₦airaland Forum

paix:
Baba, if you're lucky; it might even come with a refinery in the trunk.

Tetehjewels:
This move comes just a day after Ludacris got granted citizenship of Gabon. It seems Africa is the new focus for most black americans or Americans in general now

It should have been long ago. By now we should have a big medical tourism industry and posh retirement seaside homes for diaspora Africans all over 9ja.

Imagine businesses middle class diaspora blacks can create in a prosperous Nigeria where citizens have a high purchasing power.

ICT hubs in Lagos and PH, industrial hubs in the East, oil servicing companies in South South and farming & tourism/aviation services in the North.

Mikeparlo12:
Nigeria should be sold and the money should be shared to the citizens

A few politicians and cabal will still corner the money if sold.

If to be paid into citizens' accounts directly, politicians will still connive with bankers to create millions of "ghost" citizens complete with BVN. Nor be 9ja?

Especially occasions that involve long journeys, eat well before going and even take snacks and water along. More so if going with kids.

At times the food is served late after hunger don wire everybody finish.

Of late many people don't even eat on occasions o. They just get take-way packs and take home.

Dude, please learn to accept and make the best of things and situations you cannot change.

Many women have very wide pussy. But nobody ever shames them directly for having wide pussy. We all take it as nature. Men should also accept their nature.

Do not let women insinuating you have a small Willie get to you. Do a good job with it. You may even meet a girl who will say inside her mind "thank God, this thing is not too big to cause pain".

Some women have boobs like 10, 10 Naira Kpoff Kpoff, some like 5kg bag of rice and that's their nature. Men accept it or leave it.

Dude you are either single or married. So you go as you are. No wuru wuru. No lie lie.

Also state your purpose of going. As a student, special talent or some other form of immigrant status.

As a married person you will need more money if your spouse is going with you. Even more money if with kids.

As a single you can adjust to adverse situations and hustle there more easily. Especially if your dough is not bulging.

Abeg nor run leave your fiancee or wife for 9ja o, if you have one. Explain to her if you cannot go with her now.

Be honest that you cannot be categorical about when you will return or when she can join you. There are just too many variables.

OK. Tell us how much rice we consume yearly first.

Make we compare.

tstx:
Pastorship is more Rewarding..

Pastor Lazarus mouka

Start your own church today

Wait, is the Lazarus the owner of Mouka foam?

One thing I do not fancy about 9ja is that we 9ja have herd mentality.

It's either from Nollywood to pastor or to politics.

Quick money ventures.

None becomes an inventor, an ICT guru or things that have made countries like China and Singapore develop massively within 30 years.

Destined2win:
Okay you did well but why do ladies here like hyping their boyfriends.

Some are directly opposite with smelly boxers and hungry.

Kikikikiki.

They normally use a new moniker to lament their woes and say the truth. After insulting men here, you will think they will marry or date only perfect, rich gentlemen.

Most have men who use them like "samatutu" which is rag in Hebrew. It is that anger they vent on innocent men here daily.

The ones truly enjoying their marriage or relationship are often more level-headed and urbane with good manners here on NL. A reflection of their happy real life.

Checked86:
Canada says hellooo

The drop is partly due to Canada. Some Canadian officials now work in US missions in 9ja. They help to screen visa applicants for those likely to use USA as staging post into Canada. For some years now.

Oyinbo work together in mutual interest.

safetyboot:
They are just expressing happiness for the new year and sending videos to friends

And telling civilians they cannot do anything?

Most were probably in their nappies or not born yet when civilian regime began in 1999. But they still behave like Jack boot idiots.

And these are supposed to be leaders of tomorrow. Well when the head is rotten what do you expect?

A failed nation can only have failed institutions.

mysticwarrior:
White couples remain sexually active until they die, Oyibo no dey play with sex even 90 years old couples still dey enjoy themselves with the thing jare.

