl. You can’t escape it. You will share him like you shared other people’s own

Single ladies prefer to date married men simply because of the little or zero commitment and financial gains involved. Same with a close friend of mine screwing her parish priest.

And often times, Ladies who shout all married men cheat are usually those who at one point have had a thing with one or two. And when they feel it's time to settle down, they start looking for a man that Loves and fears God . Awon Oloriburuku

Timbuktuo:
Idon't know where you're getting your statistics from. It is a known fact here that children raised by single parents are just as balanced as those raised in a two-parent household.

Case closed. Thread closed

I know sarcasm when I see one.

Go ahead and swallow it all up.. Your husband would love you for it.. And make sure you look him in the eyes while doing it.. Dunno how to explain it, but just know you can ask him for a new car after you finish... Lol

Seriously there's no need giving him head if you'll make it look like you are disgusted by the act. Imagine him eating you out and spitting at the same time. You'll be disgusted I believe.

See the number of "F"s viewing If the topic was Fayose blast Buhari", na like two "f" we go see. Na this kind thing dey sweet them.

Meanwhile, we're still waiting for Couple's who met on Nairaland Shares their Pre-wedding pictures. Abi dem dey but dey shame to admit say here dem for meet

Congrats to these ones by the way. They'll grow old together while also finding joy in their children. All these small small "gehs" on NL would never find him, neither would "boys" find her. And by this time next year, we'll celebrate their triplets..

FIFTH, I will lift the restrictions on the production of $50 trillion dollars' worth of job-producing American energy reserves, including shale, oil, natural gas and clean coal.

This is the part that caught my attention. Please can someone tell me how this will (not) affect the price of global crude oil? What should we (Nigeria) expect from an increased shale production by the US?

My wife must fine sha... I'll definitely break the Fine boy/ girl jinx.

Hon. Jibrin, I sight you.

Happy married life to them btw..

nku5:
This is rather weak propaganda. Nigeria is a bloodthirsty monster that is paying for its sins.

Show us where Biafran troops committed atrocities. No be matter of "my uncle for village tell me say..."

Read up.. http://www.dawodu.net/midwest.htm

Outright molestation, harassment and killing of non-Ibo civilians occurred on a daily basis. At night "suspected saboteurs" were fished out of their homes and arrested.

The Hausa community in the Lagos street area of Benin and other parts of the state were targeted for particularly savage treatment, in part a reprisal for the pogroms of 1966, but also out of security concerns that they would naturally harbor sympathies for the regime in Lagos. But non-Hausas were just as badly treated. And as the hostility of the local population became more intense, so did the degree of indiscrete brutality for "internal security".

Non-Ibo alumni of St. Patrick's College, Asaba and Government College, Ughelli, found to their chagrin that old school ties meant nothing in the new dispensation

You're okay with the stories your uncles and grand parents told you, but you don't think I should be okay with what my own uncles and grand parents told me.

Dude, one of my parents was on the Federal side while the other was in the heart of Biafra during the war. While one attended school, the latter was hiding in trenches. I heard both their stories of the war period.

But I can assure you I've made several independent research (while also reading journals) about the war and i can tell you the Biafran troops were as savage in acts as the Federal troops if not worst.

Edolites and (Northern ) Cross Riverians don't despise the Igbo just because they are illustrious, they do because of their experience during the Civil war