Dude, not the way you think o. Frequency of sex is not high among many oyinbo to begin with. On the average oyinbo live longer and many live the last 15 to 20 years together without sex at all. Even in this Viagra era.

Sex drive goes down for many reasons:

Growing kids mean a quickie in the sofa or kitchen is out of the question.

More responsibilities at work means more stress.

Age too. If you married at 36, in ten years you are 46. You are well and truly in middle age. Some ladies will be approaching or in some cases even in menopause.

If you dated for 5 or 10 years before marriage, then you have been at it for 15 to 20 years already. Though married for only 10.

After 10 years dreams may not have been fulfilled. Worries about finances and the future. The marriage may not be quite as great as it promised to be starting out.

These are not situations that promote sex drive.

joshuanwankwo:
africans and superstition be like 5 and 6.
cant someone die a natural death in africa ?

No o, natural death Na abomination o. Na always witch and wizard o.

Some people are 40 years old in 9ja yet never had any vaccine or booster, never had BP measured. Much less blood sugar.

Most Nigerian women of that age living in 9ja have never had a cervical smear test to check for cell changes that can lead to cervical cancer.

Many people still do not even know their blood group.

Yet Na witch dey kill everybody. Even those who died aged 90.

Alore:
9 degree and complaining?... SMH...

It is -2 degree in Berlin

Dem never see anything. I just dey laugh.
What if unexpectedly snow falls heavily one day in Jos or anywhere in 9ja?

Gawd airpus.

Cadillac15:
I have a funny feeling that the OP and the woman claiming to be his wife are not related in reality.

This forum is anonymous and there are thousands if not millions of issues bearing similar background in Nigerian marriages today.

This might just be a case of mistaken identity.

I also wonder o. There are similar marital issues among many couples out there. I have seen many here on NL that sound just like people I know in real life. But not them.

Unless madam saw/spied on his device and is 100% sure.

Terrible, terrible thing.

This is not the Nigeria I used to know. Peaceful people, caring and good to neighbours. Too many evil and greedy people nowadays. Bad news just keeps coming. Boko or ISWAP killing here, ritual and serial killer there. I tire.

RIP dear. God please comfort her family and friends.

Never heard of her.

Why should anybody even care about her pics or videos, implicit or explicit?

One thing I found very useful was taking acting lessons.

We had the opportunity to take free lessons, as a relaxation from serious and heavy scientific academic work. But it had other unintended benefits. Because you perform with and in front of people.

It helped with team work and having confidence in your colleagues too. Ultimately boosts own self confidence. I found that presentations in seminars got easier.

calddon:
Do the whites who introduced white wedding to us do both?

I wonder. Na copycat dey finish. High time customary Court or local Igwe/Oba /sarkin is allowed to issue valid legal marriage certificates.

maternal:
Hahaha took me years to master the politricks. Years!!!! Now I have mastered it, I run these fake oyibo devils. But what makes me laugh and feel sad is when a new immigrant comes here and you warn them. They never listen and fall for these fake devils until they get burned then vex.

Like almost anywhere packaging can be deceptive. There are good and nasty people everywhere. In successful countries, people in smaller, more relaxed cities are friendliest because they are under less daily stress.

Workplaces will always have bullies, gossips and snitches. Wisdom is needed handling them.

funmisticqueen:
fact of life, money changes both men and women because it comes with control. It's human nature

Your wife is not emasculating you, you are just losing control of the power and finances in the family. Do you know how much BS women tolerate from men in marriages because he earns more?

Uncle, go and hustle or give your pants over to your wife and stop complaining

Madam we are not talking of "other" women. It's about this particular couple who shared things when this man had a better income. What other women go through is not OPs business or fault. Why should he pay for the sins of other men? Would you want to be judged by what other women do to their men?

A woman who ges ahead and buy property without the man's knowledge is already secretly planning a life with her hubby in my humble view.

That the was open (both accessing each other's bank accounts) to her when he earned well shows he was never like some other men who underrate their wives.

If OP's story is true, it confirms what is already known that many women cannot control themselves if they have more money than hubby. But feminists keep telling us that it's not true. That such men have self-esteem issues.

Suppose OP's fortunes improves greatly, divorces her and marry another woman, it will suddenly be a case of "all men are dogs".

Lastmankc:
So kids full nairaland like this, no wonder there is no respect here. I have learnt a lesson here today. I won't reply any senseless post here again

Dude, arguments and spats don end this 2020. I was messing with kids all this while. No wonder dem dey reason like that. Some no go never leave papa and mama house except to school hostel. Na wa o.

Dude let's not speculate until the facts are known. Patience sir.

byrron:
She is more than an icon as far as Africa is concerned but I don't expect the indomie generations to relate with that.

She once ruled Africa and Nigerians rocked her song's for so many years.

Laws are laws. Nobody is above the law. She and her promoter should know that. Until the law that applies to ordinary people also applies to the elite Africa cannot go forward.

In his life time if Michael Jackson was going to UK or France to perform, he still needed the required legal paper work.

Abi o. But lazy youth want miracles year in year out. They quote Bible out of context.

Since they have be seeking miracle, if they had planted ogbono or African star apple (agbalumo/udara/Otien) tree by now it would be fruiting already.

There is too much speculation and too many versions. Let's wait and see. The true picture might turn out to be entirely different.

So much is likely to be true: the fight between the power brokers might easily get some in the vicinity into trouble.

Patience everyone.

Correct.

emkz:
I stopped reading when I got to "because his bride cheated on him two months back"

When cheating by women becomes fashionable, then marriage should no longer be honourable. Her family must appreciate the humiliation for not bringing up their daughter properly. And anyone who cheats should be prepared to embrace the consequences.

Lol. Las las na baby mama go sure pass. Do paternity test jeje after delivery. No pain.

ok

sulaak:
Have you been to Thailand, tourism is important to their country but at a high cost to the moral and social development of the country. Thailand is known as the sex capital of the world for a reason and the consequence cannot be imagined. I will rather forgo the benefit of tourism, than the crazy prostitution going on in that country. When mother openly sell they children for sex and young men become ladyboys for foreign tourist.


The only tourist that will be brave to patronise Nigeria today will be foreign hustlers and sex tourist. Nigeria has a terrible reputation in the international community.

Any serious country will learn from the downside seen in Thailand and put measures in place. Very strict laws will be in place. In exchange for free visa, foreigners will submit DNA and biometric data upon entry if visiting for the first time. Returning tourists will already have data collected before.

Do you know how many hundreds of thousands already die of poverty that may benefit from jobs and wealth created by tourism? Tourists will spend in hotels, eat and drink in bars, restaurants, buy souvenirs and use transportation.

If we go by online pornography including child abuse, exposure of kids to vile stuff online, online radicalisation leading to mass killings, scam/fraud/yahoo, infidelity, murder by people met on social media and other ills, we should forgo ICT too. You cannot throw away the baby with the bathwater dude.

sulaak:
My friend, Nigeria is not a friendly country to visit, too many hustlers, corrupt police, inefficient services and poor infrastructures, the only thing that is cheap and easily available are ashewos.

Read my first post before I posted the response to another person's comment. I clearly stated what needs to be done first to make it conducive to tourism.

There's prostitution in Thailand but tourism is still vital to their economy. As insecure and notorious Nigeria currently is, even visa free won't attract patrons of prostitutes.

I like your girlfriend's honesty. She could have been seeing behind your back and even get pregnant for him before you know it.

Technically she prefers the Already Made guy as settling down will be easier.

You cannot really hold her back. Her honesty should beget your honesty. Tell her how you feel about it and your plans for you both going forward.

Then give her much space but no ultimatum or deadline to give you decision of whom she wants to go with.

Then simply assume you are now alone. If she comes back within a reasonable space time good. But if it takes months and she returns I wouldn't take her back.

Because they would have probably dated and the pasture turned out not to be greener on the other side.